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Protection,do you use protection?
September 15 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
An ex-partner can hack into your computer? It tells me people are careless with their passwords. People don't have access to my phone or laptop unless I'm there, and even then private things are well hidden. There are apps for that. I've certainly learned the hard way not to tell people here who I'm having sex with. This place can be very incestuous, and I've encountered jealousy between both women and men first hand. I give out my number the day before meeting someone, but now that I've installed KIK on my phone(which works with a Username, not your phnone number like Whatsapp does), I may not even have to do that.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
I lost someone very close to me HIV, and I have friends just a few years older who lost scores of friends including straight couples. Australia was somewhat inoculated from the impact of the AIDS epidemic, the drugs have been around long enough that many feel safe, but we collectively should never be complacent as viruses mutate and incurable gonorrhoea is on the rise (google it). As for safety of personal information on computers I'd like to think we're doing all the right things.
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RHP User
12 years ago
By keeping it with you.....some may scoff, but my phone, computer etc are my personal items. They're not anyone else's. I think it's disrespectful at the least for anyone to desire looking through my phone, computer etc. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
When we decided to look into this "www. swinging world" , we have some friends in big circles, and thought a site (not RHP)but similar could allow us the privacy for our interests. So we went to the back pages in the search far away from mainstream looking at profiles of guys that fitted our criteria and ended up meeting with one that said all the right things.We let this guy into our home, we even spent a few hours getting to know him and spent some time engaged with play. As time went by, things were beginning to feel wrong, so I had a difficult moment trying to see past the worries, and needed to make a terrible decision to stop playing.It was terrible because, I could not put my finger exactly to why I reacted and it upset Tara, My decision was made knowing that she could well be upset (the green eyed monster) embarrassing her, and trying to explain it was not that could very well have left us agreeing to disagree. What can one do.The guy spent a great deal of effort, trying to convince me that my insecurities were playing up and the four stages that newbies need to go through, to get past seeing their partner with another playmate. At first and after he had left sounded very convincing to Tara, I was in trouble.It was his nature that had me feeling the way I did and trying to explain feelings can be difficult. It turned out that our privacy away from our circles of friends had been blown, as this guy had been posting our names where we were, and what we were up to on facebook.If it was not for our friends bringing this problem to our attention, and ultimately dealing with this problem. That guy could have caused much more serous problems for us to see eye to eye.To this day we still protect his identity, because that is what we promise.Since then we met a guy on this site and he made the four stages, a fantastic experience. He has our number and only uses it if we call him.Sorry Freya, this could not be said in only a few words.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
under lock and chain.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I really need to know you before I give anything. If I hold back it's because you haven't earned my trust. I look after myself both physically and mentally , I expect the same.. I will only fuck you with protection until I know you are just as clean , then we can fuck bareback which I believe is the way it should be... Jay
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are just bitter and twisted ....These so called ex lovers need protection from ME!
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RHP User
12 years ago
both of these things are very important to us & to any playmates we invite to our home or those who invite us to theirs will be shown this courtesy. when we play our preference is with those who we know or get to know on a physical level only. we enjoy the anonymity & spontaneous random meets which are more the norm for us rather than scheduled & planned meetings where people chat & get to know their potential future playmates. playing this way steps things up & forces us to be very aware & alert of all things concerning both our safety & privacy. our rules are strict & we will not compromise on what we believe to be extremely reasonable things. eg; no photographs, no filming, phone numbers kept private, condoms used, etc. the people we play with see us for meetings involving sex only. there is no valid reason for either of us to hold private information or pictures of the other, divulge things to people who may meet them or message them on site or compromise on protection & exposing each other to risks that no orgasm is worth. we have been fortunate with the playmates we have met & believe it is because we are meeting people who are placing the same importance on these things as we do so there are no questions or misunderstandings. there has been only one very odd person who we have met who was not anything like the picture which was described to us. foolishly we let them stay & for some reason put up with an arduous 20 minutes of fumbling by this person until we could take no more & had to show them the door. we take the blame for this disaster, for not checking this person out properly before actually meeting, continuing the meet after being lied to & allowing some stranger use us for their pleasure while we sat there dumb-founded at the sheer audacity of this person & the gullibility 2 supposed experienced players displayed. 