M40
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July 21 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
I feel sorry for that man, the risk for him could be that a guy punches h is lights out for that. You could write a book on peoples horror stories of sex or just ordinary date sites. They often have one thing in common. The person was nothing like they said they were, as in age, gender, size looks etc What happens is they are deluded so badly by internet interaction they think their avitar can come to life and they can be that person they created on the net. Its sad, its also dangerous at times especially for women who are at risk every time they meet a stranger on a site and I think in particulare sex sites, as there is the assumption that you will open your legs for every man you meet.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Once its apparent that the person I've met has lied in a major way about who he is, thats it for me. I can't see the point in lying about things like age, penis size and body type. Whats the deal? Seriously people - any chance of an honest relationship of any kind is out the window after that kind of deception. And yes - I've been lied to about all of those plus more...
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RHP User
13 years ago
No bad ones here shyboy, but let's meet and see what horror we can come up with .Oh and camming before hand tends to sort that sort of thing right out pics can be deceiving or old, or as you found out, not even of the person in question Lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it is better not to even see a photo.So many bear little or no resemblance to the actual person. But the worst experience was when someones girlfriend called me,she had found my phone number and decided to berate me for meeting men on the internet. He told me that he was single ,what he negleted to mention was that he was attached and his real name,he had an alias for internet dating. I was angrier with her for breaching my privacy than I was with him for his lies.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
Im fucked if I cant see the reason why people lie ??....isnt the point of being on this site, to meet others for what ever reason ?????? I think my profile is a true representation of who I am (is it Tuscan ?)but obviously Im naive in my thinking to think that because Im honest, others will be too I have been reasonably lucky with meeting people off here...but I guess that also comes down to my "screening process"" which ....has become more full on, since myself and a former partner met up with a couple and it all got a bit nasty and scary. We played with this couple and had a nice nite, but our worlds werent exactly rocked and on the way home, we agreed that we more than likely wouldnt see them again. The next day the husband sms us to thank us for a nice nite and we must do it again, I responded that we too had a nice nite (which we did) but we will just see about future play dates.....boy was that the wrong thing to say...and then it started, I (not the ex) was bombarded with sms and phonecalls/hangups for weeks afterwards, firstly with ..:"Do you want to play ?" and then it got nastier as I kept saying "NO" One day alone I counted 42 sms to me...initially I responded, explaining that we both shiftworked (which we did) and you know I was also on call so we just see about future meetings...but that was all ignored...day after day and nite after nite I was harassed...meanwhile the ex and I had split up...but the ex did go around and saw this guy (we dont think his wife knew about this harassing) and told him to let it go...during the conversation the ex let slip that we had split...so the harassment increased tenfold...in the end a detective friend of mine went and saw him and warned him off...but that still didnt work, so I ended up serving a AVO on him... he failed to appear in Court, so I didnt pursue it...but at least after that he left me alone..but it was scary, let me tell you...I shake my head when once every blue moon, I stumble across their profile on here. As Sacral said, yep been lied to plenty of times.... not so much about looks but their cirucmstances..(surprise surprise - their partnered !!) and you really have to feel for their partner in this case...and then whats with all the chat, the web camming, the exchange of photos, sms, etc and then a hour before the meet, they cancel suddenly cause their cat threw up .??? ..or they like disappear off your radar..vanish completely ..is there some big black Bermuda Triangle like void/ hole that potential fuck buddies are sucked into that Im unaware of ??? is this a purely Perth/WA scenario courtesy of the FIFO culture ?...mmmm I think probably the biggest let down is when you make a connection on line, alls gone well, everyone is ok with how everyone looks but in "real life" when you meet...... zero chemistry....and thats always disappointing for both parties...and sadly that the "magic" inegredient that I think m ost of us are seeking......and there aint much one can do about that ......ah well...mmm, ..................so whats on TV tonite ??
