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Orgasmic control for guys or is it secret mens business!
April 09 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
1/ Buggered if I know, nothing works for me for very long, If it does, could be a case of your not really doing it for me and I would really rather be somewhere else. 1a/ Yes much!2/ see 13/ Posibbly, red raw pain, after that much screwing.4/ No....Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Right oh being serious1) Change of speed or position usually works for me.........but sometimes I leave it too late and then its a grunting roaring furious fuck like hell to conclusion and bugger the consequences1) (I'm having a little trouble with your numbering system.....was it type during a period of post orgasmic bliss) It can be a tad frustrating sometimes but for me backing away from orgasm a few times can make it both harder to achieve and greater (in terms of amount and sensation) when the explosion finally occurs2) now I'm in trouble with the numbering suystem because I think I've already covered that3) The answer is YES (were you a man in a former life?) And in the occassional very long session the 3rd, 4th 5th 6th??? ( now I am bragging) orgasm can be very dry with little or no ejacaculation but still be very strong and pleasureable4)sometimes. If I'm particularly horny I can fuck til orgasm and remain hard (semi hard) enough to keep fucking until I orgasm again and that is a very contented completely drain sort of feeling
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RHP User
14 years ago
as long as i cum...i dont care what hes thinking of life really is that easy Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi Felonius Thanks for your input....can't help my curiosity...lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'WantedBabyDaddy' as long as i cum...i dont care what hes thinking of life really is that easy Hugs You are seriously cracking me up .... how to win friends and influence people clearly isn't your forte!! BwahahahahahaxxxxxxxMeeks
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RHP User
14 years ago
to breathe ... cumming often involves tensing and holding your breath. If you relax your body and breathe deep and slow, you have more control ... for men and women. Ancient tantric technique ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
when you tell a guy to shut his eyes and think of England
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RHP User
14 years ago
LOL....you got me.....how did you know! Damn no, but sometimes I do wish I had been. Guys have way too much fun.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The techniques you mentioned (pausing, thinking of "??????", change of rhythm/position) all work for me. But... "Cui prodest?" would say Medea. I mean, after I keep myself from cumming, I don't feel much, thus I can keep going for hours and hours (I had 7 hours go, once). Not sure you ladies enjoy having someone going in and out for hours without feeling much, till you are literally knocked out, dehydrated, and maybe even bored or in pain after that much time.3) Are there different stages and sensations with eg. pre-cum, orgasm, dry orgasm after cumming several times in a session?yep
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RHP User
14 years ago
For me its mostly about the other person..i know this will sound like a wank !! i get off by pleasuring i love the build up with play and if my lover enjoys to spoil and touch like i do then the experience is great..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' For me its mostly about the other person..i know this will sound like a wank !! i get off by pleasuring i love the build up with play and if my lover enjoys to spoil and touch like i do then the experience is great.. more men should think like this....then we wouldn't have so many problems Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
...men have a very substantial network of pelvic floor muscles and nerves, we can do Kegal exercises too. | Most truly great sex starts and finishes in the mind...the physical release is just the way we express it, take care of your partner and she will more than take care of you. | Of course if you're mindless...it's all about you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lilangelic points to a very simple technique that will geerlly work without any training. Relaxing ad breathing slowly without holding the breath is easy. Pressing hard on the Prenium or pullig down on the ball sack also work well. Although taking your mind away and thinking of something less arousing will also work... It detracts from the enjoyment and connectedness of the experience so not really recommended. After orgasm physical sensation reduces and therefor difficult to maintain possible erection and multiple orgasms. But mental arousal and training can help maintain erection and with lots of training can separate orgasm from ejaculation which means you can have multiple orgasms without ejaculationand losing sensation. Not that difficult to achieve but some discipline is needed... Alternatively introducing a new female will almost always revive arousal... Go figure ;-) Overall I agree with most that orgasms are not the be all and end all when it comes to sexual fulfillment... It's the journey not the destination !!! I don't get frustrated delaying orgasms although I love sensual foreplay and glorious oral so never really need to delay much as she has usually already orgasmed a few times