2 weeks later this person sent us a text asking for a meet to play the next day. we did not recognise the number & sent a text asking who it was. we were then away from the phone for a period of around 10 minutes & when we had not replied within this time began receiving messages which at first resembled a school girl's taunt & quickly turned into messages aimed to represent threats & which had they been sent to perhaps a single woman would cause concern for what this odd individual was plotting in his very abstract mind. a very minor incident & a hiccup, which if pursued by him, will be taken back to his own environment. we do have his home address which has been verified & we will have no hesitation removing him & his childish behaviour from our home to return both to his own place of dwelling where each belong. his behaviour will also be made known to any members within his household & to his neighbours so they may all keep an eye on him to take action if needed against any bizarre behaviour or report matters which may cause concern. we are very vocal about this type of behaviour which some individuals unfortunately display & we will not tolerate this from people who we believe have issues needing to be dealt with elsewhere & who have no right to try & prey on others to disguise their own sense of sexual weakness. we have no time for these people, absolutely no respect & we will do all we can to remove them from our playgrounds so others don't have to be subjected to their pitiful behaviour. this was just a careless error on our part though, no harm done & only a couple of red faces at our own stupidity. we have been together for 10 years & have played as a couple over the years with varying periods of time in between. we have always ensured our safety & privacy & take great care of our personal health & our bodies. we enjoy our playmates but they are our playmates. it is each other we are looking after & protecting & each other who will remain the priority to us both when we play and for our own private intimacy. we have heard of stories of people who have had their trust betrayed & their belongings stolen by those who have been invited into their homes & these are incidents which are classed as minor compared to some things which have happened to people who were too trusting & believed the person they were meeting was everything which they had been told on the phone or online. it's a very sad truth, but none of us can be accepted as who we portray on our profiles until we have been met in the flesh & even then we need to be wary until a trust of some sort can be formed. if somebody gives you feelings which make you feel unsettled or make you question your safety or what you are about to do, you need to be responsible for yourself & pay attention to this. you will know when your playmates are there for the same reasons as you & you will also be able to recognise the people who have ulterior motives if you pay attention. it is in these situations you must remove yourself immediately & not let play commence or continue. for random & spontaneous meets, which involve sex with strangers, all of which we have mentioned is done by us both automatically, with no conscious thought & we have practiced this for so long that our safety & privacy checks are fluid, thorough & incorporated between all meets, i do admit that mr funky does become impatient & excited at times, as of course i do, but he is the one who can run with an idea while i am the one left who has to be responsible about any suspect meets. mr funky takes responsibility in other areas which cause me to lose all control & together we make a great team. we'll continue to do this & would encourage others to also be aware. it's just sex guys, don't let the few depraved sickos out there take this away from you. mrs funky
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RHP User
12 years ago
No matter how smart you are. Your computer is not safe, thats an illusion. Your pictures end up all over the world. Your text can be taken from thin air and your always watched. where you go what you do its in your phone. I have hidden files on my phone and a code, but my husband who works in the business of secret squirrel stuff cracked my phone in ten seconds. So I keep changing my code to give him the message about not to use my phone. If I want to show someone a picture, I hold the phone up so that they only see that picture and cant flip to any other pictureI delete all my texts and photographs as soon as I get them or take them. I have peoples names that are I know from here all under x or v. I tell people they are my clients for work.I have had drugs stolen from my house, I had few back operations and had oxycondon, that i had not used and someone stole it all and re sealed the boxes. Now I hide all my stuff if people come to my house. and I threw out all my other pain killers. I also tend to stick with a few good men, now that I no longer have my studio. Inviting them there was safe and I never had night meetings. I once had a guy send me a picture of my house, my full name and both my phone numbers and the message went like this.I am not a stalker but...and showed me what he had.he tried to join my face book so now I do not have a face book.what we do, is risky to you, and to others. But what we want out of this , makes us take that risk, rightly or wrongly.Its not till it blows up in your face that you think shit, is this worth it?as for safe sex. I would say that 95 percent of men turn up with NO condom. and they still want to play.Hiv in WA is on the rise due to Fifo guys taking their breaks overseas. so to with many other STDs especially in WA on the rise.This game we play is a risky one, no matter how smart we think we are.we can get burnt.
