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Paging all nice guys to Aisle 9:... Answer me this.....
February 22 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
heck i'm not shy to say my piece...though i am feeling a little bruised and raw at the moment...all my own doing...of course...(note:...i have been feeling that way for quite a few months after a woman was very hurtful, but hey, life goes on)but firstly...i'm sure every guy thinks he is a "nice guy", so you should at least get heaps of answers...me?...if i think something, i'll say it face to face...not on the phone, not via text, and not via email....though every woman who has seen fit to move on...has done it via text, email, msn, whateva....but none face to face...jose......<...even after a great weekend, still feeling down...>
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RHP User
16 years ago
Jose... you are so right... whatever it is, we generally carry some responsibility... which is why it's never good to keep looking back and turning those texts/messages and conversations or whatever over and over in your heads... That other person might send the message that kicks you off your happy spot, but the ongoing grief... we generally cause that to ourselves! Delete the texts... delete the messages, go outside and learn to breath again... and look for your "NEXT" opportunity. :p Hugs Stalky Quoting 'COMEANDGETME68'though i am feeling a little bruised and raw at the moment...all my own doing...of course...(note:...i have been feeling that way for quite a few months after a woman was very hurtful, but hey, life goes on)
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RHP User
16 years ago
sorry but nice guys dont get sex or women cos women are do not want them, we all have to go to prostitues remember.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Stalky...that you even want to know how to do it gently warms my little heart :) Yes I too have heard some shocking stories about let downs. My worst was the "gentleman" I chatted to for several weeks, met in person for coffee then later got together at his place for what I thought was pretty sensational horizontal tango dancing....only to be told at the end of the night that he didn't really find me attractive but he had always been curious what sex with a BBW would be like...except he said the "f*t" word! SO don't do it like that lol Most of us feel responsible for the feelings of others, but the truth is you are not responsible for any one elses feelings but your own. You cannot make someone miserable any more than you can make someone happy. All you can do is behave with integrity and not deliberatly choose words that humiliate and belittle. But do tell the truth...being strung along and then finding out someone is not into you is awful. And guys...don't tell her it's about you not her...most women know this is just code for "you're not the right one". In talking with other women, I think that most of us would rather be told the truth in a respecteful manner so that we all know what page we are on and can move on. The nicest let down I ever had was just that, he told me how much he had emjoyed my company, but that he felt I was not the right one for him. He wished me luck and we parted amiably without anyone feeling humiliated, ashamed or guiltly.....hope that helps!
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RHP User
16 years ago
i think sometimes the mental connection can become too intense...and then to unwind the many strings...is very difficult...almost painful if you like...physically painful...it's interesting how an intense weekend can be the beginning of a strong yet comfortable friendship...and yet i watch as another friend is starting to grow into her new friendship... once she wanted me, but not anymore...so, life goes on and i guess i have to just move on as well the human character is amazingly resilient...i felt shit this morning...yet this afternoon i feel much stronger...cheers and thanks for your thought-provoking insights stalky...big hugsjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
No nice let downs for me. Had one NASTY one and the rest just ignore me ! He he he... cowards ! I don't chase a man that's not interested. There's too many others out there ! It doesn't bother me and I probably do the gradually easing off on txt messages and chats technique myself. The way I figure it is that some guys starts messaging EVERY day... multiple times. They may also txt. But then after a couple of weeks the novelty of Saturn wears off... or I just exhaust them... and they slow down their messaging. I'm cool with that. I probably do the same. There's only so much time we can message someone if it's not moving in the direction of a relationship. I have a few guys I now just contact for casual fucks... they don't get the chit chat and the friendship. They don't even know my favourite colour, what food I like or my pets name. That's fine. Once I'm over them or they're over me we just stop the "I'm horny, want to fuck" texts. Such simplicity ! I've actually never had a proper full blown relationship on here so I'm probably not a good one to respond to this post. xxx Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
