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Message Etiquette

March 15 2012

Can you offer some insight, i hear regularly about girls receiving short unimaginative messages from men on RHP and i read many requests to not bother if that is all they can come up with. If someone sends you a message that has clearly had time and effort put into it, but you are not interested in the person, is it good etiquette to reply "thanks but no thanks" or are you likely to simply ignore the message altogether to make your point.I just received a message from someone who i sent a message to 2 months ago, now originally i didn't hear back so i thought that contact wasn't interested, do you have so many messages it is hard to look at them all?, do you look at all your message??...if someone hasn't returned a message is it cool to send another??...If someone has gone to the effort to write you a message of some substance, should you make the effort to reply regardless of interest.....or should i eat some concrete and harden the f@#* up....lol

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  • playfulminx

    playfulminx

    14 years ago

    I have some months where I can tend to messages and other times I end up with an inbox full of messages from people who wrote months ago. I feel sad that some of those people have left RHP without getting a response. I have a set of templates I use to make responding easier but if someone has clearly written to me (as opposed to using a template themselves), I do my best to write a quick personalised response.Having said that.. I am specific about what I am looking for so I don't get a scary amount of messages. I think a single girl who is generically looking for a single guy is going to get so many messages that they seriously couldn't possibly respond to them all unless she doesn't have a life (job, family, hobby...)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I work for myself, so I have time to reply. I reply to every flirt, as tedious as that is sometimes, as the drop down choices are hopeless. I would just like to say Thanks for the flirt, and that’s it. Not flattery will get you everywhere. It does not get you anywhere.   I think the drop downs are designed by a fisherman to keep the fishes nibbling.   Messages that say I am hot what do you think of me, with NO FRICKING picture or NO Profile at all, like sure I wuv you and want to have your babies, cause I have no clue who the dona sperm will be.   Women get a ton of messages on here, if they have hot pictures well they get over run. I have not been on this site long enough to get to the stage of ohhh f off you twit to the guys that clearly do not read the profile before they post a message.   Give it time   So my advice before you send a message READ the profile When you get a message, answer it When you write a message, kiss principal , its not war and peace and its not the how are ya, For some reason that really gets up women’s hooters   Me I just say fine, how the heck are you? But then I am not into the deep and meaningful stuff.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I always try to answer at least once.....if I have said thank you but no thank you and the person persists I will probably ignore them...sometimes I think I should just ignore when the message is rude or just plain crude but then I tend to channel my inner nanna and will ever so politely tell them off!!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Thank you for your message, the idea of sending an articulate message is to stand out from the cave men, I understand the female to male ratio on here must be out of hand, but i was guessing that the majority of messages received would be of little substance so on the occasion you get no reply, it leaves me a little miffed.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    bump I do endeavour to get back to all my messages with some sort of response. It is as my "sister" playful suggested..it depends on life committments and time availability. I have just caught up after a Xmas rush (everyone gets horny on holidays) and was responding with a "sorry I havent responded sooner..."If someone has taken the time to right a lengthy and personable message I certainly feel obligated to send a personal note back...especially when accompanied by pics of "tall gorgeous intelligent men wanting wild No strings sex with an adultress". You do just have to treat it all as good fun and not worry too much. Minxy x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Thanks Minxy, i hear you, and don't worry i'm not taking it to heart, I was just trying to get a general feel for what would be considered good and bad etiquette. I certanily wouldn't expect a reply to a flirt, personally i do not bother sending them, but i hear screams of protest to short, rude messages so it stands to reason messages of substance could expect a reply either way???

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    There aint no rhyme nor reason when it comes to females, and there is no reasoning with them either.Felonius....took me years to learn that

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    to any message that is not offensive. The reality, however, ...well...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    If someone sends you a message that has clearly had time and effort put into it, but you are not interested in the person, is it good etiquette to reply "thanks but no thanks" or are you likely to simply ignore the message altogether to make your point? . No, that's rude. I always reply. Regardless. Eventually. In my defence, I get busy. But I always try to reply to a message. . I just received a message from someone who i sent a message to 2 months ago, now originally i didn't hear back so i thought that contact wasn't interested, do you have so many messages it is hard to look at them all? . Sometimes. If I get a great message that catches my attention and ticks my boxes, I'm far more inclined to reply quicker! I certainly get far more of those annoying one-liners though, and that's frustrating because I'm too damn nice not to reply in kind. .. This place can wear you down when you're a female seeking someone with substance, for want of a better word. I've recently had a break from RHP. I've realised every now and then I need one so I don't develop a superiority complex and/or enhance my bisexual tendencies by giving men a wide berth altogether! So messages may go unreplied to for a while. I read every message though. . Do you look at all of your messages?? . Yes. . ...if someone hasn't returned a message is it cool to send another??... . Yes. Or rather, I have no issue with that. Others might. . If someone has gone to the effort to write you a message of some substance, should you make the effort to reply regardless of interest.....or should i eat some concrete and harden the f@#* up....lol . Look, I believe it is courteous to reply. However I acknowledge that some people here, both men and women, are here for action. They have a set objective and they want to get it met. The more involved your objective, the more time you are prepared to spend to assist it in being met I suppose. . Flirty x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Thanks Flirtyi think i may give it a wide berth for a while soon as well, for fear of an inferiority complex.......lolThis place can wear you down when you're a female seeking someone with substance, for want of a better word. I've recently had a break from RHP. I've realised every now and then I need one so I don't develop a superiority complex and/or enhance my bisexual tendencies by giving men a wide berth altogether! So messages may go unreplied to for a while. I read every message though.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'bumpmeup'Thanks Flirty i think i may give it a wide berth for a while soon as well, for fear of an inferiority complex.......lol Unlikely

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I was over a girls place last time I was in perth (6 weeks ago).. and she was asking about RHP, knowing I am on it..   I helped her set up her account.. 24 hours later... 1678 hits 243 messages 187 flirts 52 requests for friends   you MAY have been one of them bumpme up.. but, dont expect a reply.. Sorry mate... no nastiness intended... she read one flirt that evening and hasnt read another one she read 50 odd messages... replied to 4 of them deleted all the friends requests ....   she is a working mother... she hasnt time to go through them all.. let alone answer... and.. two of the replies she sent?? turned out to be dramas in themselves..   She eventually found another playmate... and maybe all the others who sent her messaes are some of the fellas who complain on the forums.. I dont know.. it is a logistical nightmare..   Just my thoughts..   caveman

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    wow...that is off the hook.

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