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No foreplay!!
April 12 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
For heaven's sake what ever has happened to people communicating what they like/dont like during sex? The poor bloke is not a mind reader. I would ask him if he likes going down on women and that more foreplay is needed. He told you about his issue, so tell him about yours! Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
have to ask :) And then you have to decide what you think of his answer.Despite all the 'talk' on here about skill, experience, prowess etc, not everyone is a good lover. Some people are just downright duds (though presumably redeemable in the right situation); some people have had little experience or a small range of experiences and need to be exposed and encouraged; sometimes the chemistry between two people is just off; some people are selfish and won't give, no matter what you ask for.I've been surprised by a couple of experiences where he thought it was great and I thought it was mind-numbingly boring, or where he could really talk the talk but was fairly average at walking the walk, so to speak.So talk ... and see how you go :)All the best x
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'woody_pusscat' For heaven's sake what ever has happened to people communicating what they like/dont like during sex? The poor bloke is not a mind reader. I would ask him if he likes going down on women and that more foreplay is needed. He told you about his issue, so tell him about yours! Pusscat xxx I agree with Pusscat...He spoke to you...why are you too afraid to speak to him? If you communicate how you feel then just maybe the sex will go through the roof! I heard a saying once and I love it..."Fears are so much more damaging and dangerous in our heads than what they are in real life"! Just talk to him...the only way this can go is up and better! Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Open communication is the key. The ladies before me have said it all, so next time you see him let him know you need a bit more.Good luckViking
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RHP User
14 years ago
Of course you want mutual pleasure and a little finger play is hardly fair.You do need to talk to him,maybe ask him what he likes and tell him what you like.There could be a number of reasons why he doesnt like or want to.Some men just think a penis in the vagina is enough,perhaps his previous lovers have never asked.,and he may be oblivious to your needs.He possibly doesnt even know how to begin.,or he has had a bad experience in the past. Sounds like you have been seeing each other for awhile and this conversation is way overdue. If you are uncertain about your vaginal health go see your gp ,even if it is just to confirm that everything is ok. Sometimes even though we may be confident assertive women in other areas of our lives, we can lack that same confidence in the bedroom. Good luck nookie 333 xHugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi all, thanks very much for taking the time to reply. I'm trying to take on on board what you're saying. I understand the need for communication but when the giving of pleasure is so one sided surely it's just not a case of him being completely oblivious to my needs.
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JAMMAR
14 years ago
You sound hot! he sound like a lucky man, he just need some direction (ok, instruction) Put yourself first for a change Enjoy
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RHP User
14 years ago
1/ You really shouldn't have to ask! If you have to ask for something as basic as some oral....any half decent lover would make sure you well looked after without you having to ask. 2/ He is a lazy little shit, and I bet you he knows he's getting away with it....and your letting him, and making excuses for him.3/ Implement rule No2; you don't I don't.4/ You have found the devil, aim a bit higher!The more I think about what you have written, the more I'm sure this bloke is just using you. Be proactive.I hope he comes to his senses...and if not you do!Best of luck to you.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
It depends...do you really want more or is he a habit.one girls dud is another ones studthere may be lots of reasons he is reluctant you will never know unless you ask...he may have been told he was not good at it...his last lover may not have liked it 'well anything is possible'...Sex is all about mutual satisfaction and you will continue to feel used if you don't tell him you are not happy with the way things are- unless of course he is that rare one that can read your mind...
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RHP User
14 years ago
who knows they mabey sanatey
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RHP User
14 years ago
I thnk everyone here has basically answered your question. Communication!! You tolerate his early ejaculation, you dress up for him, you like to make him feel desired and good physically by continually going down on him during sex and he still don't get the idea??? He didn't have an incident where he lost the use of his tounge as well What a waste of an awesome women!! The saddest part is you have to turn to your vibrator...I'm literally in tears. Nookie, most guys would walk hot coals to have a sex buddy like you so you got to let him know. I bet you're going to get heaps of offers now and he's going to lose you to some other lucky devil otherwise. I feel frustrated for you. Good luck! I love foreplay and giving oral, who doesn't?
