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Rejection SUCKS !!!
April 05 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
People suck, they don't care about possibly letting someone down or hurting them in the future they just want what will make them happy right now. During periods of uncertainty about my relationships or feelings I completely avoid any contact that might lead to someone getting too attached and I really don't think that's too much for people to do. You have every right to be dissapointed and angry, just don't be down on yourself because some guy is a knob. I'm guessing he ws punching above his weight with you anyway
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RHP User
15 years ago
big hugs to ya Miss S im not sure i can help on this one...i normally get men that tell me how great i am and how wonder i am in bed and how much they really really want to see me again...then vanish although i did get one to finally tell me why he stood me up....im perfect and he just wants me to stay as his fantasy............dumbarse get back out there Miss S...someone else will come along and you never no the next one may just be Mr S in the making roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sometimes with the turn around of play friends a girl can feel as if she is getting dumped constantly.I dont think there is an easy way to handle it and the only sure fire cure for falling off a horse is to get straight back on. Nothing like a good old romp with a new lover to take the sting out of the rejection of the old lover. Keep smiling sweetie...his loss is another lucky mans gain.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i always say... the best way to get over a man, is to get under another one roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i always say... the best way to get over a man, is to get under another one roxxyI had a long term relationship break up at the end of last year and it's never any fun...but a friend of mine gave the same advice to me the other day - his philosophy is simple - NEXT!!!! At the end of the day, no matter how much it sucks or hurts, if they dump you then it was never going to be right and your better off without them. Better to grab life by the balls and ride it for all you can
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'plain_rugged' People suck, they don't care about possibly letting someone down or hurting them in the future they just want what will make them happy right now. During periods of uncertainty about my relationships or feelings I completely avoid any contact that might lead to someone getting too attached and I really don't think that's too much for people to do. What a ridiculous load of shit. The guy has decided he longer wants to see her, and told her. Wanna explain which bit about that makes him suck? The fact he dated someone for a month and is not sure about the relationship? Would it be better if he just continued to string her along and see if things worked out with his ex behind her back... or decided to just vanish into thin air? . Erm Miss_S... was this your Mr Thursday? If not I guess you could bump him up to Mr Friday as well. Regardless, I mean you saw him for what... a month? Are we in high school here? It takes at least that long to work out whether there is any more than a passing interest in someone, let alone that they are relationship material. I'd say you weren't dumped... you dated someone and it didn't work out. You're better of without someone that is still hung up on their ex, so consider it another bullet dodged.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Whether its received over the phone, or face to face, it is upsetting...doesnt matter how strong we think we are. And when the shoe is on the other foot and you know emotions have developed...its even harder. But its better to be said than not ! Its a part of life...and things happen for a reason. Our minds twist to work out why !!... But most of the time, the answer is to let it go, think of the fun times you had, and move on. As long as you can still smile each day Miss S...lifes great ! keep happy...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Highs and lows....all part of roller coasting . But don't you hate it when the roller coaster (or the wild cat @ Luna Park) stops...sure you can catch your breath but one foot in front of the other along the pavement at the end of the ride seems somewhat mundane to me. . What do you want more - predictable and mundane, or unpredictable and exciting? . There is no right or wrong answer, . It's your life and therfore your choice :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Quoting 'plain_rugged' People suck, they don't care about possibly letting someone down or hurting them in the future they just want what will make them happy right now. During periods of uncertainty about my relationships or feelings I completely avoid any contact that might lead to someone getting too attached and I really don't think that's too much for people to do. What a ridiculous load of shit. The guy has decided he longer wants to see her, and told her. Wanna explain which bit about that makes him suck? The fact he dated someone for a month and is not sure about the relationship? Would it be better if he just continued to string her along and see if things worked out with his ex behind her back... or decided to just vanish into thin air? . Erm Miss_S... was this your Mr Thursday? If not I guess you could bump him up to Mr Friday as well. Regardless, I mean you saw him for what... a month? Are we in high school here? It takes at least that long to work out whether there is any more than a passing interest in someone, let alone that they are relationship material. I'd say you weren't dumped... you dated someone and it didn't work out. You're better of without someone that