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SEX....Is its a Want or a Need.....?
February 05 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
its definitely a WANT !!!! i ENJOY SEX AND I WANT to do things i enjoy. SIMPLE hugs saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
As the "needs" are things you cannot live without. Air, water, food, shelter etc. However, for a healthy person to go without sex for a while...see how fast it actually takes on the status of a need.
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RHP User
15 years ago
and i get cranky if i haven't gotten it in a while, so it's a 'need' if you ask my workmates :D
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RHP User
15 years ago
Want it.... and need it .. Just wrong having to go without... hmmm... It has been a while now. And that is just WRONG!!! huggies sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
The body is programmed to need it for evolution to carry on, and physiologically hints to it by producing hormones, sending blood to the right places etc.That said, people have sex for social reasons nowadays, so I guess it's changed from a need to a want.
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RHP User
15 years ago
.... And I want it NOW! *Chucks a tanty* . Definitely a WANT but as with all my wants I want the best that I can have. . *Sigh* However when you're relying on another person to help you achieve the best you often have to settle for less than that though. . I'm not sure if this is a good analogy or not but I'll put it out there for you to judge. . I liken sexual partners to gift givers. Some people take care and consideration in choosing a gift. They enjoy giving you a gift that will meet or exceed your expectations. The undressing... I mean unwrapping of a gift is a precious moment and ought not to be rushed. And that look in the receiver's eyes when they realise that they have been given exactly, or more than, what they wanted is the gift givers reward. . On the other hand some people don't put much thought into the recipient's wants or desires and get a gift that suits what they would want for themselves, may be wildly inappropriate for the occasion or even be faulty, damaged and unable to be used at all. These people care not for the recipient's joy but only that they have completed their gift giving duty. . Thankfully RHP have a returns desk where these unwanted, faulty and broken gifts can be swapped for another gift by steppiing up to the counter and crying NEXT! Unfortunately RHP give no guarentees as to whether or not the newly exchanged gift will perform to your satisfaction either. . Sorry, that doesn't really help answer the question does it? . One last thought then. . In the modern age of immediate gratification and marketing campaigns that create a "need" for the newest product, many people can no longer differentiate between WANT and NEED. It's all NEED. . Cheers Rusty
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RHP User
15 years ago
Want…is the emotion of logic. | Need…is the logic of emotion. | This makes about as much sense as an Iron Chef cook off between the team of Freud and Maslow versus Jung and Pavlov…so who cares? | I like it, I need it, I want it, that settles it…now let’s just get on with it. | Any questions?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm with curiousnewgirl78 and right now I'm VERY cranky!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78'And i get cranky if i haven't gotten it in a while, so it's a 'need' if you ask my workmates. My business interests...and a few other interests, are expanding rapidly. You know that saying about good help being hard to find? Drop me a note if you are thinking about a career change. | If your workmates know when you "want it" I am sure we have a workplace policy somewhere on the books that would assure your position with the firm relieved the stress and tension. One of the many perks of being able to vary the covenants of the Fair Work Australia Act in favour of the employees when you own the company I guess. | Of course, cost efficiencies are always a consideration so I am the MD, CEO and Head of Employee Relations. Gives a whole new meaning to... | ...your performance review.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I need sex to survive.... so... ummm... all you good samaratans out there .... I don't ask for much.... and you don't have to go all out of your way and that..... I mean lend us a hand.. or...sommat.. anything you can spare.. ... just an elbow would probably do. Yeah. I'm sure I can fuck an elbow. :pHugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' I need sex to survive.... so... ummm... all you good samaratans out there .... I don't ask for much.... and you don't have to go all out of your way and that..... I mean lend us a hand.. or...sommat.. anything you can spare.. ... just an elbow would probably do. Yeah. I'm sure I can fuck an elbow. :pHugsStalky would the elbox need to be waxed or hairy?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Call me what you will, but i would declare it a need...for me !Wouldnt want to see old Mr Ruff go postal now would we!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Definitely not a need - have gone without for long periods without any adverse affects. Nice to break the dry spells, though :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don’t believe there can be one simple answer to this. Every ‘need’ starts with a ‘want’. If you don’t want anything, you will need nothing.while I Agree with Fionabee that the urge or want to have sex may not be essential to "YOUR" survival it is essential for the survival of the species.It is also controlled from the same primitive part of the brain that is responsible for those things that are essential such as eating, hydration, relaxation, exercise.Your brain treats it as if it were essential, which is why if you don't consciously do it, your subconscious will eventually do it for you IE: a wet dream.Men benefit from having sex, as it is a good physical outlet for stress. Women on the other hand, usually aren't interested in sex when they are already stressed out, as sexual advances from men cause their bodies to produce a