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OK to text/chat but not voice call...
January 14 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I give good phone I'm told, always up for a chat. That said...it's easier to keep things at a superficial level via email/SMS. IRL and on the phone is when those really interesting conversations happen. loving having telephone conversations with some of my good friends lately. It's such an unmediated connection. No time or place for editing. I find myself excited that a particular person has said they will call, so maybe it is a bit anxiety provoking. In a good way! S x
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm with you on this Philosopherpoet. I know texting is all part of the screening process but ultimately I get bored of it . Speech just flows so much easier than text . The written word can be misinterpreted , lacking tone and innuendo , not to mention the odd typo . It was only since I started Internet Meeting that I had to learn all the text abbreviations . I am so tired of people freely using LOL to explain that their sentence is supposed to be humorous . You can learn more about a person by talking to them . Of course there can be risks involved with giving someone your phone number . I prefer the spontaneity of free speech .- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
For me, talking on the phone brings a huge amount of anxiety. But having said that, I tend to be quite shy at first and find text allows me to put my 'saucy' foot forward. Plus, given that people tend to be so busy, texting is easier as it can done at each persons leisure. But I do love hearing a sexy voice on the other end of the phone ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
But, I find talking on the phone is a bit of a difficult thing for me. I hate it. Generally I will talk in one or two word sentences, and that's with Mr Otori and people I've known my whole life (like my mum). So for someone I don't know to want to chat to me on the phone, it's a bit much and I'd rather just not take the call. The only people who actually call my phone are my bosses at work and usually that's to organise things. I can't just chat on the phone, there needs to be a specific purpose for the phone call. Say organising to meet out or something. As a first impressions thing, I don't think calling me would give ANYONE a good first impression so I prefer the text/email route as I get a chance to think about my answer first. Usually I freeze and need to think for a minute or two before answering a question about myself (dunno why, just always been like that) so texting is so much easier as it gives me thinking/process time. In person, I don't need that but for some weird ass reason talking to someone new on the phone is a rare form of torture for me LOL!
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
You are right on the money Philosopherpoet We are fast becoming a society that texts and emails our souls away there is a whole generation coming through now that has no face to face social skills whatsoever. Recently i was interviewing for a vacancy we had a work, the best written applicants in the flesh had no interpersonal skills whatsoever I was shocked!I admit that for me, texting is easier as i can do it quietly without the little people knowing what is going on, and arranging to speak in person means waiting until they are not around however i am not into a 1000 texts back and forth either i am more enclined to exchange a couple to arrange a meet then meet them in person because as you say a words on a phone screen dont really tell you a lot about a person.I think it is just a sad side effect of our society and technology that this is the way things go I think those in our age bracket are right on the cusp of it all so we dont really get it, the older generation probably dont do it and the younger generation dont know any other way.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've given them the right to use it.Actually I love discovering the voice of someone. ~smiles~I've never asked somone to not call me because I was not interested in hearing from them again. But I'd be prepared to do so if I ever felt uncomfortable receiving calls. I'm not one of these "hint droppers" that would continue to ignore calls in the hope they'd go away. I believe that's how 14 year olds deal with those situations.Inface when ever I hear someone say "I wish so n so would get the hint". I think 14 year old. Then revoke their Man Licence.
