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January 03 2011

"a few extra pounds or fat" forum posted by ritmofish which is now closed! I wanted to add my 2 cents worth. I consider myself to be a big woman but after speaking to a few people I was told I should change my profile to "a little extra padding". To put my point across to anyone viewing my profile I wrote in the "about me" section that I am an attractive bbw! I never really saw myself as attractive but always as a larger woman. It was not until being with many personal trainer type physiques (males) that I changed my way of thinking. So many men, even those without a single ounce of fat on their bodies and nothing but muscle, find women of my size attractive. It is about what is portrayed. It is about how u carry yourself. It is about showing them that u feel sexy within yourself. It is about being confident. And it my case it is about being curvy. I have been blown away by the amount of hot bodied, sexy men that find me attractive. It is because of this that I no longer call myself fat but now consider I am a "big beautiful woman".

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RHP User

15 years ago

I guess it all boils down to individual perceptions. The word Ample to me conjures up an image of someone who is morbidly obese and because of that I will not even consider someone with that as a profile. Large is just that. Not petite and tiny and I really like large men, they make me feel safe. I agree that a little extra padding should be one or two sizes over.

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RHP User

15 years ago

i have trouble with this one i dont see weight the same as others im sure me personally i think im fat but if i see women the same size or bigger i see nothing at all wrong with them and just see them as a little bigger my friends go mad at me all the time for it i had on my profile "large" cause thats what i think i am but i got told by a lovely lady on here to get rid of it cause im not and to put "a little extra padding" which i did...but then you get people saying like sweetie has...if your this much over weight then you should have this or that...so if thats what im going by i need one that says...HUGE on the thread i was classed by one as "fucken fat" and by another as cuddly iv been told by one man im so morbidly obese i shouldnt be allowed to leave the house...but iv been told by others i look great i dont get my arse stuck in a chair and i only have to buy one seat when i fly...so what does that make me?? so when you all work this one out can you please let me know so i can change my profile accordingly...im not trying to be dishonest...i just dont know what to put cause if you put one thing to make one person happy then you upset another, so you put something else and you upset someone else sometimes you just cant win roxxy

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15 years ago

I recently met Mr n Mrs sexyarse at the Meet n Greet recently held by myself and Rockercpl.. I have to say Mrs is Attractive BBW.. Whilst I am not bi I found her to be an awesome attractive woman! Inside and out.. Friendly and classy. huggies sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Ohhh .. and Mr is a hottie..

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RHP User

15 years ago

Baby, it makes you awesome!

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RHP User

15 years ago

I have a preferance for ladies with a little(or even a lot of) extra padding so I have a bias in this area. I find it hard to define Large and Ample I in honesty can not figure out which of these to is "larger". I think Ample is generally considered to be larger but I have seen many profiles that use that word who I feel it dosn't fit. At the end of the day though it is all about people who are comfortable in their own skin, I love to find people who are happy just being who they are :) LC

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RHP User

15 years ago

because it comes before large nin the drop down list! Ample is a stupid descriptor though because it is rather ambiguous. I'm large, so put I large... I also have my dress size and height in my profile so it should be a good indicator. I always figured the muscle mary interest was due to the nice contrast between soft and squishy and hard and muscley.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'Polar_Bear_Girl' because it comes before large nin the drop down list! Ample is a stupid descriptor though because it is rather ambiguous. I'm large, so put I large... I also have my dress size and height in my profile so it should be a good indicator. I always figured the muscle mary interest was due to the nice contrast between soft and squishy and hard and muscley. woo, good to see you posting again PBG :)Anyway, I'm a little tired of hearing about how its only the personality that matters, it gets trotted out so often it is more like people are convincing themselves. It isn't. It isn't just how you carry yourself, or portray yourself.I could carry myself however I like, my personality could be so magnetic I'm a walking MRI machine, but some people may hate the way I look and that isn't gonna turn them on, and so they wouldn't go for me - I'd be described as "oh, yeah.. umm.. he's got a great personality... but...". Personality counts, but so do looks - and what turns one person on doesn't work for someone else. (that got a bit rant-ish? eh, its quarter to 4. bed time perhaps)

