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Safety tips for a female playing with couples?

April 19 2015

hello, not sure which forum section this question fits under so I hope I've chosen the right one! Apart from the obvious things that apply to meeting any strangers, like meeting in a public place first, discussing expectations and generally feeling comfy with people before taking things further, how can I make myself safer when meeting couples? My biggest hesitation is simply to do with being out-numbered. I have a 'safety person' who will know the where and when, just in case, but there must be some simple things I can do to help keep myself safe (and make me feel a little more reassured that I've done all the sensible things)?

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RHP User

11 years ago

Yes, I've always met couples in a public first where I could leave at will. That's always been enough for me though to get a good idea if felt comfortable with them. If you want to feel safer, choose a hotel. You could book it in your name, so the couple knew there was a clear trace, not to mention camera's everywhere. I haven't found that necessary for me, but I have mentioned jokingly to a couple that a friend had their address and knew I was there. You could bring your own booze or say you're not drinking if you have a concern your drink could be spiked. But really, trust your gut. I watch the interaction between couples, it tells me quickly if their relationship is loving and respectful or not. And in that case it's a no for a myriad of reasons. Good luck!

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RHP User

11 years ago

Check/request they leave the door unlocked if there's a key, or at least leave the key in the lock. Tell them your a bit claustrophobic and it helps, or something.(Friends of mine accidentally locked a woman in, who later tried to leave unexpectedly (she changed her mind) and completely freaked out. They felt awful.) Also, I suggest looking around for laptops being left open. I've heard one story of someone secretly taping his partners via his webcam.

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RHP User

11 years ago

The location where'll you be, the time of the meet, and ask to call you an hour after that time, ie between rounds 1 and 2. A couple of people had that arrangement when meeting me when I was part of a couple, and I never had a problem with it. If a couple does have a problem with that, then it's time to go. Immediately. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

is spot on. And if you feel a call is intrusive. You can text your friend but have your own key words to let them know if you are safe or need help. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Perhaps I'm too naive but it wouldn't have occurred to me to ask for the key to be in the door or to check for cams.

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RHP User

11 years ago

As others have said, trust your instinct! Also one drink is good to relax but i am always conscious of being able to drive. Texting a friend the address u are going too and then the all clear is good too. Personally ive never had a problem but go to effort to make sure im comfortable with the people first. Most of all, it should be fun! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

In your searches and trust your intuition. Skype is a great way to see if the person matches the profile and if it feels bad at any time, Bail, you owe them nothing.

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LifeUnscripted

11 years ago

And discuss your concerns with the couple. They should know intuitively that it is a riskier situation for you but just in case they are way too excited so they haven't considered your situation, mentioning it will hopefully get them going out of their way too make you comfortable. I know for us in those situations we are always extra cautious and open and willing to show things like check ins on your phone etc. Anything that will make things more comfortable and safe for everyone. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Skyn2Skin

11 years ago

The couple should absolutely have no issue with any of your security concerns. If they are not prepared to validate your concerns and accommodate any requests you may have we suggest you pass on them. There are many couples here who have similar concerns to yours also, it is ok if not imperative, to be cautions. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Forus1234

11 years ago

Being able to protect yourself in an attack! There are crash (short) courses/classes in self defence that you can do, that teach basics, i.e pressure points, throws etc! You never know when you may need to use your skills anywhere, even at a Club, shopping etc. I can't imagine meeting someone in a room without being able to defend myself. After watching the "TAKEN" movies, gawd, lock up your daughters!

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RHP User

11 years ago

Quoting 'Forus1234'After watching the "TAKEN" movies, gawd, lock up your daughters! Interesting comment. Some of my friends feel its a little excessive.... but I have been training my daughter in certain hand to hand combative and defensive training methods....... in the hope she never needs to use them, but has the knowledge if required. I feel having that knowledge and imparting it on her, is an important part of my paternal role.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Why do we put the emphasis on females? It makes it seem that if a girl was strong enough, or had enough defensive skills, she wouldn't have been taken advantage of ... Shouldn't we be teaching people not to abuse :/

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RHP User

11 years ago

Quoting 'Meander' Check/request they leave the door unlocked if there's a key, or at least leave the key in the lock. Tell them your a bit claustrophobic and it helps, or something.(Friends of mine accidentally locked a woman in, who later tried to leave unexpectedly (she changed her mind) and completely freaked out. They felt awful.) Also, I suggest looking around for laptops being left open. I've heard one story of someone secretly taping his partners via his webcam. I had had that happen to me, I was not sure at first but he kept moving the lap top around so I up and left. If you have people at your house, make sure you lock all your valuables away, including any drugsyes I had someone clean out my Oxycontin that were left over from back operation You have no idea who your inviting into your home, never invite people if you have kids in the house. Going out, yes make sure you give a friend all the details you have including pictures ( face pictures of the person) Call your back up person 15 min into the meet , give the address where you are as in screen dump it off your iphone Make sure the people know you have friends watching out for you. If it feels bad then leave right away, no feeling that you want to be polite Always carry condoms, most guy on here will do you bare back given half a chance. Its never safe for women in this game of moans. but you just minimise the risk.

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