M45
Not getting many replies from woman why ??
February 19 2020
? Am I to direct about sex as I thought I could be direct as this is a sex site. And did not think I need to tell them I love them just to have sex as we are all here for the same thing yeh??????
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
5 years ago
Of god.. here we go again... yawn.
Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
A married guy looking for a shag on the side.....honest, yes, but there are many more on here and most of the women I know are looking for single men. RHP is an adult dating site, people use it for dating, fwb, hookups and shock horror.....relationships and even marriage in some cases. You may need to tweak your wording a little.
SpicyKale
5 years ago
Probably the number one question on here that gets covered over and over.... have a read of these recent threads
https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Why-is-a-quotno-thanksquot-so-hard-59850
https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Messages-that-are-read-and-no-reply-60585RHP User
5 years ago
You say you like honesty? That last paragraph is ridiculous 😂
non_such
5 years ago
maybe check your spelling.
RHP User
5 years ago
Women get inundated and also have lives outside of the site that keep them as busy as the next person, once they’ve replied to the ones they want to connect with maybe they don’t have time, or maybe they just don’t want to reply to you as quite often even a “no thanks” can be taken the wrong way.
Being direct is good though, your desires certainly won’t be everybody’s cup of tea but at least they know what you want and can’t complain that they were mislead. When you start pretending you want more and leading people on only to get want you want and leave you invite all sorts of negative attention.
Good luck 😊
Ms Phoenix.RHP User
5 years ago
If it is the number one thread on here then it is clearly saying something yeh.
We are not hearing woman say it actually all woman say they are flooded with replies so much they don't have too reply so the balance is not right then yeh so why would men bother when it is all geared to woman only and pay membership to get no replies yet woman don't have to be members and get flooded ???SpicyKale
5 years ago
Wilddog, it's not geared towards women, it's about the numbers! Do a search on the desktop version of women and couples online, then men. You'll get a bit of an idea of what you're up against. You've also got to understand that not everyone is looking for a weekly hookup, maybe only a few times a year in some cases. The place isn't an escort site!
RHP User
5 years ago
These stats will give you an idea what us Single men are up againstLadies just get spoiled with choice and guys are happy for any communication on here
Women seeking Men
629
Online Now
Women seeking Women
296
Online Now
Women seeking Couples
302
Online Now
Guys
Men seeking Men
374
Online Now
Men seeking Women
4345
Online Now
Men seeking Couples
2754
Online Now
Couples
Couples seeking Men
681
Online Now
Couples seeking Women
2270
Online NowSpicyKale
5 years ago
JohnyR 👍
Sawadee
5 years ago
That just about sums it up ? Numbers dont lie ?
SpicyKale
5 years ago
and 2995 couples seeking couples online now
That's where the numbers line up on what is still to a lot a swingers site.RHP User
5 years ago
Wilddogwog
you're gross yeh.
EarthQueen
5 years ago
Even if there was 100 women to 10 men I doubt you would have much success with that profile description. Honestly, it's pretty bad. It reads like looking for a free prostitute.
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
It's OK to say you love sex and all that jizz. Big deal! So does every other Tom, Dick and Harry out there! What I want to know is, what are you going to do, to actually get the woman to the stage of her removing her panties for you and having sex with you?
That only way you're going to get that without having a conversation, is to pay a prostitute. But then again you need to talk to her to negotiate costs. 😂
Ms FoxyMsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Maybe that is what you need to aim yourself towards. That way you both get your sexual needs met.
Ms Foxy
AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Surely a coincidence as Johnny has been popular today.....
And interesting handle by the OP
2 ducks in a row....
Back on Topic Annie....
OP. The stats show 7 men for every woman. Of those 7 men trying to get her attention, would she be quick off the mark to be interested in a zero pic profile?
Would she garnish more interest if said no pic profile is a married man? If she even opened the profile that is.
But have no doubt that men are successful in here. It requires a long campaign of getting things right. The right wording, the right pic, the right opening message, the right conversation tact. The right presentation when meeting. There a a lot to get right and an awful lot of small things that can derail the train as you speed down the slope towards the station
Mischeviouslad
5 years ago
I asked the lord “where do i begin with this one”
And the lord said....
Just walk away dude. It would be easier to hammer a nail in with your forehead than to get through to some people.
And so I did, right after posting this
* I didn't really ask the lord, because, I don’t have imaginary friends 🤪
MrKentia
5 years ago
If you want communication from women on RHP, just post on the forum. Lots of women will reply to you to tell you how much your profile is problematic and how they are in high-demand and its all about you being an issue.
It's all about some gender/society issues we have actually. It will not change. Probably, it will only get worse and end up like in Japan.
