M42
Punching above your weight
December 23 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile is locked so how can we help.Some will no doubt be along soon with their ten cents worth,if that helps xx Freya
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MissBishere
11 years ago
you are not a 10? It's very rarely the abs or the godlike bodies that garner the most attention. Hangout more in the forums and you will see that pretty clearly. WA has the hottest men in Australia in my opinion and you MrAqurius appear to be one of them.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You've said how you are, what you hope for and the kind of experience(s) you are open to. I'm with the other Ladies, it's not the Gods or the Abs here that win those 10's then again it depends on what makes a 10 to you? I'd say I'm a 5, some may rate me a 10, some ZERO. It's all subjective my friend. Don't sell yourself short and hang in there, someone will discover you. Merry Christmas 🎄 Indy
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I'm not sure where everybody gets the idea that we all get inundated with messages.. I'm sure there are some women who are and for the women that keep saying they do and you don't, fucking stop it... God like..... PMSL, sorry but I'm an average looking woman, with an average body, an extremely high sex drive and I'm a good person to boot. I certainly don't get messages from anyone that's even close to being god like. I prefer the Mr average anyway, I'll leave the Mr god likes to all the women that get inundated with all the messages.....💋 Agree MissB WA has the most divine profiles....😍
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I can see how it is objective beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that, thank you for your kind words I wasn't expecting a rating I was more wondering if I can compete with such amazing looking guys out there , thought I might end up on the preverbal bench so to speak ! You have given me a confidence boost and I shall keep trying you are beautiful women and I hope to One day meet some of you thanks x Ps you should be able to see my profile now Freya - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You sound perfect all well apart from the fact you are so far away. Dam it ! :) Peter
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile is not locked anymore.and you look pretty damn fine to this ol' chook..and yes I put me goggles on to look..Your profile is well written and should attract interest but its a competitive market here,just make sure that when you message someone you meet their selection criteria.Oh and go to meet and greets,get to know people...network...people know people,who know people,who know people..That's how networking works xxFreya ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I see one major issue with your profile: You're not single by the looks of it, and the fact you don't mention your partner makes me think she is unaware you are here. Also, referring to a woman as a number is plain disrespectful in my humble opinion. Good luck though, and do believe the women here when we say we're not all after model looks.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have met some guys that are a smoking 10 to look at.....then they open their mouth. It's more than the abs and arms. I haven't read your profile, but your picture is a nice one. If you messaged me, I would chat back and forth to see if we were compatible and then if we were, organise to catch up and say hi. If you have the right approach, you will be surprised. I believe I am average all round, plenty disagree, so being "attractive" is subjective. I can't speak for all women, but I know a genuine, down to earth guy with the right attitude and average looks are a shoe in for me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with the women posters, and great words of encouragement. you are all such a great bunch of ladies, have a very Happy Christmas! xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ah yes meander the elephant in the room has been addressed I am married and no I don't have permission to play nor will she give it to me Why should my wife define my sexuality ? Why should I be constrained by monogamy ? My wife is free to play if she wants and she does not want to but I do want to so what can I do now ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I punch above my weight every time I send a message to a woman..... From my perspective..... From their perspective....fuck knows....they don't know what's going on in their own heads half the time.... the other half of the time they're worried about having sex in the light in case their arses look big..... One thing you can be guaranteed of....their eye sight is fucking brilliant!!! 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You look pretty hot to me. And your profile is refreshingly honest and well written. Connections help - perhaps hang out in the forums and in hot chat, be patient, and see where that leads. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I already said this on a different thread: I think your profile gives a really good sense of who you are and what you are looking for. I think many other men could learn a thing or two from it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrAqurius30' Ah yes meander the elephant in the room has been addressed I am married and no I don't have permission to play nor will she give it to me Why should my wife define my sexuality ? Why should I be constrained by monogamy ? You asked why you're not having any luck and I merely answered that question. You may be unsuccessful because of your status, not your looks at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If YOU dont think youre good enough..... .... why should anyone else?!!! Think about it.Stop making decisions on other peoples behalf. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mate I'm hearing u .. Im a genuine guy recently single and still haven't caught up with anyone for a drink or anything ??? It seems women are mostly looking for couples action on here :( Hopefully we break our draught lol Good luck buddy 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is that they are unpredictable.When they move in a very small space, like a room.they will most likely tread on your toes 🐘😥Freya
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On_Safari
11 years ago
(Sigh) married men.....my achilles heel and my downfall. Never again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A little thing called marriage vows! Wtf are you married for if you don't want to be monogamous but your wife does? Honesty goes a long way in my book. Merry Christmas 🎄
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well the only women who will most likely be interested are married women having affairs. Not sure how many of those are on here. Otherwise most single women aren't interested... It's too restrictive going out with a married guy, you ain't as much fun as a single man. Sorry but there it is. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I see you've brought up the fact that you cheat on your wife, or intend to. And you've posed a number of questions as justification for why you should be free to cheat. Though I think they're really statements, not questions at all. But since you posed them as questions, which therefore invites people to answer them or offer opinions, buckle up ... you're likely to hear some opinions on your life and choices that you really don't want to hear. My biggest tip for the forums - don't ask questions if you can't handle the answers that might come and don't make statements if you can't handle people disagreeing with them. Cheating, of all subjects on here, tends to be the most heated. Perhaps consider an advanced search of past forum topics using the word 'cheating' and have a browse. You'll soon see what you might be in for. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for all you responses *Jersey girl I have my reasons and it is far to much and to private to post on here,I'm sorry if somebody hurt you in the past I'm not him so don't be so nasty *freya love your sense of humour *fryzem83 I hear you mate good luck to you to I don't have time to reply to every one but thanks heaps I shall take your words on board your all great xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
The woman you chose as your wife, perhaps? She should be "your 10".