Unless both parties (Shit i sound like a lawyer) know it's just a one night stand then really there is no easy way. We have all, well most of us had sex where we just met and sometimes don't even know each others name. When one wants more and the other doesn't the parting of the ways can get messy. But i agree it's best done face to face. Getting dumped by text would not be a nice feeling.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Never been one to feel the knife go in I don't think....the "signs" are usually evident well before hand. But I had a txt message the other day from a guy I had been dating but hadn't heard from in a couple of months: Him: "You've been quiet, haven't heard from you in a while, how are you?" Me: "I've been happy" I mean really??? A txt message after 2 months ....pffft. Did he let me down? No, I think he just found out :-) Jx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Oh and I thought I was a nice guy!!! OK in reply to Shy88: I met a wonderfully vivacious friend of a friend at a bar on the weekend, she being oh so drunk and very flirtatious plopped her gorgeous butt into my lap, squirmed around until she got a hardening response and placed my hand over her bra-less breast and whispered in my ear "oh my god I hope your girlfriend isn't here". To which I replied "No" and let her shimmy her barely clad body over my ever growing erection a little more before replying "but my wife is sitting right behind you!". Poor thing nearly fainted and promptly apologised to wifey and said she better get off, of course wifey told her to stay put as she was sure I was enjoying the attention (I was!). So lovely pissy girl stayed put...now I'll actually get to the point of reply... in her uninhibited state she lacked a little tact and I do remember her saying "so you must be an amazing person because lets face it you're not the hottest man in the room but your wife is definitely the hottest woman here". OUCH, it stung for a second but actually what she said was true and really I was thinking with my other head by then so she could have said anything! So what have I got? Beats me I always thought I scored because I was a nice guy???As for the "nice let-down", I've always been crap at saying no (so has Mrs Pup - maybe that's why she said yes to me!) As for playing here, the people we really click with seems pretty obvious and the ones we don't seem to fade away without any harm done. As for not leaving knife wounds in hearts, I'd hate to think I've ever done this (although know of one lovely lass who I unwittingly stabbed deeply), all the women I've seriously dated I still hold in the highest regard, some are even very close friends - sometimes the let's just be friends thing can work!Oh after the bar the night got much, much better ;) In my youth I didn't start something without having strong feelings so when things went pear shaped it was pretty obvious to both parties, so the parting would happen - always face to face. Then I went through the "I've got a broken
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RHP User
16 years ago
Man.. you're missing my point... Prostitutes ARE women.. Jeese, they count... you can notch every one of htem up as a score!! Hugs Stalky Quoting 'shybutnaughty88' sorry but nice guys dont get sex or women cos women are do not want them, we all have to go to prostitues remember.
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RHP User
16 years ago
i know they are women and human beings, sorry for not thinking my reply thru. Let me clarify, i dont have a problem with them, but i have a problem that i dont want to pay for sex. the reason is i will feel even worse and more depressed and i could not live with myself if i had to pay someone to have sex with me instead of a girl WANTING me. please understand this. i have not had much sex in my life , so all that goes thru my mind is, my god i must be that ugly and that unattrractive and so much a loser that i have to pay someone to fuck me. im sorry but i cannot live with that. it would haunt me every day. And i thought i would get praise for not wanting to do that too........ im sure in the future if i had a GF and she ever found out i was with a prostitute is a sure way to end a relationship. sorry but i do not want to do that ok.
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RHP User
16 years ago
No probs with you on my account Shy. I kind of understand your sentiments. My thoughts are that it's like travelling overseas and you have a clear direction and who am I to say otherwise. I do have an opinion to share though. Let me put it to you this way... You go overseas to an exotic land.. the culture is different, the living conditions might be different, the food is different, the people might look different, the environment is different... but you discover that the essense of all humanity is the same. You feel that when you return and you've made your comparisons.... there's a sense of belonging to this place.... So everyone should travel at least once. And for similar reasons, every guy should pay a prostitute for sex at least once in their lifetime. Well, that's what I think. As for morals... I agree with Oscar Wilde that morality is something like art in that you just have to draw a line somewhere. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
get happy man. at least pretend untill you actually are.fuck man, life's a bitch buddy. ya just gotta get on withit and try and party on man. fuck, my scewing experience came from monogomous partnersand not from the pro's i'd seen earlier. hey, they werre good foremptying the barrel but that was it. all women i have lived with have understood this.didn't always tell them in the first conversation though...ahahahahahaahahahahhahahaEarl, needing to empty the barrel
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