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PARTIES - REGISTERING INTEREST
January 26 2011
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playfulminx
15 years ago
Yep. That would be annoying. I guess it's kinda like applying for a job and not hearing back as to whether your application was successful :| Perhaps it's the same deal on the flipside where the sheer volume of people showing interest is such that the organisers can't message absolutely everyone.I think your safest bet would be to assume you are not invited until you receive an actual invitation. Registering your interest in a party is like putting your hand up I guess and letting the organisers know you'd be up for it. If you don't hear from them in a reasonable time frame, I'd make other plans. Their loss, not yours lolMight also be a good thing to message the organisers to see if invites have gone out. Sometimes people get overlooked. I have kept a party list online once and it's hard work trying to keep track of people :|
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Did that - no response from the organisers - Think that was extremely rude!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Having organised events as a Premium Member and a Guest, I have found a lot of registrants do not read the instructions contained in the description. For instance, if the organiser of the event is a Guest (which many people have a legitimate reason for remaining), then regardless of whether you register or not - you MUST contact the organiser for details. Simple as that. I have also found that messaging people with specific instructions such as 'please provide your e-mail address so that we can maintain contact closer to the event' is often unheeded, and as such people miss out on the details. As an aside, I have attended events where there have been over 90 registrants and fewer than 8 people showed on the night. In some cases, people like to be 'associated' with a particular event when they have absolutely no intention of attending.
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SexyArse
15 years ago
With regards to myself. I sent two emails to the organisers. I registered my interest. They are premium members. They therefore had 2 means of contact for me to decline and invitation.With regards to people not turning up when registering I also know that happens alot. I have organised events before and have spoken to organisers and rule of thumb is generally 1/3 to 1/4 of people who register end up turning up.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Courtesy seems lost these days. We just posted our 1st party and asked 10 serious couples to drop us an email with their mobile. Most did, some didnt and some dont even answer the folow up letters??? Why is it so hard to say yes please, or no thanks.. These things make it hard to plan anything . We replied to all those who messaged us their details but missed out this time. all good :> bernie
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RHP User
15 years ago
SexyArseOnTap - yes that has happened to us too - registered, sent a email and even phoned and left a message - nothing! And I know the party went ahead. It's is just plain rude. Even if they don't want you there - at least they could message something! Pusscat xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
So far we have gotten an auto response straight away. In one instant most recently I sent a reply straight back with more info & got a proper reply from them. Was it a party organiser or a solo profile? Mrs H xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
i have often wondered what "rsvp" means....vanillla maybe??? lol . I enjoy parties and events, especially if they know myname and a nice guy comes along and introduces me to his friends . i'm not One to just turn up to gazetted events, personally I prefer the invitation and then I'm ready to partaaay ;P
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playfulminx
15 years ago
OK. Call me a chicken but I could not message people and tell them that we don't want them coming to a party I organise... What do you do? Don't reply (rude) or tell them they're not wanted/eligible and why (super duper rude).Quoting 'woody_pusscat' Even if they don't want you there - at least they could message something! Pusscat xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
The couple that we have been involved with, we have messaged the organiser and provided our private gallery, for group approval we suspect. We would not plan on going until we had heard back with address, phone number, time etc. that means the group has accepted you. If we dont hear back you simply go next the same as any other contact. Then about 4-5 days before the party, the host will message and request if you are going or not. No responce back to host would indicated you are not going and you would not expect another invite after not responding to the host. Just because you register interest or message the hosts means nothing until you get a responce back, of course by then you may have another date! Same rules really as approaching a couple.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes I got an email from the couple organising the event asking me to register my interest because they would like to invite me. So I thought why not. Then I never heard anything back from them. Obviously younger and more sexier people on the list then me. LOL. xxx Meeka
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Capital: I understand registering does not guarantee you a spot to the event. I did also contact the organiser direct through their actual email address, as well as through rhp email.MrandMrsH: It was a party organiser and not someone solo.playfulminx: We are all adults on this site. Surely we can understand if we are not suited to the group of people and can therefore handle rejection. I would much rather be told - "sorry there were too many people and not call could be invited" or "Unfortunately you are not invited at this point in time but perhaps in the future...." That is polite enough. Surely most if not all could handle that kind of rejectionMeeka100: Hun the way I look at it, it is their loss. I see it that way when I get ignored. Courtesy just seems to have gone by the way side with so many people today. It is all just too difficult for them.woody-pussycat & AdvertureTime: couldn't agree more
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RHP User
15 years ago
we, as private party organisers, always try to send an initial reply to everyone who places an expression of interest in our parties (100% for our current advert) giving them a email address to contact us for more details. What is more annoying to us is people who say they will come but just do not turn up,cancellations are fine,but just not turning up possibly denies someone else the chance to attend,so much so that we have now a policy of a couple of no-shows means blacklisted. bothtogether6
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RHP User
15 years ago
I mean, I always get a text message from Cherry. Some people are simply born to host. Even if the host has decided you won't fit in for this particular event, it's still nice to be informed so you can make other arrangements.HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
"Obviously younger and more sexier people on the list then me. LOL." Hope you don't mind me saying so Meeka, but based on your profile pics I can't believe that's the case!