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Tantalising1
13 years ago
I agree, I actually had a message sent months ago by a RHP profile and we went back and forth by message with this person. Welll I was at work at the time (I own my own business so I can have RHP open) but still thought someone might walk in so when I was asked to talk on chat or msn, I said I couldn't do that at this stage but I'm happy to chat on the phone right away, as I don't have the time for back and forth chat. I mentioned I have done the chat thing and reliased I maybe talking to a huge hairy man instead of a sexy woman, for some reason straight after I said that I was blocked by this person!! I say bring on the old fashion phone call, I now will not talk to someone on msn chat anymore until I have spoken to them over the phone, and lets face it chat becomes much more interesting after you've spoken on the phone Mrs Tantalising1 xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
You can pick up so much more from it, then this texting. Ohh, I like chatting on here and I texting, but then when I am interested I like to hear the voice. However then again, because we are in the age of mistrusting everybody we don’t call because I could see the phone number couldn’t I, and then harass them or find out ??????? what????? I trust, I believe you get what you put out so I don’t lie I don’t abuse and that’s what I get back, so call me I say. I love voices and I love what you can do with it. I mean think, your voice can flirt, giggle and say it in a way with music in it, you can never write that never express that in just words on a computer or by texting. When I talk I can hear a men get hard lol ohh, yes I can, is this vibration I have when I want to. And you know what it is fun to hear the other react, in his voice in his sound he makes when you talk. This young generation don’t know what they are missing…….oh give me a voice any day any day I shout. But also I am a sucker for real deep male voices. Ohh no…..I can hear my pussy react when they talk to me……………..I told you a secret, I better go before I say more.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Wannabeyummymummy - I agree with you! However with my work I don't get alot of time to talk on the phone during the day, so txting is alot easier. I do not do computers well, the less I have to do with them the better, but that is to my disadvantage as today n tmz etc is a computer world.... But also what works for the individual - we are all Different n any form of communication is entirely up to them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A lot of the time texting and sexting is great it amuses entertains and excites.....but to talk in person is nerve racking but also a really good way of gauging who a person really is. If someone doesnt answer a call its a definate they dont want to talk to you and if they cant give me that at a time when I need it, thats not polite.As you said Yummy unfortunately employees fall for the written word and often the people with the best people skills and skills get overlooked by over inflated applications. Which is a real shame.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sms is far less confronting, it's easier to think in the pauses before and after sending or receiving a text without the long awkward silences. Unfortunately the emotional side is absent and texts can be interpreted incorrectly as the context of the other's voice isn't there to help you gauge the sender's true intent.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I save phone calls and face to face meets for people who seem like they'll really float my boat. Written messages are for general Q&A to see if there's any point to the next step :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
it freaks people out to voice chat....as they are much more open to being both manipulated, and creeped out...sexual text chat etc is not so scary with a stranger...but voice is...and hey,once you've given your number out.....whats stopping the person at the other end from calling you 24/7 if they desire? nothing. we have had to fend off drunken wankers at all hours of the night, and as a result....very rarely give our number out or invite telephone conversations....... i work nights and if my phone rings at 330am i will always firstly assume its a problem at home.....but when its some freakazoid gettn his rocks off......i get more than a bit pissed off with it......drunken guys behave like little boys much too often.
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RHP User
13 years ago
My stupid phone stopped taking calls a good 3 months ago, and yes I could go and get a new crappy phone but I love my smart phone and am determined to put up with it till I'm eligible for an upgrade. Yep I'm a tightass lol I must admit I kinda love it, I hate being accessible 24hrs a day and for someone who in person can't shut up I freeze up on phones! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sure voice is better, I have had some txts that make a mockery of the term sms, but in her case it's a matter of economics for the sender.Further as mentioned, its much easier to string a conversation along msg by msg when you are busy.I also quite like the fact that there is no immediate urgency to reply so some thought can be put into it, wether it's witty, sexy or problem solving. Or maybe I'm just a bit slow
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have 4 little boys running around which makes telephone conversations difficult and noisy haha (nothing more erotic than hearing mum, mum, wipe my bum! in the background lol). In saying that, my favourite lover calls me every morning around 7am when I am still in bed and we chat for about 20 minutes.....and this is the reason he IS my favourite lover. Perhaps the fact he has a lovely English accent has something to do with it as well hahaha. I think you build a much stronger rapport when you talk on the phone. I find, in general, that many men and women are shy and can't hold a conversation. Being a good conversationalist - especially on the phone - is quite an art form I think. Ask questions! Its the only way to find out about the real person, how they grew up, what went down with previous relationships, the things they find funny, the things you have in common, etc.
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RHP User
13 years ago
talking on the phone scary... I don't know why, I just do.I'm not against it completely, but I'd rather just meet and talk with people face-to-face.I have 3 young children running around and just like ella said above, it's not at all sexy to hear screaming children in the background!!!! I've also had to fend of drunken people calling and getting voicemail, have also been called a fake because I haven't picked up (because my children were right in the middle of a tantrum!!!!) Anyway.. I'm old fashioned and would love to talk to people in person so I can look them in the eye and make that connection :)xx Mrs C
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have never been a phone person and the only person I call is my mother. I prefer email & texting. I will speak on the phone I don't have an issue with that but I find speaking with strangers awkward... I would rather meet for a drink first.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dunno, I've had some delicious and sexy conversations over chat. Your imagination works hard to make it interesting for your partner, sure, but that's part of the pleasure for me. And perhaps I like the tension in postponing the moment of revealing voice, face, whatever ... ;). (Or maybe I'm just too hideous to show my real face.)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I nearly always want to speak on the phone before I meet someone.I am a very aural person and the tone of a voice,the words someone uses,the accent even, tells me whether or not I really want to meet that person.If a person's voice doesn't do it for me it doesn't mean I won't meet them but I am rarely wrong with those impressions. Emaling and texting can initially be interesting but it is really only when you meet in person that you know.
