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Open Relationships
August 18 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
i agree with you to me just because they are in an open relationship doesnt mean squat...they are still attached id feel conned if i met a bloke and played and then found out he was in an open relationship after thinking he was single i dont do attached and that means...swinger, open relationship, cheater and everything inbetween if there is a woman waiting at home...then your attached roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
An open r-ship can be a hard one to judge... it could be a BF-GF with an open view with regards to sex it could be a long term FB that both have permission to " play " so you are right it should be REMOVED because its to generic you are either: IN A RELATIONSHIP- and are allowed to play SINGLE - Do what ever you want In MY opinion an OPEN relationship IS a relationship, but with no boundaries :) hope this helps xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah i think your right, Rhp doesn't have Open relationship.....why.....i don't know! Clearly this fella isn't single, the very term "open relationship" kinda dictates he is in a relationship, and he has a partner apparently.What he probably means by "single" is that he can effectively act like a single person because of his open relationship....which i don't agree with either, As anyone who is on a valid open relationship will tell you, there are a plenty of strings attached because of the primary relationship.In our profile we have our status as married, but state we have an open relationship in the about us section of our profile.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i agree with you to me just because they are in an open relationship doesnt mean squat...they are still attached id feel conned if i met a bloke and played and then found out he was in an open relationship after thinking he was single i dont do attached and that means...swinger, open relationship, cheater and everything inbetween if there is a woman waiting at home...then your attached roxxy I totally agree with Roxy... you are either with someone or your not..
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platinumblonde69
15 years ago
Thanks everyone...off to a good start...i guess my main point is...if someone knows the truth...then they can make up their own mind...i have written to rhp and suggested an open relationship option in the relationship section.... Thanks again for yr comments... Plat
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you have a partner, regardless of if the relationship is strait, bi, gay or whatever, the fact is you have a partner and are not single. If you are Bi male and have a female partner who is not, then are you single to gays, but in a relationship for females? I'm afraid I dont understand in an open relationship but single. Like GirlTuesday pointed out, do the maths. If the anwsew is greater than one, then you are not single.
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Bambi_Peeks
15 years ago
He has a choice of labelling his status as 'attached' or 'its complicated'...rather than misleading other people by stating that he is single, when clearly he is not... honesty is the best policy and most likely helps you getting laid more.... perhaps he is confused on his own relationship? Though, RHP should give people a choice to put 'open relationship'... as this is a adult dating sex site after all.... I think 38% people in RHP are in a open relationship... so might as well just give them that option to put on their profile... for the time being, he should state that he is in an open relationship in the 'about us' section, as Nevandkj suggested.
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platinumblonde69
15 years ago
I just received an email back from RHP saying they are going to look into this and my suggestion has been noted...YAY...Soon Im hoping a "Open Relationship" category will be up and running...
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RHP User
15 years ago
good work...if we can get a few little changes happening its a good start good for you roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks plat!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' i agree with you to me just because they are in an open relationship doesnt mean squat...they are still attached id feel conned if i met a bloke and played and then found out he was in an open relationship after thinking he was single i dont do attached and that means...swinger, open relationship, cheater and everything inbetween if there is a woman waiting at home...then your attached roxxy I agree with you as well, roxxy.Mr S. and I love having a third around for tea, we're still in a relationship together and everything that comes with it. Even though I don't want to play alone (my choice), I've told Mr S. to have fun when he's away on business, like this weekend, but he never does. It's not that he's short on offers and he's always up for a coffee or dinner, he just doesn't feel like playing. He says it doesn't feel right when I'm not there. I reckon I've got a good man. Mrs. S. MWA!
