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Pros and cons
May 07 2018
What are the pros and cons of this lifestyle?
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think I want the lifestyle, but I'm not sure because of fears and worries. Please help me figure out the pros and cons if you can.
Thanks 😊
- Posted from rhpmobilethreeway
7 years ago
For ivy d ; first thing know the person through call or maybe coffee, talk about your concerns and interests upfront and don’t let anyone push you to do anything what you don’t enjoy or comfortable with
- Posted from rhpmobile
AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
You may like the lifestyle. But the bigger question should be, will your partner/husband like it?
After all, you get all the sex you desire, he just gets to hear about it. It's his experience of it that needs to be tucked above all others.
FeistyFatty
7 years ago
This is something you really need to talk to your hubby about first and foremost. Google Compersion. Best of luck.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for all the replys 😊
My man is very encouraging and I have to admit this is why I'm on RHP.
I've never been one to cheat, so being allowed to have sex without guilt or consequences is a dream come true. I love the thrill of it all.
Doing things to make him happy and telling him all the details is a turn on.
The problem is that he wants to watch.
He wants to be there and watch me get off and break out of my comfort zone while I'm intoxicated with the rush of it all. I just can't see myself doing that.
I can be his dirty secret and do naughty things to make him happy, but I can't deal with letting him see me like that. It makes me feel sick to my stomach at the thought of seeing regret in his eyes while I'm riding another man. I wouldn't dare risk that... ever!
Anyone have a similar situation?
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
7 years ago
wanting you to do this.. he will NOT have any regret in his eyes...
Just saying ;)FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Well this is slightly different to your hotwife scenario mentioned in your OP. sounds more like a Cuckold. If your hubby is keen to watch it may be a good starting point to involve a Bull or a threesome under the proviso that hubby is only watching not participating. Hotwifing is you going it solo and coming home to hubby and lavishing all the details on him. You'd be suprised what you can do in those heated moments though so maybe having your hubby participate and watch will prove to be just as exhilarating for you...... both of you.
- Posted from rhpmobilethreeway
7 years ago
If he allows you to have some fun with another man, you should not be feeling guilty, you are not cheating on him, watching partner enjoying with someone is big turn on as well as a satisfying feeling, I guess you should discuss more with him about how you feeling about all this. I m sure he be happy watching you having attention from some other gentle lover
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
7 years ago
Recently a hot wife myself!!! 😈
I completely understand what you’re saying, I have never cheated on anybody ever!
So yes to have permission without consequences was a dream come true!
The best of both worlds 😄
The same subject had come up for us as well. I was afraid how Husband would react when actually in the moment, and how it may effect us afterwards.
We then decided it was a good idea to start with a photo or video, baby steps.
My lover enjoyed the idea too!
It was hot! Sooo naughty!
Husband loved it and it turned him on big time. Unfortunately a few weeks later is was brought up in an argument. 😕 so no.
We never went there again and definitely not in person. We continued to play separately after that.
The only danger you need to be mindful of is to ensure just as much effort in dating is still fostered in your marriage by both parties.
Husband need to step it up and not become complacent that someone else is taking care of you.
I’m happy to discuss pros and cons more via private messaging.... if you’re comfortable.
Have fun you lucky duck 🤗
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
7 years ago
@FatFunFiesty
Hotwife is going it solo...
When he brought up the idea and the seriouslness of making me his hotwife, that's the way I understood it too... It never occured to me that he would want to watch, and I was looking forward to teasing him and sending him photos and maybe calling him so he can answer to me during the act 😇
When I look in his eyes I need to see that he wants me.
@Threeway
I don't think a gentle lover is who he wants to see me with lol. I don't even want to get into what he wants to see me do lol.
@Lionsdoll1
Best of both worlds
I know, right! It's mind boggling to think of the opportunities lol.
I felt aligned with a lot od what you mentioned.
So after the argument, did that make it hard for you to tell him the details? Thats something I worry about... actually he has bo interest in playing with anyone else... He has always taken pleasure in seeing me get off on toys, and that has led to this. He wants to watch me with a real toy.
He has let me sleep around a few times already amd i havent noticed the slightest change in his personality or affection towards me. He just wants to hear all about it and then 'reclaim' as its called lol.
Sorry I'm still new to RHP. Would you be able to private message me please. Id love to pick your brain 😄
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
7 years ago
I never discussed much anyway. It was on a need to know basis really. And I was always mindful of my play partners on what they were comfortable sharing, if anything.
Personally I preferred my own secrets 🤭
He was more turned on by seeing me get dressed or packing and then when I returned home.
Safety was always discussed though and he knew where I would be and I would check in at a specific time or intervals.
He has dropped me off and picked me up before too.
I’m a guest, but if you have a particular messaging service, K I’m sure you can find me 🧐🤓🤫
- Posted from rhpmobileFeistyFatty
7 years ago
My experiences are the same as Lionsdoll. My hubby likes knowing who im keen on playing with and when i do play all he asks is did we both enjoy eachother, did he make me cum, and are we going to play again. He has requested pics once or twice which those men were happy to do. He respects their privacy as much as our own. Threesomes weve had have been different though and its all in equally playing.... id find it quite bizarre if he wanted to sit to the side and just watch and not jump in and play too.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
6 years ago
I am The guy in a marriage and want my wife to be fucked but i want to be there maybe help is that normal
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