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RHP User
15 years ago
this is why i only organise events that dont rely on who or how many turn up.Also...if an event comes up on the left hand side of your profile....you have to register interest to read it...so maybe thats part of the issue??Youre not registered if you simply read the particulars of the event on the events pages though.There are rude people on here who only care about your outward fuckability factor....and there are those who give a shit about the person you are and want to get to know you.Its up to you who you choose to spend your time worrying about.JMO....BJxxx
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x2ForU
15 years ago
we host parties... we get alot of registered interest from couples... i always send out an invite with all the details... and ask for a reply message to let us know if they intend on coming or not... we always like to have a fair idea on numbers... as i buy plastic glasses, tissues, condoms, food, etc. etc...also, i like to invite a few hot single gentleman.... i get alot that rsvp and i get alot that dont rsvp...and i get alot that dont rsvp but still turn up.... so, i just do whatever now.. and if we run out of stuff... well (notmyproblem.......parties are free of course.. shelly xx x2foru
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x2ForU
15 years ago
we host parties... we get alot of registered interest from couples... i always send out an invite with all the details... and ask for a reply message to let us know if they intend on coming or not... we always like to have a fair idea on numbers... as i buy plastic glasses, tissues, condoms, food, etc. etc...also, i like to invite a few hot single gentleman.... i get alot that rsvp and i get alot that dont rsvp...and i get alot that dont rsvp but still turn up.... so, i just do whatever now.. and if we run out of stuff... well (notmyproblem.......parties are free of course.. shelly xx x2foru
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree for private parties if the people say they will contact and then dont reply or contact you , that is just plain rude. As for us here, we get so many that register and most of the time most dont show, so over the last 6 years we dont waste our time messaging, we only message the single guys as they are the ones that have to book via here. As for couples and single ladies, well they all know they just have to show up and they are most welcome. Registration of parties is not an indication of how busy a night is going to be either, it is just those that want to take a peek at the party usually, most know all about the parties and dont register unless they are told to , in order to be selected etc, as you say. Yes i do find it rude that private small parties dont respond to your interest after they have told you they would, it just makes you not want to attend the party they hold next time doesnt it. Happy swinging everyone... CI
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
We think what people should remember in the case of private parties, the folk running it are RHP members too and only have so many messages they can send a day so can't send them out willy nilly to people who express interest. If you are really serious about going, you should message the organiser then there is no excuse for them not to reply. It's only one message from your daily allowance for you whereas if they just messaged every 'prospect' then they would soon use up their quota. But as Shelly & others pointed out above so many people say they are coming and then don't show and other people don't RSVP and do show....that is just inconsiderate and rude!As a side note... the parties Shelly & Carl run are fantastic. For them to open their home to so many total strangers is just amazing. These parties are FREE plus they supply condoms, food, music, pool, play areas etc so really, no one has any reason to bitch about anything. House/Hotel parties are definitely the way to go in this scene! So to Shelly & any other folk who go to the trouble of organising these nights...keep up the good work!
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x2ForU
15 years ago
thanks for your support guys!!! shelly and carl xx
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Have been to X2forU party and I also had a great time.With regards to RHP members having limited messages to send - yes that is true however I sent them two emaisl to their direct email address posted on their Events Page. So in my opinion - NO EXCUSE!
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
Yes true sexyarse...when you send emails or messages to people, at least they can reply..whether it's a yes or no..it's still the polite thing to do.
