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Open Minds....
December 26 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
a willingness to step outside of your comfort zone - a little more each time. It also means being non-judgemental and accepting of others and their quirks, kinks and crazy stuff.
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RHP User
13 years ago
but would like to extend upon it. To me, it also means someone who can listen to others in a non judgemental and unopinionated manner. You can tell them anything without fear of them thinking you are way far out, crossing boundaries or a bad person. They get that a million people could have witnessed/participated in the same thing and have totally differing views on it, and that that is just fine... That to me is a person with a truly open mind...
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RHP User
13 years ago
except So many think they are...and so many arent...in so many areas of their lives..not just sexually.... I pity those who are so closed off to so much in the world.
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that people will insist on coming along and trying to put things in it... I love that quote. IMO an open mind allows others to keep their dogmas and belief systems as being relevant to those who believe yet as already touched on remains open to new possibilities. Including the possibility that everything you know as truth is in fact wrong.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with all that's been said already...however(yeah, yeah I know, here I go again eh?), I see myself as opinionated, but am open to having the discussion that challenges my logic. When I say that, I not too long ago, had quite a lengthy debate with a fellow forum poster. We can lock horns based on our opinions, views, and it can get heated, does that make me judgemental or closed minded as our views are different, yet we still DISCUSS the topic?? I'd like to think not. I'd like to think that being open minded means being available to discuss anything, have an opinion on it, while still accepting the other person as an individual. I'd love to hear other people's thoughts.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think I am open minded when it comes to sexuality and sex but I am not very open minded when it comes to religion or spirituality. Too cynical :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
I consider myself to be open minded. I like to hear new ideas and my perceptions of things can be changed. I'm not a believer in first impressions as they can sometimes be decieving. Still, I am heterosexual. I find nothing attractive or arousing in the prospect of male on male sex. This doesn't mean I view it as disgusting or that I refuse to associate with gay or bisexual men. It just means it is not for me. Does my attitude make me open minded because I don't have an issue with gay relationhips or closed minded because I have no wish to experience it for myself?
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RHP User
13 years ago
And a willingness to question and examine the validity of things you may have always accepted as 'true' when an opportunity or conflict arises.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Besides the obvious which Nudierudie has said here to me open minded also means being non judgemental & un opinionated cause if you are open minded you will be aware that we are all different Open to Learn open to Ideas open to trying & doing new thing in Sex & in Life Live Life to its fullest ... jensta xxx
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
I would like to think of myself as being open minded - to me being open minded is to live n let live without doubt of what you yourself are doing or what others maybe doing.... To accept other ppl as they are and what they do.
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RHP User
13 years ago
An open mind is like a fortress with its gates unbarred and its walls unguarded. Anything can get in.RA
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smo669
13 years ago
Jensman you are definitely open minded, non judgemental and accepting. Open minded does not have to mean open to do things you are not interested in. Nor does it mean agreeing with all views, but being able to listen and decide
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RHP User
13 years ago
open mind would mean that one did not have an opinion on anything.However if your mind is open enough then opinions can be changed as you change and have more experiences and become more informed. Everyone can indeed learn change and grow but I don't need to have certain experiences to know that I will not enjoy them.,but there are some experiences that I have had that even three years ago I would not have even contemplated that I have enjoyed thoroughly. I think my mind is definitely firmly ajar.
