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Our Open Relationship From My Perspective

May 25 2011

Everyone has been giving Andy great feedback on his profile, advice and he has been using it and getting out there to find himself some fun. I have my profile, I get messages and I send a few. Some males that we have met as a couple in the past now know we are open. I like the idea of meeting guys I already know...parlty because I know I will have fun, some of the leg work is already done and ofcourse they know us both and there is an element of trust. I also want to meet new people because, well all the flirting and initial excitement of someone new is alot of fun :) My gripe is that I have practically no free time! Grrr! So Andy has plenty of free time and no action. I could have plenty of action but no free time! SO UNFAIR :P *Insert footsomping, arms folded, pouty faced sulk* I also feel that if I do have free time I have to hold back and wait for Andy to have some fun in the interest of keepping things fair and equal. SO my question here to couples in relationships....How do you do it? How do you overcome that problem? Do you even have that problem at all???? What is a girl to do? Am I sounding like a whinger, wanting to have my cake and eat it. FYI things have been rather fair and balalnced. Andy has met 2 awesome women and spent the night at the CI singles evening. I have met one person on my own from rhp and had some great flrity texts back and forth with others but at this rate I am destined to be the tease that doesn't put out if i don't back up my texts :P Seems we both just expect so dammed much hehe...big love to any of you that have ever put with us and :P to those of you that read our forums rolling eyes thinking 'Oh god here they go again' ;) xxxx Salina

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Salina, I am not a couple, nor am I in one. I have never been in an open relationship, or had relations with anyone else who is. So what could I possibly have to say? Well, take it for what is worth, but I am guessing that you are always going to have "plenty of action and no time" compared to Andy's "plenty of time and no action." Fair or not, it seems like girls, both here on RHP and in the real world, but especially here on RHP, command a lot more attention than guys do (the ratio, the structure of the site, etc). I think it is great that you are concerned about Andy, and want things to remain fair and equal. I guess the important thing to find out is if Andy wants you to hold back, or to have fun. Fair and equal is a nice thought, yet it will probably always come at your expense, as you will continue to get more attention. I am also willing to guess that Andy, knowing you are holding back, will both appreciate your intentions and feel bad that you are missing out on the chance for fun. But as long as you to are clear with each other (as I am sure you are), it will all work out in the end. Best of luck...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    You are right, it is not likely change. I do believe Andy would hold back for me, infact he probably has. Maybe you have not been in an open relationship or with someone who is or any of that but that does not mean your thoughts do not count :) It is all very new and very strange, we like that we are at this point in our relationship but there is no denying it takes a bit of getting used to knowing that your partner is with someone else while you are at work, with your kids or sitting on the sofa at home watching telly. Mostly it is pretty cool just to have been able too talk about what we want regardless of what actually ends up happening. I do worry as Andrew has had a few females ask him how can he do it? How can he put up with me being out having fun while he isn't. The funny thing is, no one male or female as asked me how I feel about it and I take some offense to the women that think that is what is going on...... You know, this whole swingy,open, sex thing is way more complicated than you would have ever thought! Ah well. I really do think the best we can do is show the upmost respect each other and the people we meet along the way and when it stops being fun, that is when we stop doing it :) xx salina

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Quoting 'Salina79' You know, this whole swingy,open, sex thing is way more complicated than you would have ever thought! Ah well. I really do think the best we can do is show the upmost respect each other and the people we meet along the way and when it stops being fun, that is when we stop doing it :) xx salina Just reading this makes me think you two will be fine :) I hope you find the balance you seek...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Andy could easily have more sex than you, Sal. I've said it before.... he'd make a top... umm.... bottom :p So I fail to see why you should let your snapper ice over while he realises he's gotta whole lotta love.... :)HugsStalky

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Ok let's be clear I'm not being A bottom for yOu stalk. I have met some great ladies. But much to my horror instead of developing fuck buddies I end up with one night stands and friendships. All I want is three to six very horny girls who I can rotate around every few months who will ring ne for booty calls. Is that too much to ask? And salina mentioned the singles night. I got two numbers and a blowjob. The first number was from a dark haired Beauty who took a rain cheek. And we are still contact. The second was a Canadian girl who was "waiting" fOr Simon." but Simon was busy. "oh well if Simon doesnt put out, I'm happyto be yOur backuP plan. "0h no," she says "theres someone else here I like if I need to.!" That made me sad. I think the song 'too many cocks on the dancefloor' is pretty much universal. I dint even want one night stands - where is the romance in the world?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hi guys, . What a funny post ! Got me smiling while I eat my egg and bacon foccacia ! To me food and sex go hand in hand or hand to mouth or other places. . Anyway... re you guys. . I can relate to your dilemma Sal.... lack of time rather than lack of potentials. Have you considered setting aside a day a week and just see the guys Back to Back (or is that cock to cock) ? I've done that in the past but by the end of the day I was very satisfied, a little sore and on the biggest sex high. Then the next day I'd come crashing down... knowing it'd be another week before my next fix ! . All the "sex-ting" just frustrates me. It builds up hope and I can't concentrate. . And... you probably have a similar problem where you keep getting more and more guys chatting you up before you've even enjoyed the ones you are already sex-ting. We kind of need a RHP deli counter.. you know where you take a number and wait you turn ! . As for an "open" relationship. Good luck with that. I'm busy looking for that special guy, who just wants lots of wild sex with ME. I feel like I've been in an open relationship with myself for long enough. . Hugs, Miss Saturn

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  • provocativeparty

    provocativeparty

    15 years ago

    I have been watching the rant over the past month or so... I find it very funny, keep up the good work guys,  ;)CamProvocative Party

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    if we ever meet can we make it a breakast date. I would hate to be the guy at the end of the day! Andy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Open relationships are tricky in so many ways. Salina you need to find some time for yourself I know with children this can be hard but it can be do able. I always found that single men are often willing to met when it suits you so I always found they were easier then men in couples. Salina I don't think you need to make things even between you and Andy. I always found that when I tried to do that with me and Brad neither of us were happy - he was not happy because he was not getting any action outside our relationship and I was not happy because I was saying no to men I was interested in the name of keeping things fair. I agree with miss Saturn have two dates when you are free, when I did this I felt very slitting in such a good way... Just remember to keep checking in with each other and be honest, and accept that each of you might feel different emotions but it is how you act on these emotions that matters. K

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Miss Saturn! Love the idea, that gave me good giggle and whilst it makes some sense I am not sure I could do it....hmmm....maybe?........Nah, I would feel so dirty! lol Cam, ever so happy to hear we are entertaining you! When are you next hosting a party? We would dearly love to attend one soon as we met some great people at the last one we attended, but that was ages ago! Blonde, when I say even I don't exactly mean Andy and I have to go one for one, lol. But I don't want to be out constantly leaving him at home, just want to find a balance where we are both getting what we want without it being at the expense of the other. Gosh, we are all about the serious issues Andy and I. I am sure there are more predicaments to be in than...oh I have no time for even more sex! Stalky, born to tease?!?! Who me?!?! I have no idea what you could possibly be talking about :P xx Salina

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Lolz Cam, just viewed your profile, no need to answer my question about when the next party is :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    is TIME! Lordy wouldn't we just all love a little more free time! ;-)

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