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Perils of Adult Lifestyles.

March 15 2010

I look at adult dating sites as something to be treated with caution similar to explosives in that they are a great tool for getting the job done quickly but can be terribly dangerous when not handled correctly. So many times I have seen in chat in particular, people talking about failed relationships where their partner has run off with someone they both met on a dating site and others talking about someone they met that cheated or lied etc etc. Seriously, these people are not teenagers or all that young, they are 30's and 40's and seem genuinely shocked this could happen to them. Am I being cynical in my belief that the chances of this kind of deception and behavior is greatly heightened meeting through this kind of medium or am I one of the realists? What kind of safeguards does everyone take to protect themselves physically and emotionally? Who has found this out the hard way?

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RHP User

16 years ago

Ruggedly it is like swimming between the flags man..It is safe in between them but if you stray alittle too far left or right ..danger..then of course theres that big white pointer waiting !!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Hey Ruggy Good observation and I agree. I was suprised at the number of ppl on a swingers site that are emotionally vunerable and injured. There seems to be a concept that because you have sex you are going to be exclusive and interested in a long term relationship. I prefer my encounters to be ongoing but I have no illusions about babies picket fences or where they are when not with me........( drooling over memories of me obviousl lol) Maybe its a maturity thing...dont laugh your turn is coming babe lol....but maybe its more to do with being honest about what you want. Honest to yourself. Allowing yourself to have some fun and not get hung up on the is he right for me shit. I am fond of my FWB but not disillusioned by our "relationship" Maybe Im just a cold hearted bitch....lol I enjoy my independence and being in control of my life...... and i love naughty sex......."come here and please me, now go away and dont bother me till next time" suits me fairly well at the moment. Ok I always say please....and sometimes Sir. lol and that works both ways . There will come a time when i will want to be with someone special....a life partner......but Im not sure I would look for him on here....and if i did I would take it real slow and carefully with lots of communication. What is good about this site and others is that you get a good insight into how ppl tick, think,react and behave about all things sexual. I have never been cheated on by a partner....bored to death nearly....but i would never assume my relationship with a life partner was ever without temptation ever again. There is too much evidence on here to suggest otherwise. I would be open (and was, but out of boredom) to any combination of a partnership in the future. Lots and lots and lots of communication.....I will never be afraid to say ...That pisses me off/hurts my feelings/makes me feel insecure/drives me wild with desire.... when you do........ reflective.....is that on topic ?? lol miss b

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RHP User

16 years ago

Always willing to learn - where did this go bad? Where did I go wrong? a) Travel interstate - tell no-one where or why -- to meet someone you haven't even spoken to on the phone b) Meet in a hotel room - hope the cctv footage will prove useful if things go bad c) Decide that clothes and chat is likely to make things awkward - tear off clothing (aka the root of awkwardness) d) Proceed to explore each others bodies for the next 17 hours - discover erogenous zones you can't use google to find e) Squeeze in a kebab somewhere there for dinner / romance points. f) Return home - it would have been classed a good trip if it didn't end in a body-bag. Instead it is ranked spectacular & insane. g) Work out when and if the stupid grin will recede. Sometimes you have to let the thrill overcome the fear...

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RHP User

16 years ago

but you women scare the bejeebas out of me.ahaahhahahahahahaahahahahahahahaEarl

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RHP User

16 years ago

Be afraid earl!!!!! very very afraid of us women....lol we are a force to be reckoned with :O

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RHP User

16 years ago

Well ladies I must say that you create an abundance of reason & logic with your words which is a breath of fresh air for me. I also have what I call my "fuck phone" which is a throw away sim card should I have another stalker and I am very careful to keep my RHP life very separate from my home life. I put my home life first and ensuring my young bloke is growing up in a nurturing and unconfused environment is paramount, even to the point I still wear a wedding band because he views its removal as "you don't love mum anymore and if you don't love her she won't come home." Internet dating has changed all the rules and created unprecedented opportunity, unfortunately it has also created dangers in equal quantity.

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RHP User

16 years ago

I have met some truly awesome people from here...both playmates and friends...and am quite careful about chatting/msn'ing alot before meeting(unless we meet at CI..then Im not so much)but occasionally....one gets in under the radar.One man....we chatted for nearly 6 months...he said all the right words...we met...he made a lovely dinner...slowly seduced me...then later....said publicly...that it was all lies...he just wanted a fuck.Now...the thing was....right in the beginning..I said..if you just wanna fuck...thats cool too.He said..no..hes not like that...and i fell for it...hook line and sinker.Some people are just liars by nature.So am I cynical?? yeah...I would say I am..but am I still hopeful??...of course!I realise that not all men are like that...but his attitude has left me a little gun shy.JMO...BJxxx

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