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RHP User
14 years ago
To sexymylf & felonius, my thoughts exactly. I've decided that I'll dress up as a police woman next. I'm going to hand-cuff his hands behind is back, roll him over and then sit on his face. :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just tell him... Eat My Pussy
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RHP User
14 years ago
If your Cat goes Missing He is doing it WRONG
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'jahmon' I thnk everyone here has basically answered your question. Communication!! You tolerate his early ejaculation, you dress up for him, you like to make him feel desired and good physically by continually going down on him during sex and he still don't get the idea??? He didn't have an incident where he lost the use of his tounge as well What a waste of an awesome women!! The saddest part is you have to turn to your vibrator...I'm literally in tears. Nookie, most guys would walk hot coals to have a sex buddy like you so you got to let him know. I bet you're going to get heaps of offers now and he's going to lose you to some other lucky devil otherwise. I feel frustrated for you. Good luck! I love foreplay and giving oral, who doesn't? Jahmon, from your kind words alone you've made me feel more desired than I have in a while! You're damn right, he is a lucky guy! Thanks a heap for you feedback above. It's made my day :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' If your Cat goes Missing He is doing it WRONG You're hilarious!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sweetie, you shouldn't have to beg for it...just ask him why he doesn't do it. If he doesn't like it, fair enough, but then consider whether you should move on to someone more compatible with your own desires.And vibrators have their place...but they shouldn't be a replacement when there's a perfectly good alternative
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RHP User
14 years ago
Grab him by the ears, bury his face in your muff and yell, "EAT ME!!!"
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quick and to the point Just tell him... Eat My Pussy....... However If your Cat goes Missing He is doing it WRONG
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RHP User
14 years ago
...although at your age (assuming he is about the same) you might think these wouldn't be issues. He could be thinking that perhaps he doesn't really know or have the right technique...so how delightful to work on that together? It's not really about training or or a lack of anything...more about exploration. My mind races to warm chocolate trails that you draw on your body...suggestive and tastfully done. | Sometimes men are programmed too in all the wrong ways growing up....bad girls will but good girls don't and maybe he thinks he's treating you like "a lady". The lady in the parlor (jump over the kitchen) and head straight for the delicious animal in bed. | Sometimes you don't even have to talk...but I might just start there suggestively and make it less confrontational, nobody likes to feel they are inadequate and it sounds like you like him. Men and woman are not from different planets...we just need to learn to celebrate the differences instead of making them seem so obvious. | If all else fails, roll over and straddle his head when you are giving up yours!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Be sure to skin them first.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' Quick and to the point Just tell him... Eat My Pussy....... However If your Cat goes Missing He is doing it WRONG Bwhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'nookie333' I've decided that I'll dress up as a police woman next. I'm going to hand-cuff his hands behind is back, roll him over and then sit on his face. :-) hmm, now wouldn't that be rewarding him for bad behaviour?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sounds like a real catch........................?
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RHP User
14 years ago
...which is why I would be more inclined to use very soft hemp or silk ropes. | Quoting 'newkee'hmm, now wouldn't that be rewarding him for bad behaviour? | So come along quietly, officer...it's time to interrogate you about conduct unbecoming to an officer of the law. Blindfold optional....you're guilty and I will get at least a confession out of you regardless of how you may struggle. | I would say you're busted...but that's already in evidence.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i think forplay is over rated bend me over the bonet and fuck me....no kissing, no touching, no talking....just fucking Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'nookie333' To sexymylf & felonius, my thoughts exactly. I've decided that I'll dress up as a police woman next. I'm going to hand-cuff his hands behind is back, roll him over and then sit on his face. :-) You're amazing.....I think I'm in love You don't deserve this woman early ejaculator, no foreplayer or whatever your name is!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...which is why I would be more inclined to use very soft hemp or silk ropes. | Quoting 'newkee'hmm, now wouldn't that be rewarding him for bad behaviour? | So come along quietly, officer...it's time to interrogate you about conduct unbecoming to an officer of the law. Blindfold optional....you're guilty and I will get at least a confession out of you regardless of how you may struggle. | I would say you're busted...but that's already in evidence. I was thinking... "you have the right to remain naked. Anything you say had better be filthy. You have the right to perform Cunnilingus. If you do not know how to perform Cunnilingus, ask for instructions. Do you understand the rights I have just read to you? Good, now eat my pussy".
