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Sending the wrong message.

March 18 2012

Some of you here, in the forums, may have noticed me mention that my purpose for joining RHP was to access the forums. I've found them very enjoyable. I dont actively seek any liasons, I leave that up to my wife who has her own profile (which was my introduction to the forums). Therefore, I have no need of anything more than a guest membership. Two things that I do, that might be misconstrued, are send friend requests and flirts. The friend requests have been sent to fellow posters as my way of saying, "I like the way you think," and inviting them to be online friends. It's not a come-on. A couple of times, I've sent, "I think you're hot, what do you think of me?" to selcted females. I don't really care what they think of me, the point is I wanted to pay them a compliment and this was the best option available to me. In each case, the girl in question was from another state so I figured they'd work ut it wasn't a serius come-on. Does this sound fair enough to you or am I sending the wrong message? Should I be restricting myself to the forums and staying off the profiles?

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RHP User

14 years ago

It is your profile, your life. If you have stated up front in your profile what you are after then as far as I am concerned...it is your business what you do. Many women on here complain incessantly about the amount of flirts and messages they get. Also the friend requests by people that do not even bother to chat them up. The majority say they do not even bother to read flirts. Rest assured that whatever you do will be construed as wrong by some anyway. Dont worry about it.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I checked out your profile and it clearly states that you are looking for online friends unless it includes your wife.....pretty clear. Perhaps there needs to be a new flirt for these occassions,I too send flirts to people male or female if I lke what they say in the forums.,so far nothing...nobody has jumped on a plane and landed on me doorstep....oh well Perhaps Jensman you are just too hot for ya own good

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RHP User

14 years ago

So why not say just that on your profile? So women know you send flirts as a compliment and that you are here mainly for the forums. Problem solved. :)

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RHP User

14 years ago

Tell it like it is.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I used to send a lot of flirts for the same reason you've expressed.... basically, because I enjoy a person's contributions to the fun I'm having... or because their profile is particularly clever or cute or something and I enjoyed it. Occasionally someone would send back one of those oh no no no kind of replies... lmfao... which made me wonder why I bothered. These days I hardly ever bother.HugsStalky

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RHP User

14 years ago

What deception are you refering to? I'll see what I can do about it.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I'm trying to offer a compliment.Usually, it's due to the posts not the profile so saying "you're hot" is more precise than saying "your profiles hot" (paraphrasing obviously).

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RHP User

14 years ago

but there is no such thing as a "single's" profile. Check it out.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Just wanted to say, thanks, Stalky. Now my friend's window is full.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Well, as some of you know... I send messages.. I earn damned great money.. and dont have a problem with buying an account to be able to send LOTS of messages... IF I chose to :) My messages state I am NOT hitting on the person...and make whatever comments I feel the wish to make. "Hey, NOT hitting on you.. just wished to say I enjoy reading MOST of your forum posts... I find your profile entertaining and your photos .. appealing - good luck and keep having fun... Caveman x " MOSTLY I do get a good response.. a "Thank you cavey!" or a little more. :) and that is a bonus.. :) Flirts suck.. but.. Jens man.. as you say.. you can flirt and not meassage.. so.. flirt away.. just, IF you chose the wrong Flirt.. expect to be snapped at :) all good from this end.. caveman x

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RHP User

14 years ago

I am a flirter too. For my own reasons I dont buy a membership. The cost is not the reason, anyone who reads my profile will see I am fishing in a very small pool, but like any good fisherman, I am patient because I value the kind of girl whose fetishes entertwine with mine. Most ladies on here would not even read my profile. Thats fine because I wouldnt be interested in them for the same reasons. Having said that I love to browse profiles and occassionally, by way of a flirt, compliment someone on their profile or simply give them a metaphorical wink. Winking makes me smile so I like to wink. But, I think the idea of stating that if I send a wink, it is not a come on, simply a compliment. So, why am I here ? A scurrulous unpaid member !! The girl I seek will be clever enough to work it out.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Well maybe to some? . Perhaps NudgeNudge Wink... is a more friendly acknowledgement rather than the ones you've chosen? . I don't use them as I don't want to flirt with anyone. The forums rule. Mrs E does all that other stuff on here.

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RHP User

14 years ago

All that does for me is conjure up images of Eric Idle selling snickers. Not very complementary really, now is it?

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RHP User

14 years ago

I sent a couple, "I'm looking for some new friends. Let's exchange messages." I got back, "Thanks, flattery will get your everywhere." Thats not exactly what I was looing for.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Yeah I love that kind of humour.

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RHP User

14 years ago

So people give up in frustration and pay memberships. If I could send one that just said, Thanks and not the flattery will get you a night eating at the Y. Its just business sense for flirts not to match up. Its fly fishing

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RHP User

14 years ago

Don't forget there are some here, yes even in the forums, who think ANY contact, whether it be a flirt or a message is a request to fuck them. It doesn't matter what is written in the message, they seem to think just the act of someone sending a message means the sender wants to get into their pants.So any contact will normally be treated with disdain or just ignored, and there is nothing the rest of us mere mortals can do about it. But just remember, those who do think they are above the rest of us and the entire world is in lust with them are normally posting on a Friday or Sat night every weekend lol

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RHP User

14 years ago

I dont know where you have been.. but.. welcome back.. you are a refreshing (NB: please let it be know to all and sundry that I, THE CAVEMAN of the forums, is NOY.. I repeat.. NOT posting this message online with any intention to attempt Chillli to decide she will take me off to bed.. or to any other item, object or location for any kind of sexual encounter - Let it be known also that I have fully read her profile, and, whilst it may be difficult for my male ego to comprehend and accept, I personally, singular from my afore mentioned ego, accept I am not her material personage) caveman :)

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RHP User

14 years ago

Quoting 'cavey50' I dont know where you have been.. but.. welcome back.. you are a refreshing (NB: please let it be know to all and sundry that I, THE CAVEMAN of the forums, is NOY.. I repeat.. NOT posting this message online with any intention to attempt Chillli to decide she will take me off to bed.. or to any other item, object or location for any kind of sexual encounter - Let it be known also that I have fully read her profile, and, whilst it may be difficult for my male ego to comprehend and accept, I personally, singular from my afore mentioned ego, accept I am not her material personage) caveman :)

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RHP User

14 years ago

Sprung!!

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