M51 F46
OK I'm really going to get cained for this one...
April 17 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
"Mature and prolific" - I like it! . "Resigned and Cynical" - a fate I will do my best to avoid. . Inflexibility, stubborn-ness and a need to be right are, I believe, are "Ego-ic States". . It has been said "The hardest thing in life, is to be able to control your ego" (Ekart Tolle). . Earth Guide Only (e.g.o) as described by Wayne Dwyer is a good analysis of our need "Look Good" and subsequently "Not Look Bad" and the lenghts we go to achieve this. . Something to think about?
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Hanna_ybbn
15 years ago
I was married to a man 26 years my senior.He is a classic example of a completely ignorant baby boomer. No, I do not mean to make a general sweep there. Nor do I mean for it to be taken in a disrespectful manner at all.I think that this largely has to do with the generation thing. The problem is is that the generation thing is not quite how it used to be. There were at least bridges between the gaps in the past. These days, it's massive crevices separating those that 'were' and those that 'are'I found this in my career too. I've worked for organisations deeply ingrained in their tried and tested cultures, only to have to have led from the top to effect the change that the younger participants can offer. Smart business's those.My ex, who's 64, a professional pilot. Cannot relate to my 22 year old beach babe, tech head sister to save himself!!!He tears his hair out at the youngsters in the Aviation Industry coming up through the ranks and how much they differ from the way it was when he did it.Not clever! Why not have a positive impact on that industry and passion and involve yourself in understanding how best to make the 'kids' of today learn under today's economic, social and environmental structure?I personally think a lot of an 'old age' attitude comes back to laziness and a fear of change.I personally wish a whole range of people were a lot more open-minded....*sigh*Han
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RHP User
15 years ago
100% Cheers Nev.....hello Debs
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RHP User
15 years ago
God you are making me feel old as I guess I can be counted in the "moving up to their fifties"..( weeps uncontrollaby..)Id like to think Im still flexible in mind though .Actually , I know I am as I am often swayed in a good debate depending on the arguement. I know what you are saying though puppy. My mum actually gave me a fridge magnet when I turned 40 saying "If you haven't grown up by age 40 you dont have to." lol She knows me too well.
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RHP User
15 years ago
"I know what I like, and I like what I know, getting better in your wardrobe, stepping one beyond your show" Genesis - Selling England by the Pound. . Mrs P you touch on your "World (point of) View" and things You 'think' you know.... . I consider 'Knowing' like a Pie (redhot or other) cut into 8 slices. One slice is Things I know that I know, like I know how to drive a car and I know, that I know that. Another slice is Things that I know that I don't Know, like I don't know how to fix a jet engine and I know, that I don't know that. The remaining six slices are Things that I don't know that I don't know. Have no idea coz I did'nt know that I did'nt know. . That's where I'm busy these days chewing bits off, those other six pieces. Yumm! & Yikes! & Far-Out! & F**king Phenominal! & ... . Incidentally, years ago while whipping this lovely English lady's rump, my leather braided whip flew to pieces and unravelled to reveal a shiny cane inside.... So I guess I'll "Cane when I'm Abel" to coin a phrase.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It took me most of my twenties to grow out of having to be right all the time, no matter what. I'd like to think my late arrival to the state of mental flexibility means i'll get a few good years out of it before the decline back into childish obstinance.yup, i really do think it's a backward decline, thru the teenage years of having to be right, to being childlike and finding things really hard to grasp again, soiling your pants again is the next logical step, then onto not caring that you've soiled them lolxx sarah
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally, I try and expand my way of thinking each day in someway..... the eternal student of life. . .....and I have picked up many new tips from the younger contributors on these forums, very informative and educational. . When I read various posts, I usually consider how it impacts me, personally. My like or dislike of a topic is usually reflected in my response, if any. . By the time you reach the tender age of 52 soon to be 53, you have a pretty good idea of your likes and dislikes, and generally the confidence to voice your opinion. My tolerance of bullies of any sort has always been rather low and I have never been backwards in coming forward in letting them know, either here or in real life. Dont think that is an age thing, just my thing. . As the sands of life run through the hourglass......you do hone your ability to work out who is trying to blow smoke up your butt....how the lights and mirrors thingy work.....the genuine peeps from the pretenders.....the big stirrers....the all talk and no action ones...and make a conscious choice whether or not to put up with it or not. . I am happy to listens to others points of view, but if it is the total opposite of mine, they had better have fabulous debating and negotiating skills to sway my opinion :) Basically you discover, by trial and elimination, what works for you (men close to my age and area thanks) and have the confidence to stand by your decisions. . Past experience is usually a damn fine indicator of future performance
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RHP User
15 years ago
....nice post puppy
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RHP User
15 years ago