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RHP User
14 years ago
I was just quoting wowwow.....lolTwas not my words
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...which is why I would be more inclined to use very soft hemp or silk ropes. | Nah, nothing short of handcuffs I say as the op has suggested. Goes with her uniforms anyway. And no smelly remarks this time from funloving either? Funny about that. Some do, some dont I guess lmao. She prob decided in this case that the op didn't. To start fresh with each thread, and it really is best not to get another thread shut down due to the others. Same as each day is a new day type thing......it really is the best approach, otherwise it's known as trolling . Now back to the topic at hand, Nookie....you sound like a very sweet girl, and if he is being so overtly non-reciprocating, then for gods sake honey don't go rewarding his lazy arsed beahviour....what are you telling him with that? that its perfectly ok, it's not! Even a few of the boys have pointed that out to you........you may know the devil and be comfortable with him, but he also sounds WAAAAY too comfortable with you, to the point he doesn't have to make any effort whatsoever
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...which is why I would be more inclined to use very soft hemp or silk ropes. | Nah, nothing short of handcuffs I say as the op has suggested. Goes with her uniforms anyway. And no smelly remarks this time from funloving either? Funny about that. Some do, some dont I guess lmao. She prob decided in this case that the op didn't. cant let it go hey??? unless you know for sure she didnt have a smelly pussy....get over it!!!!! geez no one likes a troll Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some men have never been taught correctly and that is our fault ladies. We all let these men get away with a less than stellar performance and then whinge about it. There is no point in going on and on and on about what a slack fuck he is if you are prepared to just put up with it. Early ejaculation can be fixed by a little pill from the doctor (sometimes this can be a blessing though) You need to talk about these things. He may think that the few minutes fingering is fantastic foreplay. It is not that he is being lazy at all. I think he just does not know any better. You talk about it, you fix it or you find someone else.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...and would communicate that perfectly to him, maybe even make him laugh. Real people...they can even laugh and have fun during sex, you don't always have to have your porn-face on you know. | Quoting 'nookie333' "You have the right to remain naked.... | Anything you to say will feel good as I lower myself from above you. You have the right to speak to me, but only to tell me how much you love it...and if you cannot afford to do your damnedest, you'll be in for a trip to the Epworth. | Ask DGT about that last part....she's got a wicked mind.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wow and C.M glad to see cat ain;t got your tongues....cat in the hat maybe...xHugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
Cracking me up....the vision of you rolling him over and sitting on his face.......Go girl !! Yeahhh take that buddy....heheheheCheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'nookie333' Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...which is why I would be more inclined to use very soft hemp or silk ropes. | Quoting 'newkee'hmm, now wouldn't that be rewarding him for bad behaviour? | So come along quietly, officer...it's time to interrogate you about conduct unbecoming to an officer of the law. Blindfold optional....you're guilty and I will get at least a confession out of you regardless of how you may struggle. | I would say you're busted...but that's already in evidence. I was thinking... "you have the right to remain naked. Anything you say had better be filthy. You have the right to perform Cunnilingus. If you do not know how to perform Cunnilingus, ask for instructions. Do you understand the rights I have just read to you? Good, now eat my pussy". Putting him "under abreast" still sounds like a reward to me
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...which is why I would be more inclined to use very soft hemp or silk ropes. | Quoting 'newkee'hmm, now wouldn't that be rewarding him for bad behaviour? | So come along quietly, officer...it's time to interrogate you about conduct unbecoming to an officer of the law. Blindfold optional....you're guilty and I will get at least a confession out of you regardless of how you may struggle. | I would say you're busted...but that's already in evidence. That just brings an entire new way of thinking about internal investigation.Make sure you videotape it... for transparency of course
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T'Now back to the topic at hand, Nookie....you sound like a very sweet girl, and if he is being so overtly non-reciprocating, then for gods sake honey don't go rewarding his lazy arsed beahviour....what are you telling him with that? that its perfectly ok, it's not! Even a few of the boys have pointed that out to you........you may know the devil and be comfortable with him, but he also sounds WAAAAY too comfortable with you, to the point he doesn't have to make any effort whatsoever Agree with everything DGT, *but* I detect more than a hint of excitement in nookie's words about her upcoming scenario. This "punishment" might actually be her reward ;pNookie, if that still doesn't work, then consider it a roadie and find a devil you like better
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just tell him what you want and NEED
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RHP User
14 years ago
...do not have the right to remain silent, and whilst much more gentle I was trained at Guantanamo Bay. | Quoting 'newkee'That just brings an entire new way of thinking about internal investigation...make sure you videotape it, for transparency of course. | As the duly appointed investigator for Internal Standards and Ethics...I can assure you mine are very high and by the time we are through, will have explored more than a few less ethical practices. Perhaps by then you can come back and help this poor young lady in distress...until the you'll be tied up. | I won't tell...will you?
