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Self-perception / body image
August 10 2014
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MissBishere
11 years ago
All the time and i think it's because I still have a mental image of what I should look like and it surprises me all the time that I don't look like that anymore. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Could not of said it better myself. In my mind I still picture myself BC...... Before Children, or is that Before Cellulite. Either way your brain likes to play silly buggers sometimes I say. Mrs😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Every day Cause our dream is confronted by our reality and not too many of us are comfortable with our reality :-(
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
I look back on images of myself when I was in my early 20s. I realise now I was suffering from body dysmorphia, seeing myself as fat when I was a size 10. I was svelte and in fine shape, but I just saw fat where there was none. :-(
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RHP User
11 years ago
.... the great Homer J. Simpson: "When a woman looks in the mirror she sees the bits she doesn't want to see, yet a man will only see what he wants to see". The same can be said for looking at your own photos I think, some will see the wrinkle on the forehead, the crows feet around they eyes, even if no one else can see them. Others will only see what they want to see, the ruggedness of their chin, their hair, their eyes. And I do agree with Homer, women tend to concentrate on seeing what they don't want to see, men are just happen they can see anything :-D Mooka
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is so true, Mrs Paradise, I, too, was size 10 and toned, but thought I was fat and misshapen. And now Im a size 12, which is fine, but no longer toned, a bit wobbly and with some lumps and bumps. Most women, Im afraid, me included, will never be 100% happy with how they look. Yet guys seem to love our bodies, although I dont feel completely comfortable being naked in front of someone. I heard two young girls in a shop discussing how they kept their size 8 figures. One announced happily, "Simple, I dont eat, I drink coffee and chew gum". Its very sad. When I see a photo of myself, no matter what anyone else says, I see someone who is not lithe and sexy like I wish to be. There are some women on here with stunning bodies, please come forward and say that you are happy with how you look, and Im not just talking slim, but those gorgeous curvy bodies that are so sexy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was a size 8-10 until I quit smoking at 27 and never considered myself slim either. My body was seriously wasted on me back then! These days my body image is a bit all over the place. I'm a regular size twelve but sometimes feel bigger. Most of the time I think I'm thinner than I actually am though, I've discovered. I just got some pics sent to me by my brother and was just slightly mortified.Not the "I've found my best angle" photos I have on here, these were "No bloody way, is that my gut?!" horror shots. Unlike Mooka suggests, I think I see what I want to see. I will happily look at my thighs and butt as I don't mind them, but am only comfortable with seeing my stomach when I suck it in. I agree that I still think of my body the way it looked like ten years ago, until the truth slaps me in the face. Then I take a long hard look at that the snacks and alcohol in my cupboards and think "Nah, maybe I'll get healthy next week." ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your body is fantastic, you should feel and be proud to show it off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
when I see profile photos of myself it takes me a moment to realise it's me, because I'm only used to seeing me from front on, and my profile is never what I expect. I don't have a problem with it, I just don't think it matches how I look from the front.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I see photos of myself now and really like what I see ! I feel more confident , generally happier and much more appreciative of myself as I age. I like my body and like how it is ageing . In my 20's I was the same weight , more toned and tanned but I couldn't appreciate it. I am enjoying the part of ageing , where I do not have any expectations to be perfect :) So no, I am not unrealistic, not perfect , not wanting to be ....but very happy with my body and self :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I see photos of myself now and really like what I see ! I feel more confident , generally happier and much more appreciative of myself as I age. I like my body and like how it is ageing . In my 20's I was the same weight , more toned and tanned but I couldn't appreciate it. I am enjoying the part of ageing , where I do not have any expectations to be perfect :) So no, I am not unrealistic, not perfect , not wanting to be ....but very happy with my body and self :)
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Hottie1
11 years ago
required me to take a shot of myself ( in undies and a bra) at the start of my new fitness regime - I hated the idea and upon seeing the photo, I was distraught. I still am devastated, and like koko,I'm not comfortable getting naked in front of others (though swingers parties is curing me of that). When the men we play with tell me I'm beautiful and they love my body - I don't get it. I'm not sure what they see, I love my breasts and my legs and absolutely hate my tummy area - so much so I'm having a tummy tuck in December. Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I meant hundreds of women, I havent seen any profiles where the women dont look comfortable with themselves, if thats true, it would be good to hear from them and maybe women like me would like what they see more when they see their photos.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' .... the great Homer J. Simpson: "When a woman looks in the mirror she sees the bits she doesn't want to see, yet a man will only see what he wants to see". The same can be said for looking at your own photos I think, some will see the wrinkle on the forehead, the crows feet around they eyes, even if no one else can see them. Others will only see what they want to see, the ruggedness of their chin, their hair, their eyes. And I do agree with Homer, women tend to concentrate on seeing what they don't want to see, men are just happen they can see anything :-D Mooka That men only see boobs and hips and smiles when a woman's in front of them :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Won't even take a selfie..Some fuse has popped internally and I don't know why?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never ever been skinny. Ever. Yep, fat from birth, that's me. So I avoid having my photo taken at every opportunity. But when I DO manage to get a pic taken, I see exactly what I know I am. No surprises here I'm afraid.
