Safe sex conversations

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I realised how my first line may have come across...so as a disclaimer...lol We BOTH care about safety very much...guess I am just becoming a little more paranoid about the topic, that's all😳

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Of course it's appropriate to ask people those questions, and if someone was to be offended about it I would suggest that they lack a certain maturity and are best avoided anyway. Whether you get an honest answer to your questions, that is a whole other issue, and it would depend on the individual. Yes there are plenty who would be honest but it would be naive to assume that all would be. As with anything else, people lie for all sorts of reasons. Use your discretion and if you have reason to doubt that someone is being honest, best to move on IMO.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Of course it's appropriate to ask people those questions, and if someone was to be offended about it I would suggest that they lack a certain maturity and are best avoided anyway. Yeh, if someone gets offended - it's better to walk away. I find this behaviour strange to say the least - it's just so la la land and nonsensical.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Of course it's appropriate to ask people those questions, and if someone was to be offended about it I would suggest that they lack a certain maturity and are best avoided anyway. Whether you get an honest answer to your questions, that is a whole other issue, and it would depend on the individual. Yes there are plenty who would be honest but it would be naive to assume that all would be. As with anything else, people lie for all sorts of reasons. Use your discretion and if you have reason to doubt that someone is being honest, best to move on IMO. Your health is important. As is that of the people you go on to have sex with. I passed this onto my children. While the people you meet may be truthful with their sexual encounters and experiences, how can you know whether their sexual partner(s) are as honest? The one thing that has resonated with me for years is that you are having sex with all of the people they have had sex with. Protection is extremely important. Even so I still have regular checks - just in case. I want to ensure I stay well and do not inadvertently pass anything on. For example, while I can no longer have children (my choice) I would hate to think that anything that happened in the throes of passion (latex and non-latex have their limits) might compromise someone else's chances of having children. Never feel as if it's an imposition.KH x

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  rupamohan

  9 years ago

  There are no clear boundaries as where to stop questioning. You need to decide yours but these are some commentsa) More filters you add in your selection criteria, less will pass it. You need to decide based on how you want to balance quantity vs safety. If you are getting response more then you can handle by all mean add filters.b) Let us say you ask something. It may lead to clarity but if you are not sure you trust the answer. This can lead to confusion. Be clear with how you manage this.c) If a person is offended with my question. It tell about them not about you. They need to understand you have right to ask questions.d) However they have right to refuse to answer or feel question is irrelevant and invades privacy. It doesn't matter you feel it relevant or not. e) If they don't answer. You shouldn't be offended. However you have right to make your own decision what it means to you.f) The bottom line is we are all different and sometimes will not match with others for any reason. But if this makes any side offended. It is not right. fear of offending someone should not stop you but you should also not get offended if you get a reply "None of your business"

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Trust no-one. but yourself. 😊😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  As with most things, it's a personal preference. It can also be a case by case sort of thing.It might depend on how the topic is brought up, too. If you've chatted with someone a bit before a meet, you might have already discussed the classic question "when did you last have sex?". Perhaps you may have also gotten an idea of how often they play with others (whether by direct approach, or the amalgam of general information). On the other hand, it might be successful to open your first meet with "I want names, ages, times, and TFN's of all of your previous partners" haha. For my personal preference, safe sex is of utmost importance. I would never compromise my health just to get my jollies off. However, the requirements of what constitutes "safe" may vary with the longevity of the relationship as you get to know each other and build trust.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  A fellow housemate stuck this on my door when I was eighteen ...Take the advice of one who knows,and tie your nightie to your toes... Really OP there are of course precautions we can take but we kid ourselves if we think any sex is safe Q

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  Sawadee

  9 years ago

  Sensations are no where near as good , but it's just the way it is these days. So I expect that either she or me will say something beforehand to make sure if it's on, it is. Let's face it , there's nothing better than the feeling of your dick rubbing against a vagina wall and vice versa WITHOUT a raincoat.. But not at the risk of your or her health. People lie or in some cases don't even know they might be carrying something. Play it safe , respect the reason you both need that few minute's to talk about it. Jay

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  ....for the responses... It is nice to hear other's opinions, as I am guessing everyone has a different take on this... We have been on here for a while...but played very seldom...so still not quite savvy on the " etiquette ", when it comes to these conventions...😂 It's a shame that all the fun things in life come with a prize tag😳 Anyway...thank you again for everyone who took his/her time, to share their opinion and point of view... Xxx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  The conversation is a good one...tells me the other person treats safe sex seriously...as do I. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I don't think there is much point in discussing it because I would trust someone's answers anyway. It's not my business who else they have sex with and it would be rude to ask for numbers. Do you honestly think someone is going to say "Nah, I don't usually bother with condone, and I sleep with at least 2 new people every week." Plus, you can still catch and STI from someone through oral sex and touching, not only through pentrative sex.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  As there is still a risk of an infection being transmitted, no intimate act is safe. But by using condoms, washing hands, washing sex toys before using on someone else, etc, we can make sex safer.

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