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RHP User
15 years ago
we agree with Donna and Brett. The party at shelly and carls the other weekend rocked. We ate drank chatted swam and shagged all in the one night. That was our first house party and we will definately go back. The host were so welcoming to us considering we had never met till that night. I guess if we hadn't heard from Carl and Shelly we would off just made other plans. Shelly was so accomodating that she let both of us play with her at the end off the night to we hours of the next day. Ros & Dave
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x2ForU
15 years ago
we can have up too 170 couples and singles register there interest for our parties.... and i always reply with invites to them.... though it can take a day or two or three... as we can only send out 50 a day....hahaha... but i do try.... shelly xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Playtime Presents ...Fine Wine, Gorgeous People and Dirty Minds... Once again we will be hosting our ‘Fine Wine, Gorgeous People and Dirty Minds’ party to be held on Saturday 12th February at ......... ......as our parties have proven very popular in the past we now have to limit the number of people we can invite. If you are invited to our event, we will contact you no later than the 5th of February with further details. If you don’t receive an invite by the 5th February, we would like to thank you for your interest and encourage you to register for our next event. Seems easy enough to me Just my thoughts S
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SexyArse
15 years ago
My sentiments exactly xxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
So the moral to the story is.....to make it simple for organizers, if you intend on coming Hit Register....If you have NO intention on coming to parties, just read it and then hit Not interested, that would save a lot of time and effort on behalf of all the operators, as we only contact single guys for the friday parties, it is very frustrating when you contact heaps of them that have registered and only a few respond or turn up after saying they will. So we have a little black book now after 8 years of messaging guys and them saying they will come and then dont turn up without any emails or response to say they cant make it. We make a note on their profiles that they will not be invited again if they dont turn up without contacting us to say they cant make it. You see we put places aside once the guys say they are coming and then when they dont turn up, it is too late to replace them and the couples and single ladies that attend our club looking for single guys miss out . So guys...if YOU DONT intend on coming it is very SIMPLE...DONT REGISTER YOUR INTEREST...JUST IGNORE IT... please. It saves a lot of wasted time for operators and gives patrons that do attend a good idea of who might be coming to the party in question. CI
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
Is it a case that when some people see the option to hit "Interested" they just take that as some sort of survey or social thing...meaning even though they have no intention of going they just think the party in "interesting" so click anyway? When you get folk from the other side of the country for instance clicking interest...you have to wonder????Maybe that option should be changed from "Interested" or "Not interested" to "Will attend" & "Won't attend" just to make it quite clear...cos...well..to put it bluntly..some people just have no idea!! LOL
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RHP User
15 years ago
If people, after we contact them,say they will be attending then dont show up only have a couple of chances before being put on the blacklist as it stops others attending,as happened last sat night though we did get a txt from someone at araound 9.30 saying they couldnt make it but no name on the txt and we didnt have them in our phonebook so no idea who it was lol. cancellations we have no problems with. bothtogether6
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RHP User
15 years ago
We have big problems with single guys that dont call to cancel, as we limit the number of single guys that attend our venue. Every Friday night we allow 6 to enter after approval, we get hundreds trying to get in. So you can imagine that 6 that have been selected and 4 dont turn up after you have gone to extreme lengths to make sure they do...and the patrons are expecting 6 guys and get 2......that is simply not good enough. A phone call is not hard to do nor is an email. So i feel it goes both ways...just common courtousy is all that matters, if you cant attend after saying you can....a call is not much to ask for so we can organize another lucky guy to enter that has been waiting patiently for a call. As for Couples and single ladies...NO need to ever register or book , they just turn up.... So most of them dont register as they already know this. An indication of that is our Coyote ugly night....only 4 pages registered...yet.....250 people turned up... So it is just the single guys registering that we are talking about. Please guys if you cant come or something comes up ...call us to cancel and you are welcome anytime for your respectfulness of taking one minute of your time to allow another guy to take your place. CI
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RHP User
15 years ago
Donna_Brett. Great idea...
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RHP User
15 years ago
even worse we had one that we registered interest in,we were one of the first to register, we messaged them, they messaged back saying they would love to meet us and gave us the details and location (which we assumed meant invited) we organized a sitter (not an easy feat) and then just a couple of weeks prior out of the blue we get a message saying that they are sorry but they have to cut numbers and will have to meet us some other time!! needless to say we were not amused and wont bother registering for any other parties of theirs in the future. We accept that there is a limit to numbers for these things but would have thought that you would sort all that out PRIOR to invites being issued. We have registered for parties where for what ever reason we can't go and we ALWAYS message the organizer back to explain and let them know so that they can still invite someone else. When you message them first there really is no excuse for them not to let you know either way and i reckon if Shelly & Carl can get back to everyone with the numbers that they get then so should everyone else, these guys are all class and show how a party should be done, as for those who cant be bothered to reply i guess you just don't bother with them again, eventually i suppose they wont get huge numbers for parties.SAOT I am sure it is their loss anyway that they didn't invite you Mrs GC
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Awwwwwww thanks hun xxx
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Yet another party I have registered interest for and sent a message to the organizers and no word back. What is up with that??? This is starting to get depressing? Are we not pretty enough for these parties? How hard is it to respond to a message? They don't even have to use their quota of messages as it is responding to me. WHAT IS UP WITH THESE PEOPLE??? Am I/we that hideous?Mrs SAOT
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well you definately don't look hideous at all - feel free to come to our party next weekend if you like. My problem is do I send invites to those people (mainly single men) that have those awful template profiles and are "horny and want attention now" and if I do, what's the bet that they don't turn up anyway? Pusscat xx
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SexyArse
15 years ago
Well thanks guys but funnily enough I am going to a party next weekend. I have known about this one for a while now and am def invited
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RHP User
15 years ago
We hope you have heaps and heaps fun!!!! Woohoo Pusscat xx
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