Men are from what planet??

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think it depends on the circmstances of the break up and how you felt about the person before hand. For me, it was a difficult break up because, whilst I understood the reasons - and accepted it was the right thing to do, a big part of me was still in love with her. (so it wasn't a situation of "NEXT..." very quickly for me) The length of time you are with someone will also play a part in how long it takes to move on...if you've been with someone for a long time then you don't just forget them overnight. But if you've made the break and are focussed on moving forward and rebuilding your life, then things will definately get easier...although it might take 3 to 6 months to really start getting over everything.Good luckAndrewxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Everyone is different amystery so I don't think you can't really generalise or assume most men would react the same. I have come across quite a few men in my travels who just can not seem to let go and are terrified of being hurt again. Although you know what they say... the best way of getting over someone is getting under someone. xxMeeks

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have an ex-girlfriend from many years ago, whom I do think about from time to time. She was the first woman I ever really loved, and ended up breaking my heart in a big way. I hadn't spoken to her in 15 years (she left me to travel the world, and lives in New Zealand), but managed to get in touch with her again shortly after I separated from my ex-wife. Even went over to NZ last year, and caught up with her. I'll always have time for her.My ex-wife, well, slightly different story. She left me because she wanted a "bad boy", and she got one in spades. I hardly spoke to her at all after the split, and was in the process of taking her to court so I could move back here with the kids to be amongst my family. Without going too much into it, her new relationship was very abusive - she's out now - and things came to a head for her back in March, when she called me to tell me to take the kids back to Melbourne. Since then, we've had a pretty decent relationship, and have probably become better friends than when we were married.....so much so that I'm actually looking forward to when she comes over to see the kids.To all the other ex-girlfriends (all 6 of them!)...MEH!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  to get a man out of my system and then the best way is to get back on another horse so to speak. But I have to say it is hard to give your heart to another person... BTW thanks to you guys who responded.. gives me heart!!! XXXXXX

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  if i met someone I dont carry that baggage.. just failing to understand!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I don’t think we are much different from women in this area. What is different is whether or not you wanted out or you want them back. In my opinion women think about breaking up with a guy for a long enough period that when it happens they are full accepted of the choice made and the guy is normally completely unaware and often taken by surprise. But we are all different for example one of my mates would not ever stay friends with any of his ex- partners he simple just can’t do it / whereas me I prefer to stay friends with my ex partners maybe not straight away but if I get dumped I take the Never call them Never e-mail and never talk about them approach I also would not go anywhere where they might be for a period of time I simply want it cut and dry ENDED FULL STOP. This way 6 month a year or whatever down the track there is no bad blood and we can normally remain friends.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think time is what is needed to move on..People say ex sex is hot..maybe true as long as there is no emotional hangover..why go through the brain torture and compare..she is an ex for a reason..enjoy the new love/lover no bindies on this grass..

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think it's pretty clear that women do not have the monopoly on broken hearts and lover's dreams. Maybe men are not as openly emotional... and maybe that's just by reason of social conditioning.I like the song "Dry your eyes mate" by the Streets.HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I guess we are all different hey.. that is what makes the world go around...

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  A lot depends on the circumstances surrounding the breakup. I have an ex from when I was 19 she contacted me not long after my divorce because she said she had always wondered how things would have been if we had stayed together. We tried the dating bit but there was a lot of water under the bridge since then, we are still good friends and keep regular contact. Have a couple of ex’s that I avoid thinking about and am sure they do the same about me. Also have a couple I often wonder where they are and how they are doing. I think if you have spent some time with someone and there was a connection between you its human nature to think about them especially when something happens or you go somewhere where it reminds you of them.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Unlike many guys i talk to, i always remember and cherish cool times and adventures with ex's The deeper the connection the more often i smile when i think of them :> Love doesnt turn off over nite, sometimes its always there, even if you never see them again. Unless they were "The bitch from hell"...bad bad girl...but sooo fun hahaha Bernie

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I still have a couple of ex's I think about from time to time...both from a few years ago. And I've also had a couple whom I'd rather forget about...and have done a pretty good job of doing so. Theres always a reason why they're now an "ex", but that still doesn't stop you from remembering the good times, and the good aspects of the ex. Asking yourself the "what if's", is also pretty standard for most people too I would imagine...But, I guess there are still the variables to consider when answering that question too (Was it a good relationship for the most part...how/why it ended...how many "next" people you have falling at your feet...)Because one thing is for sure, if it was a shitty relationship, that ended badly for reasons out of my control, and I have a couple of decent girls willing to help me into the next phase of my life, I may still think about the ex, but I damn sure won't lose sleep over her, nor be held back from moving forward...

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