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RHP User
11 years ago
yoyo'ed with weight since I was a teenager, hormones, pregnancy, fat, skinny, my boobs often make me look bigger, I got yelled at by a couple of guys for insisting I am big yet most would call me big. I used to play a lot of sport but was never thin since about 13 no matter how much I played. I am over worrying about it. I was self conscious when I started sleeping with men again after my ex left but it didn't take long to realise most guys don't care and if they do they aren't going to be attracted to me anyway. I do tend to sometimes state when guys say that I am sexy on here that they have only seen my good bits, only because I get worried posting pics that are of course my better ones and guys may find them a bit deceiving because of course I am not advertising my worst bits but I do have a range of full body shots to face and other bits and pieces, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that as we get older we are more and more "affected" by that horrible disease so to speak of hindsight where we look back and wish we had done things better including how we treated our body, it is further compounded by media constantly telling us we need to be thinner, more muscular to be successful and happy (how many uglies or as I like to think normal people like me are on these program's?) Surely isn't the best thing to do is be happy with what you have and seek a partner that is as comfortable with you as you are with them Maybe we all need to eat a little less, drink a little less and exercise a little more but happiness is when your partner loves and cares for you points you in the right direction for a healthy life and loves when you suggest watching a movie on the couch with some wine and maltesers?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with VelvetNoir's observation that we become comfortable, or complacent, with the body image in our head. I had lost a lot of weight last year and thought I was looking good, so a few kilos came back, I still felt I was looking like I was at my best. I was going well with PT and running. Everything looked to be in generally the right proportions. Then I saw holiday photos in March and realised I was fooling myself.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I take a really good picture........ 😜
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RHP User
11 years ago
very few people who are perfect. I am definitely not one of them...have never been and will never be. Yes some find me ugly, I cant change that. My world and view of myself changed as I saw so many around me die get sick and just change because of it. And the sad part is....they still, even they fighting for life will not accept that life is so much more then a perfect body.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My weight has been like a yo yo my whole life, ranging from size 10-16. Now I've decided it is what it is, wobbly bits, muffin top, scars and all. When I take a pic and see all the wrinkles I think damn, I don't feel that old. But they are part of me, and I've earned every single one of them. I love that song "The story", especially the part "All of the lines upon my face tell you you the story of who I am"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you, my lovely friend. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
For taking a sexy selfie :) Back in the days when I had my bits on show on here, I had a simple trick. Attach a webcam to my PC - something with a cable that can be positioned away from the PC. Keep the PC close so I can see how the pic looks. Move myself and/or the webcam until I like what I see. Click! Smart phones are pretty rubbish for taking good selfies, because you can't get any real distance and you can't get a full body shot without distorting the angles and lines. And my final tip - a no brainer - check that the background also gives a good impression. Clean and tidy, and all that jazz :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' very few people who are perfect. I am definitely not one of them...have never been and will never be. Yes some find me ugly, I cant change that. My world and view of myself changed as I saw so many around me die get sick and just change because of it. And the sad part is....they still, even they fighting for life will not accept that life is so much more then a perfect body. I really hate that word and I only use it to describe people whose personalities are 'ugly'. Not all people are attractive by societies standards including me but I don't think that makes them ugly and I think we are all attractive to someone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have hated the camera since I was very young... always thought it confirmed my self image a little too well.Though am getting a good laugh comparing my wedding day photos to a recent shot or two. SG(Photogenic I ain't!)
