Relaxation tips for the male half.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Ive been to a few parties now and personally i never have sex at events. Ive been in rooms full of people having sex and not been in the least bit interested in participating and thats been with men, women, CDs and Trans. I go to events to meet and talk to people, plus ive never been approached for sex and therefore never expect it or look for it, and to be honest would probably reject it if it was offered. In these situations you need to be in the right mindset and forcing it would only lead to bad results. If you cant relax, then dont try and force yourself because youd probably regret it. Work out a situation that works equally for the both of you so you're both equally happy. Thats just in my humble opinion.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Maybe you need to consider at this point in time parties and clubs where you can play are not for you (remember I’m only saying st this point in time). If you struggle to remain hard during these events given the veritable treasure trove of erotic situations you are surrounded with then maybe consideration needs to be given to attending events on a smaller scale. Maybe you need to consider a few more intimate gatherings before attempting another party/club environment. Meet with a couple (whoever that may be) and see if an erection can be maintained in a more intimate environment. Then you could potentially look at organising something with two couples. What you have to consider is that parties aren’t for everyone. And that’s ok - just because it may not be for you doesn’t mean you can’t find and set up and environment that is for you.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Not everyone enjoys sex in public at parties and I find myself being self conscious too Most guys I play with feel similar and erections wax and wane with what else is going on around. There’s Exhibitionists that get off on people watching and part of me thinks “good for them” as I really enjoy the show. So no tips other than perhaps realizing that some of those things take time to get used to , be patient with yourself and build up the familiarity with the environment. It may just be time.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Both good advice. Paying the entry fee makes me feel like I should play on the night but you're right Alison, shouldn't put that pressure on myself to play then and there if I'm not feeling it. We have a few couples lined up for meet ups in the new year. Biggest issue is finding a day that everyone is available. Thanks again guys.

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  totally_normal

  7 years ago

  There is no obligation to play, but if you are keen to have recreational sex in a club or multiple person environment and suffer stage fright, there are pills that can help, I am sure they were invented for just such a situation. Talk to your GP about your erectile issues (you may or may not want to mention the details) and keep the tablets for special occasions. Sometimes just knowing you have that backup option can be enough to improve the situation.

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  boobsandbusted

  7 years ago

  find some good freinds to go with. that are easy going and help you feel relaxed ,play with them in a closed room or a slightly private area ,some places and partys are quite intimidating. in the beginning ,hell we still find it hard when it’s very crowded and have to fight for space. and not want to be fending off other people at times ,or maybe find some freinds and play with them. at home a hotel or there place then add in another couple and build from there ,most of all don’t worry too much about it ,i know how you feel about paying and not playing but swinging is at times as much a social and net working thing. to find those freinds to play with at a later date in a better environment ,for yourself ,if you play you play if you don’t you don’t ,it’s just a little bit of what ever ,lol mr b

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  boobsandbusted

  7 years ago

  also hopefully you will find a couple that will just get all your attention be a bit experienced and you will so excited by them the outside world does not exist, mr b

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  boobsandbusted

  7 years ago

  gawd me again , maybe watch out for the relaxing drinks ,we have found with many ,booze is an hard on killer if you have more than a couple ,everyone is different but booze seems to be a common denominator as well as nerves mr b

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You guys(mainly the male half). What you are experiencing is very common in men in public sexual acts and exhibition. To resolve the problem you have to "Master the Art of Tuning out." There is not much written or researched about the subject, which is said because it does affect many of us males when starting to swing in mass gatherings. There are simple tricks that you can do to get rid of your concern and what effects you wanting to perform in public. The best person to help is your wife. Once you practice with her, then the rest all falls into place.

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