Polite no thank you

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  Cuddles4fun

  4 years ago

  From some yes. I said no to someone very recently, then got sent some dick pics in the hope they'd change my mind possibly? I still said no then got told I was a demanding person because I didn't want to meet up during the middle of a lockdown. Stuff like this is why I tend to just block.

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  Freaky_Fun

  4 years ago

  Bahahaha you should see some of the replies I've recieved after saying no thanks. The thing l find funny is that they would NEVER say those things to my face. Gutless twats.

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  teamaj2

  4 years ago

  This question often comes up . To reply or not to reply? We do reply if the message is respectful, more than three words and if they have shown that they actually read our profile . Yes , we have had our fair share of abuse , disgruntled men and those demanding an explanation as to why it is a no thank you . No one here owes anyone an explanation. I would like to think that everyone has it in them to be respectful and take rejection with dignity. Attraction is personal and we all have freedom of choice . Just because we ( or yourself ) are on RHP , does not mean we are open to meeting up with anyone and everyone . Good luck not so curious . The good ones are worth the wait . Ax

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I have to say we never get any problems with single guys on rhp. I literally think we've had one message and when we said no he replied "no worries good luck" when I was a single guy on here I made sure I only messaged couples who had "looking for single men in their profile" but I'd say 99% of my messages (and I sent a lot) were read and deleted with no reply. I didn't take it to heart and I always remembered that there was a record producer who said no to a deal with The Beatles :) In real life however its been a different story, at one party we had a guy following us around like a lost puppy and wouldn't take the hint so we had to bluntly tell him to go away and in the same night another guy kept on shoulder barging my partner every time he passed us and it happened way too many times for it to be an accident. What is annoying is we only attend events that are advertised as couples only yet there's always a significant amount of single males there. Probably just the club exploiting and making some easy money.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  4 years ago

  You are wasting your time focusing on replying to everyone. You have no obligation. Only to those who send respectful messages. BUT there is never a guarantee you'll take your panties off for them. They have to earn that. It's not a McPussy drive through here. As for unsolicited Cock pics. Some (not all) are like cats who bring dead mice to our doors. We all know they are proud and all that of their cocks, BUT sometimes, I am ain't touching that! You don't have to either OP. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Hearing this recurring topic is probably the single most frustrating thing on this app in my opinion. I have a vastly different expectation of RHP my second time around. So I’m a single fella and I’ve pretty much stopped approaching people (I still send a handful of messages now and again)because I know I’m going to be pushing shit uphill thanks to the behaviour of other single men, not to get started on the old ghosting chestnut.. I’d say to you if they are going to act like the dicks they are sending pictures of then simply block them. It’s no skin if your nose.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  There's the occasional abusive message but the majority are polite. Take a screenshot, report and block those that cross the line. No one should have to put up with that

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  MsSuperFoxy

  4 years ago

  Under The RHP message guidelines, under "CONSENT", it states the following. QUOTE: "In RedHotPie Land, consent is king. At no stage should any member ever feel coerced or manipulated into doing something they do not wish to do. Consent does not just pertain to sex; it must be sought ahead of any interaction with sexual context that could cause harm or offense without its presence. So before sending those naughty pics – ask first. Before you strip off and fire up Video Chat – ask first. RedHotPie is all about the naughty fun, so long as both parties are willing and enthusiastic participants. Saying No If you’re not feeling a spark and are not intending on continuing a conversation, let the other person know. Do so politely, and without ambiguity. Better everyone knows where they stand so they can move into their next opportunity. If another member becomes abusive after a rejection, block them and report them immediately. Our moderators will review their behaviour and take appropriate action. Hearing no Regardless of what your mum thinks of you, there’s a chance some people just won’t dig your vibe. It’s not the end of the world, and you really shouldn’t take it too personally. If you do get knocked-back, don’t try to talk somebody around, or ask them for reasons why. They’re under no obligation to justify their answer. If you experience a rejection, just strike it up as a miss and move on, there’s plenty more members for you on RHP." Thank me later. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  We've had very positive experiences with single guys every time we message a polite 'thanks but no thanks'. We almost always reply and only once did someone carry on trying to convince us we'd made the wrong decision 😂 We've had conversations fizzle to nothing without a message why, but we simply put that down to natural filtering for us. Never have we had abuse after saying no though.

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  KLady

  4 years ago

  If there’s no information or a full page ad about themselves and they are not what I’m looking for, I thank them for the message but say no thanks but good luck tho, all have replied thanking me for replying, then I hit delete,.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  The way I see it…those who engage in this kind of behaviour only do one thing…they show to their sex interest they’re untrustworthy, lack integrity, and also have zero other options…likely rhp is their only source of social interactions….

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  KunningLinguist

  4 years ago

  I’ll take a thanks but no thanks message everyday! Isn’t it exciting to see the little red balloon saying new message?! lol! In my experience to date, mostly messages are read but not replied to or indeed I set blocked! Meh… it’s just screening. I did introduce a single lady friend to this place and I’ve learnt a couple of things… 1. The crazy amount of messages single ladies receive. 2. The ‘quality’ of the vast majority of said messages. Chin up though, I’m sure you’ll find a diamond in the rough 👍🏽

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Oh yes. The nasty butt hurt rejection replies. I finished up not replying to anyone unless I was somewhat interested. Blocked the really creepy ones. The thing is they manipulate by way of calling us rude if we don't reply, lame attempt to get a reply, so desperate even a rejection reply is sought. Fuck them. You don't have to reply to complete strangers

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  ppiffle3934

  4 years ago

  I used to reply to everyone that messaged me with a polite thanks etc.. but now I just reply to the few that made an effort to send me a nice message. I stopped replying to all after getting a few abusive replies when they felt rejected, and the standard, my loss, name calling etc I like most women on here have had a variety of messages, from the obligatory sending of an unsolicited dick pic, ( even though I mention in my profile as a guest I can't see them anyway so don't send them) , the explicit uncouth ones where they tell me what they would like to do TO me, the one word "hi" and occasionally a well worded, obvious that they have read my profile message. Many, not all, only go by the pic you may display and don't bother reading what it is you are looking for thus commenting on said pics in a variety of ways.. Fortunately most have taken the polite no thanks well, The nasty ones just prove that they are just plain nasty and not worth worrying about, although I must admit that depending on how nasty the words are the jibes can leave you feeling is this worth it! I have had a couple that continue to send messages ignoring the no thanks, even ignoring the messages wasn't a deterent, so after sending a not quite polite reply highlighting again the no interest I have used the block feature.

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  BungCpl

  4 years ago

  We sent a polite thanks but no thanks back to a single male once and got a reply offering to pay us money to let him play with Mrs NvC 😠

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  James3227

  4 years ago

  I am someone who respects a polite refusal over silence any day, to continues to message after a woman has declined is just bad manners and a lack of respect…

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