In my other identity I belong to an organisation that has mostly older male members (70's and 80's). I just love the old guys. They are so open to changes and new ways of doing things, new moral standards, everything. And remain gentlemen thru and thru. I hope I can be as flexible and open when I'm that old. xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
They seem to know it all, have all the answers. I was told once to learn by the mistakes that oithers have made as we do not have enough time to make all the mistakes ourselves. This may be true but lifes lessons are best learnt personaly or they tend not to have much relevence. Like many of the others have said, it is not an age-ist thing at all. Many younger people can be set in thier ways and not wish to accept that they may not be necessarily right, that thier ideas and views may be coloured by thier own experiences as well and that they are unwilling or unable to see beyond thier limited life circle. I tend to agree with Ruby Blossoms. When you do reach a more mature age, you know what you like and dont like. You know what you can and cant accept and you also have the confidence to voice your opinions and hang the consequences. As you already know, if it is an issue that is important to me, I will not back down, nor will I give in. Then it becomes a point of not so much being right but more that I am not wrong. It is all perspective...your right is different to mine as it is tempered by your experiences. Yes we can recognise inflexibility in others...but it is not restricted to age. Focus is your age, now while I could not live with her on a permanent basis...she is too messy and her kitchen rules are too inflexilble for me...I am sure she would go toe to toe with me on issues that were important to her. Likewise I do with my own mother. My teens that come and stay with me for however long teach me about compromise. They teach me about the resilience of youth and how strong the human mind and body actually is, not to mention the lessons on crap music. In return, I teach them that it is okay to be just themselves, that they are accepted. I hope....no I know, I give them the confidence to continue facing life. That it is not all thier fault.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm nearly 50 and I'm so clever that sometimes even I don't understand what it is that I am saying.It's a well established fact that the lowering testosterone levels make us grumpy old men... so you see.. it's not our fault. So... How about a sympathy root. I always feel happier when I'm rooting. :)HugsStalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm 52, and do struggle with some forms of modern tech,( i'm learning) but have always had an open mind for all things new, moreoften these days i see my friends growing older and turning into old fuddy duddy's with a totally different line of thought they had when they were younger, sad really, maby its' just me not growing up! My brother for instance, who is 54 is now the total opposite of what he was 30 yrs ago, he used to be the biggest player with the ladies back then, now he says he couldn't be bothered with sex at all and can't remember when he last had sex, friends who i grew up with riding big powerfull bikes are still stuck in the 70's and wouldn't have a bar of a modern bike! maby i'm different to the norm? my 20 yr old son who stills lives with me, (although i wish he would move out!! ) recons i'm the coolest OLD person he knows, still can't get into his music tho! but can appreciate it without saying it's a load of crap! I don't really know what we're supposed to behave like at this age but i just do what i want and like, one of my friends said the other day,( we were talking about sex, as you do), that there's no way he was going down on his, quote! (old woman!) Gaaud! he said! why would i want to do that? hasn't been used for years! wouldn't know whats down there now! Yet i still think it's one of the most enjoyable things about sex and female body! Ah well, to each there own i say, i don't try and change peoples minds, and wish others wouldn't try and change mine! I've been told that i ought to grow up! Funny! I thought i had!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have found myself recently becoming more openminded and more willing then ever before to consider differing view points than my own (I always saw myself as fairly openminded before, but everyone is capable of stubborn-headedness once in a while). I see this change as the result of my own recent life experiences, and I am happy to be gaining some new insights. So, I guess my input, as someone who is not yet pushing 50 but who is closer to middle age than to youth, is that I am hopeful that my mind is never set. I like the feeling of understanding and appreciating a different point of view, whether I completely agree with it or not. Have I found myself being inflexible at times? Yes. Do I rap my own knuckles when I realize it? Most definitely! Great post, and I don't think I have seen the cane weilded yet, so you might be ok on this one...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I hate that saying. I always answer with..... .....You are still alive so there for today is your day!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have had the privelege of working with people in their final years of life and with youngsters just getting a handle on what they want to do with their life.I have met some really groovy young minded vibrant 80 year olds and some dead self inhibited limited terrified of life 20 year olds.We are all but the sum of our experiences....and I do love observing them all, wondering what experiences made them that way. Wondering what insecurities they are protecting and what delights they are waiting for me to discover. Comparing them to myself wondering what similarities there may be.As Ruby said...by our tender ages you generally have met enough people to be able to pick a pain in the arse at a distance and....... if you're in a frivolous mood be able to have some fun with them.I do enjoy having my opinion challenged and being persuaded to see anothers viewpoint......and young Tony there seems to have just the right tact....but I do find it more and more difficult to tolerate rude racist self righteous overbearing ignorant fools. Does that make me an inflexible old chick ???
