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Replying to messages...
February 05 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
A "Yes I am interested" would be a nice surprise and be appreciated, even though the response took a while.No point replying after a few months to say you're not interested though. I can't see many guys taking that too well.
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I do not recieve a reply I always assume there must have been a technology failure. It's incredible how resourceful and protective of one's ego, the human mind can be. But as to your particular situation, if you haven't replied within three days .. just forget it.. lol.. I'm sure he has... Contrary to what the lads have the ladies believe by all their belly aching about not recieving replies... most guys would send hundreds of messages and frankly I cannot imagine how they could go about tracking every single one. :P Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
whilst a late reply is always nice...grins...i just assume that if the message has been read...and not replied to....they are not interested in persuing anything further...now....i do believe that i haven't answered your email from...ahhh....6 months ago...now...err...where did i put it...ahhh...found it...answer on the way...gigglingcheersjose....
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RHP User
16 years ago
A reply from an old message is a reply and I would love to have a reply from the message. Situation may have changed but at least you have made the communication 2 way instead of the annoying mind reading one way communication of non reply cheersHermes
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RHP User
16 years ago
If i get a msg months after i sent her one, I reply "Sorry, you are too slow.. found a few girls to suit me, better luck with your reflects next time!!":DIf i dont get a reply a week after i sent, then she is off the market. and Grey Flagged. Simple isnt it?
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Innercircle
16 years ago
we try to respond to ever single message or flirt we get. The exception is when the people sending the flirt or message clearly havent read our profile, or disregard what we have stated we are looking for.But, we have six couples we havent yet responded to, simply because we dont want to spread ourselves too thin. We will reply, but just not yet. We'd rather just interact with the current couples that have made it onto our msn/phone list. No point adding new people if we cant keep up with the ones we've already started communicating with.Having said that, it's about time to delete a bunch of the people off msn... seems they just want to collect contacts to make their list look a bit bigger...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well I can wait ages for a reply from stalky! I have to bitch about it in forums to finally get a reply from him... The biatch :) silly kisses sweetpetite41
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RHP User
16 years ago
hey sonsie....ive stated in my profile that i wont reply to messages or flirts for a few reasons...as its only wastes their time..i we dont match..yet some i will reply to if its just needs a thank you.xoxoxmumma
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DonnaBrett
16 years ago
We make an effort to reply each time..whether the answer is yes or no. But what is really annoying is when people message without supplying a facial photo up front. Our profile clearly states that's what we want...so there are times when we don't bother replying to those unless there is something extra intriguing about their profile & then we'll take a second look but it is rare!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'd have to agree with Rippedanga. I you are interested, which it doesn't sound like you are any more, then reply. If not you may as well nuke them all in one go
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RHP User
16 years ago
can you send me a message, I love your profile and chatting to you. My email was hacked and I can't access it. Much appreciated. Mark
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with most guys on here that say a late reply to say not interested is not worth saying. We guys know that you ladies get heaps of msg's compared to the guys and cant always find the time to reply.I have noticed thou that a guy who sends a msg that's short and witty does seem to get a quick reply, especially if nothing is said about meeting. So those dont really have a time limit on them unlike the ones that ask if the other person want to meet.So after saying that Sonsie a guy will usually wait for a cpl weeks for a reply and after that then will take it as a not interested.If you reply after that then they will be a little more casual about catching up.Freetimexxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
* throws her hands in the air and shouts "GUILTY"* Yes I am one of those who doesnt always reply to messages, but it doesnt mean that I dont appreciate the time and effort people have taken to send the message in the first place. I recently posted a pic set on here, and was being inundated with messages on a daily basis. Yes I did read every one of them. Most of them were just simple one line comments like, "wow awesome pic set" and stuff like that, then there were the weirdo ones that were just plain ferral! and the rest where messages that actualy made sence and asked questions just like you would during a conversation. The big question is, when someone sends a comment, do they actually expect a reply or is it just a comment? And when you get a ferral message is it better to ignore it all together like I have been or should I actually tell them they are idiots and that I am not interested? I suppose its one of those damned if you do, damned if you dont situations. Look forward to seeing what the general consensis is. Cheers Halo xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I did always reply to any messages that I felt were personally written to me (not just a template)! T'was more the 'hey sexy...wanna meet up this week' messages that I didn't reply to LOL. I don't really get messages anymore unless they're from friends (thanks Jose *giggle* ;) )...must have something to do with the fact I don't put out *hehehe* (and who said guys don't read profiles! LOL). At least....I hope that's the reason *giggle*. I think I will just go through and clear the lot! Thanks again guys S xox
