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Parties and open relationship players

June 13 2018

We occasionally attend parties and understand how difficult it can be to meet couples with whom we can play together. We've had those awkward moments where everythng seems to be going well only to have one of the couple decide they're not attracted to one of us.Although we prefer to play as a couple we are of the mind that if either of us is interested in playing with someone alone then that's ok. Also if another couple or single chooses one of us, then that would be ok too. At the end of the day we're there to have a good time and make sure our partner is too.It's difficult without browsing profiles at the venue to know who else attending plays by the same rules and asking seems a little awkward. Those who don't play seperately may think you're hitting on their partner and as we all know the ladies never seem to hit on the guys perhaps for fear of upsetting the female of the couple. So how do you go about it? Maybe we could wear T shirts lol

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RHP User

8 years ago

There’s a code of ethics somewhere.... I’ve not read it, but in it states that the holy grail stems from asking in front of everyone. This way no fragile ego is left untouched 😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

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MissRedFox

8 years ago

I play much of the time as a single so don't claim to be an expert on couples I've been around the scene long enough to know most people are comfortable chatting openly. When you initially start a convo questions like how long have you been in the scene easily lead to what experiences have you had/what are you looking for/do you always play together Given that there's a variety of couples from committed to couples to fwbs to I just brought them along for the night it would be reasonable to ask questions along the nature of the relationship and what they're into in regards to play. I can understand your reluctance because as a single female I never approach couples because I don't know what they're boundaries and many of my female friends are the same however I hear too many couples say they can't find females to play with get I'm rarely asked the question "do you play with couples" So I think the reluctance to ask leads to alot of missed opportunities. XX - Posted from rhpmobile

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ReyandJean

8 years ago

When there are, say, under 8 couples, we often end up separated with mrs getting and holding a lot of attention. At bigger parties or venues with multiple rooms we tend stay and play together. We just ask if the other couple plays together/ wants to play. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I think asking straight out what couples are looking for is the best way to go about it. Open communication means fewer misunderstandings. But also remembering people can change their minds even during play if they are not comfortable, that's their prerogative.

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blondes6365

8 years ago

For us were in a open relationship and host partys it just comes down to who is there and timing a rule of thump is ask away can only be two answers

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RHP User

8 years ago

I’m at venues as a single I’m often approached by couples to play, and I have gone up to a few and initiated play. I guess you just have to judge the situation case by case, and really just say f-it, what’s the worst that could happen- they say no? - Posted from rhpmobile

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madotara69

8 years ago

and often it sits with success, it has to be genuine and when people are greeted if made to feel welcome, comfortable as them selves, by instinct the person or people will feel compelled to express their intensions. Mado Mado Tara xx

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Hottie1

8 years ago

Just ask what boundaries couples have. If you’re at a party, you don’t have the time to build up, I have in the past often whispered sexily (I think it was sexy lol) Are there any places I can’t touch or kiss? Or ‘what do you sexy duo expect from each other at parties?’ If I’ve been the unicorn then I’d speak to both of the couple and establish a rapport .... I’ve only played with couples where the lady is either heteroflexible or bi ... so I’ll flirt, tempt and tease both :) if it happens that it works to where only one of the couple plays, I’d expect that they’d follow the rules and the boundaries they’ve established. With my husband, we don’t really have any rules other than honesty and transparency. In that honesty, no one ever takes one for the team and the other must accept that decision ... unfortunately for my hubby, quite often the ladies of couples were most often pretty delicious but their partners/men were often not. Though he never does, if my hubby wanted to see or read any messages I received, I’d be more than ok for him to do so. I often don’t ‘hang around’ hubby or my bf a whole heap because apparently ‘I’m a little daunting for some women, a little dominant or bossy and I apparently have a resting bitch face lol ... when I’m playing I’m loud and have fun .... ‘ this has limited play for my men in the past sadly but I’m actually not what is perceived and I definitely won’t own the issues of other ladies ... So don’t judge a book by its cover or what you think you’re observing, ask for clear boundaries as outlined by the people you want to play with. If you’re meeting the boundaries, if there’s any fallout, it isn’t your issue :) Enjoy Mary xx

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RHP User

7 years ago

Is there any sex rooms or play rooms in Canberra for couples or singles - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

7 years ago

Just ask , be open about things , we are willing to go to parties with a open mind. Seems to be heaps easier doing dinner and drinks at someone house ,

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