Privacy and RHP

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  They take a pretty dim view of you wasting time at work on dating sites. Surprisingly some companies are ok with facebook and they think if you take a FB break you won't chat so much in the office. Having been a boss, I got pretty narky when I found staff were setting up dates and scanning profiles and flirting and chatting online rather than getting on with their work. My narkiness was partially because staff were always going on about how overworked they were, and also because we were tax payer funded. In terms of me being found out using RHP while at work, I think I would have been given a warning and my computer usage would have been monitored by the powers that be and if my behaviour did not change, I would have been put on a performance management plan. If I was found to have a profile on RHP, as long as I did not go on in work time, no-one would have cared. And as for now, I'm the boss and there is only me so I do what I want when I want. Good question though. Cheers WTG

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  ... my bosses know about my RHP profile, have discussed the pros and cons of it with me, allow me MSN, FB and RHP time while at work (infact I can have it running in the background all day if I want), allow me to arrange dates etc, take all calls on my mobile .... as long as my work doesnt suffer. They know ultimately I put my job first and the rest of my activities is second to it. I just go absolutely barmy staring at the work screen all the time and need down time. especially during stocktake - have I mentioned I hate stocktake? However I do know others that there is no way they could do any of that (let alone all of it) at work. I have very open minded bosses - no I havent found them on here now that would amuse me - who just value the time I put into my job. There is now way I would be sacked for it. I guess working for a small business does have its benefits after all. Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Where do you work?? I wanna work there too!!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Yes, yes in a perfect world it wouldn't matter what you did with your spare time so long as you didn't hurt anyone. If anyone knows where we catch the flight to this world please let us know. Fact is as a whole we are scared of anything out of our comfort zones and this leads to hatred of things foreign to us, whether they be different races, religions or dare I say it sexual preferences. To this end people who aren't on a sex site will likely view those that are as somewhat perverted. Now remember that there are more "tire kickers" on here just looking at what you perverts do than there are actual perverts having fun. So there is some likelihood that a curious prude could actually identify someone off here. Could you lose your job? Again in a perfect world the law would prevent this but in reality it's pretty easy to dodge those rules. There are a lot of occupations where being outside the norm is still not readily acceptable, jeez have a look at all the suits in any city on a hot summers day - conformism at its most ridiculous! So yep, we're a little paranoid but our lives outside this site are so much more important to us than the bit o' fun we get off here so we'll keep being a little wary and maybe, just maybe have a little discrete fun along the way ;) See you at church Mooka!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Especially if there were more people like me at work. They are a special couple I work for. They did try to stop it early on but gave up on me after awhile and decided to try and understand than condem. Now they think its a hoot and enjoy laughing over sone of the idots that I get contacted by and tryig to see if they can keep track of my social life. Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  funny you bring that up today mooka, I had to think about this today signing a contract that tried to stipulate I could be disciplined not only if I did something that brought the game into disrepute - but also if it was deemed "likely to bring into disrepute if publicly known". So the copy that went back for them to sign off on was minus that bit - I don't mind it if someone actually does something that harms the group/team/organisation, but I think including clauses like that are overly intrusive, unneccessary and punishment for something that hasn't even happened.I also took out one about "involved in major controversy in the public arena" - that is also a bit too broad, you needn't even be the person in the wrong to be held to that, and they already cover bringing things into disrepute, if it has no impact on them then they should have no action against youI don't expect to breach those conditions, but it is ridiculous that they're there IMO.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If you don't sign a contract that stipulates you can be disciplined for being on a website like RHP then you can't be fired or disciplined for it. THere's a difference between being on it in your own time versus being on it at work though, many companies have "acceptable use" policies that prohibit any sort of site like RHP or red tube or any of those fun sites from being visited on their network :) Once you sign an contract you're kinda screwed though. It hasn't been tested in court yet as far as I know (I'm not a lawyer, this is opinion!) but I can't see how unless you mention the company you work for specifically that anything you do can be considered to reflect on them. Unless you're a spokesperson, eg Tiger Woods getting dumped. It's common for companies to search Facebook and see what you've said prior to employing you and I know a person who got in a world of trouble for a comment she put on her profile when she was having a bad day. It lead to her quitting so you do have to be careful what you write where anyone can see it! What puppy said is very true, it's a social thing. My wife and I have had friends treat us completely differently beause they found out we were on this site a few years ago. It was awkward but at the end of the day my attitude has always been "If you're not accepting enough of the differences between people and their choices to accept this then I don't see why I would want to be friends with you anyway". Harsh but honest. So we/I keep it discreet. It's not worth the trouble from those who find it too different for them to understand. sydneyboy3au: Good on you! I'd do the same with those sorts of clauses, what a crock! That degree of broadness in a contract is open for an employee to abuse far too easily, and a lot of them will no matter how often they say they wouldn't! Yes, they're totally ridiculous.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I always thought that the 'people at work might see' was in reference to one of your work colleagues ALSO being on a dating site, and finding out you worked across the room/corridor/ etc. you know the scenarioboy meets girl on dating siteboy tells girl he works at a very important place in the citygirl says she does toosomeone lets slip they work on such and such a block or in this areaother says 'snap!'girl says this guy in the paisley tie was such as ass to her at workboy thinks 'hey, I was wearing said tie today' - asks her if she had on the navy work suitboth think..oh fuck

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Anyone can get anything from the internet, whether you have a face picture up or not. It is about ip addresses etc..no one is truly hidden, so why stress, if you do nothing to hurt anyone all is good and well.

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