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hehe "Dear Sweetpetite," do you realise Sweet that I have written the above a Gazzilion times and then I stare at your profile pic and well.... Get ... Fidgity.... hehe... and with no free hands the message goes no further! Rest assured I spend crazy amounts of time checking out your pic! hehe ... and Mistress, the kind of things I'm thinking should never be written down!! hehe lordhammercy is it hot in here? hehe... oh here I go again... back to that butt sponge idea.. cya gotta go. Can't type. Stalku
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RHP User
16 years ago
Call me old fashion. Any kind of reply to messages or flirts is using good manners. Good manners seems to be lacking with alot of people these days. To send a reply to say yes I'm interested or No your not what I am looking for doesn't take that long to type. How about we all remember what our mothers told us, to be polite and treat people the way that we want to be treated. Blaze
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RHP User
16 years ago
You wanker you stalky! :) I am no Mistress I tell ya!...My school girl outfit and my pretty dress tells me I am a sub..:) huggies sweetpetite41<<
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RHP User
16 years ago
I completely agree with you and consider myself to be well mannered (to the point I say thank you to other considerate people while driving and my kids always remind me that they can't hear me!) But, see, here's the thing...perhaps I am too polite, because I find it very difficult to 'write someone off' so easily. I like to get to know people and I need more than just 1 message or reading their profile to make a call whether I'm interested or not - yet I couldn't possibly get to know everyone who messaged me as I am pretty time poor with just my everyday life! Mind you, suffice to say...those who messaged me with 'great tits, would love to f*ck them and cum on your face'...well I can tell you that I'm not interested in even getting to know them...so maybe I should have been the one to try and teach those guys some manners and send a polite reply of thanks but not interested....hmmmmmm
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Sonsie' I don't really get messages anymore unless they're from friends (thanks Jose *giggle* ;) )...must have something to do with the fact I don't put out *hehehe* (and who said guys don't read profiles! LOL). At least....I hope that's the reason *giggle*. He-he...yeah well Sonsie....giggling...where's MY reply, huh?now, come here and get your spanking....jose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi all :-)I'm new here and I'm quite surprised by the amount of hostility and back-handed insults that I've received in emails - implied or otherwise.Despite that I agree that it is generally good manners to respond to all messages though. Winks or flirts, however, are a little silly because If you are interested in someone then you should just let them know outright.Nevertheless I still try to respond to most messages - but,I must admit that my brain has developed a bit of a filter. Like mentioned above if someone clearly hasn't read my profile then I let it pass. Same goes for pic collectors and such.
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RHP User
16 years ago
then why didnt you reply to my message? i was extremely polite and nice :(
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't feel a reply is warranted if the person has clearly not read our profile. Mrs D
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RHP User
16 years ago
Do women actually search profiles? Or are you generally just fighting off flirts and messages? The only unsollicited flirts have come from interstate????? I only have a stupid iPhone and therefore can't upload photos. This is very fruStrating as I am extremely hot. May be then my in box would be over flowin.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sonsie - It depends on whether the message as been read or not.I stand with NeoAndBlaze on this issue.I understand the 1000-1 ratio of M-F and that 999 out of 1000 M are less than genuine... that's life!This web-site has the mechanism to show the status of sent messages & flirts as read or unread.An unread status fair is enough... either the recipient has a backlog to get though or hasn't logged in for a while.But a read status without at least a courteous acknowledgment (quick response) is frustrating and bad manners, especially when the recipient claims to be genuine and not into games.Surely a single click on the 'Quick Reply' list is not too much to ask. It's to the point and communicates to us (M) where we stand.We then know whether to move on, stand back and wait, or wait and follow up some time later.To quote from my profile "If I message or wink you and you're interested then I'll want to know a little more about you in reply. Otherwise please be courteous with a 'thanks but no thanks' response... that's fair !"
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piercedfun
16 years ago
good topic this one i have to say i do appreciate a reply even if to say sorry your not what im looking for at the moment only thing worse then not getting a reply is an abusive message from im guessingthe male half of a couple but it is niceto get a reply, now i know easy for me to say as i proberly have recieved as many messages in the whole time i have been on here as some of you girls get in an hour but when someone reads my message and then looks at my profile and doesnt reply or some even block me if they took the time to read my profile it would be polite to say sorry not intrested after all some of the people i contact is to say great profile would liketo chat and i mean that not everything in here has to be sexual there are some intresting people about and ya never know if you donttry to make contact but a reply lets you know where you stand
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RHP User
16 years ago
You now have a nice warm response waiting for you when you log on - and you're welcome. (Oh, and don't shame me in public again you bastard).