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Letsgetcrazy09
15 years ago
Yes to me the open relationship would make the person "not single". One thing I havent quite grasped is whether this open relationship is also disclosed in his profile? If it is disclosed, then he has not set out to deceive anyone and is quite open about where he is at. Yes he could have put attached but in his eyes he possibly sees that he is for all intentive purposes "single" - a mistake in the eyes of many it would appear.Good on you Plats for bringing it to the attention of RHP, hopefully they will see reason and add this category so less confusion reigns.JMOLets
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RHP User
15 years ago
I saw some of that interaction in the chat room. I agree with you Plat in that people ( men and women) should be open and honest. If you choose to play with married people, knowing the truth then that is your choice. I have chatted to the the guy in question in message form, he openly admitted he is attached, for that I say thank you To me this makes an honest person. Having Open relationship is a status is a good idea, its only going to work though if the people using it are honest and it will, I am sure attract its fair share of fibbers, just as we all know a lot of attached men just lie about that status. How bout we just ask for honesty? woot what an original idea Love to all GL
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RHP User
15 years ago
I dont know about all the other girls on here' but there are times when for some reason or other' I dont feel like playing but Mr JJ does. This can be difficult when this happens so I dont have a problem if Mr JJ found someone to play with as long as he told me. Lets face it' we cant always feel the same urges at the same time all the time. We all know men are the higher sexed of the species' so why suppress your partners urges just because we're not in the right mood.. makes sense to me to have a Open Relationship section in RHP.. Then no one has to lie and everyone knows exactly whats on the menu. Just my thoughts..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hmmmm, open relationship..... Its a term that is used loosely i would assume within the confines of these rooms and many more. Now take my relationship for example... Im definitely in an open relationship... my arse is open to anyone wanting a relationship with it. Hmmm now that I think about it.,.. not just anyone... but most ppl :) I am selective u know.. sort of
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RHP User
15 years ago
...well, this is a very interesting dinner conversation topic, you should try it at your next dinnerparty and then sit back and watch the night unfold.....i love a good debate to get the night rolling.... Anyway just to put my two cents in, like many , many things, there are many , many kinds of relationships. And lets face it no one really knows what goes on behind closed doors. But at the begining of our 'swinging adventures' , when we would play together with other couple/singles, we would refer to our relationship as swingers. Now we have ventured a little further and say if we are out without the other one, and we meet a cute person that we are having a fun time with, we are allowed to flirt, kiss... but for now we leave it there at the end of the night and come home to discuss about what might happen further down the track. To us this is a type of open relationship. its what we call it. You may not . and thats fine. but if we explain to the person we have met that this is how it is, and they are ok... its just another word for describing a certain situation, yes .. ? ...msc x
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platinumblonde69
15 years ago
Thanks for the comments...I need to state here that the guy in question openly told me on first contact he was attached...and in an open relationship..that wasnt the issue.....but he thought single best fitted his situation when filling out his profile...So yes Gourmet Lady...i agree...he is honest in that that respect...i never had a drama with that....it was more about wondering what other people thought about the status thing of being single or attached if in an open relationship.... Also to clarify Im not judging anyone in an open relationship...i think it sounds great...both parties agreeing...but if i was in one...id say i was attached...more so than thinking i was single...thats all.. Thanks again for yr imput everyone... Plat
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RHP User
15 years ago
If people in a relationship have discussed how they feel and both are happy for each to play on their own or play together ,a s far as I'm concerned , thats up to them. It's their life and their relationship. As long as the rules are agreed and they are both on the same page. x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Simple...he should have put "ask Me" then that saves all the shit really. We wish they had one for "polyamory" but of course they dont. So maybe Bryan, I and John are a group..lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
LOL my very cynical self sees ask me and thinks cheating bastid JOKE !!Anyway really I think the best thing to do is ask questions and tell the truth, most respect it as has been seen here, and at least if some choose not to play with you because of their beliefs they appreciate your honesty. Over all I have been very impressed by the ability to share thoughts and opinions in the adult chat room. There seems to be much respect for each other even when debating an issue.Give yourselves a pat on the back GL
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree with you, I think that if they are in an "Open Relationship" then they should class themselves as "Attached" and not "Single". If they have a F/B only and state that they have an open relationship with the other person..then I don't see that as single at all as the word "relationship" means they are with someone (hope that makes sense)! But I would like to add...to all the people that are honest with their status...thank you...as you give us the opportunity if we would like to go there or not and shows respect. xFunlovingx
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