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RHP User
11 years ago
The first thing I check when I look at a man's profile is their relationship status... if I see married, attached or ask me I don't go any further, no matter what the person looks like in their pic. I don't pass judgement... it's none of my business as to why people do what they do, but the bottom line is that it's not what I'm looking for so I move on. I think a lot of women feel the same way and that's probably why your strike rate is low, rather than your looks (which I think are great btw). I will commend you for at least being semi-honest & having 'ask me' on your status. One of my first experiences on RHP was with a guy who was definitely not single although his profile said he was. Perth is a very small town... he was caught out within a few weeks and his wife ended up leaving him. Not something I ever want to be caught up in again... messy and horrible. Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I'm attracted to someone, they can appear otherworldly. Surely there's no harm in calling a love interest divine. Who wouldn't want to be swept away by the passion of someone else's mere presence?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tiroba' When I'm attracted to someone, they can appear otherworldly. Surely there's no harm in calling a love interest divine. Who wouldn't want to be swept away by the passion of someone else's mere presence? Ah, that comment was in response to Lovinit28's comment about "god-like" folk. Sorry, seems a little off-topic now. Why do member subheadings show up in my feed, rather than the actual thread title -- that's what I want to know?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you're married AND have permission to play, fill your boots. If you're married and do NOT have the nod to play, and from what you say you feel constrained by monogamy, then do something about your relationship before changing your profile. I have played with married women before. On those occasions I have had phone conversations with hubby, and even went to the couple's house once to have a chat with both of them before it went ahead. IMO it's the only way to do it. Doesn't sound like too many women will want to speak to your other half before getting DTF with you, I'm afraid. Just my experience, but I think the girls are particularly sensitive to this type of thing...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We see it all the time.. Look at some at some of the super models and the men they hang with ? Makes you wonder why , but proves beauty is in the eye or wallet of the beholder.. If I'm attracted to someone I never think for one moment that she's un accessible. I think we all give off a silent vibe to the people we like and we need to be smart enough to recognise when its returned, no matter if your a 5 or 10.. ATM , Im content because I'm in pretty good shape, feeling fit and healthy. Gets back to ' if you feel and look good, it reacts on you and everyone around you.. Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrAqurius30' Thanks for all you responses *Jersey girl I have my reasons and it is far to much and to private to post on here,I'm sorry if somebody hurt you in the past I'm not him so don't be so nasty If you think JerseyGirl's quite tame comment was nasty you obviously haven't been reading these forums for very long Anyway it doesn't matter what your reasons are for going behind your wife's back, most single women and couples won't want to get involved in your situation. I certainly wouldn't, and that isn't because I'm judging you it's simply because a) men in your situation can't offer what I am looking for, and b) I'm not risking getting involved in a shitstorm if your wife happens to find out. So far I've managed to avoid having an irate partner abuse me and I'd like to keep it that way. You'll find that many others feel the same way...there's just too much potential for trouble. Your reasons for cheating are your own and obviously it's your life and your relationship, nobody here can tell you what to do and anyway you haven't asked for advice in relation to that. But you do need to realise that it will be a significant limiting factor in your search on here - much more so than your looks which are fine. You may well be able to find people but just don't expect it to happen overnight. Even single guys often struggle on here, that's just how it is with respect to the numbers. One piece of advice - always be upfront about your relationship status. Don't let your desire for sexual exploration trump other people's right to be able to make informed decisions about who they are playing with.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I find it rather amusing that RHP messaging criteria considers "divorced" as attached....lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
i just don't understand the number labelling? You are looking for a 10? What is a 10 to you? How does one decide what number another person is? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
At least, OP, kudos for explaining your status the first time you were asked. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Also like to ask the OP what they mean by "punching above your weight". Do you mean dating someone with more intelligence than yourself?
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RHP User
11 years ago
You feel it's ok to have a dig at the OP's intelligence because... ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had a dig at his intelligence?