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' That men only see boobs and hips and smiles when a woman's in front of them :) Burning Love - can't argue with your point of view - but for me those images come just a little after the first thing I see most for many women (and most guys) - the top of their heads (if we're both standing when meeting, that is). Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pictures can be misleading,you look in the mirror but brad Pitt isn't looking back,lol Stress ,alcohol add to life lines it's all part of life! Ladies than can have kids amaze me ,men would never do such a selfless act,props to you! Can only play the cards you are dealt,thank god I'm funny!
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RHP User
11 years ago
But aim to find the best of what ive got.. learn to find that "good side" .. exploit your natural assets.. your eyes, that cheeky smile, your beautiful hands, etc.. gather the strength and post a picture.. when u get positive feedback that will make you feel good and encourage u to feel better.. we're not all "perfect 10's" but we can be perfect in our own way and reach perfection to ourselves.. Try it.. post that cheeky pic on fb or in5tagr4m and see the response. . If the response is not good try again ;) most importantly find that pic you are happy with :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
maybe ugly was a too strong word I should have said not attractive to some. As I said.....I am not for everyone and I am not at all sad about it. I have accepted my body because its all I have....this BODY....and I have to treat it with respect.....because in my 57 years on this earth this body has not let me down. Yes it has now scares and crinkles and wrinkles and what not....still its a great body which houses my soul.
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RHP User
11 years ago
when I see some photos of meAm I really that age? Am I really that size? I am really that unattractive? Then I turn away from the photo and look in a mirror and what I see there is a good human being. I like her. She's kind and funny (sometimes) and clever and creative and adventurous and sexy (in her own way). My mum was right. . . . . true beauty lives within. And Litonya, I've seen a photo of your face . . . .you're a beautiful woman.
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' When the men we play with tell me I'm beautiful and they love my body - I don't get it. I'm not sure what they see, Mary xx Mary, I'm with you. I don't get it! And to be honest, part of me always feels like they're saying it at least partially because they want to sleep with me!! Lol. The best compliments are the unexpected ones that come from people who want nothing from you. I've received a few of those over the years and remember them all. I know I'm guilty of 'mirror face', the way I unconsciously hold my face whenever I look in the mirror. It's the way I'm used to seeing myself and so it's always a bit of a surprise to see a picture that I wasn't ready for. (I never look as good in photos as I do in the bathroom mirror!) Wish I could go back to my 17 yr old self and tell her she was gorgeous. But I can't. And I'm only going to get older and saggier so I've decided to enjoy what I have now. I'm doing my best to focus on the bits of me that I DO really like and work on the bits that I can perhaps improve. There's no hope for my nose though...so I'm not going to bother worrying about it at all! x Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
When it comes to self image/perception, we can often be our harshest critic. It is amazing to hear that most people would often describe others in a more positive light than when they would describe themselves. Of course, I would say here that it is what is inside that counts and/or what comes from the heart. However, we do value first impressions and often this first impression is based on what is seen rather than what is understood. And of course with pressures coming from external sources such as peers, media, cultural and societal norms etc. it is often the case we strive to better ourselves in the looks department to be seen as a person who is acceptable to the rest or to even stand out from the rest. In my view, I have not seen a time where more pressure to look a certain way has been the focus other than now. And yet, as a population (world wide), as stats would show, there has never been a time where more people are facing diseases derived from poor nutrition. In other words, we are pressured more so now to look amazing and fit, however we are facing a crisis of people who are deemed over weight. So it would seem that from this we are almost encouraged to be in a state of mind and body where we are never truly happy with ourselves. On the one hand, we are bombarded by how we should look like etc. And on the other, we are almost being led to make poor food choices. For example, the prices for natural food as opposed to junk food. Today I just heard that a litre of coke was selling or a dollar. In South America there has been a steep climb in cases where people are becoming diabetic. And it is for this reason. Healthy, nutritious food is becoming increasingly unaffordable...while junk food presents itself more attractive to those on a tight budget. Again, as I have said in many other posts...it is the big wigs, the fat cats if you will, the ones who control money and all its exchanges, the ones