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Newbies
June 15 2024
We are new to the scene and plan on attending either Between Friends or Shed 16 for our first foray into the swinging scene. We’re by no means young, but are exploring new avenues to our sex life.
We will be looking to just play with each other and watch others and would be happy for others to watch us as well
We thought this the best way to go for our first time, but we do want to involve 1 or more females either on the first visit if it happens to occur, or as the next step
We may end up getting to a soft swap but that’s not really on the agenda as yet. The introduction of a unicorn to our playtime is the fantasy we want to explore and we are both excited for this to happen.
Our questions we would like some input from you experienced swingers is
Between Friends or Shed 16 for a first experience ?
How prevalent are unicorns looking to play with couples ?
How do you tell a couple who might want to play that you’re not interested without coming across as rude ? Or is this a very normal scenario ?
Are these places usually a younger crowd or is it usually a mix of all ages ?
Best to try and connect with someone while having a drink prior to dressing down, go upstairs and start having sex or watching and wait to see what develops or just go with no expectations ?
Sorry for all the questions but any advice would be helpful to us
Thanks in advance
Comments
RHP User
4 months ago
From my experience, the closer the venue to the city, the better the experience . (I only have Sydney to compare).
Lot's of couples don't wish to jump onto everyones bones, so just let people know your boundaries and your desires.
From my experience, the clientele are more on the older side than the younger side. Younger people tend to pop in for an hour and then continue on their way. So there is a good mix at some times.
There's usually a few hangout areas, a few open areas and a few private areas. Just chill and talk in the hangout areas; feel free to look around and ask questions in the open areas and if you find what your looking for, as how to secure a private area.
Just relax and treat everyone with the same friendly manner you want others to treat you. You'll love it.
Best of luck
CachelessSociety
4 months ago
Like any experience in life the first time can be a very exciting, overwhelming and completely not what you expected. Everyone has fantasies about what they want and envisage how it should happen. Be clear with each other about what you want and hopefully this will be reflected in your communication with others.
We have been to Between Friends and Shed 16 many times, there are under 33/35 nights but apart from that we have found both venues to have a broad age range. If you are looking for a bar/lounge atmosphere where everyone is a bit more dressed up, we would recommend Between Friends.
Everyone has different experiences, attend different venues/parties and may get to know different groups/people, therefore asking how prevalent unicorns are is a very difficult question to answer. Short story long - we started off looking for single females/unicorns, eventually turned our attention to couples and we have had a lot more success.
Your approach to telling people you are not interested will most likely be different from online to in person. Again, no easy fix to this one, we are dealing with different people and personalities. Be open and honest and hopefully people will respect your decision.
We have always connected with people while clothes are on and drink in hand. You will know when everyone is feeling a connection/attraction and if you are hiding a nice surprise underneath (good bod, well endowed, sexy lingerie etc), then things may progress easier then you expected. As Meridian2151 said in the previous comment - just relax and treat everyone with the same friendly manner you want others to treat you.
Get amongst it, go to Between Friends and Shed 16, try other venues and parties, initiate conversations on RHP with potential matches, and hopefully you will find that female or couple you are seeking.
Enjoy!
OurfunSYDcouple
4 months ago
We are a SYD couple travelling to Melbourne this week and were asking people the same question.... Seems Between Friends is definitely a spot to check out... We had previously visited a place in the suburbs which was next to a mens sauna however this appears may have closed down and that place was HOT!!!
Melbcouple28
4 months ago
We are a mature couple (late 40s and early 50s) and tried Between Friends once, on MFM night. We found people kept to their small groups, it didn’t feel welcoming. This made it hard to walk up to a group and join in conversation. Got bored and left.
Tried WOW and had a wild night
Andrea_Sydney
4 months ago
On your question how to tell someone you don’t want to play with them without being rude: that’s exactly how you do it, without being rude. Normally people will start conversations somehow, they will not immediately ask the play question. So you could simply pop it into the chat early on “we are just playing just the two of us today.” then immediately move on to something else, for example ask how they are finding the location or another chit chat question. You exchange a couple of sentences, then wish them a great night and walk away. It’s all friendly and easy.
If you have someone asking directly if they can join you, you can simply say no thanks, it’s just us tonight. Normally that will be enough.
Normally everyone is pretty nice and respectful and people gauge pretty quickly if there’s no interest.
Enjoy your night 😊
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