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
kind of mentality i think. As others have said all the things you mentioned nudie plus the ability to be non judgmental and to push yourself out of your ordinary comfort zone.So many people refer to themselves as open minded but once you start talking to them you soon realise that they are not really all that open minded at all but then again perhaps thier definition is different to those expressed here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Feel like I am the only one who is close minded. :(
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
People in glass houses, should never throw stones....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fantastic! You go and expand your mind. You know I almost took an almost Buddhist nun to a swingers club once but sadly she piked at the last minute. Damn that would have made an excellent story in my memoirs though. ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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RHP User
13 years ago
Or walk around named CheekyArses.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know that almost nun to whom you refer and she told me that the next time she is in Sydney she will definitely be going there...hopefully with you and your other mutual friends...and she wants a chapter in those memoirs
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oops that is walk around naked CA. And you are on Freya. I will talk to the flying nun & the others. Lol. Meeka's Memoirs Chapter 20: The night I almost took a Buddhist Nun to Couples Club Chapter 21: The night of the forty squirts.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You're not alone, I'm pretty much the same as you, open minded about sex/sexuality, closed minded about politics/religion/aliens and the like. I'm always happy to have a discussion about anyone and I never begrudge anyone their right to an opinion. So I'd probably say I'm open enough to new ideas, but I'm fairly well set in my ways which stops a lot of clutter which in turn makes me indecisive
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RHP User
13 years ago
It means respecting everyone's likes and dislikes, and their opinions, without necessarily sharing them or agreeing with them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
yes...to things that add to or enhance peoples lives or their experience.....close minded to behaviours that hurt, humiliate, harm or jeapourdise any part of a persons wellbeing, circumstance or relationship...or that do the same to any person/people whose lives are intertwined with theirs...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13'I know that almost nun to whom you refer and she told me that the next time she is in Sydney she will definitely be going there...hopefully with you and your other mutual friends...and she wants a chapter in those memoirs ...and maybe at least make a foot note?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nice to see you posting more regularly.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dont have to try something at least once to know that it is not something that I will like. This does NOT make me close minded. I know that I would never enjoy pain as part of a sexual act and I would never willingly allow someone to do this to me. That does not make me close minded. I can accept that others enjoy this and I do try very hard to understand why they enjoy it. I do not close myself off and think that because I wont enjoy it then it must be wrong. I like to debate opinions. I like to have a spirited discussion on things I feel passionate about. I am open to having others persuade me through logic and not emotion to thier way of thinking. I can accept others thoughts and opinions even on controversial topics such as religion and politics and I would never belittle others for thier beleifs in either. I try to understand where they are coming from and am happy to accept the differences that make us all unique. I cant walk a mile in someone elses shoes because every single one of us has had a unique past that is ours alone. No one would have ever had the exact same experiences so I can never understand exactly how you feel. I am open minded enough to see and understand this and have enough empathy to allow it to be so without judgement.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'RandomAgent' An open mind is like a fortress with its gates unbarred and its walls unguarded. Anything can get in.RA You feel open minds are a good thing to a certain extent...but not so open that the brains have fallen out
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cheeky3170' It means respecting everyone's likes and dislikes, and their opinions, without necessarily sharing them or agreeing with them. now why wasn't i so Succinct ?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think we need remember it's 'my' mind that's open ie the individuals ... it will not necesscarily agree with everyones but at least it's open - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it mean being able to look at situations from the point of view of others, being open to understanding other points of views.