Reinventing the Profile

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  well I am.. but not in mens profiles..   I'd lose the "What have you got to lose"  lines... "Why not get in touch".  None of that invites me.  It is me you're trying to attract isn't it?   Look at your about me section.... it says nothing about you.  You're asking the girls to contact you to find out about you - nice ploy.. but where's the incentive?  The fact that you shave during the week?   And you're looking for someone that is real....  Umm righto, as opposed to what?   Back to the drawing board Loven.   PS - I might be wrong... it could be something as simple as the superfluous apostrophe that's scaring away the girls...

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Oh and I don't do feedback well... I tend to say what I'm thinking... gee that makes me look like a prick doesn't it *lmao*

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Who are you?  what do you like about life? what do you enjoy doing in your spare time? what sort of person are you?  what sort of person are you looking for, apart from someone who is breathing?  Definitely flesh out your profile.  Think of it as writing a job application.  You are applying for the position as a lover after all, whether it be  a one nighter or something more frequent.  And check out some other male profiles and/or use the profile thingammy provided by RHP to help you.  And JG . . . your direct approach has merits. WTG

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  About the "about me" section... you needn't take it so literally. Why not show people what you are passionate about. Give us a glimpse of something you might talk about if they were come to know you personally.   The what I'm looking for section.... if you have no specific needs or objections, you know like the proverbial NO SINGLE MALES,  just tell us what type of characters are attractive to you. I dont mean physical characteristics... you will be able to tell that  from their pictures to some extent.   Profile Pics ~ It's hard to know what to use.... so keep mixing them up and take notice. When I posted a dick pic my profile hits doubled... lol... just because people say they don't like them, it doesnt mean that others do not... but be aware that whatever you put as your profile pic reflects on your character... so ask yourself .. "Is this the image of me I wish to portray?" and "Is this a truly representative of my character?"   And Empathy. Most people with a pleasant disposition.. I mean the kind of people you might liek to meet are empathic to some extent, so no matter what... try to stay positive. Smiles get dates... but scowls (or scowling opinions in forums, even if true) subconsciously make the observer associate you with their own miserable feelings.   Regards Stalky

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  This is going to be harsh but true loven ... I've been put off by you since you first started whining in chat and forums about not getting any attention from the girls.  You used to whine a lot.  Told me you didn't believe in yourself.  I admit I was pleasantly surprised by your forum post here - it was more enquiring and less whining which was a definite step up.:)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I have gone open so as not to scare off the nice girls. But I am probably turning off the bad girls. Not interested in a relationship. I guess it might be easier to explain you self to the bad girls than an uptight good one?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Quoting 'fab69'I have gone open so as not to scare off the nice girls. But I am probably turning off the bad girls. Not interested in a relationship. I guess it might be easier to explain you self to the bad girls than an uptight good one? Trying too hard.  You've just said it yourself... you want the good girls and the bad girls.. you're not going to please both of them but you try to in your profile and it comes across as confusing.  "Romantic picnics, beer and pool, 'the one' and up for anything".. wt?   "I'm a fun-loving single guy"  -  lose it, probably enough to stop some in their tracks "I don't do drugs" - relax.. most druggies have shaved heads and bad skin these days - you're apologising for something I haven't accused you of.   Be honest.. decide what you're looking for - you're both going to be happier in the end.   PS - Also a few typos / word swaps there - some say it doesn't matter.  I say it does.  Up to you.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  So what do you mean by a bad girl??

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Quoting 'desserts'So what do you mean by a bad girl?? Those girls that just use and abuse you.  They have their way with you and then discard you like a snotty old tissue.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  TO OP at our age mate, all the women have been thrashed and abused, they are all damaged and treat all men the same. pity cos im not like that and have not had casual sex, have never met anyone online or even talk to anyone online, just like the woman who complaing you whinge cos you cant get attention from women, so you asking for help and ideas is considered whinging, its true cos i get that alot. this is what i mean by damaged women, that is why we are suppsoed to find love at a early age so we dont get people like that.   but what do we do when you are my age and had no experience at all............ no one fukin cares thats what and instead of treating us like someone who is not a male slut, does not go out every weekend fuking anything that moves, has not had much sexual experience etc.   sersiouslyy im scared of women and scared of what i can catch off them.   cos none of them want a man my age with the experience and maturity of a teenager.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Seems not long after I posted this my connection decided to die and I only just have it back up again. Be interested to see if the person who sent me the SMS saying 'It's got nothing to do with your profile, you are just ugly' will be man enough to admit they sent it.So I do have a couple of responses to some of the comments.The About Me section I used to have a lot more in it but changed it to be more general/simple since it wasn't working before. Not working now so it really is no different I spose.Jean as for looking for someone that is real, what do I mean by that. Well having talked to 4 women stated they would never meet anyone they found online. That and the 8 webcam girls that have contacted me this year. I want someone that is willing to meet as it says in the 2nd part of that line. There are a lot of them around that are using this as a fantasy ie not real.WildTassieGypsy I have to say this but the comment 'use the profile thingammy provided by RHP to help you.' has to be the worst advice you could give someone. Have you seen how many profiles have nothing but the crap provided on there. Maybe you haven't but i have. You can tell nothing about a person from that, it raises more questions than answers. Fleshing out the profile fair enough, as I mentioned it used to be, probably on about version number 4 atm.Stalky I think, no take that back, I know that I did the same with the what I'm looking for as what I did with the About me section. I used to have a description of my perfect woman but also clarified that I was open to ones that didn't match in all areas. That may have been too specific, but gave an idea. Pics- always a difficult one. I have changed them in the past. Maybe need some new ones, can't hurt. I am actually a very positive person but will also tell it as it is which some people can't handle. Truth hurts sometimes.Lilmissfussy- I can respect that. I don't believe I was whining a lot but I did sprout some stats on the sort of numbers of women to guys and the percentages. That's the statitician side of me coming out. You mustn't have seen many of my posts though because I often have an opinion, not always a popular one.ShybutNaughty88- I understand how you feel. Often in chat you can go in there and try talking only to be ignored and left wondering if anyone can see your messages. I've never had someone I truely loved, never been married or engaged. But I do have 2 kids and unlike you have been with around 40 women. So I don't have the inexperience that you do but still have problems finding someone decent, sometimes finding someone at all. Be nice to find someone that is fairly equal in the scheme of things.Thanks for the feedback, always welcome more. Can always message me personally if you don't want to show the world.

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