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"NO means NO"..... but what does "stop that" mean?
February 02 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
It doesn't seem to matter what word I use, the guy has often kept going just a little to test how serious I am. I find I have to say the word VERY firmly, almost accompanied with a kick to the balls or a "will u fucking leave me alone". I think it's sad that a simple and gentle NO doesn't mean NO. If a guy said NO to me I'd certainly stop ! In fact, I seem to always ASK the guy if he is okay with doing something before I just go for it. I can think of a few times recently where I've said NO, or I don't like that, or Please Stop and the guy has kept going until I got more assertive. It shouldn't be up to me to be assertive when it comes stopping. A NO should suffice. (While I am sexually adventurous I do find that this can be mistaken for "anything goes" ... it doesn't !) I have definitely found the "Fuck off" and "Get the fuck out of my office" have both worked in the past but they are not statements I like to use or should need to use ! Cheers, Miss_Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am not in the legal world and i dont want to sound like a nark..My fear is, if you ignore the NO the next word could be RAPE .The fear of a 6foot by 4 foot cell with a room mate / cum future boyfriend named Ali or Jackson scares the f..k out of me..So NO means No to me.. Scary thought Stalky !
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ive been teaching my youngest 2 to ... let your YES mean YES and your NO mean NO.to avoid any confusion as you found in your case..hard to tell if no is meant noguess that in the heat of the moment that you would find yourself in the sea of bodies it wouldbe hard to gage the tone of someone's no..so i would be guessing it be the same as stop.As for a safety word...i havent had to have one..me thinks of... Time out..just in case you do get into a scrum..hahaxoxoxmumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
I take No to mean No without exception and I expect no less from everyone else. It is sad there are people who don't take No for an answer, it often makes lovely ladies like Miss Saturn more likely to say No in the first instance... even to a simple question like "How about a cup of coffee?" Oneday the punks who don't take No for an answer will ruin all the fun for the rest of us. In regards to your mass of heaving limbs, I think picking a more usefull safety word like "Monkey-claw" would be usefull as No may get lost in the "No don't stop".
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RHP User
16 years ago
In which case....No definately means NO..I got here first...u wait ur freeking turn!! I don't give a toss that you are about to give birth wait ur freekin TURN!!! If, on the other hand, we are talking about sex then theres not one iota of difference. Surprised myself even! An emphatic NO coupled with physical resistance should discourage someone from continuing with whatever it is they are doing to elicit this response. If however, the do not cease and desist as requested, I believe it is entirely within reason to take whatever action necessary to convey the seriousness of the situation. Speaking of serious....this is it for me...returning to the chasing laughs dept.... GI J
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol.... I often find myself saying "oh please don't do that"... and other variations on that theme.... and meaning very much the opposite... I always feel safe with who I'm with (otherwise I wouldn't be with them) so I don't always have a safe word... I have one special safeword that has personal significance to me... otherwise "red" works perfectly well...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Read the damn topic before shooting off your mouth myname!! Stop that? I do not believe would be my choice of words to stop someone entirely from what they are doing. Depending of course, on the accompanying actions and tone of voice. Actually, that can be said for just about anything....
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RHP User
16 years ago
thats a lie. i just fake a headache.hugs Earl
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RHP User
16 years ago
Don't Stop....
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RHP User
16 years ago
I find that "Don't" or "stop that"... quite often does not mean "No" and when I say "don't" or "stop that".... it can come out as a form of shocked expression in response to the moment... I mean if someone is whacking me hard enough with a riding crop.. I could say pretty much anything and not mean "No".... What I mean is.. should we be using "no" as the definitive "don't"... and "don't" as we see fit in the circumstances. I'm absolutely certain to completely stop whatever it is I am doing if someone says "no"... and that's no matter what other body language is involved... but that's just me... I wondered what other people do... as I often see gropers doing whatever, regardless of what people are saying. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
It depends entirely on the game your playing ." No" may be apart of the encouragement, especially if its "please...no". However that would usually be accompanied by encouraging movements and moans. A safe word...yes if thats the game for the evening. I would make sure he knew what that was and it would have been agreed to prior. A unique word not used every day. But if I really meant NO WAY (ooops nearly put JOSE! lol ) NO HOW! NO I DONT WANT TO DO THAT !!......It would be perfectly clear and accompanied by tone, vigorous thrashing and discouragement and possible physical injury. AND future play recinded till good behaviour served LOL not that i do such naughty things but in my fantasies thats how i would hehehe cheers miss b
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RHP User
16 years ago
dictionaries would probably work, lolEarl
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm with Kileetrev....How about: "don't......stop......don't....stop....don't..stop..don't..stop...don't stop..don't stop..."