FredAndGinger2
5 years ago
You can remove from the stats of total interested women those who are here only for female-female attention and those that only meet at parties and events because the barrage of flirts and messages are overwhelming.
As Annie said - being a single guy on here requires everything about your profile and your behaviours to be perfect or else you'll be over looked.RHP User
5 years ago
Goose
RHP User
5 years ago
Best you just head on down to your local sex worker or plural Wilddogg......
missy_mo0
5 years ago
The opening paragraph of your profile is off putting for me. It’s passive aggressive with the “I’ll give you honesty” line. Are we children that need to be put in our place if we speak our minds? Or say something that doesn’t agree with you?
Libertine001
5 years ago
It's totally OK.
Out of 4345 men seeking Women I'm sure the OP might be around the 4340 mark for Men being chosen to reply to...
All good here..👍👍😂😂MrKentia
5 years ago
OP, be perfect! But don't forget to be yourself after that as well! Ahah for whatever that means!
True advice: don't take things here personally, you'll not survive. And no, you can't have a profile similar to women here. Imagine asking for big boobs etc. (like women asking for tall men), that will not be accepted by the opposite gender, you have to adapt and walk on a fine line. Women have their own issues too so don't feel it's just a challenge for men to be here and meet people.
Good luckRHP User
5 years ago
My single profile stats look something like this:-
Sent messages: 3165
Received messsges: 3075
Reply rate : 97%
My flirts:
Sent: 17
Received: 49
Reply rate: 288%...
Which is a bit weird because it counts your received flirts from other peoples initiation as a reply....
I’m no expert...but if your profile is genuinely a snapshot of you, and it’s exactly what people should expect to see from you as you sit talking to them over coffee...then your profile is perfect for you.
Mr Dragon
sweetnsensual72
5 years ago
No pic doesn’t help your cause either!
RHP User
5 years ago
When your comment gets deleted for mentioning sex workers 🤷🏽♀️
RHP User
5 years ago
OP
As a wise woman said once:
“Cant hear you talking with that pity dick in your mouth.....”RHP User
5 years ago
Well women aren't replying to your messages OP so logically you should try messaging dudes. We've seen the stats and established the fact that women aren't keen to message with you so it makes sense try something with a better probability of success.
Message some men OP, good luck, I'm rooting for you. Please let us know how it goes.SpicyKale
5 years ago
Nah PD, I'm into guys and there's no way in hell😉
RHP User
5 years ago
Read their profile. Too many girls and couples receive messages from men when they clearly state they are only looking for women or couples. Some people are only looking for play friends or friends with benefits. Not many women want to be made feel like an unpaid prostitute. Treat the women you pursue with respect and before asking for sex, ask them what they want.
LittleMissSTFU
5 years ago
Wilddog... We get bombarded on ALL dating sites..not just this one.. don't take it to heart if we miss your message or choose not to respond.
Personally if I get a message that just says "hi" or "hi, how are you"
I won't reply... Why? Because I have no interest in engaging in dry, boring conversation.
Blow my mind and I may just blow you 💁
Read our profiles..take something from our profile and use it in conversation as a ice breaker.
If we respond with "thanks but no thanks" don't attack us and get salty about it.
Hope that answers your question 🤯
T.
boobsandbusted
5 years ago
Poor little wild wog,fine quiet prolly thinking of another guest profile name to ask the same question another way , wonder if he is just into angry masturbation , lol
Mr b
badboyhere
5 years ago
I will simply say this....best to give up now and leave the site.
MsSuperFoxy
5 years ago
Why should the OP give up and leave this site for, when he has as much right to be here, just like you. 😛
Ms FoxyRHP User
5 years ago
There was a grammar topic in the forum you should probably read.
badboyhere
5 years ago
Foxxy
Yes you are correct he does have right to be here, just like me.
My point was after reading the OP’s profile, and his request on the forum, it is very unlikely he will have any responses from couples or ladies. I felt a little embarrassed as a male. There is quite a degrading tone to women in his writing. It is obvious that what he writes he thinks.
To the OP, do you actually believe what you have written in your profile? Perhaps that is the first place you should start.EarthQueen
5 years ago
Badboyhere
I like it when men call out other men for douchy behaviour. Would he really be missed? 😅RHP User
5 years ago
It probably doesn't help that the opening line says "laddies"
Using the plural of "lad" (a colloquial term for "boy" or "young man") I would suggest is not a great way to start off...
However I'm certainly no expert as this is the male half talking so I won't speak as to the number of things that could be off putting from reading your profile...however, there are a few things that I imagine would help if you are actively searching and initiating communication with the intent on deceiving your wife...with these tips you may have more luck, but the percentage of women interested will still be low.
