M44
Men starting out on RHP, but struggle to getting people to chat with them?
June 13 2024
I do state again I am new to this field of dating website, I do find it fascinating, and definitely feel this is something I'd be into :D
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RHP User
5 months ago
I joined 5 months ago. The first month was a nightmare. As inwas questioning everything inwas doing and also I am verybself concious as well because there are so many good looking people on here and I was just trying to find my way to fit in. Women get 100s of message per day. I know because the women I have met with have shown me thier profiles. It is alot of stupid messages from men who have no interest in the person and are only looking to fuck. Inr3aoect that and its all good.....do what you do.
My vibe us making a friend, being social, chatting alot and getting to know someone as I feel when you sleep with someone you know the sex is better.
Yoh are going to send alot of messages and keep them friendly and respectful and still you won't get alot of replies. It is what itnis.
Good luck and write and erotic story of your adventures :)
Andrea_Sydney
5 months ago
It definitely is a numbers game. When you message someone, best to make it a nice message that references something in the lady’s profile so she can see you read it.
Doesn’t need to be long. But nice and personal. Don’t reference anything sexual in your first message. You can get to that pretty quickly afterwards.
Your profile is good. Nice clear photos, friendly bio.
Something I noticed: you don’t need to state you don’t want to have sex with men. I would delete that section completely. You won’t get gay men looking and responding to your profile. It’s understood and that sentence needlessly outs you as too much of a beginner. Beginner is fine! But too much of a beginner is a slight turn off. We don’t want to feel like we will start teaching stuff from scratch if that makes sense.
NeoAndTrin
5 months ago
Try going to events and swingers clubs. You'll have more interactions through those.
FeistyFatty
5 months ago
Welcome to RHP 💗
Get along ro some meet and greets, newbie nights etc. Always be yourself and HONEST.... In all things be respectful and patient 💞
MsSuperFoxy
5 months ago
Welcome to Hotel California. You can check in and never leave.
I dare say, most of us have all struggled starting off on this site.
It takes time, patience and an open mind.
As others stated, check out the events tab, email event organisers if you have too.
One thing, if you do attend, be respectful, use manners and don't be thirsty/creepy. Organisers and others don't like that. Go your first time with no expectations and just be your self.
I'm sure you'll do fine.
Ms Foxy
Lostyanumber
5 months ago
One option is to message an event organiser and introduce yourself and tell them that you are a newbie planning to come to the event. They might keep an eye out for you and introduce to others. When you get there you meet real people being themselves. Don't have big expectations just go with the flow.
RHP User
5 months ago
I asked this exact same question. It seems this is common for all new people here. I, myself, have been here for nearly 2 months and have messaged over 150+ people with a few fakes, a few thanks but no thanks(which is perfectly fine), a lot of read profile and message but no reply (Including party organisers) and just not read at all. Which you have to take into account that the people we are trying to contact have so many messages that it must be daunting. It was suggested that I just needed to be patient which rings true. While I haven't actually met anyone yet I still try to make contact even though I'm struggling to even think of what to write anymore. Take time to really read a profile start to finish and work out what message you want to write based on that. Good luck
RachWandered
5 months ago
Guys need to focus more on the women who have already shown interest rather than focusing on how they can meet more and more women.
We’re not pokies …
Comegetit699
5 months ago
Dw I been on here a few times and literally only met 2 ppl I think
eventhorizon
5 months ago
I can only speak from personal experience but part of the problem is a lot of the female profiles are fake. It doesn't take Einstein to figure it out. Also, the women are statistically spoilt for choice and can be choosy.
RHP User
4 months ago
I noticed you have no photo for your bio . It’s not just a RHP thing . It’s a case of just perseverance. I know that can be hard especially if one needs to forkout money for the premium experience. I’ve had to spice my profile and word out what I want so people will know
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