M58
Playing hard to get or not
November 12 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Straight away? If girls start playing "not interested" or games...i walk off I dont waste my time ... Usually when it comes time to playing, they are no good and dont know what to do anyway...Because wussy men have inflated their egos too much..so they're used to doing nothing ? For me its a 2 way street, a little bit of flirting and imagination from both partys really gets the brain and labido started . HIM
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have to agree..... No games for me! I won't play. I'll take my bat and ball and go home. Why waste time? It tells me straight up we are not on the same page. Even if timing is an issue, then I say so, and I expect the same level of honesty/ directness from others.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cricket analogies.... Really ;-) I don't mind chatting for a while and, if nothing happens, what have I lost? It hasn't happened yet but a no show could be annoying but I tend go with the flow and would enjoy the situation I'm in, have a giggle to myself and find someone else to talk. I generally don't allow others to negatively affect me too much.
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RHP User
13 years ago
On sites like this or others similar, the bad news is that you're right about the disproportionate numbers but if even what half of the ladies say about the number of contacts and content is true then perhaps that can actually work to your advantage. The good news is that if you don't like the game you can always quit, nobody is holding a gun to your head. *glances over his shoulder* ---'Could you please aim that at my arse when I'm typing, it makes me nervous. Thanks' Simple solution is why not 'deal with it' the same way you might in life on the other side of the screen and see what happens. If you don't think that the woman that has caught your eye in the 60 story office building you work in hasn't been hit on a few times by other guys you're living in La-La Land. Sure, there are gamers everywhere and some play it very well but who really cares unless you act differently or have other expectations than you would anywhere else in life. The only sure thing is a bordello and these sites sure as hell don't work like that, do they? Good luck to you if you think otherwise. Play the reality game show and you maybe you'll come up aces.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I get the whole thrill of the chase-conquest kinda deal, but the line I draw is when you have to ask yourself, "is this really worth it?" because the answer is usually "No, it's not". Obviously you're not enjoying it anymore because it wouldn't be a problem if you were. It's just a mismatch with her expectations and yours.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I just say straight out what I'm NOT looking for which is a relationship at this current time
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RHP User
13 years ago
Despite appearances to the contrary I am really shy when it comes to moving from flirting to the bedroom and a guy has to make it blatantly obvious he is interested before things get taken further. I chatted to one guy for over 2 years before we ever got together. Guess I was lucky he never gave up.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Unless its off-line and you can see the body language. Or you will be chasing smoke and someone can be blowing it up your arse. This is the deal message once she says yep she is interested you say ok , can we make a time to meet or may I phone you ( not text you ) as you could be a ten year old make a time, and then turn up if its a no show or some lame excuse ten minutes before your meeting then walk away. or here is something novel, go out and meet someone, look em in the eye and if they don’t want you then you know right away. Its dead easy for women on this thing, its a feast of men but its also a distorted reality I have better things to do than chase anyone. I think guys are given the run around a lot in life. but then they do not have the golden cunt between their legs ohhh Jason and your merry band of Argonauts where are you?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well Cheeky, do you actually ask her out? You know, actually mention a time and place? Lots of men just talk in circles and never get anywhere. However, I do like to get to know someone a little online before meeting them. The hot bodies are great but if I don't click with a guy mentally well it's just boring. Or maybe I haven't tested this theory out enough? Meeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Well Cheeky, do you actually ask her out? You know, actually mention a time and place? Lots of men just talk in circles and never get anywhere. However, I do like to get to know someone a little online before meeting them. The hot bodies are great but if I don't click with a guy mentally well it's just boring. Or maybe I haven't tested this theory out enough? MeekaI agree Meeka. So many just want sexy chat and photo swap and that's ok to get to know who, but I'd like to know when, where and what is on offer.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I tend to find if you like someone and tell them so ,and they are not sure give them time to decide.Its good to get to know someone and then take it from there,see if you connect mentally and meet and see if there is a physical attraction to.If 2 people click it can be electrifying and that's what we all want a "Zap!"If you look at it as if people are playing games you will get no where ,people are just testing the water,like sticking your toe in to see if the water is cold or warm. Alth some people like to do the big bomb
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RHP User
13 years ago
Any woman (or man) who plays games I (we) want nothing to do with.If that's how they play online, imagine the BS IRLMrsSPlicey
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'AdventureTime' Straight away? If girls start playing "not interested" or games...i walk off I dont waste my time ... Usually when it comes time to playing, they are no good and dont know what to do anyway...Because wussy men have inflated their egos too much..so they're used to doing nothing ? For me its a 2 way street, a little bit of flirting and imagination from both partys really gets the brain and labido started . HIM You are so off the mark.... This site has a lot more to offer than simply swapping a couple emails which equals automatic earned sex! If the females on here hooked up with everyone they exchanged a bit of chat with, it would be like a full time job!!! It is a timing thing for me, i do what feels right for me at the time, i do not feel any obligation FFS! And even if hookups aren't anywhere as regular as they were in my early 20s I can assure you when i finally have a play date, i certainly know what i am doing and ensure I make up for lost time inbetween! Hmpf, 'Unlike' to your comment.... the expectations are so unrealistic... Oh, and OP it is enough when it isn't fun anymore. This site is all about the fun, not about some unreal expectations that leads to the negative and becomes a drainer xxx HARSH...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think there is a world of difference between playing games and taking time to get to know someone. And yes, you need to do a certain amount of chatting, flirting and emailing to feel comfortable before meeting, that's a given. In addition, some take longer than others to decide if the person is what they are looking for at that particular time....... And yes that can change with the seasons....... Playing games is saying yes.....then no......yes.......not now.......yes.......soon........yes........maybe and many variations similar. The truth is.....if you think someone is playing games.......listen to your gut! You are most likely right.
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RHP User
13 years ago
sometimes it's true you know straight away, but sometimes it's the slow burn.....and sometimes you just simply change your mind... it's all about timing and inclination ,sometimes one is in place but not the other....life happens,gets in the way of the best laid plans ,or plans to be best laid.x R
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' sometimes it's true you know straight away, but sometimes it's the slow burn......x R "Slow burn ,"is that like a zap with a stun gun ? haha
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm not even hard to find. The only problem is ...nobody's looking.
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RHP User
13 years ago
where would the fun be, if you didnt have to 'work for it'? we should all 'work for it', whether its a new person, an FWB or even your long term partner/spouse....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Jensman1903, well put lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh yes it can be fun working for it. But ya got stop at some point if its not getting you anywhere
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RHP User
13 years ago
My way of thinkin is someone is really interested that one person that doesnt mean that there not playin hard to get...because there maybe a good reason why..!!! maybe they are interested in that one person too that they would make some sought of contact..coz u neva know they maybe interested too..coz i know i cant send message to start the conversation if i did i would of sent messages by now... :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
lol, playboy071, well said and thought. I am sure they would be happy to have a conversation with you and finding it difficult to make contact, perhaps if you have a look at what they had written in "what are they looking for" section of their profile and you may see a hint😉 It does get a little had when all some people can do is send flirts at first, but sometimes a person may need to take notice and try to read between the lines or what words between the brackets and put them together. Good luck and I hope it works for you😊
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