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RHP User
14 years ago
Lilangelic points to a very simple technique that will geerlly work without any training. Relaxing ad breathing slowly without holding the breath is easy. Pressing hard on the Prenium or pullig down on the ball sack also work well. Although taking your mind away and thinking of something less arousing will also work... It detracts from the enjoyment and connectedness of the experience so not really recommended. After orgasm physical sensation reduces and therefor difficult to maintain possible erection and multiple orgasms. But mental arousal and training can help maintain erection and with lots of training can separate orgasm from ejaculation which means you can have multiple orgasms without ejaculationand losing sensation. Not that difficult to achieve but some discipline is needed... Alternatively introducing a new female will almost always revive arousal... Go figure ;-) Overall I agree with most that orgasms are not the be all and end all when it comes to sexual fulfillment... It's the journey not the destination !!! I don't get frustrated delaying orgasms although I love sensual foreplay and glorious oral so never really need to delay much as she has usually already orgasmed a few times
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Tantricmassuer01' Lilangelic points to a very simple technique that will geerlly work without any training. Relaxing ad breathing slowly without holding the breath is easy. Pressing hard on the Prenium or pullig down on the ball sack also work well. Although taking your mind away and thinking of something less arousing will also work... It detracts from the enjoyment and connectedness of the experience so not really recommended. After orgasm physical sensation reduces and therefor difficult to maintain possible erection and multiple orgasms. But mental arousal and training can help maintain erection and with lots of training can separate orgasm from ejaculation which means you can have multiple orgasms without ejaculationand losing sensation. Not that difficult to achieve but some discipline is needed... Alternatively introducing a new female will almost always revive arousal... Go figure ;-) Overall I agree with most that orgasms are not the be all and end all when it comes to sexual fulfillment... It's the journey not the destination !!! I don't get frustrated delaying orgasms although I love sensual foreplay and glorious oral so never really need to delay much as she has usually already orgasmed a few times Tantric :) It was late when I posted so I wasn't up for going into all the detail, but it's helpful that you did. Try it guys ... breathe and relax xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi tantricmassuer Thank you for the explanation. I have read similar in karma sutra. I'm always interested in learning more about sensuality and pleasure. Sexual health is so important to the overall wellbeing of a person. Nice to see someone of your age into it. Most have never heard of tantric sex until they are much older or never at all. Keep up the good breathing....lol SF
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...men have a very substantial network of pelvic floor muscles and nerves, we can do Kegal exercises too. | Most truly great sex starts and finishes in the mind...the physical release is just the way we express it, take care of your partner and she will more than take care of you. |I absolutely agree with great sex starting and finishing in the mind. CM thank you for sharing. Love all the comments everyone....cheers SF
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RHP User
14 years ago
tirzan.....yep I can relate to that! SFxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Following an off-the-cuff comment by a mate (the most unlikely of people I know), I decided to delve deeper. His comment, "Wanking adds to one's staying power". I can report that he was correct. Tho it's probably from getting to know oneself, more than just a simple aftereffect of a lot of wanking.What I found was, knowing when one is approaching that "point of no return", is the key, not the wanking. Going to just before that point, and backing off, a number of times, (3-4 times at least) resulted in something I wasn't even aware existed let alone been prepared for. A man can (well I can, anyway) orgasm, without ejaculating, resulting in staying hard. This orgasm, was also different in a number of ways. (1) is the no ejaculating, (2) is that it is a whole body orgasm, not just brain and cock, (3) is, I can