M40
Newbie here saying hellooooooooooooooooo
May 03 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you want any chance of success you're going to have to pay for a membership so that you can message people. Flirts are generally a waste of time, a lot of women and couples don't even look at them. It's hard enough for single guys here, and you're attached (even though you state that you have permission from your partner you're still going to find it more difficult). There are lots and lots of single and attached men on here competing for the attention of much smaller numbers of single (and attached) women and couples, so you're at a disadvantage from the start. As you said though, your partner probably won't have too much trouble finding willing guys and couples. It's up to you if you want to put a cock pic on your profile, but if you do I'd suggest putting it in your private gallery. Unless you're a photographer and can take a good shot that doesn't just look like a sausage.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Shyguy, firstly welcome :) Secondly, I wouldn't be so hell bent on jumping in if your wife seems to be backing off. A few alarm bells went off when I read your intro and I hope it doesn't bite you in the arse. If you are both keen I think you should be starting together, not separate. If she says, you go first and then she doesn't, do you think she will hold it against you? I don't want to burst your balloon, you seem like a fun guy and hopefully I am incorrect about your wife but I would consider it a big risk if one of you is not ready. What people say and what people do is very different and I think if she is not ready to jump in head first with you, then I would not be jumping without her. Good luck though and I hope you guys have fun when it all happens.
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RHP User
12 years ago
for a while now and its hard to get out together as we have no support here in brissy and we can rarely get out @ the same time. She wants me to go first because she doesn't want do it then wait around until i have found someone (as i said it would take a while). We also have a couples account here to find couple when we are ready and have a had quiet a bit of interest already. the only problem is is this first initial encounter flying solo :). She is ready to jump in with me thats the point we just want to try it with complete strangers first :).
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RHP User
12 years ago
to those who have already replied i didnt think i would get replies so fast :) been very helpful so far. *Highfive* :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' Hi Shyguy, firstly welcome :) Secondly, I wouldn't be so hell bent on jumping in if your wife seems to be backing off. A few alarm bells went off when I read your intro and I hope it doesn't bite you in the arse. If you are both keen I think you should be starting together, not separate. If she says, you go first and then she doesn't, do you think she will hold it against you? I don't want to burst your balloon, you seem like a fun guy and hopefully I am incorrect about your wife but I would consider it a big risk if one of you is not ready. What people say and what people do is very different and I think if she is not ready to jump in head first with you, then I would not be jumping without her. Good luck though and I hope you guys have fun when it all happens. Its like, you go first then you do and all hell breaks loose. do soft play if you want to go alone, meet people and play in separate rooms but in the same house. Or have sex with each other with perhaps someone watching you both or another couple in the bed but they do their own things. nice and slow, and re affirm you are on the same page ever step of the way. dick pictures are not every ones cup of tea so maybe keep them in your PG and ask someone first if they want to see.don't show your face on your public gallery as it can be seen from outside the RHP site. From the general public that are not signed up. Just make sure you get a face picture back, if you don't then stop chatting to them and move on down the line. have fun cheers LadyT
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
YEP! sort of agree with what ralf74 said. DING DONG...I have alarm bells ringing in my ear... Your profile says "SINGLE", may I suggest change it to "in a relationship" or something along those lines first. It confuses people...even tho you do have in an open relationship on your profile...you don't want to mislead or confuse prospective meet ups now do you? And also you say you are 28 in your intro, yet on your profile it says 26. It appears one can't make their mind up on age - people don't like that OP. You have two things now that says something is suspicious to me. Maybe a third?? Your partner suggesting you go first...seems a little weird. So what is the exact issue...you or your partner have both decided to join the swinging scene - you first and not really her?? Who's decision was it?? You both don't know where to start?? You both want to have a threesome with a couple, without the other or with each other??....or are you just a young single man, who is really curious?? What is it exactly?? Oh...Flirts are boring as batshit! It's TRUE - I know! Having a paid membership, does have it's benefits.... ;) Foxy OP is that a cross next to your bed in one of your pics?? I can't tell what it is...