who control big businesses..these are the ones deciding and more or less influencing the way we live....and that ultimately includes the way we think about ourselves (or what they would like us to think about ourselves) and how to keep us all in a state of mind and a state of circumstance where we are never truly happy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For the last few years I have rarely liked how I look in photos (face pics that is). I'm not sure why...I look at pics from 10 to 20 years ago and think there is some sort of difference, not just the fact that I'm older. I think it might have something to do with the way I smile in photos, basically at one point I decided that I looked funny (bad funny, not haha funny) and I think now I'm a bit self-conscious when having a pic taken and that just makes it worse. When it comes to my body, like many women on here I have to take heaps of pics before I get one or two that I'm happy enough to put on my profile. Partly due to the 'angles' issue, and partly because I'm pretty shit at taking pics with my phone. Like most women I have a couple areas of my body I like less than others...with me it's my thighs in particular, and there are certain angles I will avoid in pics because of them. I have some saddlebags (due to genetics) and yes they annoy me...just how much will vary depending on the day and how good about myself I'm feeling in general. At the moment I'm a bit stressed and I'm eating too much crappy food and not exercising enough so I'm feeling quite guilty about that, I know it's affecting how I feel physically, and it all makes the 'saddlebag hate' worse as well. It's a vicious cycle.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are beautiful We all are
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Hottie1
11 years ago
Me you are gorgeous! Quoting Me..I don't get it! And to be honest, part of me always feels like they're saying it at least partially because they want to sleep with me!! Lol. They would be lucky to spend time with you! I agree Me, I often wonder whether that is the case (just being nice to have sex) but I trust these men now, they even want to talk to me when they are not near me.! They are gentlemen who make me feel good about myself. It's not their 'responsibility' to do that but they invest in the whole 'deal'. Yes, I understand there is always the element of part seduction, flirting, call it what you will, an 'investment' for a 'next time' but I appreciate the effort. I might start seeing myself through their eyes, I might like what I see more. Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thankyou x
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' Me you are gorgeous! Quoting Me..I don't get it! And to be honest, part of me always feels like they're saying it at least partially because they want to sleep with me!! Lol. They would be lucky to spend time with you! Thank you Mary. I know what you mean about trusted friends too. xx Quoting 'him_and_me' Wish I could go back to my 17 yr old self and tell her she was gorgeous. But I can't. And I'm only going to get older and saggier so I've decided to enjoy what I have now. It occurred to me today that my 50 yr old self would probably roll her eyes at me and want to come and tell 35 yr old Me the same thing now! x Me
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'VelvetNoir' Every day Cause our dream is confronted by our reality and not too many of us are comfortable with our reality :-( @Velvetnoir. Beautifully said. yes, there seems to be a dischord on how we view our bodies. Like some, there are a lot of things I like about it and I try to understand my body. At times I indulge and I know I will pay for it somehow. My body has definitely changed a lot from being a slim size 8 to my biggest at size 16 after pregnancy. i was depressed about my body and felt very unattractive and lost my appetite for sex as I did not like that the actual body did not watch who I think I was. So after a short period of self pity I decided to work on getting back to my old weight in a very sensible way. Took a while and lost is eventually via healthy eating and gradual exercise to getting more active in demanding sports like Thai kickboxing, boxing and running. I am down to size 10 -12. I still feel very self conscious at times when naked in front of other men , specially if they are very good looking. Although my past lovers think I am beautiful . i have chosen well, brownie points for them.But most of the time, I like myself for who I am. I have come to accept most of my imperfections and focus on the more important things. My health, my family and try to live a life extraordinary. I just need to tweak the outside a bit. Sometimes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