1. Be incredibly attractive and/or unbelievably charismatic.
2. Be intelligent, witty, educated, well read and worldy to try and attract the broadest audience possible.
3. Have a lot of money.
4. Find a "Sugar Daddy" or specific website catering for what you are after, as even if you were to consider this purely a sex or hookup website...stating that you are actively deceiving a partner is probably going to put you pretty low down the list of desirable partners for most...even if you have ensured you have included the first three elements listed.
5. You can disregard the first two if you have more than "a lot" of money.
However the Sugar Daddy part still applies...
You're looking for something very specific when you approach someone when you're asking them to be a part of something dishonest...so you are going to only receive interest from a very small percentage of people from what is already a small percentage of people active on this site...so even if you do everything right in your profile and you are ridiculously attractive and alluring, then you still probably shouldn't expect many responses...
😉🤦♂️🙄RHP User
5 years ago
Ok, let’s break this down for you.
Just because we get a message does not mean we are obligated to send a reply. We do not owe you anything, and personally, if I answered every damned message I received, I would have no time to get to know the people who spark my interest.
Does every woman you say hello to in real life reply? Have you never been knocked back in real life?
Just deal with it and stop whining.
JugandDan
5 years ago
And here I was thinking it was a swingers site!
kle58
5 years ago
Zero pic - doesn't have to be a face, but something communicates your personality. But, you are married. Me, myself, I am fed up with married men on this site. Sort out your marriage or end it, quit living a lie. Sounds harsh, but gees, it's better than living a lie followed by the guilt trip.
RHP User
5 years ago
Just going to point out that rhp has already had issues with fake profiles to push men to to upgrade there accounts.
It would probably be easeir for guys if they could send messages the same as single girls instead of only being able to wink and get winks in return.
Just saying is allRHP User
5 years ago
Photos and validations might help🤣🤣🤣
RHP User
5 years ago
Profile is the key (obviously).
Correct grammer and spelling surely are basics?
Major turn off for me if someone can’t even achieve that in a basic profileRHP User
5 years ago
Single girls can't send messages as guests, can they?
RHP User
5 years ago
Gotta be a good looking rooster to get reply’s or either quirky with some class.. I’ll tell it straight because that’s how it is.
badboyhere
5 years ago
Just received a private message from this guy having a go at me for my comments in this post. There is an old saying to do with the heat in the kitchen, I’m sure you have heard it before.
RHP User
5 years ago
I don't search much for women but my profile also doesn't generate a lot of responses and I am a fit reasonably good looking single guy.
Don't feel bad, I think it is what it is on here.RHP User
5 years ago
Do you think women want to be approached by a “wild dog”?
You’re married
You can’t spell
You have no picture
Your description is grammatically incorrect
You’re being straight forward to the point of sterile and using generic phrases.
Your profile may as well be completely empty, there is nothing there at all remotely unique.
Just saying you want sex isn’t going to get you sex.
It’s a sex site for sure but the rules of the real world apply - supply and demand, so just chill.
Just like everything else in life if you make an effort you’ll be rewarded.RHP User
5 years ago
No photo. Married and cheating. Multiple spelling mistakes. Looking only for women younger than you. Offering no respect, friendship etc just a fuck. Not including guys.
Everyone’s after sex, sure, but there’s nothing there that builds trust or interest. There’s probably not that many single women on here looking to fuck those parameters.
Also, when I looked you’ve actually sent me a message! I imagine all those reasons are why I didn’t answer plus one more and this is the big one...
I don’t think you’re reading women’s profiles and looking for compatibility! I’ve updated my profile recently but when you messaged me it would have said:
NO married men unless your wife is involved
Looking for playfriends and FWB not NSA
Into kink
South coast and Sydney (you’re in Melbourne)
Why would you think our interests align 🤣
Plus, after your comments here you sound a bit like... well, a dickhead.
Cunnilingenius
5 years ago
For a better chance.
1. Profile pic.
2. Spelling and grammar.
3. Be respectful.
4. Be patient.
5. First message should be more than just “hey” or “hi”.
6. Only contact people who match.
hotcouple98
5 years ago
Any single man here needs to shine.and even then he'll struggle. You'll need pics, be willing to send private pics first, have a really engaging personality, body, face, and able to handle a ton of rejection or simply being ignored! If we or Mrs Hotcouple pops a message on here looking for a single male, we get over 100 options to choose from, easily! Why would we ever choose someone that hides their face, has a boring profile, thinks women or couples owe him a favour etc? If this is what you think want, a brothel is your option....