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RHP User
16 years ago
Khadijah......you tell him hun..... Make sure you slap his bum a few times too!....lol huggies sweetpetite41xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lol Sweet. Personally I think they'd make a very cute couple and I want an invitation to the wedding. :p Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
that wati like to c a woman who dnt take crap
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RHP User
16 years ago
I thought it was root and then talk stalky? Marriage is way down the road......*points over there* >>>>>>>>>>> oopsy ..blank that side..lolol silly kisses sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Very nice to be here as well I am kinda new and shocked at all of this. But would love to hear your comments. Ladies please read my profile through before send messages. Kind Regards
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't get them that often though and am hardly ever short on my messages, though lately I've felt a little trodden down by the lack of response and pretty much left it at "have a look at my private gallery, if you like it lets have a chat". don't get me wrong I'm no spammer and only send a message to someone who I may suit and is also suiting to me and even more so within a close range. I've even had guys hit me up and still replied flattered and thankful, I feel I owe it to someone who has taken the time to message me even if it's not going to happen : ) the only ladies who have hit on me have been fakes soliciting web cam access for money : ( sad times for a talented lover hahaha!
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RHP User
16 years ago
a mate wanted to know why he wasnt even getting read let alone answered so he rejoined as a `woman`to find out why first hand he couldnt even read them all in a couple of hours let alone check the profiles and reply and that was only after one dayfeel sorry for them boys the girls are under enormous pressuredo i fuck him? no maybe him? what about that couple .........wouldnt it be horribleno wonder they can be so bitchy no bitchys the wrong wordbitchys when with a few well chosen words u can rip the guts out of a personno its just rude and that doesnt take any brains
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RHP User
16 years ago
I recently had a chat with a good friend of mine that i met on RHP about this. In order to show me why, she logged into her account so i could see the messages that shes gets (and i can only sumise that other women receive similar message in both quality and quantity), the quantity was massive and i can now understand why a reply can take so long if at all hahahaha, but what really suprised me was the amount of degradeing and disrespectful messages being sent by supposed "adults". After reading some of them i can see why some women can be hesitant to respond even to well mannered message. Yes a reply is always nice, and even if it is a "no thank you, im not intersted" "at the moment", can be better than no message at all. And to the blokes who push and push, send disrespectful/degradeing messages or get angry and vindictive due to being rejected, please remember that A. this is an ADULT dateing site, B. the women on here, are exactly that and should be treated with RESPECT, and C. and NO means NO Cheers all, thanks Sonsie for bringing the topic up
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RHP User
16 years ago
You know, I'm so glad that your mate did that! It's almost a full time job for the first month! A hint for the guys...when a girl first joins the messages are truly overwhelming and your message will just be one on a very long list. Why don't you leave it until after they've been on for a while and that initial influx of messages is over - you will probably even find they have more of an idea of what they're wanting from the whole RHP experience by then too. LOL Sam041...you make it sound like you're beating the girls off with a stick with your "Ladies please read my profile through before send messages." comment - especially considering most of them are guests! So many guys would love to be in your shoes, I'm sure!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks Khadijah for your flirt response, Im new to this and must admit i didnt think of sending you a message this way as Im not currently signed up to send messages throught the standard message format. I agree, the winks and flirts do not give you any real feedback on whether the individual has read your profile or has just mass mailed flirts to people. So as i say, thanks for your response, maybe we could look at that rain check fairly soon, more so, hope you see this as a fairly well constructed email, yes i read the full profile and can but hope. Take care
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RHP User
16 years ago
u know the old story say one thing do the otherwell the other day i was reading thru this forum & what did i see absolutely one of the most beautiful desirable woman ( sorry girls just my opinion )read what she had to say thought inside & outside just perfectdoesnt take any shit but in a nice wayim in another state but it just so happens i travel there 4 times a yearso nothing to lose im going up in a few weeks so im going to contact her for coffee / dinner but no first read her profile very very carefullyok ready now i send it of & wait & wait & wait no response must be a mistake i say check the sent folder yes she has read it ????but has she checked out my profile noim mystifiedthe only answer it could possibly be is shes had a car accident, travelling overseas something majorhold on but shes online on & off every day so i wait a bit longer yeah still on & offi re read my message yes im respectful & yaddy yaddy yahim shattered im despondent im im pissed off wait ive got a message is it from her? its got to be her oh please god let it be her NO but shit this one is really absolutely the most beautiful desirable woman ive ever seeneven if she wasnt at least she replied / good enough for megot to go now & reply quickly so she doesnt get upset at mearent we well trainedbye ****i*** my heart still yearns for you
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks for replying to the thread...your reply wasn't up when I posted last. So glad you got to have an insight into our inboxes (damn, if I wasn't so sweet and innocent, that would sound kinky *giggle*). You know, I've just got to say, you really seem to have your head screwed on straight...especially for such a youngin'. trustmeyoufool...sorry that your hearts desire didn't reply to you, you too seem like a really nice guy :(
