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Patience for judgement
June 27 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
Here is swift, often harsh and sometimes cruel. It is what it is. Walk your own path and run your own race. Anything less will end in tears. Lowest common denominator is not something to aspire to.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Says nothing about what you are into or what you are looking for so how was the other couple to know from reading your profile what you are into??? 😳
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RHP User
9 years ago
My patience these days is lower than when I first started on here, I've become less tolerant of ignorant people. But do what you've done and block then move on - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
A fair amount of time in here will test you and once you are over the kid in the lolly shop thing when you first join, it's take your time and look at all the angles and if all your boxes are being fucked by the people you are conversing with. It costs nothing to chat though, And asking questions is no reason to block, especially as Candy raised, your profile addresses nothing regard to parties. Asking questions answers both parties lists of attributes. I chat to people even if l know straight away from their photos that we won't be interphone. Part of human nature to interact. But I do agree some people are deserving of very little of your time
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Interphone = interlude Fucking = ticking (but both work)
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Would be nice to know if it's the he or she is posting It makes a difference
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RHP User
9 years ago
asking what you're into, I don't see the problem with that. Certainly not a reason to block I wouldn't think, but that's your personal choice if it makes you uncomfortable. But how are they supposed to know what you are into because although your profile is lovely and gives a good outline of how you like to spend your time, hobbies etc., there is no indication of whether or not you want to play at all. People aren't mind readers, the whole process can be streamlined with a little more information in your profile and/or willingness to communicate re playtime. Just my 2 cents but I wouldn't class them as ignorant at all, purely opening the lines of communication 😃
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Their questions may be real interest in connecting with you. I agree that your profile does not really say what your sexual preferences or scene is, aside from your interest in your hobbies, sports, etc. I would normally give it some time if their question does not cover what you already have mentioned in your profile. As they have. You may be missing out of good people? But your call at the end of the day. Best wishes
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RHP User
9 years ago
are usuallya. fairly resilient personalitiesb. open about what they like and don'tc. ready to short-cut conversations they've had over and over again with others I find some people do that with some charm, and others are rogues about it ... but maybe you'll be there one day too.How strong is your patience? How gentle is your judgement?
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rupamohan
9 years ago
You can't control others but you can update your profile to get required response. Add following at start of your profile. Our profile is complete and we are exactly what our profile says. It something is missing it means it doesn't apply to us.Explain your concerns before asking as anything unanswered in our profile. Good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
The attitude of the questioning is the main issue Most in depth conversation has come from people messaging after reading our profile and connecting with some common interests It seems the chat room brings out a different side of people at times - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
you're going to have sex with someone, does it really matter if they don't like gardening. From their end, they must feel like they'd have to jump through hoops, establish firm friendship first and only then maybe get a look in for something more. How many people want to invest that much time in a maybe? Again, just my thoughts, no malice, but maybe try to see it from where they sit
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RHP User
9 years ago
...skydiving naked and a real quick quicky on the free fall together whilst sharing only one parachute. Agree that asking is fair and especially if you're a couple. Bouncing just ain't that much fun unless it's inside an air filled castle?
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RHP User
9 years ago
People are on their best behaviour and mind their manners most when they're standing directly opposite you...in your face.After that....they only have to control their words and voice in a phone conversation.And online? Anything goes. There's no one holding their conscience to account.That's the way of things.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
That's a whole different beast. Its why I never go there. Normal messaging is done at your own pace with some thought put in. Chat room is speed dating at its worst
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RHP User
9 years ago
We have had couples become very agressive and say why are we on here if we ain't into what they are? It is quite weird when people judge us on what they are into. Funnily enough not all couples are into random gang bangs and hard core swapping! Some of us like a connection sensuality girl girl fun and soft swap yet get abused if we don't want to fuck everyone in the room straight away lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
For the rude, the manipulative and those that don't read the profile. I am brutal in my replies if someone hasn't read our profile, especially if there's a one word, inane message like 'hi' ... it's clearly stated a detailed message makes you a forerunner (not a shoe-in) and that if we don't respond to a message, it's a no thanks! I'm told at times I may not as explicit and direct as I think I am :) If they can't read subtlety or read between the lines then I'll be brutal! As I do most of the communicating on this profile, unless it's directed at D, she too finds my responses to some blokes funny because there is no misunderstanding once I'm said and done :) Mary xx
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
When we first joined RHP, we were patient, polite & forgiving. Giving people a second chance. However after 4-5 years in here, our fuse has got shorter and shorter. We don't put up with any crap anymore. If people don't read our profile wording fully, and transgress our boundaries (whatever they may be) we cut them out in an instant. Sort of along the lines of it's our way or the highway. Why compromise ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
The purpose of this site is to bring together like minded people. Sometimes it might be a long shot to ask the question, but there are times when asking the question pays off. I have asked questions as a long shot, and finished up having some great encounters; I have had some very polite "No" responses and then I have had some people get bent out of shape about a simple question. I thing a person's response speaks volumes about themselves. My suggestion.... a polite not thanks an if they really aren't your cup of tea, then block them... that is the purpose of the block. The interesting thing I have also found is some people who have said no and even aggressively said no, have actually come back and asked me to play months down the track. So I stay accept this site for what it is..... why get upset about someone asking?
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RHP User
9 years ago
We get asked the question from single guys if I would like to try something different they are keen??? I am trying something different women lol I have also come across couples that the guy gets really aggressive when I say I don't fully swing Happy for girl girl and soft swap This site is for a wide range of likes and dislikes Be polite read the profile and think before asking the questions! Yes the no thank you block works well
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RHP User
8 years ago
I just say what I want after all it's about me lol!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes Sugar it certainly was!
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RHP User
8 years ago
When you first join I think you get rushed by the super keen full on swingers but now we are meeting normal decent people! The funniest reply we had was the girls play and I drive all that way just for a head job! They weren't the couple we were looking for!
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