is still hung up on their ex, so consider it another bullet dodged. JG - I totally agree with you! Pusscat xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ummm.. this is the same guy you effectively bumped back to fuck bud status the other day.... you know... your Thursday man.... I mean.. he said "sure thing" back then... but it obviously cut him like a knife and the rest of it is just writing on the wall... you know... a bit of face saving.... so he "dumped you"... I mean to say... we make our own beds, usually.... and a lot of people in this world are reactive... not proactive. Whenever something turns a little sour I like to try and work out if a person is being reactive.. or pro-active... in terms of the generation of anxt... because reasons are merely rationalised emotions... it's the emotions that are important... the reasons are usually self serving bullshit.... so... I'm going to go with the logical analysis.... he was reacting. It's what you wanted.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
Desire>Attachment>Sorrow.... . Sorrow is no way to be, so to get out of it you desire something else, then you become attached to that which your desire lead you to (in this case to that Guy), you remain attached for a time (a month in this case), the attachment is broken(by any combination of means, but by him in this case) and you find yourself in sorrow again. But sorrow is no way to be so you desire something else, and you find yourself becoming attached to... . The only places to break the cycle are to, stay in sorrow but thats not pleasant, so the only logical point is between sorrow and desire. Don't be tempted by desire so easily, resist the urge for a time....find yourself, experience tranquillity, have the freedom of choice, any choice....then do it all again if you desire. . Desire is the root of all Sorrow - Buddah.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Interesting advice and words of wisdom. . Yes... this was my Mr Thursday ! The joys of sharing my love life on the rhp forums !!!! LOL . Yes.... it was probably going to end sooner rather than later. . I'm simply offended by the manner he did it in. Five minutes before my work day begins and knowing what type of work I do where there is ZERO thinking time for the next seven hours is cruel. Of course this makes more sense when you know my job but trust me... it was a very very tough day at work as a result. . Yes... I probably decided my own fate by telling him he is Mr Thursday and reliquishing him to a FWB. . But... why did he tell me on Sunday to buy tickets for a Comedy show for tonight and talk about staying overnight in a hotel in the city so we could fuck on the balcony, to then dump me on the DAY of the show AFTER I'd bought the tix ? . Yes.... I fucked someone else tonight. Wasn't about moving on. Just a long time friend ... or FB from RHP. Sometimes we need the "old good fucks" to get us back on track. . And... I've asked Mr Thursday for the money for the tickets as I really can't afford it. I told him to leave it in my post box in the morning. Anyone want bets if he leaves it or not ??? . Hugs, and kisses to you all. Miss Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i always say... the best way to get over a man, is to get under another one roxxy Fall off one bike, jump back on another (for me it could be a tandem hehe or a penny farthing, b uhhh...) Miss Saturn, it is good that you can feel hurt, means you can feel love when it presents itself. Too many people today are numb to feelings. Don't forget you have to feel hurt to then recognise joy and to recognise just how truly wonderful it is x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just looked at your photos.... Sultry big eyed beauty.....................c'mon there must be a line forming now that the boyz know you are single!!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn'But... why did he tell me on Sunday to buy tickets for a Comedy show for tonight and talk about staying overnight in a hotel in the city so we could fuck on the balcony, to then dump me on the DAY of the show AFTER I'd bought the tix ? . Yes.... I fucked someone else tonight. Wasn't about moving on. Just a long time friend ... or FB from RHP. Sometimes we need the "old good fucks" to get us back on track. . And... I've asked Mr Thursday for the money for the tickets as I really can't afford it. I told him to leave it in my post box in the morning. Anyone want bets if he leaves it or not ??? . Hugs, and kisses to you all. Miss Saturn I'd say you have no chance of recouping the cost of the tickets. The best revenge is to go and enjoy yourself... and take someone along who you're reasonably confident will want to chip in to buy their part from you.... not a total loss... HUgsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
A beautiful woman with a big heart, a clever mind and a generous spirit, packaged superbly in the most attractive packaging. We know you are very special MissSaturn, too special for this selfish man :) He must have a very short attention span if he can't take delight in the pleasure of your company on a long term basis. GrrrI feel sad that he "dumped" you in this manner, particularly just before the working day starts for you. He has no class and no respect for your feelings. GrrrrAs I got on the emotional rollercoaster of rhp, I didn't realise what it had in store for me. I approached it as an honest trusting, generous soul, only to later discover that although I know I have issues, I can only bounce back so far, before I get hurt big time. I can handle speed bumps and traffic hazards, but am over lies and ill treatment. I take my ticket and eye it with care before I will be able to get on the next ride. I want the old me back, the reasonably sane trusting soul, who likes to laugh and have fun with good sports and tender men.