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Punching above your weight" generally refers to being with someone much more attractive than yourself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I thought the phrase was going to mean something base and underhanded, like mock self-effacing posts aimed at garnering unwarranted admiration.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' but I find it rather amusing that RHP messaging criteria considers "divorced" as attached....lol See.... I don't get why someone would want to be labelled as "divorced". Single it is.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
wont get me running to my laptop and panting while typing a hot message to you. On the contrary. Too complicated. Plays havoc on my guilty Catholic sensibilities. Damn Catholic upbringing...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is all my attitude that gets me the ladies, as soon as I started dating I was always with a glamour I know how lucky I am to have been with some of these people and I've made memories to last a lifetime but RHP is a whole different ball game and pretty much haven't been able to get a hit in from anyone serious on this site.. I thought this site was meant to be for kinky adventurous people!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
To your profile... I read 'bogan who didn't finish highschool' and at a mention of your 'ungodly' figure actually tells me you probably have some confidence issues. The fact that you're searching for your '10' and that even average girls don't respond makes me think you're also quite judgemental. You want a 10, yet you've called yourself a 5? I generally won't see anyone who has such little confidence about themselves! It seems to me your profile paints a slightly negative perspective of you. I also try to look for something a bit artistic in the pictures rather than standing in front of a dirty mirror taking a selfie. I didn't even get as far as the attached status. Which actually is irrelevant to me. Additionally, I'll consider responding to a message if the message has an excellent level of 'game' and it interests me.
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blackbig
11 years ago
Some hints.. Be genuine. Have photos available, and clear with your intention. It helps. Good luck mate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Heya all! Well I normally don't like to comment on such topics but it seem your having some major issues hear from what I have read from posts and your profile, now I'm not going to express what I feel you should do here so PM me and I'll explain a few things and hopefully it'll help you go a longer way here! Cheers Q and sorry no I'm not guy, although bi curious to a degree - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hello Mr Aquarius,Blackbig is right – follow his lead and keep it simple. It can be, but it’s not about being a “10” in the physique department (which I still don’t understand; surely you have more criteria than that?), but rather playing to your strengths while staying upbeat and positive. Everyone has “baggage”, it’s a part of being human, but nobody wants to hear about yours. And while it’s great to have an all-encompassing outlook when it comes to fetishes, sexuality, gender and all the possible permutations that they offer, getting the basics right is crucial. You have to realise that there’s a huge chasm that lies between what people say they want and what they actually want. That is, while people passionately talk about sexual diversity, they want to know whether you at least possess the basics. While this site is billed as being sexually diverse, I find that the majority of RHP members expect suitors to be proficient at fundamental “vanilla” activities first. It’s hard to beat nature and binary biological urges have a strong gravitational pull. Generally speaking, this sensibility also seems to carry over into areas other than sex, like the ability to have a conversation, write a decent message and have some cultural capital. Basically, people want to know whether you’re, well… “normal”, by whatever criteria they use to measure their brand of normalcy. I do believe, though – despite what they say on their profile – that the norms RHP members are looking for are, generally, fairly consistent. Let’s face it, if you’re outside of that norm and your profile reflects that, then your profile will probably be overlooked. No surprise there.Once you’ve proven you fit with the tribe, you can get into deeper discussions about your sexual preferences and fetishes. So, in short, keep your profile simple, upbeat, have good pics and take a little care with your messages. And just so you know, I could count on one hand the number of hits that I’ve had here on RHP since joining about a month ago. Yes, my profile could be better, which may in turn attract many more hits. But the other thing you could (should?) consider is whether it’s the volume of hits or the right hits that’s important.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My opinion is that on theses sites it is very herd for the single guy as the guys very much out number the girls on here. So your profile has to be able to fly above the pack somehow. Girls will say that looks aren't everything but hey for real if they aren't attracted to you in someway when they first open your profile you don't stand a chance. I use to be on a couple of sites long time go as a single guy and as an average looking guy I never had a chance. In the end I meet a stunning looking gal both inside and out (punching well bore my weight) and we are together now and always will. But I never met her online............good luck on here but average doesn't cut it.. Just my opinion.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're gorgeous
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh an to my last, if your married and on here as a single you might want to have a long look as to why your here looking........
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Djd_2014'RHP is a whole different ball game and pretty much haven't been able to get a hit in from anyone serious on this site.. You're profile says: "I'd love to hear back from you if you received that one and only message that I will ever send on a site like this." Sounds like you don't think too highly of this site, nor of the people on here. Not an attractive statement at all, in my opinion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' wont get me running to my laptop and panting while typing a hot message to you. On the contrary. Too complicated. Plays havoc on my guilty Catholic sensibilities. Damn Catholic upbringing... If only my parents hadn't raised me to have those pesky morals!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Looking4trouble'...good luck on here but average doesn't cut it.. Just my opinion..... Average is as boring as bat shit...and thank fuck for that Proud to be not your your average cheating bastard
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blackbig
11 years ago
Very meaningful contribution there..✅✅ Hopefully someone put a nice summary of all these good pieces of useful hints from different members ... 🙏🙏 - Posted from rhpmobile
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abcplus1
11 years ago
No they're not. To date we have not had one successful meeting that has progressed beyond a meal from this site despite the years we have been on it. We have from another site, but never from rhp.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are different horses for different courses I myself have not had much luck but having said that I have also meet a lot of nice people here it will happen - Posted from rhpmobile
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