Men with difficulties reaching climax
April 09 2022
Are there any other guys on here with the same problem and how did you do to get around this mental problem?
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ElectricDreamers
2 years ago
I'm not a guy so can't comment from experience but I have come across the issue both with 1 off and on-going partners.
#1 - try to loose any pressure to cum, easier said than done but it works wonders
#2 - really watch your grip when jacking off or just stroking yourself. You can accidentally train your cock to need to be throttled to get you there. Loosen the grip lighten the touch
#3 - abstain from cumming before your sex session. Obviously creates a build up
#4 - relax, enjoy, it's going to be ok... maybe it's a good thing you're the last man standing sometimes?
RHP User
2 years ago
I don't watch porn (very rare), and I'm only speculating here - but if you get off on your own while watching porn, it could be that your release is associated with porn-style sex. "Porn" will get you off, but sex with a "woman" will not. I saw a UK documentary on it, - 20 something's that should be enjoying sex with women actually prefer watching porn solo - and when they do have sex with women it doesn't compare / can't meet their needs that gets their brain firing. Slippery slope.
Feed the ducks less, and watch less porn perhaps?
FeistyFatty
2 years ago
I've read a similar post previously but your pics look familiar so maybe I was you 🤷
InTimMate
2 years ago
I started to lose it, maybe 10 years ago. Since then, I'm learning what works and what doesn't. It may be different for different people. Google told me that there are a range of health conditions that can affect it. The main thing for me is the intimacy, and enjoying what I do for her.
countrytouch82
2 years ago
I had similar issues before. Probably not the same issue as you, but I found finding the right position during intercourse to properly stimulate all the way to orgasm really difficult.
What seems to have helped me, is that I had always masturbated dry (ie, without lube). Over many years now I always use lube to masturbate (namely a slick silicon one). In any case, I've found it seems to be getting easier to orgasm from intercourse.
In any case even if it's not mental it can be physical as we're otherwise solely used to our hand applying on the right pressure point.
You can always test out the mental vs physical thing using a masturbation sleeve. Supposed to feel more like a vagina.
Also make sure you are fully relaxed and rested, I found any fatigue makes orgasm much more difficult with a partner.
Kt_Kcouple
2 years ago
Medication such as SSRIs (anti depressants) and alcohol can contribute to delayed ejaculation, as well as all the other psychological factors ppl have mentioned.
uchachin
2 years ago
Aren’t you having sex with the wrong gender? Have you thought about that?
RHP User
2 years ago
From a female perspective your not alone because your male. If I have stuff going through my head I get blocked and loose it right at that point. It’s worth reading up on his to train your mind to clear of everything relax and get outta your head. Less toys too 😂. Btw I’m female hope it’s ok to reply
RHP User
2 years ago
Just a thought. A lot of pressure is on the guys to delay their climax and focus on the partner. No guy likes to cum first and feel he's let the side down and be a disappointment.
So we're trained mentally to stop focusing on our own pleasure and to think about redecorating or the car needs fixing etc to prolong the ladies enjoyment.
I've found this pressure to 'last' sometimes takes away the enjoyment of the occasion and my ability to climax.
The ladies pleasure and sustainability of it is paramount.
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