have quite a few of these one after the other, once the first one is done n dusted, have even had a multiple, once, (4) is, man oh man, trying to then ejaculate after 3-4 of these non ejaculating ones, is damn difficult, takes a LOT of effort, but boy oh boy, is it ever worth it. If with a partner who knows what you are trying to achieve, then it is easier to do, but regardless of whether they know or not, the end result for partner is a LOT of staying hard, so therefore, she also gets lots of benefits from it. My best effort so far, is just over 4 hours before first ejaculation, during which time, she stopped counting her orgasms @ 3 hrs, @ a dozen, and I had 8 non-ejaculating ones before the final shooter. No, not all of the 4 hrs was spent, balls deep inside her, there was a fair amount of oral involved too.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Apologies, I did forget to mention that there are some downsides.(1) That "Point of no return" is a fluid bastard, it does move around a bit, depending on many factors, not least of which is your physical and mental health, at the time,(2) If one is not participating in regular sexual activities, then one stands a damn good chance of crossing that "point" before you even know its coming,(3) A LOT of wanking is needed, to begin with, (twice a day at least) to figure out where this "point" is, and a lot is also required, if one is on a sexual diet, (same twice a day minimum),(4) During said wanking, one does have to back off/stop wanking, half a dozen times, to achieve affect.I came across this non-ejaculating orgasm, purely by accident. I was cybering, so to speak. Typing words on a screen to a lady who was also typing away. Whilst not typing, we each were giving ourselves a workout, stopping the activity as soon as we had finished reading the others words on screen, to type back a response. Usually, the typing took between 2 and 3 mins each time, so we were basically spending 4-5 mins wanking, a break to type of 2-3 mins, then back into the wanking. When I finally (after 6 months) got together with said lady, what followed was almost 4 hrs of sex in many positions, with her having at least 4 orgasms and myself, only one, and it was non-ejaculating, my first one ever of this type.So, unless one has a reasonably regular partner, meaning 3-4 times a week at least, then please don't expect miracles.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'heywood_djablome' Following an off-the-cuff comment by a mate (the most unlikely of people I know), I decided to delve deeper. His comment, "Wanking adds to one's staying power". I can report that he was correct. Tho it's probably from getting to know oneself, more than just a simple aftereffect of a lot of wanking.What I found was, knowing when one is approaching that "point of no return", is the key, not the wanking. Going to just before that point, and backing off, a number of times, (3-4 times at least) resulted in something I wasn't even aware existed let alone been prepared for. A man can (well I can, anyway) orgasm, without ejaculating, resulting in staying hard. This orgasm, was also different in a number of ways. (1) is the no ejaculating, (2) is that it is a whole body orgasm, not just brain and cock, (3) is, I can have quite a few of these one after the other, once the first one is done n dusted, have even had a multiple, once, (4) is, man oh man, trying to then ejaculate after 3-4 of these non ejaculating ones, is damn difficult, takes a LOT of effort, but boy oh boy, is it ever worth it. If with a partner who knows what you are trying to achieve, then it is easier to do, but regardless of whether they know or not, the end result for partner is a LOT of staying hard, so therefore, she also gets lots of benefits from it. My best effort so far, is just over 4 hours before first ejaculation, during which time, she stopped counting her orgasms @ 3 hrs, @ a dozen, and I had 8 non-ejaculating ones before the final shooter. No, not all of the 4 hrs was spent, balls deep inside her, there was a fair amount of oral involved too. god ... yes ... please :P
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RHP User
14 years ago
heywood_djablome.....nice work! SF xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'heywood_djablome'....... If with a partner who knows what you are trying to achieve, then it is easier to do, but regardless of whether they know or not, the end result for partner is a LOT of staying hard, so therefore, she also gets lots of benefits from it. My best effort so far, is just over 4 hours before first ejaculation, during which time, she stopped counting her orgasms @ 3 hrs, @ a dozen, and I had 8 non-ejaculating ones before the final shooter. No, not all of the 4 hrs was spent, balls deep inside her, there was a fair amount of oral involved too. God heywood you've suddenly made me wanting more...a whole lot moreMinxy xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I suppose I should also answer all the questions asked by Sensory_fun, initially.I think I have answered the first (1) already, lol.the 2nd (1):- No, it isn't frustrating, but that comes from me being someone who gets as much pleasure out of giving pleasure to my partner, as I do out of directly receiving pleasure myself. I know some are going to think this cliche, but, for me, an orgasm for myself, isn't even necessary. Yes, cumming is about the best thing I have ever experienced, but 3-5 secs of pleasure, doesn't cut it compared to the hours of pleasure one can enjoy, when one forgets about an orgasm altogether.