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Tall74nHard9
12 years ago
Having read through the various comments above, my 'protection' is both very simple, and very safe. I don't have a mobile, so no issues about anyone trying to search it. All passwords are kept in my head - I don't need a myriad of electrical devices to store things. Also, as one mentioned above, you have to earn my trust before I will pass anything on - which includes my name. (Un)fortunately I have an extremely unique first Christian name (as in southern hemisphere unique - I've researched) so I am very, very careful about who I pass it on to, coz it might come back to bite me in the wrong circumstances. If I do decide to give you a name it will normally be one of my other Christian names, until I get to know you well enough. In my profile I do list safe sex "if required" - but I am always safety conscious, in all realms. Tall
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RHP User
12 years ago
As any surfer can tell you, stupidity is siting on a piece of foam on the biggest dining table on the surface of the earth every day and saying 'man this is living'.Having any item that allows someone to identify you on this page suggest one of two things either we collective are stupid or we have undertaken a rudimentary Risk Assessment and assume that the structured elements of the www and chance of bumping into someone at an inopportune moment are acceptable on our risk matrix. However, we have another issue that is yet to be entertained and that is the sensual feeling that comes with the anticipation of clicking through a collection of other peoples facts or fictions and seeing them align with our own attempts at constructing the alternate or reality that suits. Then hoping that the one we picked to flirt with, or better the one that we skimmed over because they are out of our league, decides to check us out. Or better still send us a flirt or as our heart rate raises a message of acceptance or suggestion (personally it's more of keep moving nothing to touch here).It is this single human trait that leaves us open and exposed more so than the fact that we may not use physical barriers to prevent a single cell organism entering our body or that the origin of that cell is a greater disease with the capacity to destroy our lives. We can't live our life one click at a time and the reality is that no matter how well we try to ensure we protect our identity and those we love if some arse hole decides to fuck our lives because they wish to - shit will happen.What is needed is a collective desire to share and weeded out arse holes who conduct themselves inappropriately or in a why that is deemed to be malicious in nature. Predatory conduct is not an immediate skill or intent it is experienced and allowed to grow. Again a human trait and the Aussie attitude allows these sort of people to grow and gain experience and improve their operational morandi, the site has attempted to warn us through highlighted dialog boxes and continual warnings individuals must continue to conduct mini Risk Assessment at all stages of the process in which we communicate, engage and liaise with other off the site.In short yes get out of bed tomorrow and take the first step in the day just make sure our four legged friend, little people or ourselves haven't left something to step on or fail over as shit happens especially in life.Z
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RHP User
12 years ago
Regarding files being deleted on a computer, Windows or Mac it doesn't matter.Don't be fooled to believe they are gone forever. When a file is deleted, only the info that was used to tell the operating system where on the hard drive that file was is deleted. The file still resides on the drive, just as far as the operating system is concerned it's not there anymore.The only way files that are "deleted" is when the data is overwritten. This is how people up to no good are double sprung if the authorities get hold of their computers. Or maybe you know of someone who has paid exorbitant amounts of money for data recovery, after they have accidentally emptied the trash can / recycle bin.Mobile devices are similar.Like anything locks only keep the honest crooks out
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree as quoted.."This place can be very incestuous, and I've encountered jealousy between both women and men first hand"I think having more than one FWB and lots of lovers, can be a very dangerous game.Innocent people can get hurt and when I say hurt I mean emotionally and deeply scared.No matter how much we protect ourselves, mobiles, locks on computers etc etc.If someone wants to find out information about others they will.If someone wants to stalk a FWB other lovers they will!!It is scary to be on the receiving end and it's scary to know when privacy is violated.I think it is a duty of care to ALL involved when privacy has been violated.People need to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for everyone's safety and privacy.It is not OK to go through peoples phones, computers, etc etc with out asking.There is something wrong if a person has to go to great lengths to do that.Just sayin....FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do all my rhp stuff on a browser that doesn't record any information such as history, cookies, passwords and ip address. Other than that - there is an unspoken understanding by those I associate with (friends, colleagues, family) that my phone is a complete no-go. As for protecting fwb's health - I don't play the numbers game. I keep my fwb's at a reasonably small number and only do things as ongoing. And always use protection - no matter how much I trust them, or number of times I have seen them. I also go through the effort of getting tested in the case of the condom breaking during sex. Which happened recently and thankfully all is well. As Mez said, this website is freakishly incest and it would be nieav to beleive that the same rules and stats for STI's dont apply for this website as to the outside world. If anything this site is the perfect breeding ground.