Say Bye Bye Bi Guy -Say Hello Opportunity Missed

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I see sex is a fairly fluid activity no matter which gender you play with. So I don't see anything special that a bi can bring to the table in a 1 on 1 situation. To me were a bi excels is in a threesome where he or she can bridge the gap for the first timers.Regards,Andy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It's just that some straight people think that their bi partner might be tempted to go off with someone of the same sex. Yeah, silly isn't it? What's to stop someone in a straight relationship doing the same thing with someone of the opposite sex? Not a darn thing!!On the subject of bi-curiosity, I get approached by guys that want nothing but anal sex. They don't see it as a normal sexual act and think that if a woman does it then they won' t be labelled with the homosexual or bisexual tag. To them I say build a bridge, find your balls and ask your partner to get out the lube and snap on a glove. You will be asking her to wear a strap on soon enough. I am a dominatrix, not a substitute bloke.And speaking of labels, I know someone (Stalky) who will shoot me down for it, but if we don't have a word to delineate our sexuality then how will we know who to chat up??And who cares if the person we are with is male or female? As long as we are not fighting or hurting anyone else what's the problem?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  seems like you've said enough. don't fool yourself into thinking that just because you are bi, you bring something special to the table. its just not so.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Women being repulsed by bisexual men and asking them not to contact them on their profile, that is. There was a popular topic not long ago discussing whether women would want to have a long term relationship with a bi man and I only recall reading one woman's answer that she would not. Overwhelmingly women said that it wouldn't proclude the man from partner eligibility. alldanite, you seem to be talking more about casual sex meets, which sounds as though women would have even less reason to object. So mate, if you're seeing this on a lot of profiles, maybe you're looking at the wrong profiles? I haven't seen it on a single woman's profile yet. But whether women have seen that I identify as bisexual and then decided not to contact me, I have no way of knowing.As for the other matter, alldanite, if people who list themselves as straight are sending you propositions than that's probably something a compliment! You must be doing something right. MistressT, my most recent ex-girlfriend dosed herself up on anxiety when I told her I was bi, so fearful was she of exactly what you describe. The fact that I'm really only attracted to men sexually and don't want a relationship, especially if I don't want to be disowned by a lot of people close to me, didn't seem to help allay her fears. (On the other hand, early on in the piece I did tell her about a guy I saw at a party who very much tempted me, so that wasn't a wise move). Anywho, I reckon these women who are terrified that a bi partner will leave them for a man haven't properly grasped the concept of bisexuality. We bisexual men are attracted to women. Some of us significantly more than other men. If we want to be in a relationship with a woman, than that's our choice and obviously our preference. I could've found a man to have a relationship with, I just wasn't interested in the slightest. Not easy to prove and let the matter rest, however. :( I think some women think bi men are more like gay men who have made one very tenuous and temporary exception... sigh.As for your professional experience there, MistressT, it does sound like those gentlemen are barking up the wrong tree. I don't think being on the receiving-end of anal sex with a woman is gay or bisexual, unless the man in question is fantasizing about men. So straight men should just be able to enjoy the experience without needing to question their sexual identity. Start taking cocks from other men? Okay, maybe some re-evaluation is in order. But I defy anyone to convince me that sex with a woman is gay.These gentlemen confuse the issue even more by going to a dominatrix, which brings in aspects of dominance and submission. Just as anal play doesn't have to be gay or bi, I don't think it needs to be dom/sub either. If people want to include those elements, it certainly lends itself to it. But I really think a man can have anal stimulation from his female partner, even with a cock-shaped toy, without it making him bi or requiring him to submit to her.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'slippery_halo'As for your professional experience there, MistressT, it does sound like those gentlemen are barking up the wrong tree. I don't think being on the receiving-end of anal sex with a woman is gay or bisexual, unless the man in question is fantasizing about men. So straight men should just be able to enjoy the experience without needing to question their sexual identity. Start taking cocks from other men? Okay, maybe some re-evaluation is in order. But I defy anyone to convince me that sex with a woman is gay.These gentlemen confuse the issue even more by going to a dominatrix, which brings in aspects of dominance and submission. Just as anal play doesn't have to be gay or bi, I don't think it needs to be dom/sub either. If people want to include those elements, it certainly lends itself to it. But I really think a man can have anal stimulation from his female partner, even with a cock-shaped toy, without it making him bi or requiring him to submit to her. There are still quite a few men around that view anything to do with anal sex as homosexual or abnormal. Any person of any sexual orientation should realise that anal is just another sexual act but unfortunately it just doesn't happen that way. It has nothing whatsoever to do with submission and the guys that come to me don't want to submit, just have a strap on used on them. I try to gently educate these guys but with little success. I think it's sad that they can' t enjoy it as a normal part of their sex lives.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  slippery_halo I agree and disagree. I think there are alot of women who are turned off by bi-men as alldanite suggests in his post. Okay maybe not in RHP world but in the real world. I would say pretty much most of my vanilla friends would not go out with a bi-guy for the reasons that you have stated, that is that they probably do think that the guy would be more attracted to men than to women. And that it just complicates the whole relationship which usually complicated enough. Mind you I haven't asked them and I may be totally misjudging them.I agree that a lot of people haven't properly grasped the "concept of bisexuality". But to be honest I think it is a hard concept for a lot of people to really truly understand. Yes people understand it on conceptual level but they don't really GET IT. Not sure if I really get it. So if I have slept with a women before does that mean I am bi-sexual? Yes I liked it but it definitely is not my natural inclination. I don't think I could ever fall in love with a women - or have I just not met the right women yet. Will I continue to sleep with women - yes. So am I bi? I would say no. Being with bi-guys in a threesome or group situation is totally HOT! Those girls don't know what they are missing. xxMeeka