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2' Quoting 'RandomAgent' An open mind is like a fortress with its gates unbarred and its walls unguarded. Anything can get in.RA You feel open minds are a good thing to a certain extent...but not so open that the brains have fallen out As I'm not sure that I can add much to Nudie's OP and the subsequent additions by others, I would like to follow upon Nudie's line of questioning to RA for a minute or two..Can an open mind be too open?Can an individual chase new experiences and information to their own detriment?.My belief is yes... and at the same time a resounding no. If you read on you shall better understand how this answer fits into my definition of MY minds openness. How it can make me laugh and shake my head at the same time (something sure to cause a few looks of concern for your mental well being if ever tried in public)..The core statement to my definition of open mindedness is the same as Nudie's:In a Nut shell someone who knows that everyone does can and will Change,Evolve and Grow over time...Add in the bits from others about the willingness to learn and to respect others and you just about have it... or do you?If we believe in these statements shouldn't we then be open to the idea that this definition can change, evolve and grow over time?My problem, and yet I believe also my greatest strength, is that I believe too strongly in being open minded, that I allow myself to be open to constant change, evolution and growth, that I'm a slave to the concept..I find myself with virtually no concrete opinions, even my core values of honesty, loyalty, family and do no harm are constantly being challenged by new information, from the world and even more so, myself.I seek others opinions, experiences and observations so as to better define my understanding of the world and those of us in it.I will offer my experiences and observations freely to anyone who asks but I hold my opinions close to my chest, or if given they are given with a disclaimer of, "Based upon what I know..."This can often lead to me staying silent during discussions, merely listening to lively discussions and debates, so that others can often view me as quiet, low in confidence or even worse, dull and unintelligent.Not taking a stand is often seen as lacking moral fibre, not having an opinion is seen as being dim-witted, lazy or uncaring of what is happening around us. Nothing could be further from the truth for me.I see all sides to an argument, I know that there is so much information that I don't know about.... well, everything, that I believe that my opinion really doesn't matter (give me a few drinks though and I'll loudly interject into a discussion and tell you what I think).Maybe it's a fear of being proven wrong, low self esteem, a desire to be liked or more so, a desire to avoid being disliked?I've no doubt that they all play a part in my decision to refrain from voicing my views but I've spent enough time within myself over the past few years that I now realise it's my changeability that's the driving force of my self enforced silence.Then there are the times where what opinion I might've been about to offer has been thrown into question or even made redundant in the light of new information gained, that when asked for it I'm still in the process of adjusting my view and can only stand there and mumble, "I, I don't know."Give me a few minutes, or even hours and I'll get back to you. .The world loves labelling (just look at 3M, they've made a killing out of it) and those of us who refuse to be labelled, pigeon holed or categorised simply throw others into confusion. They need to make sense out of what they know.We open minded ones seek to make sense out of what we don't know.(Hang on, that sounds awesome and may be the answer to the original question. I better repeat it and put it in bold).Open mindedness is about seeking to make sense out of what one doesn't know. .(I even worded it betterer that time but it really should have something about in a tolerant and respectful manner added in there somewhere.... I'll change it later) .Continuing on.Capricious, fickle, undecided, careless, fanciful, flighty, impulsive, unpredictable, unstable and whimsical are just a few of the words I've been described as by others who couldn't understand me. All negative connotations but a number of them can be positives, dependant upon the context of where and when.I prefer to think more positively about myself. I believe that I'm: adaptable, adjustable, compromising, flexible, fluid, resilient and versatile. All of which are admirable traits in a person yet can describe the same behaviours as the above "negatives."This dualistic, double standardised hypocritical way of thinking throughout the world leaves many of us scared of voicing our opinions, scared of taking chances and scared of learning/trying new things.We're constantly told what we shouldn't be, and only vaguely told what we should be... Ourselves.But part of finding out who we are and what we're capable of is though learning, experimentation and adapting that which is learnt in a way which makes sense to us.How poorer as a species are we for those missed opportunities, those silenced voices and those made to feel ashamed for trying something different? I mean, I'm not going to drive a nail through my scrotum just to see what it feels like... I would however like to talk to the guy that does it so as to learn what he knows. .Hmmm, more a rant than a valuable opinion but it raises some good points I think.Hopefully those of you that stuck with me will understand what I was trying to say in my rambling manner. .Of course.... I may disagree with myself tomorrow because of something any of you may say. .CheersRusty
