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New comers seeking experienced advise...

February 18 2016

Hi All, So I'm obviously fairly new to this and have come to it with a level of caution. I'm hoping more experienced members can shed some advise on a few items, which perhaps may help any other new comers in future: - What key aspects of an interaction can tell apart someone who is a troll vs. someone being genuine? (Asides from being paid and verified, which I assume may be the most obvious?) I say this because I've encountered 3 scenarios very early on which have me wondering, "what the!?" - I'll not mention names. 1) Engaged via flirts, messaged a few times, female preferred phone call. I guess being a newbie, in retrospect bad idea. I gave it and received a call from her, private number. The conversation very quickly moved into what I was looking for. Full of enthusiasm. Next day, radio silence and obviously blocked with no apparent reason. Question is, should I expect a reason or do I just accept that I'll be coming across such strange behavior? And when is it appropriate to hand out contact info such as mobile phone? 2) After quite a rather great back and forth, I was taken off RHP, onto email and sent a picture of what I recognized was an attempt to hijack through a malicious file. In future, should I only expect pictures from RHP private folders? Or is emailing common practice? Both these usernames remain online, quite frequently. I've been blocked by both and for some strange reason, they were both from the same "area" as me. I'm listed as Melbourne, not my specific suburb. Coincidence or something to be concerned about? Anyway... I'm here for the obvious reasons - just would appreciate perhaps some perspective of what to make of these events and whether it's something I should ignore or report as potential risk to others? Please feel free to even respond with "you're looking way to far into it" ... happy with whatever. Just figured I'd reach out! Cheers in advance to anyone who spends their time responding.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Hi OP, At some stage you are going to take things off line. It is common for this to go to Phones and Chat apps. So there is is always risk. You will have to accept that once you switch the medium the other person may change their mind. A lot of people have trouble say thanks but no thanks and leave you hanging wondering what you did wrong. Scammer can be found every where when you get sent a malicious file like that you should report it to RHP admin. They are keen to keep this site a safe place and if the evidence is good they will act upon it. RHP offers a few mediums for contact including instant chat which are great so there is no critical need to use thing like KIk as chat...I lot of people though prefer this as they can have it open with out the blush factor that a site like RHP can bring in. At the end of the day though you will have to take the relationship outside of RHP and that brings with it all the risk factor you have mentioned. Hang in there mate not every one is like the one you have mentioned. LC

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RHP User

10 years ago

Thanks for taking the time to respond @LoveCurvie - appreciate the info.

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Cazz61

10 years ago

My suggestion is you take this site (or any other ) with a pinch of salt, Never take it seriously or personally.There are heaps of wonderful ppl here. So just enjoy the ride and always follow your gut instinct.Caz :)

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RHP User

10 years ago

Well for messaging use KIK, as you don't have to give your number out. For phone calls we use skype, again you don't have to give your number out. The email issue I think is just plain bad luck, we have used email a few times with no issues, however your concerns regarding email are very serious and need reporting. As for the weird behavior we all suffer it I think, and there is no solution to it. Welcome to the grind.

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AnnieWhichway

10 years ago

Scenario 1 is us something we all experience at some stage. Unavoidable. People change their mind at the drop of a hat. They find another option or they are just not feeling it. Scenario 2. I keep all my communication in here till it goes to the phone for the meeting stage. No real reason to go to email or kik. If they insist. Beware. Dont fall for the " cant upload my photos. Give me your email and i will send them" routine. Its all experience and we never stop learning in here. Good luck.

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RHP User

10 years ago

You're doing better than most new guys in here..... You're getting a reply.... even if they're from fakes. So many complain they're not even getting a single reply. So.... Well done. Sort of 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

Get wise to the bullshit when they stop thinking with their cock. If it sounds too good to be true it probably is !

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RHP User

10 years ago

Thanks for sparing the time to share your knowledge and experiences, it's a great insight.

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RHP User

10 years ago

👍

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RHP User

10 years ago

Scenario 1: We all come across people who behave a little strangely and we've all been blocked without knowing why. I guess some people find it easier to hit the block button rather than have to face you and explain what it was exactly that made them change their mind. When is it appropriate to hand out contact info? Maybe use this site to chat to them a bit first and maybe move onto a messaging app where you don't need to give out your personal phone number, like kik, until you're both comfortable with direct verbal contact. Scenario 2: Refer to messaging app mentioned in Scenario 1.

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