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RHP User
13 years ago
a bit on the phone. I'm clumsy when turned on at the best of times so verbal clumsiness comes naturally to me. I'm very impulsive and usually don't have a filtering system that works efficiently between my girlie bits, brains and mouth .... mmmm explains a lot I guess. I prefer to text/email/message because it makes me proof read (unless I'm not wearing my glasses then there's no point anyway). :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Reading this thread was really eye-opening. I'm a talker, and a listener - the sound of someone's voice, as much as what they say and how they say it, is really important to me... but its interesting to read that for some people that is quite difficult. I'll be taking that on board for sure, and not assume its that people have something to hide.The spoken word can be used (and abused) to create falsities just like text or email, although it takes a little more talent, perhaps. In the end, its all about meeting people in person, is it not?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' I've given them the right to use it.Actually I love discovering the voice of someone. ~smiles~I've never asked somone to not call me because I was not interested in hearing from them again. But I'd be prepared to do so if I ever felt uncomfortable receiving calls. I'm not one of these "hint droppers" that would continue to ignore calls in the hope they'd go away. I believe that's how 14 year olds deal with those situations.Inface when ever I hear someone say "I wish so n so would get the hint". I think 14 year old. Then revoke their Man Licence. it is so delightful to hear your words, LRE....they are the words of a MAN...i hate guys, who do the above mentioned behavior...isn't it so much easier, to say..."sorry, you are crowding me in...i need some space...i hope you understand...thank you..." ?that's it...it's done...i think often people try to avoid situations, conversations...because they deem them to be uncomfortable...maybe painful..whatever...but i think, that as far as most people go....it is not the content, or reply, that is upsetting....it is not having been given the respect, of being told honestly and truthfully...me thinks, anyhow...
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RHP User
13 years ago
because I have a nosy 16 year old daughter who wants to know everything find it easier to text. and I find that I also have an attitude and quite often give tone when im talking and don't realse it. so I seem very abrupt, people find it hard to take me and this would scare someone off quicker than a text.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Pilosopher_Poet:) Personally I hate text Chat in all it's form as others have said no emotion involved it's very sterile and misunderstandings can occur quite easily..There's no Personal Connection I prefer that immensely.. I actually Prefer the web /cam Chat. provided ground rules are followed as to what you're both expecting from it and you agree..It costs nothing but a few Gigs, We can see, hear eachother, it's hands free so we can chill chat and watch their reaction to us talking with them .Win Win I find.. Cheers Lu :)
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
Getting the girls to talk to each-other on the phone is the next step forward in the dating process. Although I spend a lot of time on the phone I can sympathize with those who find it difficult. I don't like or dislike connecting with people through the old jelly bone. Any call should be either scheduled or preceded with a text... IMO.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is easy for me because I was my whole life face to face with people. Growing up in a pub and now being a in my job I have to talk on the phone make deals, negotiate , people calm down and speak the whole day long. So all this is just a easy ride for me. I am as natural on the phone as in person.
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
If you are meaning as in this meeting playmates situation then YES it is most important to speak in person at least once before any face to face meeting takes place. Texting & emailing could mean anyone is at the keys. The two most important things to ensure a more successful meeting...see facial pics first & talk on phone!
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RHP User
13 years ago
So how come you've never called me danny?? Haha...got ya there!! I could sing you a lullaby...... ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sexting (i cant help but love that term!) is fun and arousing, phone calls are lovely, but nothing beats talking face-to-face and looking into each others eyes (the window into the soul)....well except maybe whispering sweet sexiness into their ear..... And yup, have to agree with the yummy mummies, definitely have to pick the right time when kids are not in ear shot.Mine have been known to spoil a sexy moment, goddammit!! Though not as embarrassing as when my daughter recently walked out of my bedroom holding my dildo saying "mummy whats this for?" I told her it was a torch....it was the first thing that popped in my head!! Any other mummies hearing me? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
... like to speak on the phone before a potential meet. For me it is the deciding factor. The voice, tone, demeanour and general telephone manner speaks volumes. I can usually ascertain if there is going to be a good connection/rapport between us. Yes, a telephone conversation is a must for me. KK xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think texting is great... iam busy , and so is everyone else Thats why phoning can be hard when iam driving/sleeping/bonking/ eating dinner etc etcHowever we use the text to line up a chat on phone time (for the usual reasons) thats good for everyone.Texting is also easier for newbies/unsure people/waiting till the partners home etc. as it gives you time to think about the question. Of course a proper phone call and chat to both partys (if your into couples)Is a great step in "getting to know people a little" both are great tools Bernie
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