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lil_bit_rusty' Quoting 'Nudierudie2' Quoting 'RandomAgent' An open mind is like a fortress with its gates unbarred and its walls unguarded. Anything can get in.RA You feel open minds are a good thing to a certain extent...but not so open that the brains have fallen out As I'm not sure that I can add much to Nudie's OP and the subsequent additions by others, I would like to follow upon Nudie's line of questioning to RA for a minute or two..Can an open mind be too open?Can an individual chase new experiences and information to their own detriment?.My belief is yes... and at the same time a resounding no. If you read on you shall better understand how this answer fits into my definition of MY minds openness. How it can make me laugh and shake my head at the same time (something sure to cause a few looks of concern for your mental well being if ever tried in public)..The core statement to my definition of open mindedness is the same as Nudie's:In a Nut shell someone who knows that everyone does can and will Change,Evolve and Grow over time...Add in the bits from others about the willingness to learn and to respect others and you just about have it... or do you?If we believe in these statements shouldn't we then be open to the idea that this definition can change, evolve and grow over time?My problem, and yet I believe also my greatest strength, is that I believe too strongly in being open minded, that I allow myself to be open to constant change, evolution and growth, that I'm a slave to the concept..I find myself with virtually no concrete opinions, even my core values of honesty, loyalty, family and do no harm are constantly being challenged by new information, from the world and even more so, myself.I seek others opinions, experiences and observations so as to better define my understanding of the world and those of us in it.I will offer my experiences and observations freely to anyone who asks but I hold my opinions close to my chest, or if given they are given with a disclaimer of, "Based upon what I know..."This can often lead to me staying silent during discussions, merely listening to lively discussions and debates, so that others can often view me as quiet, low in confidence or even worse, dull and unintelligent.Not taking a stand is often seen as lacking moral fibre, not having an opinion is seen as being dim-witted, lazy or uncaring of what is happening around us. Nothing could be further from the truth for me.I see all sides to an argument, I know that there is so much information that I don't know about.... well, everything, that I believe that my opinion really doesn't matter (give me a few drinks though and I'll loudly interject into a discussion and tell you what I think).Maybe it's a fear of being proven wrong, low self esteem, a desire to be liked or more so, a desire to avoid being disliked?I've no doubt that they all play a part in my decision to refrain from voicing my views but I've spent enough time within myself over the past few years that I now realise it's my changeability that's the driving force of my self enforced silence.Then there are the times where what opinion I might've been about to offer has been thrown into question or even made redundant in the light of new information gained, that when asked for it I'm still in the process of adjusting my view and can only stand there and mumble, "I, I don't know."Give me a few minutes, or even hours and I'll get back to you. .The world loves labelling (just look at 3M, they've made a killing out of it) and those of us who refuse to be labelled, pigeon holed or categorised simply throw others into confusion. They need to make sense out of what they know.We open minded ones seek to make sense out of what we don't know.(Hang on, that sounds awesome and may be the answer to the original question. I better repeat it and put it in bold).Open mindedness is about seeking to make sense out of what one doesn't know. .(I even worded it betterer that time but it really should have something about in a tolerant and respectful manner added in there somewhere.... I'll change it later) .Continuing on.Capricious, fickle, undecided, careless, fanciful, flighty, impulsive, unpredictable, unstable and whimsical are just a few of the words I've been described as by others who couldn't understand me. All negative connotations but a number of them can be positives, dependant upon the context of where and when.I prefer to think more positively about myself. I believe that I'm: adaptable, adjustable, compromising, flexible, fluid, resilient and versatile. All of which are admirable traits in a person yet can describe the same behaviours as the above "negatives."This dualistic, double standardised hypocritical way of thinking throughout the world leaves many of us scared of voicing our opinions, scared of taking chances and scared of learning/trying new things.We're constantly told what we shouldn't be, and only vaguely told what we should be... Ourselves.But part of finding out who we are and what we're capable of is though learning, experimentation and adapting that which is learnt in a way which makes sense to us.How poorer as a species are we for those missed opportunities, those silenced voices and those made to feel ashamed for trying something different? I mean, I'm not going to drive a nail through my scrotum just to see what it feels like... I would however like to talk to the guy that does it so as to learn what he knows. .Hmmm, more a rant than a valuable opinion but it raises some good points I think.Hopefully those of you that stuck with me will understand what I was trying to say in my rambling manner. .Of course.... I may disagree with myself tomorrow because of something any of you may say. .CheersRusty A valuable eloquent opinion.... I found myself nodding in agreeance many times.....thank you... for your contribution
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RHP User
13 years ago
mind is an interesting proposal but I am far too closed on religion and superstition. I am a science minded person and sexuality falls into human behaviour as studied by people like Kinsey and BF Skinner. I am a bit like pavlovs dog when I see a woman..... Mike
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