I am just shocked you somehow believe theres a power balance in the equation and you have a golden cock everyone salivates over....RHP User
5 years ago
Loving all the responses to this, they're all so correct. I can't understand why men keep asking this question. Perhaps if you bothered to read the responses to the previous threads with this exact question - or perhaps if you bothered to read the profiles of the women you're hitting on - you might gain some insight!
Women do not owe any man a reply. If a man can't respect the boundaries a woman sets in her profile (age, not cheating, has photos, whatever) then why the hell should we send a respectful reply?? I say "I'm looking for smart and sexy people" and yet I get messages from guys like you - can't spell to save your life and no photo. Too lazy to even tick the boxes to provide the basic information makes me think too damn lazy to have a conversation or make an effort in bed.
No we are not all here for the same thing, further evidence you don't bother to read profiles.
Here's a thought: stop spending your time complaining about why women in here have standards and won't screw you, and have a conversation with your wife about what isn't working instead?? Honesty my arse.RHP User
5 years ago
Start with putting some pictures lol
Jackolantern
5 years ago
I live in a small rural Victorian town,,there are next to know ladies online..tried ladies from different states still no replies,,do have photo up?
RHP User
5 years ago
Badboyhere it’s nice to see guys calling out others on their BS...
As for wild dog wog... why are you surprised by no responses.. do you really think that because women are on this site we must have low self respect and willing to hook up with anyone 🤷🏻♀️
I’m also unimpressed by how angry and disrespectful some guys on this site are because it’s not going their way... if that’s how you truly feel about women please feel free to avoid engaging with usRHP User
5 years ago
Wanting just a hookup from one person sounds like a Tinder or Grinder job. Grinder would actually be more successful because men seem to put less emotions into sex. I haven't met many women who can separate sex from emotion. Please correct me if I'm wrong. I know it isn't true of all people and is more of a stereotype.
RHP User
5 years ago
Wild Dog,
I can't see your profile generating any interest. It does scream zero respect for women.
You are also up against single men that have way more to offer.
Perhaps try to spark the interest of someone attached, to do that your profile will need help....
LetsFrolic
5 years ago
Love how you assume women reply. Whats even funnier is hoping one is actually genuine about meeting. Most seems are here to get you to pay so you can message then they go ghost. Its all a scam dude. Nobody is genuine anymore. They just toy with peolle for ego thrills or tease you so you sign up so the company makes money
RHP User
5 years ago
We have met genuine people, couples, single ladies and single men at meet and greets and puely through RHP. They do exist.
sensualcple2play
5 years ago
Well said sasswitches!
Couldn't have said it better!RHP User
5 years ago
Mate I love your profile
It even makes me look good.RHP User
5 years ago
Okay, to be honest, not many ladies want to just be a piece of meat with the chance of an angry wife hunting them down later....
Maybe you should add to your profile that you ‘can provide permission note from wife’....
Might just help 😂
3SM_Events
5 years ago
Until the single men start playing the game and nit being played for suckers they’re pretty much doomed to failure from the get go. You’ll have much more luck in the real world than online where the numbers are stacked so heavily in the womens favour. Guys unfortunately are a dime a dozen on here and get treated as such, although without them the whole site would crumble as they’re the people bankrolling the operation. And if you’re an average guy then the dice are loaded from the get go. I’ve been here over five years and from my observations most the women I know simply share the same seven guys amongst themselves. Only way to change the situation is to vote with your wallet.
RHP User
5 years ago
Yes there is something wrong with your profile.
It sucks.
Also are you really looking for laddies?? 😂RHP User
5 years ago
No photo. Change everything u have written. I wouldn't reply to you either. I'm ok with playing with married couples as they are both on the site together. But don't like married men getting on this site without there wife.
RHP User
5 years ago
"Hello sexy laddies" Are you looking for young Scotsmen? 😝
RHP User
5 years ago
3someparties
Which seven guys? I need to know so I can steer clear from them. Yuck.RHP User
5 years ago
Get me please....
Hahahaha ....
Mr dragon
Funtimes7077
5 years ago
My partner and I have sent various messages to single women and they haven't even opened the message. We understand we may not get a reply but to see that the messages have not even been read...we just don't get it.
Our messages we think are respectful and try to put the woman at ease that myself being the girlfriend is completely open to the experience and I don't get jealous when playing. None of them would know this though because no messages have been read.
We don't just have a short profile that says very little and we state we will open our album knowing we may not be to your liking.
We have a fully clothed full body shot of us BOTH as our profile pic which we don't think is off putting.
So ladies....please help us understand what WE may be doing wrong?
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