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RHP User
14 years ago
yes i agree some guys do cum quick but that's the other way around also girls can cum quick also but i believe in foreplay before actual penetration myself but least he told he had a incident when younger
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RHP User
14 years ago
What a dill your lover is, there is nothing better than the taste of a sweet women and the feel of her movement while you please her. I can not get enough of eating a women. Not only are you missing out, but he is also. Tell him what you want and grab his ears and steer him where you want him. If he cant get it right then, dump him. Shit I will fly over, get a great hotel and eat you until you beg me to stop. beat of luck Gary
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think some men just need some gentle encouragement......let him know what feels the best and how great it fee ls when he hits the right spot ... im all for open communication let him know your desires ..and if need be show him how you like to be touched let him watch you satisfy yourself while he watches it might make him want to jump ina nd have a go :) communication is the key goodluck :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'nookie333' I was thinking... "you have the right to remain naked. Anything you say had better be filthy. You have the right to perform Cunnilingus. If you do not know how to perform Cunnilingus, ask for instructions. Do you understand the rights I have just read to you? Good, now eat my pussy". That is the hottest thing anyone could ever do! Good luck with that one nookie. And if that doesn't work, shoot him!
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RHP User
14 years ago
The mans a dud and all the talk of communication and did I hear right he has even made an excuse for being a sparrow ( premature cummer ) lady find someone else please and do me a favor don't give him the power by thinking that there is something wrong with you ..you have done the right thing so relax and next time you see him call him a sparrow and tell him there are guys that want to lick my pussy for hrs and fuck him off... Max ..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Freshbeginning... You'd better book your flight!! Cheers :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
your starting to feel used because thats what is happening..... the answers simple really......NEXT.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
no foreplay is boring.Foreply is equall for both sexes. if he wants head he should give it as well. you don't have any strong odours coming from your vagina, as some women get a inbalance of yeasts etc that create as us blokles say a very off fishy smell. but hey if he keeps coming back tell him to get his act together and fucking start licking or fuck offff. i have beeen with one woman that always wanted a good licking but would not return favour. sorry but in my book lets share and be equals.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'relaxoxo38' your starting to feel used because thats what is happening..... the answers simple really......NEXT..... Regardless of his problems, your giving way too much for nothing in return.. No one invests so much time and effort into something that isn't going to pay off.. Unless your willing to make sure you get what you want...Sure communication is the key but if you don't get the answer you want, time to move on. I have a lover who is the same, I can barely touch him sometimes. but that isn't a problem for me.. I am very fortunate that he never leaves me feeling neglected.. I sometimes have to beg him to stop the oral and give the rest of me attention.. If you feel like you can't let him go, introduce him your toys.. Tie him up and make him watch so he knows exactly what you want and he can see how your body reacts.. then make him taste the delights of a satisfied pussy..If that doesn't make him give you what you need huni.. time to move on.. or do what I did.. find a girl who knows exactly what you need
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RHP User
14 years ago
This place never ceases to amaze me.....opportunists everywhere....lol Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well miss Nookie, you sound like you are an excellent catch for some lucky guy!! I'm in the dubious position of being married to a woman that is not into Oral Sex in any way shape or form!!!! So to hear of you spoiling your man kills me just a little more inside! I do enjoy taking a lady over the edge so to speak with a lovely bit of tongue teasing..........you and me could be like "Jack Sprat and his missus" :) Good luck with it all nookie, I know how it feels to have to ask for it..............if you do get it after asking it feels like they are doing it under sufference :( Best wishes with it all Jeeves...............at your service ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
i agree with jensman guys love that shit
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'relaxoxo38' your starting to feel used because thats what is happening..... the answers simple really......NEXT..... but now that it's been said (thanks relax ;)) I have to say I agree. Of course, that's only based on the bit of info revealed in this post ... but yep, he sounds like a taker not a giver.Time to move on maybe?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks for your input lil_bit_angelic. Yep, it's ridiculous when you can step away from the situation and realise how stupid I am for going back. You're right....NEXT! Hot profile pic btw....I could just about turn! ;-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just be honest with him and air your feelings otherwise it will fester more and more. It is better to be cruel to be kind.
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