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Profiles and evolution. Sink or swim.

October 06 2012

I posted this as a reply to a recent thread, but I figured it was worthy of it's own discussion.We see people asking for advice all the time, on how they should word their profile, and therefore express themselves to all. Their own attempts to catch a 'partner' have failed, so they ask for tips from the community.I say that's a pretty lame. No-one knows you as well as yourself, your close friends, and family.I like to think that profiles are like species. It's not too far fetched when ultimately we are here to 'mate' (although without the consequences of offspring, no doubt!). Evolution tended to sort the weak from the strong. The strong, or at least well adapted, suited their enviroment and flourished. The less suitable drifted away into history. I see profiles as the same. The stronger more suitable profiles prosper. The weak fade away.So, when someone comes into the message boards, looking for 'advice', I say let them find their own way.Let them work out their own 'words'. It's their personality on show afterall. Would you prefer to know that someone couldn't string a couple of sentences together, and had a 'committee' guide them on how to catch your eye?Giving 'tips', will only allow them to modify what they would normally have said, therefore giving of the impression of something/someone they possibly aren't. And if that's the case, aren't they now wasting OUR time, rather than just their own?

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RHP User

13 years ago

I've pushed the same line on many occasions myself.Cheers Felonious

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RHP User

13 years ago

new people here to provide some insight and answers,Sometimes the person who is asking the question even takes notice...BUT it is also a way for people to get themselves noticed I suspect.If you see a post of this nature don't bother to read it or respond. Yes it tends to be batshit boring,same old ,same old at times''does my cock look big in this''...''are fat chicks sexy''...''big or small tits'' yada,yada etc but then we get a month of the wonderful wiccan......

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Paradisepair

13 years ago

Especially re the misrepresentation.

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RHP User

13 years ago

hehehehehe

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Innercircle

13 years ago

Needs more guitar. Quoting 'inspirit' Hows my profile Rocker hehehehehe

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RHP User

13 years ago

thought you may of said a little fiddle Quoting 'rockercouple80' Needs more guitar. Quoting 'inspirit' Hows my profile Rocker hehehehehe

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'Freya13' but then we get a month of the wonderful wiccan......

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RHP User

13 years ago

A profile should be a pretty personal thing, for myself, I didn't worry too much about the "selling myself" thing. I tried to put a little of myself in my profile and be honest about it. Like everything else in life, there is far more to me than what is written in my profile just as I am sure that there is far more to everyone else here than theirs. The idea of asking someone else "what should I put in my profile?" seems a little too much to me like asking "what do I say to get her into bed?" it is often just seeking inspiration on how to better manipulate others. Having said that, I know that I am reasonable at making the English language say what I want it to say most of the time, and I know some very gifted and wonderful people for whom this is more difficult. I think the best advice anyone could give is just to be yourself (as has been given many other times in other forums).

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RHP User

13 years ago

great topic guys, and totally agree with what you've said, from memory your profile was a great read, a little hard for me to access these days though...The flip side is however, that some people have a wonderful way with words and can craft a profile to their own liking, misleading a potential playmate and fooling themselves really i know. The profile is a form of advertisement, done right it can attract attention, then hopefully a meet ... i do wonder though, how many profiles out there represent the personality or one's craft in the way it was written. it's a shame we can't read a person's eye's and body language (as you can face to face) when reading their profile... ... i guess we have to work with what we got.... no doubt there are some that could sell ice to the eskimos, i'm sure half the people on here aren't what their profile suggests

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RHP User

13 years ago

While I agree in principle, nobody can apply a sociological struggle to a biological one. What you're describing is more akin to marketing and micro-managing your target consumer which is just good business sense. I find social evolution can be engineered and manipulated at any given turn. Personality is fluid and not a fixed construct. Personally I change my profile every month because I'm bored of looking at it. That said, women's biological clocks having an expiry date, technology or no technology... those instincts are millenia old and can't be disputed. What they say they want is a social construct, what they're attracted to is a biological instinct. Often times the two lie in direct opposition to each other, and isn't normally women who limit their options by quantifying and submitting the preconcieved notion that they have a "type" or a "preference" as it were? Because if they were to shack up with any old dick, they'd be considered a slut or the village bike, and why buy the bike when you can get the ride for free? Yes, profiles are an organic advertisement of self, although without reflection and pespective, the self ceases to exist and so do the labels, the types and the text. Structure + content = memory. External + internal = experiental. That said, the gender ratio is reallly askew, and taking into consideration a woman's tendency to window shop without any intention to purchase... should a profile really matter as long as he has a six figure income and a 9 inch cock? Happy to be proven wrong, no actually... I look forward to it... although I don't think the sink or swim argument really applies here. That is to say that we have a choice in who we are attracted to, which, apparently... we don't. Cause as they say... that's evolution man, deal with it.

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RHP User

13 years ago

It must be a little hot where you are atm,icecream for FIFOs,ice for Eskimos.I have always been partial to a Mr.Whippy myself.

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RHP User

13 years ago

I guess tips are one thing , but it has to be a representation of themselves..if i didnt think of writing something that explains my thoughts , i dont think they were true thoughts then.. I wish i wrote Imagine ..

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RHP User

13 years ago

Quoting 'Freya13' It must be a little hot where you are atm,icecream for FIFOs,ice for Eskimos.I have always been partial to a Mr.Whippy myself. do you like nuts on top, or maybe one of those banana boats with sprinkles

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RHP User

13 years ago

I just lurve nuts of course..with hot chocolate fudge

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RHP User

13 years ago

they arent requests for tips....not at all...they are poorly veiled fishing expeditions...a 'look at mine'...in the hope that someone will see something they like....nothing less.

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