Open relationships and how to deal with them...

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I thought this is what everyone in the website is doing? no?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If you cant deal with this, leave now to save more heartach, but if think you can handle it, try. Sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship, try to keep an open mind and appreciate it, and remember there are two sides to the coin; it all depends on whether you can handle the toss.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I am not speaking from experience, having never had an open relationship, but I would guess the key is that everyone involved is in agreement on the rules and comfortable with it. If you are not 100% on board, it will never work. If you are, I think you will be fine.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think it is time you perhaps told her you want her exclusively!! xxx Good Post!

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  We both agree with respondants one and two. If you are happy with the way things are and also with how YOUR relationship with her is progressing then there shouldn't be an issue. If you feel that this lifestyle is causing issues with the way you want your relationship with her to pan out then maybe you need to COMMUNICATE with her about it. It isn't a case of deciding in isolation what you want and landing her with an ultimatum or such like. If you have a proper relationship ( not just fuck buddies) then you both need to come to a point where you are comfortable with the 'extra curricular' activities. Relationships are not static things. They change and grow as the people in them grow and change. What is OK today may not be OK tomorrow or next year. In our experience the only way to survive ANY non-monogamous relationship is honest communication and respect for each other.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' I think it is time you perhaps told her you want her exclusively!! xxx Good Post! I agree with the beautiful Ms Stilettoes....from reading your post, other than the 3sums that you are getting, you really don't like the rest of the deal that comes with it! Either tell her you want it exclusive or walk away now! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  it depends on whether you're happy with the other things she's doing..the fact you've made this post suggests you're not..for me - i think i'd only be okay with it if it was one or two other girls she was friends with and not an ongoing desire to get more and more girls or couples all the time..i'd start worrying about my dick falling off and respect would likely go out the window

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have been in an open relationship for 3 years and the secret of it all has solely rested in a true ability to remain open and HONEST at all times. For us, it is purely about sex, friends and fun. We adore each other and are completely comfortable and secure in our relationship. We both acknowledge that our sexual tastes and needs differ. Should this be the end of it all? Indeed not! We are both adults and both understand that sex is a necessary balance that can be achieved through the means of a successful relationship. Many will disagree with this, and I am happy to accept their opinion. All I know, is that when it works, it strengthens your relationship rather than the contrary!Hope this helps.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  The fact that you have posted this topic shows that you have doubts. If you aren't comfortable with this as a long term relationship then you can either stop it now before anyone gets more emotionally involved or you can treat it as a friends with benefits type relationship. If you tell her that you want her exclusively, she may end it so be prepared if you decide to go down that road. Do whatever is right for you.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Exclusivity may not be an option for this Female? The possible harm in asking for this, is she may back away? Won't know till it's asked I guess, you may be pleasantly surprised? Who knows with a 'Player'? Can you 'Slot' into the boyfriend description she outlined? If so, do that. Things may change if the universal law of change is up to it's game. She's a wild-one for sure. Good Luck.

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