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Chilli: Fair enough fear. But personally I prefer to suss someone out as to whether they're trustworthy and responsible rather than do the numbers/risk thing on their sexuality. If some one seems to score really highly on those factors then I'm happy to have protected sex with them. I guess if someones not a great judge of character then that would be very dangerous , but I consider myself to be very good at discriminating so....

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'andros3285'I see sex is a fairly fluid activity no matter which gender you play with. So I don't see anything special that a bi can bring to the table in a 1 on 1 situation. Same. Agree. Quoting 'MistressT' Quoting 'slippery_halo' There are still quite a few men around that view anything to do with anal sex as homosexual or abnormal. Any person of any sexual orientation should realise that anal is just another sexual act but unfortunately it just doesn't happen that way. It has nothing whatsoever to do with submission and the guys that come to me don't want to submit, just have a strap on used on them. I try to gently educate these guys but with little success. I think it's sad that they can' t enjoy it as a normal part of their sex lives. Agree with this too. Quoting 'alldanite'Chilli: Fair enough fear. But personally I prefer to suss someone out as to whether they're trustworthy and responsible rather than do the numbers/risk thing on their sexuality. If some one seems to score really highly on those factors then I'm happy to have protected sex with them. I guess if someones not a great judge of character then that would be very dangerous , but I consider myself to be very good at discriminating so.... And I agree with this too.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Thanks alot for your comments , will reply shortly to the doubters ;) just rushin out to another hot bi 3some , wish me luck :P have a great one all Loz

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  HotSexyChilli, thank you for your honest and reasonable response. As a bisexual man I'm not at all offended by your statement. You even raised the same arguments I might've - that a safe-sex practicing bi man is going to be safer than a straight counterpart of either gender who plays unprotected. Though one sentence I did think of that you didn't mention: We bisexual men can't all be like Freddie Mercury. ;) Me trying to be funny aside, of course you're entitled to screen on whatever basis you choose. I like to think that we haven't gone so far in the politcally correct direction that a woman feels like she has to give undue attention to a bisexual man just so as not to appear predjudiced! Besides, for every woman there is who is cautious, there's one who's completely turned on... ;)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  so a bi guy who joins us and then devotes his attention to her and not him, really knows what she wants? how so? we want bi guys who will interact with him, which is, after all the whole point of inviting the bi guy to join us in the first place! if it was for her to enjoy the guys attention, we'd just invite a straight guy. wouldn't we? duh?

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