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Bubbaj
16 years ago
woolworths, coles and aldi....LMAO!!! they are some fightin words!Just dont speak....walk awayor would biting the hand that touched u b a bit too much in saying no? :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
..time out and dictionaries... bwahahahahahha... huggies sweetpetite41
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RHP User
16 years ago
I recommend 'GRANDMA'. Picture yourself Stalky, wedged between a dozen hot bodies, a hand here, a tongue there a scruffed up dick where and someone says GRANDMA. Game over. PS - No offence Grandma's.... or that Mr Burns in a G-String guy. Actually there's another safe word. 'Mr Burns in a G String' Might take too long to say - by then I'm normally done and asleep.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Stalky, what kind of fucking parties do you go to dude !!! FFS yr a dirty bastard.....I love it. For the record....I allow My subs ONE safe word : MORE ! DoggyStyle. (*winks*)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Stalky you've got some unique safe words, wherever did you come up with those?! ROFL I like "Boisie" lolI think I see where you're coming from - say someone is groping you while you're having a good play with someone else, and you might turn and say "hey you, none of that" or "hey you, stop it" but if you're still smiling (perhaps from other attentions you're receiving) and not giving them a death stare then the person might not take the hint and take it as just a "hey, you're a cheeky bugger". (Particularly so if they offender is also someone new to sex parties and thinking it is just a free for all, no holes barred might they make that mistake - I've seen it happen at a couple of parties but it was always made quite clear very quickly when they didn't take the hint)
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol Boisie!! Yeah.. I can see I'll have to work on my safe words... hehe. I might change my safe word to "Next".. hehe. hehe.. groping me? Nah I don't remember ever complaining mate.. lolz...... more's the point, you're playing qith tow or three people and go to put your hand somewhere for somedat and discover there is already one there from off the wrestle mat! hehe. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well you will kill the mood if you start talking shopping!! LOL70% of communication is non verbal so a discussion of words can not cover the majority of communication. How the words are said and the body language give extra clues ciaoHermes
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RHP User
16 years ago
I go to the kind of party where you have to stand up and introduce yourself like this "Hi. My name is Stalky and I am a filthy slut. I first attended Filthy Sluts Anonymous bla bla bla...... " Believe me when I say that these meetings are not helping but it's a great way to make new friends... hehe. Hugs Stalky Quoting 'BadBadDog' Stalky, what kind of fucking parties do you go to dude !!! FFS yr a dirty bastard.....I love it. For the record....I allow My subs ONE safe word : MORE ! DoggyStyle. (*winks*)
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Almost_Ready
16 years ago
Sit & stay work oh & roll over is good... Followed by good dog & a little treat. Guess im easily pleased. Cheers Oldog
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RHP User
16 years ago
Short and tall of it is.....NO means No......there is No double Meaning...... Oh God ( allah jehovah buddah or your chosen Diety) is not a yes either....its an Exclamation.... as far as im awareMy safe Word is French Oranges...! .......as Bannana Cream Pie Did not seem to work that well lmao In My oppinion if you are going to play a game or intend to..... Each person must have a Full Understanding of the Rules.... and this is when you Usually work out the Safe Word to use.... I do not play any Game that i dont understand the Rules oF..... So Rugby Union is out for me pmsl.......... Nudie xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
In a group situation or even couple to couple if the lady says No it means No, or a gentle push away and certainly if my lady said No and a guy carried on, I would expect her partner or the host or the other males to intervene and put a stop to it. Even if it was carried on and the lady did start to enjoy there would be regrets afterwards. We have experianced in a party after 2-3 hours of playing with various others a persistant male kept asking her for more, she said No at least twice before I intervened and told the guy "SHE SAID NO" which was immediately supported by the host of the party. This should not happen in any swing situation, as far as we are concerned the unirversal rule is No means No....THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS. And equally important you treat someone elses partner the same as you would treat your partner. There is a good case in getting to know your playmates and not having sex with complete strangers.
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RHP User
16 years ago
No certainly means no... And to say a little further...if you ask your partner if she wants to do something ..unless she says yes....it means no.. a " whatever" is a NO......it saves a lot of angst later.... NO is NO and no explaination is ever needed..... That is what our hostess tells our patrons too. If someone asks again, we evict.. You never have to say NO 2 times...if you do ..you should let us know about it and we will evict.
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RHP User
16 years ago
you've pre-negotiated a safeword and discussed, and given consent, to what's about to unfold.Mercy is my safeword, followed quickly by "Fucking stop that you goddamn fucking arsehole!!!" if it isn't adhered too.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Old Dog (Friendly sniff....) One Dog to another Dog. Old fella....is it true what I have been hearing ?....secret, underground whisperings amongst the Dogs in the Hood.....that once we get past a certain age....(looks right and left before leaning in and whispering to Old Dog)....we can't learn any new tricks !!!!!! ????? Tell me it's not true man !! BadDogParanoia
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RHP User
16 years ago
OOO KKKAAYY Just need to clarify an earlier statment I made on this thread which was a JOKE. "MORE" is NOT and NEVER would be My or any other respectable Dom's safe word.... It WAS a JOKE....lol For anyone who didn't pick up on that.....I hope that clarifies, soothes, satisfies. DogContrite.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Smflao (lol.. spank my fukn lazy arse off) BadDog... well, I liked the idea of "More"..... hehe... have you been copping flack for that? Jeese people are sensitive on the subject of bdsm aren't they! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
As a couple we have (my husband and I) discussed what our safe words are and what we will say if we want to avoid a situation. Bascially when i want to leave and my husband doesn't get my death stare glances a "gentle" squeeze of his balls and a whispered "I WANT TO LEAVE NOW!" usually gets the message across. With the guys i have "met" i have never really had a problem with saying no and that not being respected. If someone gets a bit too touchy and feely and don't take the hint (when i say you are being a bit too touchy - feely) i usually do the "i'm going to the toilet" routine and do not come back. After two years of being in the "scene" if i am not happy with a situation and the person i am with does not get it (ie when i say "stop", or move away from them, etc) i leave. Although i think Miss Saturn has it right with the "fuck off" comment and if all else fails, that's the way to approach it.
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