7 years ago I was married, drinking regularly, weighed 95 kilos and didn't care what I looked like. Separation, divorce, mid life crisis stuff saw me give up drinking, bring my weight back to 79 kilos with running and manic workout regime. I was extremely happy with the way I felt and looked. Then I got hit by a car running a red light on my way home from work on my motorbike. 3 broken bones in left shoulder, axillary nerve damaged, arm ripped out of shoulder and severely dislocated, two torn ligaments in left knee and a broken foot...and they sent me home from hospital that night?!! Lucky I was dating a doctor at the time, so my specialist referrals were taken care of. But it meant not being able to walk without a brace for a few months. A shoulder reco, various dramas with the nerve and muscle meaning the arm wouldn't stay in the shoulder for a while. A lot of painful rehab and I finally got back to 95% mobility in my arm, but I'd lost strength and put on weight again. My physio and doctors commented that my fitness meant that my body was so resilient and that it would have meant weeks in hospital for most. I was flattered to be called an elite athlete by my health carers. But I lost all that condition. There were tears of frustration and pain on the long hard road back, but my residual fitness still meant I loved my body and was determined to fix it. My willpower was so strong. I eventually got back to running short distances. 2 years after the accident, my willpower was so strong and I determined to show myself that I was not broken or weakened, so I trained for and ran my first and only marathon in 4hr 33 mins. A ridiculous effort and short training regime meant that i developed acute Achilles' tendonitis from the effort and sidelined myself again for 18 months of no running. Another 7 or 8 kilos back on, but now gradually getting back to running. I hate seeing my soft belly. I'll eventually get back to where I was, but I'm no where near as motivated as I was. Too many snakes and not enough ladders. Nowadays I really enjoy making other people look amazing through my photography skills. I love it when a subject of a portrait is blown away by how good they look when I show them the final result. End of story. Shine on you crazy diamonds. Silva xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love it now, and like one other said, my other body was wasted on me. I gave it up to people that really did not care to see past the body. Because of this I did not know how to take pleasure, only to give it. I thought that was all men wanted was the lovely shell of a woman. Now I have the best image of my body, when I look up into my lovers eyes and see the way he devours my curves, how he shakes my body so he can see my breasts jiggle. How I am not worried that I have a hormone patch on or that I have no make up on or my hair is in a big fat old fuck knot at the back of my head and my face is red and I am out of breath. when you are mirrored in the eyes of someone that sees all of you and can handle all the things that the wonderful gift of being a real woman can give. Then ladies you have crossed the finish line just being yourself. And then you know that its just fine and dandy to be exactly as perfect as you all are. I feel like the most lusciously sexy woman in the world, and its taken me years wake up to it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Koko, I don't have a gorgeous curvy body but I'm happy with my body shape now and it's all because of RHP. At my age, I didn't think I would be attractive to other men apart from my husband. I'm a size 12-14 and I don't have great curves because of my genetic makeup. Even if I lost heaps of weight, I know that the difference between my bust measurement and my waist measurement wouldn't differ by much. However when Caucasian women lose weight, they look like they've had an "extreme makeover". However, I'm happy because I have someone who loves me and I love him in return so nothing else matters. Despite not being curvy, I dress up in sexy lingerie and when I post photos here, the men absolutely love it !!! It came as quite a surprise to me and certainly lifted my self esteem. If guys here on RHP tell you the same thing about your photos, take their word for it and be happy within yourself like I am.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm fat in and out of photos :) As for why people get shocked about theirs....well.....everyone wants to think they're skinny and gorgeous.... But then they see the reality....and that's not always a pleasant pill; but it is a necessary one :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
"when you are mirrored in the eyes of someone that sees all of you and can handle all the things that the wonderful gift of being a real woman can give. Then ladies you have crossed the finish line just being yourself. And then you know that its just fine and dandy to be exactly as perfect as you all are." Beautifully put 'inthekiss' :) Everyone says that we need to love ourselves for who we are and our bodies for what they are, and of course it's true, we do. But I agree that there's great power in being desired and appreciated and lusted after by another. It's like an incredibly flattering mirror reflecting our wondrous self back to us. And it does so much for our confidence. Remember this lovers. When you have a choice between saying nothing, making a sarcastic joke, picking at faults or telling your lover their body is amazing to you, choosing the latter is a beautiful gift. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's funny that we see our body a lot less than the people who know us well see us, yet we are at times our own worst critic. I am at my healhiest, fittest, lightest in all my adult life. I still see myself as a 'Large' but I'm slowly learning to love my body with all its imperfections. I have a lot more confidence now. It has helped greatly to have a man who loves me and sees beyond my outer appearance. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Thanks Silva for sharing your experience and your struggles. It has been a long road gor you snd you are looking wonderful as your personality and kindness far outshine your perceived physical imperfections. I do not see them. It is not so much we want to achieve perfection, which is unrealistically unattainable, but we work out to improve and maintain a level of fitness to enjoy simple things/activities that have physical and mental prerequisites, whatever it is we enjoy. Like most mature posters here like myself we have come to accept and love the vessels of our soul and continue to shake them in joyous chorus with each beat of our living heart. How great is that? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I recently looked at a photo of myself from last year and did not like it, have hit the fitness regime lately and lost 10kg I am not "cut or sculpted" but feel good and fit. I am happy with myself, I look at photo's from 10 years ago and think you were actually a good looking rooster, ten years from now I think I'll look back and have no regrets. I like how I look if someone else doesn't, I don't need to hear about it. Life's to short for that ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for your kind words Lily. After all those traumas, I do really appreciate the simple acts of mobility and I'm grateful the damage was not irreversible . Silva xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who isn't just a little insecure about some part of their body isn't really being honest with themselves or us. But the gift of advancing years is that we usually learn that important people arent worried about our perceived faults... For me it's my large kinked nose and undersized chin, and yet I've been lucky enough to meet some truely beautiful women... I used to sit with them thinking "hp... Wtf is this woman doing with you ? ... She could have anyone she wants..." It took me a while to understand that the inner glow is actually brighter and more powerful than the outer lights... That's when I began to believe that I was worth it... Hp xo💋 Because we are ALL worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fucking brilliant post!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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joanne1991
11 years ago
Having lost weight and going from a size 26 to size 8 I still don't think I look great in pics, I look and think I still need to do more, just not sure what else I can do at my age, maybe a realisation check that I'm not in my 20's anymore might help.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inthekiss' I love it now, and like one other said, my other body was wasted on me. Is that where we stand? Good to have you back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
In my teens I was a size 10 and was still insecure about my looks. Once I hit my 20's I ballooned (as do all the women in my family!) and I've been a size 18 ever since. I know what I am and have seen enough unflattering shots of myself to understand I'm a little fatty. But as I'm 45 now I know there's not going to be any drastic changes to my lumps and bumps. People either accept me as I am if they want to get to know me (or bed me!) or they can look the other way. If they're looking for a slim model type I let them know from the get-go that they're in the wrong place! I have met several lovely men in my time however, who have reassured me that not all guys are after the conventionally attractive. They gave me the confidence to keep going, and to keep improving my 'selfie' skills!
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I see a child born with a deformity, a war veteran in a wheelchair, with a missing limb, a bushfire burns victim.... It certainly puts things into perspective. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority'It took me a while to understand that the inner glow is actually brighter and more powerful than the outer lights... That's when I began to believe that I was worth it... Hp xo💋 Because we are ALL worth it... Indeed, great post. Quoting 'tulips4u' When I see a child born with a deformity, a war veteran in a wheelchair, with a missing limb, a bushfire burns victim.... It certainly puts things into perspective. I've seen stories of severely burned and/otherwise "disfigured" people who thought their partner was the most beautiful person in the world. Gorgeous people, in and out.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'joanne1991' Having lost weight and going from a size 26 to size 8 I still don't think I look great in pics, I look and think I still need to do more, just not sure what else I can do at my age, maybe a realisation check that I'm not in my 20's anymore might help. You are looking wonderful if your pics are to go by. Well done for your efforts to reach your goals, whatever it is. A realisation check and acceptance of your beauty would further enhance your physical beauty. Well done and good luck to you. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Beautifully said HP. You indeed are worth it. PS: This is totally of topic but what's with people outing other people? If people wanted to return with much fan fair they would.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Beautifully said HP. You indeed are worth it. PS: This is totally of topic but what's with people outing other people? If people wanted to return with much fan fair they would. where is this coming from? Lol. did we miss something here on the thread? In my Pauline Hanson voice "Ploise explain"? BTW, out of topic as well,k how is that parrot perched on your stapon coming along for tonight's CC dressup?