M47
Non visual attraction
April 16 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
You never really know until you meet somone.Recently I was contacted by a man whose profile had no photo and just a few words to interest me.His messages were uninspiring and speaking to him on the phone was batshit boring. He lived quite a few suburbs away but I agreed to meet him .On the day we were to meet, I had to cancel and sent a text message,'sorry mark I have to cancel'....no response, so I thought he was a bit peeved and ignoring me. A week passed and I saw that he was looking at my profile...he sent me a message...he had been there waiting....he hadn't received my text but he still wanted to meet. I felt terrible and agreed to meet him the next day.I had no idea what he loolked like but he recognised me.He was sooo lovely.We chatted for awhile and discovered that his nephew is my daughters ex boyfiend,she had told me about him,said she thought I would really like him and she was sooo right.The other thing he said 'By the way.my name is not Mark!' So Mark ,whover you are,ignore my message....lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sorry, I was distracted by your amazing hot body. *wipes up the drool*OK, absolutely. I tend to play my cards close to my chest about my brain capabilities, but it should be obvious from my profile that I can string a sentence together as well as have some type of sense of humour. I like profiles that give me a peek inside the person writing, I'm after something a bit more than a quick hello and a bang. Hanging out with someone with diametrically opposing ethical & moral views isn't going to work and really, I would like to know if you're any type of bigot before meeting.I have been turned off by people who had nothing to go with their pretty face, and the opposite has occured before as well. I've been turned onto people I otherwise wouldn't have been physically attracted to due to their wit, humour and views.It's all kind of a lucky dip though until you actually meet I find. It's all too easy to pretend to be something you're not when communicating via email.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Words are really important to me, written and spoken. They are a key ingredient in my attraction to someone (usually).I can be entirely enthralled by someone's written word and be convinced we're compatible based on their ability to write well...and then I meet them and it doesn't necessarily translate to the real world. The same has been true in reverse. I guess my point is that its okay to be turned on by words and the bio and the texts/emails...but meet sooner rather than later - words can be misleading; raw chemistry cannot.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Pictures can lie. In fact there are many many people on line who post pics that are not acurate at all. Some are old pics, body parts made to look the very best, some pics are not even of the person at all and a great misrepresentation. What you need to remember is that the on line scenario can be a game for many, they have no intention of ever meeting anyone and the fact that the men to women ratio is particularly high give many women an over inflated idea of thier own importance. Writing style is a little harder to try and hide though. Many on these forums have left for a while, came back and been recognised within posting a few comments just by thier style alone. This can also not be a true indication of character either as many are role playing even here. So many people in life get very adept at hiding thier true persona. It is only when you meet face to face that the real character will begin to shine through all the on line BS.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sometimes the face and the brain don't seem to go with each other. I constantly hear of how hard people find it to get some of their personality across via the written word in their profile, I dont get it to be honest. I have read some profiles where the written word can barely contain a larger than life personality that looks to be busting it's seams!!!!They can't help but spill out of their words, they're not overly long and I wouldnt call them verbose, yet in a few simple paragraphs you get a very clear picture of a personality not just a face and dick
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RHP User
14 years ago
i have found the same thing men get turned on by my words then when i show a pic they're never heard from again thats why i dont have a pic this time round Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with Hesione that You never really know until you meet someone.I am sure there are some things people write in there profile that will be a instant turn off. In general though the true person can only be judged in person where you get the full picture. That's why we prefer to meet people in person rather than doing it all online.I think visual atraction is important and its part of the package. That said we have met some atractive people that didn't have that bubly enthisiasim for life and you just cant pick up on any vibe about them that gets you going and run with it . basically a dull good looking person and we don't find that sexy.You have to feel good about being with them not just looking at them LOL.Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
...and you may loose the context of their meaning. | I'll shoot about 400 or so photos today and of those....about 20 will be used and every one finely tuned down to the last pixel. | That said, the spoken word is nearly flawless...it creates the final image in my mind of what I find attractive in someone regardless of what they may write or how well they may edit the pixels. If I were to loose one of the seven senses and had to choose...it would be sight as that is the most easily confused.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Sometimes the face and the brain don't seem to go with each other. I constantly hear of how hard people find it to get some of their personality across via the written word in their profile, I dont get it to be honest. I have read some profiles where the written word can barely contain a larger than life personality that looks to be busting it's seams!!!!They can't help but spill out of their words, they're not overly long and I wouldnt call them verbose, yet in a few simple paragraphs you get a very clear picture of a personality not just a face and dick couple of factors at play. i dont even consider the profiles that have the stock standard generic dribble like "just want to have fun" "horny as fuck" "service me now" (women's profiles) i also agree that too much fill is redundant. nice medium is a few short paragraphs, enough to elicit intrigue, coupled with a cheekish pic (not too cheeky, reserve that for your private galleries if you must). also i dont want to read an essay on everything you like and hate blah blah blah. just really narrows you down to a blip. i would rather find all that out in person, looking straight into you (i have spooky eyes haha).
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RHP User
14 years ago
Recently I had an OMG moment,found myself looking at a profile pic of a half naked young Brit comedian.I had seen the same shot when he was recently on ,I think,The Graham Norton Show....doubt that he had immigrated that week!
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Paradisepair
14 years ago
Creative, interesting photos combined with interesting & expressive profile. More is more for us.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with the posters above, however I will add a comment... doesn't' matter how gorgeous or good lucking you are, if I am not attracted to someone's mind I often find the whole sex thing pretty boring. Agree PBG, I have been attracted to the most unlikely people just because of how they write and the opinions they have expressed on these forums or on their profile. It isn't often that I think.... I have to met that person. :DxxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
I love your words! Filthy :-) Quoting 'WantedBabyDaddy' i have found the same thing men get turned on by my words then when i show a pic they're never heard from again thats why i dont have a pic this time round Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I find *minds* beautiful and the expression of them verbal and non verbal :) Cass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I met my ex-partner on another site 5 yrs ago and she refused to send a photo because she thought she was ugly. I chatted to her for three months b4 i got a pic, but by then i didnt care what she looked like and we have 2 great kids. Unfortunatly things havnt worked out but if it wasnt for NVA none of it whould have happened. The end...
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RHP User
14 years ago
... with the written word and even though I love to read (and appreciate) a well written profile it is the spirit of a person that draws me. A pleasing demeanour and the ability to make me smile will win me over every time. KK ff
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RHP User
14 years ago
... the "ff" got there! They were meant to be kisses :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I normaly invite the men to my hotmail side and chat. Ya shoot me I am only a guest at the moment. I can pick up a lot by chatting....must come from my job.... sometimes you talk only for a short while and there is nothing. And with others its so easy to connect. I have to say the once I chatted with and I can get a good vibe back I invite and have not been disapointed in any way. All the men I invite have been so lovely and sweet. I am a mind person...I love sexy talk and talk in particular..... it stimulates me a lot. And when someone cant chat I lose interrest. I mean really isnt this a type of flirting.....we did it before the "flirting in person now its done through chatting on line and thats the start of it all..... it works for me. For some men its a waste of time.....however for me as a woman its a nessesary tool to start the whole sexual dance. Yes I like to see a photo thats the next step.....some men look a bit dirty and have a beard I dont like that, then I say no. I have some on my little" harem' Thats what I call it, I will never have sex with we only exchange words.....and thats a stimulating tool for me we write to each other only. The mind my sexual organ, lol So, yes to your question non visual attraction is happening......wow and it is such a great feeling inside my vagina sometimes. Hahahha.....words just make it. Cheers Litonya
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