M33
My first interaction through RHP
January 27 2024
To start with, I was talking to someone for a little while. It seemed to be going well, we were talking on a daily basis and then she wanted to meet up. I was looking forward to it as my first meet-up from RHP. Then a day before we were meant to meet up she went silent and then on the day of the meeting she told me she couldn't do it due to other commitments. However, she asked if I using a certain social media app I told her yes, we got each other's details and we spoke on the phone for an hour while she drove to Newcastle. We arranged to meet up again. Which again fell through. Then later that week out of the blue she sent me a picture of her face. On this particular app, you can send photos or video replies. Being Dyslexic sometimes I miss-read things (It's not fun) I pressed an option that I thought was "Send Video Reply". Then I saw the app say "Saved photo" I completely freaked out and deleted the photo straight away and correctly sent her a video reply. When she saw what happened she completely lost it and had a massive go at me. I tried to explain to her it was a complete accident and I chose the wrong options. I deeply apoligised for the mistake but the damage had been no second chances even though I asked her to give me a chance. She ignored me, and I never heard from her again. It was frustrating because I made such a stupid, naive mistake and she never gave me a chance to fully explain myself. In addition, what hurt was that I felt our connection was becoming stronger the more we got to know each other. What I learned from that experience is that make sure you triple-check before replying to someone sending you a photo.
All I can do is keep being me and see what happens.
Comments
RHP User
10 months ago
She was fucking you about and had no intention of meeting you.
Anything that works out has zero drama attached to it.
PerthVixen
10 months ago
You say that your “connection was getting stronger”, but it sounds like the two meets you arranged with her, were cancelled.
And that you only spoke on the phone for an hour? Once?
Online dating makes us question OUR validity as an option to others. But even after meeting, many people still believe that they don’t owe even basic manners to the other party. So you can’t attach ANY of your worth to this process or the outcome.
I’d like to suggest that the lesson here isn’t necessarily to triple-check the buttons on your phone (I feel for you though) . . . but to not ‘invest’ so early when chatting with potential dates/women.
Women now have a VERY different outlook to online dating, than men do. We no longer cling to the ‘green flags’, we actively look for the 🚩ones. Women are exhausted from having to constantly implement safety measures, just to go on a date.
So the very FIRST hint of poor behaviour, women now opt out. It’s a far happier life being a single woman even if we’re lonely some of the time . . . than it is to be dating and suffer yet another betrayal, ghost, abuse or assault.
FYI . . . The morning after pill costs $50 and a woman can only purchase it, after being asked 15 Q’s by a pharmacist’s assistant. A man can buy the pill without answering a single Q.
What ‘clean up’ do men have the morning after an accident (or worse?).
Women are tired of both these double standards.
NeoAndTrin
10 months ago
Sounds like a bullet dodged anyway.
nightingale8
10 months ago
Sorry to hear it. Tech and social media seem to have done funny things to women’s sense of trust, myself included. That’s not without reason of course. Sounds really unfortunate as these things happen. You seem to be going about it all in the right way, not getting too bitter because there are real lovely people about as well. Good luck
Alexis
10 months ago
I would say she was either:
A) Messing with you and had no intention of meeting up, just wanted the attention and validation online.
or
B) Curious to check this scene out but so completely new and spooked by it all that she really shouldn't be on RHP yet.
I think most likely option B from reading your story.
Like seriously, talking on the phone 2-3 times a week for two weeks before she even shares a picture of her face, on a different app?
If someone doesn't share a face pic with me within about the first 10 messages I'm not continuing the conversation.
I think she'd be better off trying her luck on Bumble on Tinder. That's not necessarily a bad thing though.RHP User
10 months ago
Lol, I did that on snapchat with an escort. She didn't care too much about it, although I just saving our messages no photos of her.
Anyway you were never going to have sex with that woman, she's clearly online only and has no intention to carry out a real life affair. There's a lot of girls and guys like that on these apps.
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