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lady T did reintroduce herself on her return (can't recall which thread) and said that the profile 'LadyT" had been taken hence the new profile name. (I hope she doesn't mind) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I now only chase "curvy" ladies in the 40-65 age group, size 10-16 with profile pic's like"Inthekiss", those shots and her post tell the story of a mature lady that is at home with her body & sexuality, I too am the same. That is the only way people can attain "pure erotic pleasure" if they are both comfortable with exploring each others bodies & sexuality. Inthekiss, if you're ever flying East, I'd love to meet you. I don't fly, so it limits my chances with the sexy interstate ladies I see on here, but I can host if anyone's comin' to Melb. I'm not closed off to other age groups or sizes, I just seem more in tune with the group I mentioned & curvy ladies seem to like a sensual full body massage to warm up. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems I missed her consequent posts as she doesn't yet have her instant posting rights back. I will respect your wishes, dear lady :) Sorry for going off-topic, OP. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
*subsequent, not consequent Arghhhhh.... Hope everyone else is enjoying their weekend :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' PS: This is totally of topic but what's with people outing other people? If people wanted to return with much fan fair they would. I believe you may have done the same thing, though? Not too worry, too late now!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can totally relate. The photos i use are always quite current, but they are the very best ones... especially my boob shots, they really are quite flattering - not photo shopped etc, just great angles, using what ive got. I have worried before that i will disappoint someone - but i think its far worse to have old, out of date photos - ive met a few people who have used old photos and its quite deceptive and says volumes about their perception of self
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being a Pisces gal, I like my head in the clouds. I don't hate my body, it's not what it used to be but neither am I. Although... My wonderful man is a bit of a voyeur, and loves taking pics during our "Play Dates" and reliving the moments the next day, bless him ☺ After more than a decade he's learnt to leave them for me to review on my own. In this instance photography and sex are quite similar... it's all about the angle! Get it right, and it's great! Get it wrong and it's put away for his eyes only 😉 I am happy with my body, just as I am happy with who I am. MsD - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can I say that working my way through this thread that I clicked on a few profiles, found plenty to like and not much to justify negative self-image. Personally never been too freaked by photos of me. But I do hate hearing recordings of my voice. And whats with my John Wayne walk in videos? I don't ride horses!!! Surely I move like Usain Bolt (despite being a skinny white man) .... My body image has that middle child thing going on....As a sporty, average height (ok, shortish) skinny kid with too many ribs I was always satisfied if my body did what I wanted of it rather than how it looked. Filling out a bit with age worked for me, but My older brother is the peacock, and my younger got the personality and looks. I went for brains as my niche, so body perfection is beneath me Hahahaha. (Ok, plenty of denial in that. Pictures that emphasise I am not 6-foot tall shit me. But I don't want to punch everyone so I claim not to have short man syndrome :-) anyone want to argue about that? ). Have fun out there everyone. Don't worry about those jiggly bits, if you hide them behind bedroom eyes they go unnoticed (if not undocumented).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yup, In my head I'm an 8ft 300 pound ripped Adonis with a monster cock I think it depends on your outlook, if you are feeling good about yourself you will be a lot more kinder to yourself when you catch that reflection than if you've had a shitter of a week. Everyone has their insecurities and would like to look a bit more like the person on the magazine cover in one way or another but I think the important thing is to enjoy what you've got and share it with enthusiasm, we only get one of us after all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' Quoting 'Meeka100' PS: This is totally of topic but what's with people outing other people? If people wanted to return with much fan fair they would. I believe you may have done the same thing, though? Not too worry, too late now! Only because I had seen someone else out that person. On my own i would never have realised who they were. But point taken. Wont do it again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do not mind, and yes I did try to get my name and thought it was taken. Rhp offered to get my profile up and running and I did that for a day. But I am not wanting to be over run like before, I have slowed down and very specific in what I want now. Besides that , the way I write I think is a give away and a few knew my boobies lol but thank you Meeka for looking out for me i do appreciate that. all good folks, Lady T is retired but just the big mouth keeps on going..on and on and on and on
