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Mind Games!!
September 22 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
the people you are meeting don't have the guts to be up front with you about their feelings after initial contact...your thoughts on the subject are spot on....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yeah well I've been playing mind games - he started it - they aren't really fun because i've actually fallen for him and he doesn't realised that I really like him and its starting to really hurt.
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RHP User
15 years ago
You didnt do anything wrong, if you were natural and just being yourself on your dates then thats all that you can do. Most guys would rather have their scrotum squashed than get back to a lady to say "thanks but your not what im really looking for". Silence is their way of moving on without hurting anybody's feelings. Good luck in the future!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
See.... people are rarely going to say "hey hon thanks it was nice but your not what I'm looking for" ... that's because most people don't really know what it is they are looking for. There's also the trophy hunters... you know... people who want to boost their own ego by playing a string of potential possibilities. Women are the best at that game, truth be known. I mean, if you're feeling down, there's nothing like being surrounded by potential suitors lobying for your attention... you know.. there's the guy who kindly fixes your broken widget, the dude that makes you laugh, the one who listens to your bleating.... and so on... all puppets on a single lady's string..... No duobt all these complicated relationships and friendships we surround ourselves with work both ways. We can only guess why you feel like you've been played, but for sure, nobody likes feeling like that! Stumbling along... I like to think we occasionally bump into people who are really peple who ought to be appreciated and thoswe treasures are worth all the effort right? I mena, you meet them by accident, not by design... so kick back and try to enjoy the ride. :p Lots of hugs Stalky
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have the same problem as you Giggly. I'd meet a guy, feel some sort of connection and never hear from them again...until, of course, they had found no-one better in the weeks or months after our meet and before they did contact me. If they have dissed me once they don't deserve a second chance. It's rude to assume we want you back guys!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Giggly you should right a song about it. Is my heart still broken. Oh thats right already done. No, seriously listen to the blokes on here they not speak with forked tongue. It could be the bloke does not have the guts to say thanks but no thanks or he might (drawing a long bow here) not want to hurt your feelings and thinks by saying nothing he is being easier on you. WRONG WRONG WRONG Just choc it up to experience and move onto the next. Heaps of fish in the ocean. Remember songs, Big Girls You are Beautiful, a whole lot of woman needs a whole lot more. Good Luck
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RHP User
15 years ago
but sadly....we all do it.although I really try hard not to.JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Especially Pictionary, and Boggle....oh and the Rubiks Cube is good in a pinch.........
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RHP User
15 years ago
and I am soooooooooo bad at this!! As others have said "it is easier to be silent than to hurt someones feelings. I find this to be true for myself! I don't like to tell a guy that I really wasn't into him or that I just needed a fuck and nothing more!! I have a few times told guys that it just wasn't there...only to be barraged by texts or messages demanding to know why! Sometimes it is nothing they have done at all...IT just isn't there. Sometimes it is them (ie: they are boring, nothing to talk about or shit in bed) and it's hard to explain that to someone!! Most of the time I just try to tell them that I am way too busy and hope they will go away. Nasty I know, but it is easier to hide than to hurt feelings. Just move on and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Giggly, at least you have been able to meet people which is a big plus for you and I can understand your frustration in the fact that people are not as nice second tme around. I am a middle aged overweight guy and I have been on this site and other sites before and I have been unable to meet anyone. I read profiles before I contact someone and if there is nothing in their profile that suggests that they would not meet me, I send them a message. My messages are largely ignored or I get a polite "thanks but no thanks" reply. I am sure it is because of my apperance. Profiles are written as if there are no overweight middle aged men on adult dating sites. I just wish that people would be honest and if they don't want to meet overweight people, they should say so in their profiles. Having said that, I get a lot of compliments from escorts that I visit in relation to my gentleness and respect and dignity with which I treat them. Stay as you are and don't change for anyone and good luck. Those idiots you have met are gutless, selfish and rude and you are better off without them. I maintain that I will never meet anyone on these sites and maybe I am better off if I don't.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Here's a mind game for you to mull over. I AM A LIAR, DON'T BELIEVE A WORD I SAY Have a few drinks and try to figure that one out without going round in circles
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RHP User
15 years ago
What happened to the good old way of doing things which was treat others as you wish to be treated.... Why play with peoples feelings etc, if your not interested be a a man about it say it and move on..... It hurts more being played than dealing with rejection any day.....
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RHP User
15 years ago
I know what u mean phoneixlady :) the few guys who have been honest with me.. will have my continued respect ! I truely do deal with honesty far more than lies!I do however simpathise with people tho..who have come forward and said "sorry not interested"..I had to recently.. and it's not easy.. but you know.. I'm proud of myself for doing it.. at least the guy now knows how I feel and isnt left hanging..wondering what he did wrong :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Good one Phoenixlady64. That is the very reason that I cancelled my membership. I can't stress enough how disappointed I am at the standard of people who are on adult dating sites. I would have thought they would appreciate good manners and politeness, no way in the world.
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