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RHP User
13 years ago
The first was a distinct .. not what he described .. more like the Dani Devito movie TWINS .. sprooked that he was 6'3", non smoker, well accomplished, financially secure and a profession chef as job ... meet for a coffee .. thankfully in main street lunchtime .. and he turns out to be 5" 6", a chain smoker, truck driver who had to cash his paycheck at one of those instant cheque cashing units before buying the coffees .. Definitely the opposite twin .. and with 3 cigaretts in 30 mins ... count not understand why I didn't not wish to have a second meeting .. Second was some one whose picture ... from shoulders up was fantastic .. good looking and factual, .. and being at the beginning of my online dating experience .. on cam I didn't think to ask for a full body shot .I took him at his word and profile .. 6'1" and 115kg .. . meet for dinner at a Chinese restaurant in Bankstown .. and it was .. not possible to find a seet in which he could fit .. as he put it .. must have been a typo error on his weight .. he was in fact 215kg.. he also wondered why I did not wish a second meeting . Third .. was as he described him self ..Tall, good looking, weight and all as his profile and his pics and cam /... and yes by now I had asked for full body shots by now .. Meeting for a movie was no issue .. BUT .. I at that time didn't realize my name showed up on the Email header I had used to correspond with him with .. with that .. and him knowing I lived within a 20klm distance from him ... he looked up my name on the electoral roll and got my address ...with this he used to stalk my house at night whilst he was working (security guard) ..he took to leaving present and such under the windscreen wipers of my car .. got extremely aggressive.. when without even asking me .. he purchased two tickets to see the Fleetwood Mac concert, and wouldn't take no for an answer when I said I already had tickets to see the concert with a girlfriend ..He followed me to work one day .. thus then knowing my place of employment .. and took to having things sent to my workplace - flowers, wine, gifts of clothing etc etc etc .. the clinch came when ... whilst I was at work .. logged on to MSN chat .. only to find he was online and he stated that He had my son( 11) and our border (17) down at his house as he had gone to my house and asked them if they wanted to go and see a car he had for sale .. I saw RED .. threatened him with police action and an AVO .. would have destroyed his Security Business .. he finally backed off .. twice since then on two entirely different web sites he had made contact .. not realizing its me .. and the amount of verbal filth and abuse I received when I advised that we had crossed paths before and I didn't wish to keep contact was unbelievable .. total of 5 sites now since these two .. I just ignore his initial message and block him .. and advise the admin of sites on what he is like .. luckily I haven't come across his profile on RHP ..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Celebree..that is really really scary, creepy and bloody terrifying...my guy was a pain for sure and it was all disconcerting...but not on the level you experienced.....I truly hope you never encounter that tosser again...and all is good in your world now..:) *****Shakes head at the thought of it all ****
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes it was scary .. and creepy .. he only backed of the first time as I said I would have him charged with being a pedophile and an AVO would have destroyed his Security Company .. but I really feel for other women he has approached .. as when I declined his approach the second and third occasions .. he demanded to know who I was .. and started calling me other women's names and being extremely verbally aggressive and vile .. and he wasn't a young one either .. a year older than me .. It makes me very worried about our males on this planet ..
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Innercircle
13 years ago
Just the usual for us really... photos not current... was a couple, now not... unexpected third arm... you know, regular shit.We worry more about the "Im falling in love with you, and I dont know what to say to my husband who is a bloody big bastard and has had to deal with me falling for others in the past"
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Smilingwithfun
13 years ago
Here i sit in front of my computer reading this thinking WOW. Didn't know it got that bad.I worry about should i send a 2nd message as the 1st wasn't answered.Was a good post as it explains the now justifable actions of some woman on this site. Thankyou for the insight.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have always screened my potential friends very carefully by message, phone and cam before nay public meeting. I must admit that I am more interested in the person than the looks department and often the chemistry is just not there face to face. Hence the need for a coffee only first meeting. (I have been known to drag them back to my lair before they have finished thier first coffee though.)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Firstly I have to say that I am very thankful that the clients that come to my dungeon have all been very respectful and have never given me cause to think that I was ever in any danger.This happened some years ago. Expected a pleasant looking 5'9" average build with a full head of hair. What I got was a 5'5" nearly bald guy that was nearly as wide as he was tall. Despite the fact it was a lunch meeting and broad daylight, he insisted that he walk me to my car. I got a bit of a shock when he pushed me up against the car and tried to remove my jeans. Several years of Kung Fu training came to the fore and I managed to get him off me and jump in the car before he could recover from the shock of someone smaller and weaker overcoming him. Turns out his bulk was the result of too much time spent at the gym and even his muscles had muscles. He never contacted me again.On another occasion the guy that turned up for the meeting was not the person in the pic and was 20 years older. He turned a bit weird when I said I had to go as I had another meeting. Thankfully nothing happened but he certainly gave me the creeps. I reported him to the administrators of the site we met on (not here) but they did nothing.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have met quite a few women who have stretched the term "average" well beyond its meaning, but I can deal with that.What really pisses me is being stood up, just a gutless act that wastes huge amounts of my time.What is it with that ? A simple text, "sorry changed my mind" would do it.Is it a revenge thing ? Fucking hate it !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Can't say we've had any issues with people we've met. A few very angry and abusive forum posters and chat room idiots have caused us some pain though, but we gather that's par for the course...
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RHP User
13 years ago
No wonder its so friggin hard for the honest up front guys . These morons set the scene and everyone suffers. I state in my profile that I prefer to meet for a coffee first and if the vibes are positive well and good, if not, no harm done and we go our separate ways.. Who wants to be with someone without some sort of attraction on 'both sides ' ?Ladies' dont tar everyone with the same brush, we're not all wankers....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '50zcool'Have met quite a few women who have stretched the term "average" well beyond its meaning, but I can deal with that. What really pisses me is being stood up, just a gutless act that wastes huge amounts of my time. What is it with that ? A simple text, "sorry changed my mind" would do it. Is it a revenge thing ? Fucking hate it !Yeah......that is really rude. Sometimes, good old fashioned manners go a long way. I guess some women (and I do stress SOME as we're not all like that) feel they don't need to consider others simply because it's a lot easier for women to get picked up in sites like this than it is for guys not to be rejected.
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RHP User
13 years ago
To shyboy75 I had a similar experience. Corresponding with a woman on this site. Was my first meeting from this site, asked for a pic ...which was a little out of focus/blurred but seemed ok. Went to meet her at a quiet cafe.....and as i walked closer (slightly nervous because it was my first meeting) to her table realised she was a tranny....thought wtf! turned and left. Sent him/her a text about not being honest..and got an abusive one back. Don't see the point in lying because sooner or later if you meet there is no hiding. Am pretty careful now with who i meet.
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