(2) Oh yeahhhhhhh, backing off, surely does. please refer to my first post, for understanding, lol.(3) I don't believe there are different stages to an orgasm, but yes, most definately different stages to arousal, same as for you ladies. Stage 1 would be pre-erection. As with everything sexual, all us guys are different and will take different amounts of time/pleasure, to get thru stage 1 (and thru all stages) and actually become erect. Stage 2 will be the build-up. Think portable air compressor, with its own air tank. Sure turn it on (stage 1) and away it goes, but the air tank is almost empty. Stage 2 now kicks in. 5 mins later, tank is getting close to full, but output from the actual compressor section, is still full on. Finally, when the pressure in the tank reaches the preset maximum (Point of no-return I mentioned earlier, and start of stage 3), a few things happen. First, a valve is activated, so more compressed air is not sent to the tank (ejaculation). Then, the driving force (petrol engine, elec motor etc) gets a signal, to shut down (loss of erection, usually). Stage 4 now. Air pressure will drop (at different speeds depending on usage of air tools etc) until it reaches pre-set minimum, where driving force once again kicks in and whole process starts again (at stage 2, for us guys). So, we have stage 1, getting hard, stage 2, staying hard, and giving/getting pleasure, stage 3, Point of no-return thru to orgasm, and stage 4, loss of erection (unfortunately) until level of arousal drops back to beginning of end of stage1/beginning of stage 2 and we can once again, get hard. And away we go again. And unlike most ladies, we guys tend to take longer to achieve a 2nd orgasm, than we did the first. Same again, if we proceed to a 3rd, it takes longer than the 2nd orgasm.As for dry-cumming after too many orgasms, I have never experienced this. Tho I do suspect it may be what I referred to earlier, the non-ejaculating orgasm, and isn't necessarily a result of empty balls or such, but simply a different orgasm, like a vaginal orgasm is different to a clitoral one.(4) Drained? Hell yes, but energy level drained. A number of non-ejaculating orgasms (whole body) followed by a normal ejaculating orgasm, is absolutely, totally, draining, of mind and body. But ohhhhh, so very worth it.Ladies, you can sorta work on this, even if your man doesn't know. If he is a regular partner, then you have some idea of how long he lasts. So, simply, give him a short intense workout prior to insertion, then switch to him giving for a bit, back to another short workout for him, back to you, at least twice, maybe 3 times, then by all means, insert away hehe. Switch positions somewhat regularly. for example, if you are riding him, hop off, sit on his face and demand a good licking, for about one minute, then climb back on. Slide up for another minute of licking before changing to Missionary/doggie/whatever floats ya boat. Take another break for a minute of hot kissing licking, and groping. Now move to your fav position, even if you have already been there, and demand he fuck the absolute ass off you, and hang on tight. You might just find your 5 minute man has just given you a 45-60 minute workout, or more :-) Oh, and importantly, except for the initial short intense workout, do NOT go near the head of his cock whenever it is not inside you.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'tirzan' The techniques you mentioned (pausing, thinking of "??????", change of rhythm/position) all work for me. But... "Cui prodest?" would say Medea. I mean, after I keep myself from cumming, I don't feel much, thus I can keep going for hours and hours (I had 7 hours go, once). Not sure you ladies enjoy having someone going in and out for hours without feeling much, till you are literally knocked out, dehydrated, and maybe even bored or in pain after that much time.3) Are there different stages and sensations with eg. pre-cum, orgasm, dry orgasm after cumming several times in a session?yepI can only think it as a pleasant crime that one commits!Believe we could have some fun had we been of opposite sexI have and have had a thing for using Latin in modern language(I and or others)I admire any mind that canYet not only admire femailes that do but or can use itBut sends me super ultraque level un-imaginableThink if shows meaning of what you want to say at such a higher level than plain englishNot looking to put a downer on your post, more to admire it and congradulate you
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