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' YEP! sort of agree with what ralf74 said. DING DONG...I have alarm bells ringing in my ear... Your profile says "SINGLE", may I suggest change it to "in a relationship" or something along those lines first. It confuses people...even tho you do have in an open relationship on your profile...you don't want to mislead or confuse prospective meet ups now do you? And also you say you are 28 in your intro, yet on your profile it says 26. It appears one can't make their mind up on age - people don't like that OP. You have two things now that says something is suspicious to me. Maybe a third?? Your partner suggesting you go first...seems a little weird. So what is the exact issue...you or your partner have both decided to join the swinging scene - you first and not really her?? Who's decision was it?? You both don't know where to start?? You both want to have a threesome with a couple, without the other or with each other??....or are you just a young single man, who is really curious?? What is it exactly?? Oh...Flirts are boring as batshit! It's TRUE - I know! Having a paid membership, does have it's benefits.... ;) Foxy OP is that a cross next to your bed in one of your pics?? I can't tell what it is... I am 28 i was setting the account up on my phone and the scrolling for date was all kinds of messed up >_<. The only reason i havent changed it is because it locks the account i'll fix it up when i know i wont be on here for a few hours :P. There will be no hell breaking loose if i go first we have couple lined up already for the next step its just this 1st initial process we agreed to. we're both looking for FWB and maybe to introduce our FWB to each other for MMF and MFF fun. We're definatly on the same page here theres no doubt about that if i had any concerns i wouldnt be on here :). Thnx again for the advice
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RHP User
12 years ago
its a chin up bar >_< good spot
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madotara69
12 years ago
Though it is true, you probably would be best going back too the table and have the missus attend this business. She could get a root within an hour, but chances of you getting the interests based on this proposition will more than likely see you waiting for a few years, bahahahaha No seriously, are you sure she is not just saying "whatever, go for your life " Knowing the odds and chances are comforting? Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
im sure she's not saying "Whatever, you go first". i feel like im repeating myself having to convince you guys this :S. its hard for us as we have a toddler so the logistics of us both getting out the same night are hard, which is why we're offering to host as well. We want to experience everything possible which is why we are here.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
You changed it....Good man! That's better. Foxy Thanks for explaining...a cross bar...now I see. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' You changed it....Good man! That's better. Foxy Thanks for explaining...a cross bar...now I see. :) I changed it because that's what im after some help with fixing my profile :) Thankyou Shyguy
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RHP User
12 years ago
dangerous game you are playing introducing a FWB into the equation. You should listen to the women on this one, because we know how we think. I think it is relationship suicide to pick someone on your own. Scenario: After much discussion on what you think is a clean cut decision on you both finding someone and bring them home to meet the partner, you bring in said FWB and then all your partners insecurities are going to rise... what does he see in her, does he think she is hotter than me, is she better in bed than me, is she going to try and move in on my husband...see where I am going here? And more than likely she will not say a word. She may withdraw from the play or even worse, go ahead with it and create tension between you. Of course there are women who won't respond like this and your wife may be the exception. I think it is a better idea to hire a babysitter for the night and go to a swingers club then you can do as much or as little as you are both comfortable with. (I am assuming kids is why you can't get out together) Like I said, I may be completely wrong, I don't know you or your partner and I am not trying to talk you out of playing. I just think maybe the way you are going about it seems all sorts of wrong to me, especially being the first time, you need to work together every step of the way, your partner needs to be confident and comfortable in who you both select. I am just saying this for the sake of your marriage, it would be a shame for things to go belly up because you didn't handle it properly. It is all fun until someone gets hurt. Talk to some experienced couples about it and how they handled it :) That is the last I will say on it because I don't want to harp on about it and ruin your experience. Have fun xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
Welcome to RHP and the forums....... I'm with Ralf all the way on this one....... Hubby and I started swinging 1 year ago and had a great intro through our local couples club, we then discussed every aspect from how we felt ourselves to how we felt seeing each other play, this way as it went along, if we had uncertainties we were there to tell each other...... BTW swinging is usually determined as 'partners' playing, not solo.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Otherwise she may be waiting a while lmfao ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
to spend less time on-line and more time in real life. I meet approximately 2 - 3 couples a week on this (and another) site, but in real life at least 3 -5 females who are keen for adult fun in the same period. I have membership on this site, but not on the other. It doesn't seem to make a difference. So, i guess if you are keen on couples, this site is great. - Posted from rhpmobile
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