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RHP User
11 years ago
l hate looking at photo`s of myself l seem to see all my bad features instead of good one`s.Often wonder how guys find me attractive l am and have been big (or as l normally say fat) since l was a teenager.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a suspicion it may be human nature. But I must be wrong, obviously because of the posts I've seen here. I did realize a while ago that it was a matter of 'acceptance' that makes you feel better about the things that you don't like... It helped me not feel too self-conscious about getting photos taken while in a job that required a good amount of it. I always just said that "I don't photo well" (and some people are more 'photogenic' than others).... But I used to just see a picture of me that I didn't generally like because of reasons that others may or may not even have noticed. So I just forgot about it all, I think, really, rather than 'accepted it'. But don't ask me to judge any of my photos out of 10... There's still a little negative man inside, whispering in my ear, sometimes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's weird, but I don't feel my age!.. and I don't think I look it too!..I may be wrong, but I love this moment of time in my life!.. I'm happy about my looks and couldn't care less what anyone else thinks! reading all the inputs in this forum, I view them with an open mind. You all have opinions and thoughts, but that's what freedom's all about. Everyone has something unique they possess, that's why we are different. It's a shame that meander lives in NSW!.. Now that's something worth going over the East for! So Moral of the story- Find the uniqueness you possess and Flaunt it!.. It's quite an aphrodisiac!.. and erotic! too
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RHP User
11 years ago
Influences from psychopathic tendencies!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
we are both very happy with our looks and the shape we are in...so much so that we spend as much time nude as we possibly can, and have the few thousand pics to back that up....lol....(Shels 53 and in better shape than many women half her age...lucky me)
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OzRednecks
11 years ago
I did the ALS Ice bucket Challenge... Watching the video afterwards, I was shocked. I knew I had gained a few kilo's but strewth... I didn't realise I looked like that. I jumped on the scales (been avoiding them as I kinda knew) but double shock to see the actual number..... I don't see the point in getting completely down about it because there is something I can do about it... And I am ;) Bring on summer!!!! No more excuses xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I did a career in the army, and like they say, you are a 'lean, mean, fighting machine', and I would venture to say i was in really good shape (even for the army), because as a platoon sergeant, you have to be mean and run troops in to the ground that are half your age. I would wear them out, but they never saw me go to my room and put ice pacs on while they went out and partied.Well, after I got out, i ended up offshore, and you are limited at what you can do as far as exercise out there, so everyone sits around and eats. One time i got off the boat and was I think in Lafayette, Louisiana at a hotel. I just took a shower and was getting ready to go to the local 'boot-scoot' county bar. well, they had a full length mirror just outside the bathroom, and i had to stop and look. never had seen myself in a full length mirror in years. I was getting pudgy. to me it was disgusting, but i have been told for my age, i look ten years younger, but i STILL hate that flab when I used to be THE MAN OF STEEL. it sucks getting old:(
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'yankmychain56' I did a career in the army, and like they say, you are a 'lean, mean, fighting machine', and I would venture to say i was in really good shape (even for the army), because as a platoon sergeant, you have to be mean and run troops in to the ground that are half your age. I would wear them out, but they never saw me go to my room and put ice pacs on while they went out and partied.Well, after I got out, i ended up offshore, and you are limited at what you can do as far as exercise out there, so everyone sits around and eats. One time i got off the boat and was I think in Lafayette, Louisiana at a hotel. I just took a shower and was getting ready to go to the local 'boot-scoot' county bar. well, they had a full length mirror just outside the bathroom, and i had to stop and look. never had seen myself in a full length mirror in years. I was getting pudgy. to me it was disgusting, but i have been told for my age, i look ten years younger, but i STILL hate that flab when I used to be THE MAN OF STEEL. it sucks getting old:( Getting old doesn't have to mean fat/unfit.
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RHP User
11 years ago
the more comfortable I get with my body. I know it's not perfect but it's got a lot of good parts and the bad parts don't really bother me anymore. Besides the things that used to worry me (my arse for example) seem to be the things my sexual partners can't keep their hands off, that has also helped me get more comfortable with myself.
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