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'slickz' I do all my rhp stuff on a browser that doesn't record any information such as history, cookies, passwords and ip address. Other than that - there is an unspoken understanding by those I associate with (friends, colleagues, family) that my phone is a complete no-go. As for protecting fwb's health - I don't play the numbers game. I keep my fwb's at a reasonably small number and only do things as ongoing. And always use protection - no matter how much I trust them, or number of times I have seen them. I also go through the effort of getting tested in the case of the condom breaking during sex. Which happened recently and thankfully all is well. As Mez said, this website is freakishly incest and it would be nieav to beleive that the same rules and stats for STI's dont apply for this website as to the outside world. If anything this site is the perfect breeding ground. It is not the browser that is recording every single internet up or download, even this little flurry across the www. has been recorded, you have no choice. It is open now to the man any time to look at. Even if your phone or computer is encrypted, then that just buys you a little time.But you are a good lad for practicing safe sex.Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think the OP is talking about PROTECTION as in condoms or anything like that.What she is talking about is PROTECTION as in Privacy protection, privacy of others and how do you protect others when having several FWB or lovers.She has mentioned in the above examples how people have got into peoples computers/phones/facebook etc etc to find out information about other lovers.This does happen.What happens if you are the one who gets the knock on the front door from your FWB other lover, because they broke their into stuff and found out where you live etc etcThis is my biggest fear...Who is then responsible, the FWB. yourself or both of you? Should the FWB take some sort of responsibility when this happens or should they just brushed it off or should it be just mainly your own concern to deal with and not involve the FWB?FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Protection of your privacy is paramount when dealing with internet relations, even for a single guy (believe me); although much more so for single women.For this reason, I don't show face shots except for in my private gallery, and am wary sharing contact details with people. Not because I have anything to hide, but more because if someone has misaligned intentions or things go wrong I don't want to have anything biting me or affecting my private life.I have a separate email address for this website, and have messenger apps on my phone to avoid having to share my number (although I do share this once I have built trust with the person).It's just a lot better these days to be safer rather than sorry, I have heard of bad experiences and have a few of my own.
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madotara69
12 years ago
What was the name of that movie where Dolly Parton said " maybe I could hire a couple of wranglers to beat the shit out of them"Sorry a bit off topic.Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haha yeh - I read faster than my brain computes sometimes. But still it is more interesting if it includes both privacy and health of fwb's. Which I guess she kind of states in the opening of the topic. Great topic as always btw frey- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A gentleman tell me the day after our first meeting that based only on my first name, a photo I had sent him and what I did for a living that he could work out where I lived. I challenged this and he proved his point. If you use ANY mobile device you should not suffer under the illusion that you have privacy. If you doubt what I say google "In google we trust" and watch it. Lucky for me, said gentleman went on to become a trusted lover.....but I am aware the story could have ended differently.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Kaleidoscope'A gentleman tell me the day after our first meeting that based only on my first name, a photo I had sent him and what I did for a living that he could work out where I lived. The name I use on RHP is a shortened version of my full name. A nickname, if you will. My full name is rather uncommon and it would make it too easy to track me down. I would recommend that all women with a name that stands out to do the same, and I know a few RHP ladies that have. Some people will surely be able to figure out where I work, based on my posts. But they wouldn't find me using my RHP moniker. And of course Sydney is a good place to hide. Quoting 'newschool13' I have a separate email address for this website, and have messenger apps on my phone to avoid having to share my number (although I do share this once I have built trust with the person). Absolutely! And once again, don't forget people can find your Facebook account easily if you used the same email or mobile number you're giving out here.
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Tall74nHard9
12 years ago
It appears we share similar problems with unique / unusual first names. Strangely enough, and it was not planned that way, if you fiddle a little with part of my user name, you also can get to my name as well. Odd coincidence ??? Tall
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