stress hormone called Cortisol, which just increases their stress far more than men...hence "not tonight honey...I have a headache"Sex,therefore could be classed as essentially an addiction (to various brain chemicals).Meet your chemical addictions/romance....Attraction = PheromonesPassion = Phenylethylamine (PEA)Obsession = NorepinephrineEcstasy = DopamineTenderness/Bonding/Affection = OxytocinFidelity = EndorphinsThe effects of stimulants like Phenylethylamine, Norepinephrine and Dopamine wane over time and exposure to the same person, so those that are mostly addicted to one or more of these chemicals will be looking for new partners after a while if they want to get the same "high". These are the rewards so to speak of promiscuity.The effects of relaxants such as Oxytocin and Endorphins on the other hand, remain constant over time ,even increasing the body's sensitivity to it with exposure. Having a constant loving companion gradually increases production of endorphins in the body. These are the rewards of fidelity.Having sex (orgasms) "does" produce Oxytocin, but simple hugs, kisses and displays of affection and moments of tenderness also produce the same amounts of oxytocin. This is why couples who have been together for long periods of time generally have less (or no) sex, yet remain "in love". The reason breakups feel so horrible, is because we go into withdrawal from our daily hit of narcotics.I am Curious to know if those in a Relationship See Sex as a Want rather Than a Need...?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78'And i get cranky if i haven't gotten it in a while, so it's a 'need' if you ask my workmates. My business interests...and a few other interests, are expanding rapidly. You know that saying about good help being hard to find? Drop me a note if you are thinking about a career change. | If your workmates know when you "want it" I am sure we have a workplace policy somewhere on the books that would assure your position with the firm relieved the stress and tension. One of the many perks of being able to vary the covenants of the Fair Work Australia Act in favour of the employees when you own the company I guess. | Of course, cost efficiencies are always a consideration so I am the MD, CEO and Head of Employee Relations. Gives a whole new meaning to... | ...your performance review. careful, you could end up with a Sexual Harrassment complaint, the complaint being that there might not be enough sexual harrassment....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its Natural to Crave & want what I love Best! & that of course is Hot Sex! I Need it! after a couple of days! without it! I dont cope! My Pussy so needs! a Workout! I need the whole! kissing! Foreplay! Oral! Skin to skin! feel each others bodies! explore together! mmmmm Love It! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is a want - until you find someone you want then it becomes a need.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Careful, you could end up with a Sexual Harrassment complaint, the complaint being that there might not be enough sexual harrassment.... | Not a chance...we have paid careful attention to the details of contract law and only offer what are referred to as "open ended unlimited opportunity" positions to our more executitive staff that would work hands on with the MD. Of course, that allows for him to raise charges against you too...and if you want sexually harrass him, all the better. I work for this guy and he appreciates employee creativitiy...and taking charge of your role. Besides, what do you think he has in mind for you on your daily 3 hour lunch break? Let's just say you won't get caught on that television show "Undercover Boss"... | ...without a smile on your face.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2'I am Curious to know if those in a Relationship See Sex as a Want rather Than a Need...? That makes sense. My last full time relationship lasted for over 20 years. It was a monogamous relationship and over time, sex is no longer an urgent need...it does become more of a want.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Want = Something we can do without but "want it " coz he/she have the means of getting it . Need = Something we cannot do without . Eg food . We need food for survival and not want food ... Did you know only humans and monkeys have sex for pleasure . No other animal has sex for fun
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RHP User
15 years ago
After all this time! Ups & downs! No matter what! We still both want & need! Each other! We have great sex! When we havent seen each other! a day or so it like drives me crazy! & I want him BAD! Im am so sexually attracted! Its a Great thing to want sex with someone! so much & so Good! We Are Just So Horny Together! I Love It! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
There are people who function well in all other areas of human life who do not have sex. Many masturbate, some don't even do that much. There are people who are completely asexual. There are people like the profoundly disabled who may want sex but can never fulfil that wish. And there are people who choose to have lives with no sex, especially in both Eastern and Western religious communities. Even though Maslow included it as a "need" in his famous theory, the fact that people can and do lead otherwise entirely-fulfilled lives without it indicates to me that it's a "want" that can't be put alongside needs like food, shelter, etc. People die from a lack of those, no one has ever died from a lack of sex. I think dressing it up as a need leaves people more open to blaming forces beyond their control and refusing to take responsibility for their own sexual behaviour and choices. I'm on RHP because I want sex. It's an important and fundamental want that has various evolutionary and other impulses behind it, etc. etc., but at the end of the day, a want it is.
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RHP User
15 years ago
its a want. simple. you wont die from the lack of it. you wont go crazy and you wont go blind.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I never needed it so much before I met my partner.
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