Sex and friends with benefits

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  havingfun40

  15 years ago

  Interesting question and answer - got to ask did you have a bad or several bad experiences to make you raise this? Can not believe you could get anyone offside - you are both too nice even although supporting All Blacks can get some people offside!!! We find we can only play with people who we like as people and we have attraction. This does often happen on first meet but not all. So we probably swing both ways.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  have experienced all of the above.....and we just accept whatever comes of the situation. We figure if a friendship is meant to happen it will, but if not, then we just appreciate the time we had and move on :) I think I (Mr O) find it easier to do that than Mrs O from time to time, and I think a couple of the situations could have ended better if we'd all spoken freely about what had happened.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I always become friends first due to time constraints and the distance I usually have to travel to meet. I have several friends that are now just friends. No awkwardness at all. It was all discussed previous to there being any sex involved and we were both of the oppinion that the friendship was the most important. If the sex did not work out then the friendship remains........and it does.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  look at our couples profile, playfulcouple5, as Im not a single guy, we like to meet couples and openly say, we would like to be friends to, if it works out with them, not just sex and nothing else, we do, and have had, one night stands but are fiding them less attractive now, prefering to try and become friends with the other couple too, last year we met the best friends ever thought RHP too, sex is great both good looking people with hearts of gold, and when we meet its great if we have sex, but if we dont, we all enjoy ourslef any way, and now the trust has developed the sex is even better,, B & L

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think it's critical to get the sex out of the way first... then if it works, if you must, see what else you have in common. I'm definitely not into anything ongoing though. It's not in my nature and in any case why would I want them to suffer my moodiness? It's really very delightful and refreshing to bump into someone you've done before, whose company you enjoyed.... to do it again and leave the next encounter to chance. Also, if you have to start making up excuses, it's gotta be a sign. Surely it is best to retain that sense of the wonderful about someone, than to let your expanding knowledge of their lives start to stink up your thoughts about them. The less I know the better. Really, I think there are very very few people in your lifetime with whom any lasting sexual relationship can be sustained. That's the basis for my propensity to say "next". I would bonk a lot of people in my lifetime and I'd like to enjoy remnant memories fondly.HugsStalky

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