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RHP User
15 years ago
yeah it sucks But one door has to close to open another Hang In There
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RHP User
15 years ago
People suck ... i make it clear in the nice's way from the start if im not interested in a girl ! But it most the time make em want you more which sux sometimes ..... im not in the habbit of breaking hearts or using girls i know i can .. and im not saying thats what happen in your case .. But damn people are cold out there and weak to do it over the phone .. Im cold but in a good way !!! haha If it makes you feel better i was married to a insucure phyco .. my ex wished me dead on many occasion there was no shuting that dragon up! ( reason i said that was i WISH SHE DUMPED ME IN THE FIRST YEAR!) LOL...Nah i got a beautiful little angel from 10years of hell . An here is another story 4 ya :-) My rebound who i thought was the 1 ? Damn! after her telling me i was her soul mate and we couldnt get enough of eachother , the first minor argument we had ... BANG !!! OMG THE WALL THAT ONE PUT UP BABE !!! Deleted from facebook ...msn....yahoo... everywhere like i was dead ! Farkk killed me ! lol ... Anyway dont stress to hard with anyluck all of them will end up lonely .. xoxo P.S. I hope this was ok !
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey gorgeous girl...sometimes it all works out for the best, even if we don't like it for a little while. I don't know that you were dumped...maybe you just got lucky in the selection/anti-selection process. You had your cards out on the table...he walked away from the game. Sounds like the stakes were just too high and I would say you had the winning hand. | Don't know if I read this in a magazine or heard it on some FM radio station one afternoon but it seems to make some sense... | Read these words... "It's not about me, it's about him". Now say them softly to yourself. Now say them again and believe what you just said. Repeat as often as necessary. | That book..."He's Just Not That Into You" was written by a couple of shithouse armchair psychologists that needed something to do after "Sex in the City". It's about excuses... "Dare to Love" was written by folks that know what they are talking about and full of reasons. | You have a big heart that should be about as hard to find as a landing strip in a lightening storm flying at 30,000 over the Bermuda Triangle...but you wear it on your sleeve and that takes a lot of courage. You talk pretty tough for a cream puff...but that's just your style. | You are also a damn good mother and a single parent at that. Probably best not argue that point with a kick boxer in her jammies dropping her daughter off at school...right? | Now then, go back to that first bit. Read and say those words again...and this time, mean what you say. Now draw a line in the sand and remember that the past does not equal the future unless you decide that you want it to...and that's your choice, nobody elses. | Okay soldierette...head up, shoulders back, big deep breath and hold. Nice...this part is just crap but damn, you got a great set of medals on that uniform. You might even make it to officer's candidate training. | Saaaaaaa-lute!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sooo the money was in the post box this morning with a thank you card ! . This is what it said... I know you all want to know ! LOL . "I'm sorry I handled my decision so poorly. You are a fabulous woman who deserve much better and I truly hope you find happiness and longevity in your next relationship." . LOL, how sweet ! Bullshit. . He also returned my bottle of Schapps and Baileys along with a new bottle of desert wine which he'd bought for us to share. Weird thing was that he left it all at the post box at the block of units rather than walking the 10 metres to my door. Guess I scared him !!! Lucky it was still there when I got up. . xx Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey CharlesDickens, Fucking another guy had NOTHING to do with revenge ! I can 110% guarantee that. I don't use sex as emotional revenge. It wasn't about moving on. I simply caught up with a FRIEND who I enjoy having sex with ...it's very different. I can have sex and still feel pain etc. . Having sex with someone else doesn't make the healing any easier. Sex is easy to come by. I'm looking for more than that... but sometimes I enjoy just having fun, having a few drinks and doing whatever. If I'd watched UFC last night and not had sex I'd be just as happy. . Ohhh one more point... I'm intelligent enough to deal with my shit, move on with my life while still doing an activity I enjoy ! . Hugs, Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
sad old me feels the pain.. of any situation! saturn.. having sex with an old FB is good as long as you still feel good about yourself cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Saturn what the fcuk is going on ....i think it maybe time for you to turn gay !! how about we dit down and talk about the endless possibilities of nice mff with the Taipan !!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would be pissed off at the awkward and cowardly way he dumped you too. The fact that he dropped off the money and the bottles shows just how much of a guilty conscience he has. Who want's a guy that doesn't have the balls or the consideration to sit down at a suitable time with you and tell you face to face? Seems like you have dodged, if not a bullet, certainly a spineless wanker.
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