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RHP User
16 years ago
ok so my personal oppinion is that if i see someone i like, i'll message them. from there, they're out of my mind... i used to be naive enough to expect a reply from absolutely everyone, and yes they were a total bitch if they didn't. but now it's like 'i dont know you, and you dont know me. so i'm not exactly losing anything by never knowing you'. ok, so this might be a subjective way to generalise people, but it's true. it also stops me from having emotional flares over anybody and everybody who might just not have the time. so i'll message you... and then forget the person i never knew anyway... then if i get a reply, wha-la, it's a nice suprise, and amazing friendships and all sorts of mad, fun, naughty, wild, amazing times might ensue.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hahahahahaha sweet and innocent on this site???? sounds kinky too :P Cheers for the compliment hahaha...you'll make my head swell.. It's always been one of my hates, that by saying degradeing things online, its somehow okay, when they wouldnt dare say it to a persons face...smacks of cowardice/low self esteem to me hahahaha Cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think five emails from me clogging up the inboxes every day will be enough for the world to bear. I'm new here and kinda went crazy on the winks, blinks, blown kisses and snapped fingers. I now know just to write a good email. Thank you forum for um.. showing me the folly of my thingy. Although to be fair I can understand why people can become anxious and upset on here because their profile and their image is all they have to show you people. Still, its only a dickhead who gets offended based on their insecurities when they never recieve a reply. PS Damn Nexticity, you are one ripped sonofabitch! Can you message me your program? at least that will be one more message the girls don't have to deal with! Random
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've been here for a long time and moved cities and gone through a range of different messages in aim of receiving a reply- whether trying to interest women with who I am and what I like or where I've been and where I want to go (if I see they're interested in travel) or even using a template and adding/editing in between to talk about shared interests... etc... I've always perceived the idea of efficient communication to MAKE SHIT CLEAR!!! I have now found myself at the assumption that alot of the women here at this site have the perception that 'every guy' doesn't read their profile. I have to assure them that I most certainly do read their profiles, but in cases it's hard to know where to start when their profile is 2 sentences or a template itself. I just don't want to get jigged around, it's especially frustrating when you talk to someone and they respond a few times and everything seems fine, then it just goes bla.... No more contact. That's just a F*cking waste of time girls WTF?? why would ya?If you've found someone else you've made prior contact- wouldn't most of you have the decency to say; I've found someone.Or if ya don't like appearance ya can say; Don't want to know you... and then ignore... Much more fun then just some bullshit no response crap! Over the last 12 months I look at things alot more like Nexticity up above! Although still it frustrates me the time I've spent on here, writing messages over the whole time and not even receiving many responses and I haven't even met someone frome the site yet :( which really sux, that people don't even want to meet me... lol Which I'm sure isn't true... Hopefully that can change sometime this year! Anyway have a great week everyone. EasyTiger.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have had men abuse me for politely rejecting their offer. Others have been adult enough to reply generously. But I must admit I go on gut feeling now as to whether or not I respond.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I like that you have rejected them, reply is better than nothing. But Absolute crap that they'd abuse you. I mean jeez if you're not into someone, you're not into them- simple. Why do people act so immature? I personally prefer.... When I've seen they've read the message; Sorry mate, not attracted to you and don't see any sparks. I mean shit- there's heaps of girls here I am not attracted to. I am still a believer in meeting face to face though. Anyone can be anyone over the computer/phone. I think it's not til you know that person on some sort of personal level- you don't know Sh!t. EasyTiger
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RHP User
16 years ago
ok this is my personal view I started replying to messages ... but then thought hang on a min I am replying to people that have obviously read my profile & are def not what im looking for so why should i have to waste my time doing it .. it pisses me of when you clearly state in ur profile how u are & what u expect then get absolute wankers messaging you ...& some of the messages are just feral its a major turn of .......! and say im a good looking 26 yold female so what the hell is a 60 old trucky doing messaging me WTF is with that : (
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm a big fan of replying to messages, regardless of whether its a yes or no, late or otherwise. In response to the first bit about whether a late reply is still welcome, then yes, I'd say it is. Sure, if its months later then you've probably been forgotten, but still - a late reply (even to say "sorry about the late reply but I'm not interested, thanks anyway...") at least makes me think that yes, there are still nice people out there that will afford you the time of day to write a quick sentence. In defence of Khadijah, just because she didn't reply straight away or because she has replied to a forum topic before replying to your message doesn't mean she won't get around to it (as she has)... too many people looking for instant gratification. You do not automatically take priority just because you sent someone a message. Anyhoo.. there's my whinge for the day (bloody mondays are a bitch)... :)
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