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RHP User

15 years ago

Well, Sheba can definitely attest to many comments posted in this thread as she will readily admit that her confidence has grown and continues to do so as a result of many encounters with people from this and other sites. Sheba had in the past had a confidence issue as the result of an overbearing mother who constantly berated her about size etc, and no matter what Gazz or Gazz's family would say Sheba would at times slip back into a 'bad space' in terms of lacking confidence. All this despite her being to Gazz and many others a very attractive person, both physically and mentally, but sadly at times her family would say or do something that caused a regress.However, after discovering her love of light BDSM and swinging etc her confidence started to improve, then she spilt from her family and the earth has known no boundaries since.Now, while she still shakes her head in wonderment she is often on the receiving end of attention from people (males and females) whom most would consider 'fit' or 'athletic', and she often outlasts all of them as well.From Gazz's side this is not surprising as attraction or beauty is only partly physical, with the rest being mental in the manner in which the person carries themselves or speaks. Confidence and poise can be amongst the greatest turn-on around (well it is for Gazz) and it is this that Sheba has in spades, as do many other women who do not realise it.For us, a larger person is still after all a person and no matter how physically attractive a person may look, their mind may be as attractive as that fresh dog turd one treads in when walking in their yard barefoot late at night.Shebagazz

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RHP User

15 years ago

I initially put "a few extra pounds" in my profile until I realised that it meant pretty much what Sexy Arse means. I am not saying that bothers me overly much but I changed mine to average to give people on the site a better description of how I look. I think anyone who ahs been on the site for a while has worked out that "a few extra pounds" in a profile can mean anything from an extra 10 to an extra 40 kilos. It's just one of those things you eventually work out. So once you work it out then you can message anyone who takes your fancy. There are definitely some Big Beautiful Women out there and personality definitely plays a big part in how attractive we all are, at least to me. After all, isn't the biggest sexual organ the brain?

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RHP User

15 years ago

Finally someone said it, you beat me too it, well done.Anyone who says they go by personality alone here is deluding themselves and everyone else. This is an internet site, your only indication, your only reference of someone is what you see and read on their profile. And 90% of the initial reaction is from your main profile picture. You could be the nicest, sweetest, horniest person going, but unless you have a photo that gets someone to open your profile, you are stuffed. The only way you can truly find out someone's personality is to meet them. Yes meet them, face to face and have a conversation with them. Looking at a profile just won't do it, words on a screen can mean anything.Mooka

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RHP User

15 years ago

How right you are...I am a well known pervert - yes yes repeating myself lol - and I will quite readily admit that when looking for prospective playmates and having only the pics and written word to go by if I dont like what i see its not going to happen and this goes for guys and girls alike....just the way it goes... I have to filter the contacts somehow...as the boys above me have said..it doesnt matter how good a peronality you have if I dont find you physically attractive I'm not going there....and I wouldnt expect anyone else too either...I have myself down as average on my profile (based on my current waist size in skirts) but I am still soft and squishy in the middle..and you know what?? I dont care if someone rejects me based on my looks or the description I have in my profile (it has happened) because I want to be with someone who finds my physically attractive as well as my personality (well if it goes further than the odd playmeet ) Kisses Focus

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RHP User

15 years ago

as i read all above me i can not help thinking these same lines may go for cock size or other subjects canned on here ???? ample or a lille extra and then even small or worse still tiny lol............... do we realy need to label everything about ourselves and leave nothing for others to find when and if they meet us ?????? Imagination is a wonderfull thing why not use it for yourself about others................. And think of me as some god like fellow with body of ripped muscles and a voice so deep its like rolling thunder ................ Andy xxxxx

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