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ohhhhhh pups pups pups you norty boy what the heck did you expect that all the late 40 and 50 year olds as they stare defiantly at their seniors cards applications form were in someway going to come to their senses and see you had a point ..... you and your wife with an arse that looks like it should be in a Victorias Secrets catalogue .......she I bet doesnt have saggy boobs or a freaking saggy belly or a need for an eyebrow lift !!!!!!! All you are is a know it all cheeky pup who should know better than to bite the hands that pat you !!!!!! ( see I said it for you you lot you know who you are ). ............................................................................................. Come on now how could it be that as we get older that we get stuck in our ways seriously there is no evidence to suggest this ...... truly I mean Parents and their kids have been getting along and seeing eye to eye for years and young people and old people often hang out together ! I mean I completely get why that old guy in his Hyundia in front of me with his big hat on the back parcel ledge is travelling at 35 in a 60 zone .......and he understands why I am flashing him with my high beams and screaming at him while I text from my mobile phone to my Facebook account ! ............................................................................................. You are just a trouble maker ! old people are in no way fixed in there way and the older I get the more sure I am about that ! Brae ............... BTW anyone counted how long I have stayed exactly the same age ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I really have enjoyed reading all the responses here. Some new peeps that I haven't seen posting much either and I must say I hope these peeps post a lot more!I'm looking for a much more flexible RHP future where even though we might not agree, we will take each others opinions and see some merit that they come from someone who has witnessed different things to us and maybe, just maybe able to reshape what we thought was gospel even just a tiny little bit!Oh Stalky as our combined testosterone keeps falling maybe we'll just have to give up on the sex stuff and take up whittling wood or something?Oh Brae, after some very thoughtful reading through the posts it was fitting to have yours waiting for me at the end, as always you put a big smile on my face. Oh and you're spot on with your premonitions of Mrs Pup too ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Devo's hit of the 80's with their flower-pot hats... . Mrs P or Delicious Deb these "Overlapping Warm Wet Circles" sound eliptically groovy. . The Cane has a more 'stinging' effect so has to be used with care, as I'm not into brutalising women and it's more of an effect contrasted with the tickle of a feather between lashes. I'm sure you know the drill (Hitachi Wand in MistressT's case), Stanley - is the name of my power drill (Stanley Metabo) and his cousin 'Billy the grinder' (William Makita)...now that's gobbledygook, with emphasis on the 'gook' as Billy's dad was japanese.
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RHP User
15 years ago
no protests from us.... we recognize intelligence and respect when we see it......but seriously, just keep laughing. at yourself, and at others around you. take the piss whenever you can and allow others to take the piss out of you, but don't ever let it get you down. we don't, as life for us just gets better and better. being older means we will soon be on our own, and hey do we have some outrageous plans to fulfill. we think "fuck - it" lets have some fun! we have so much left to do still and it seems like times running out......quickly.... so no, unless you let yourself, you wont end up a 'grumpy old man'. be the one in the street who everyone waves to. be the one with a half dozen screaming and giggling grandkids chasing you 'round the yard...it works for me... so much so that they all want to come and stay this easter.... but we have our 'bike back and hope to be off on an adventure by friday arvo.. Byrons looking good if the weather holds.......
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