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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think some men just like to keep all their options open. I am a very upfront kind of person, so I usually take people at face value so it can take me awhile to get the hint. So my motto is..... if you aren't sure just ask. I had a guy like this a while ago, always saying he was so keen, etc, etc but was always too busy with work to see me. What is up with that? Why do people want to keep other people on a string? For their own amusement? Anyway, I told him to fuck off so all good. That Italian temper just occasionally gets out when I least expect it. :) xxMeeks

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Perhaps he's just so busy with life and so overwhelmed with a bursting inbox that it's taking longer than you'd hope for him to get back to you. Keep smiling and send him another message - if he's a decent guy, I'm sure he'll respond...You're new here, right? The paragraph above is tongue in cheek, but it wasn't directed at you - your complaint is a common one by men on this site. I don't know the answer, but I wish you luck with it.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I checked out your profile - you said that "if I don't respond to one email, please don't send me a million emails". It sounds as though he's doing the same thing you do. Change your own practice and you may find that you also change your karma.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Maybe he is interested.... maybe he is not. Maybe he has other things on his mind besides the relationship with you at the moment. Nobody can say.... but why should he blow you off? Why put a red line though your name in his little book of fun? And anyway... are you really waiting around before moving to your next potential partner? That just seems so strange to me. Why impose all those expectations on someone you barely know? Why not meet people... have fun... and if the opportunity and the inclination arises... why not met again... out of the blue... and have more fun.... why try and force a relationship down someone's throat?HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Women do it as well. I have only ever had to tell one person point blank (after meeting) that I was definitely not interested in meeting up again and he could shove it up his arse (I wasn't very... err polite with that one). I think it's quite obvious though, there shouldn't be a need to say "I'm not interested" unless you're dealing with an emotional retard. The lack of contact, only replying to messages never initiating them, being busy every time you suggest meeting up. All these are great big indicators to "not interested" in an ongoing relationship. If I was asked directly if I wasn't interested then I'd be truthful but that hasn't happened thus far.It doesn't however mean that somewhere down the track they may not be interested in another go at bumping uglies so don't want to completely sever the contact.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  – I have taken the time to write my criteria on my profile. When l receive an email from someone who does not match what am looking for, l simply don’t respond. Ignorant naahh.... saving time huh huh... If some one doesn't respond to me - l get that its a bit like 2 + 2 aint it xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'stalky' And anyway... are you really waiting around before moving to your next potential partner? HugsStalky Nah.. I am actually hoping to have the old with the new and have them both at the same time. Double the fun! As for the old bloke I told him to fuck off...... he is not in my book of fun anymore :p xx Meeks

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  How do you know you have been on RHP too long.....your contacts list reads more like a sex menu. Easy... I put everyone under R for root - unless they have moved up to friend status. :P Sexyris25 if they don't reply, as the others have said, you just say NEXT. xx Meeka

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Some women are immature. Some men are fun to be with and some are a pain. WE are all different and the world would be a dull dreary place if we were all the same. Many times I have read forum topics about people not answering thier messages or responding to flirts or being stoodup. Well it happens to the best (and the worst) of us. Male and female alike. It is not only men that do this in fact I would suggest that the majority of women do as well. Soooooo all this angst because ONE person did not reply? Dare I suggest that if it is more than one guy, you may need to look at your approach as it has been my experience that men always answer my messages. l (maybe it is the full on naked pics I include with the message and the explicit description of what I would like to do to them with my mouth)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Funny how we get so hurt or insulted by an unanswered or a rejected message. ..i guess we are all human . Maybe some people just arent into others..Now where did i read that?

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  erotictouch4u

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'fionabee' ...it has been my experience that men always answer my messages. l (maybe it is the full on naked pics I include with the message and the explicit description of what I would like to do to them with my mouth) Yep...that might be it ET xox

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  devo694u2

  14 years ago

  you want to meet in person and test out that theroy. see who rejects who first

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'stalky' And anyway... are you really waiting around before moving to your next potential partner? HugsStalky Nah.. I am actually hoping to have the old with the new and have them both at the same time. Double the fun! As for the old bloke I told him to fuck off...... he is not in my book of fun anymore :p xx Meeks I agree with this. I have my age criteria, which is 40-55, I don't mind if younger reply or older, but the ones i am going to be interested in will be in that age group. I'm not into Toy boys or younger men, thats just me.Sometimes, yes they can be keeping their options open, not get a reply for a month to one you have sent then you suddenly get one, hey, they have been shopping around LOL. They could have had other things on the go at the time, who knows. or they just might have found someone else in the meantime, and have not been back on to give a polite sorry, not interested. If someone messaged me, and i replied, then they dodged about meeting with excuses, I would pretty much figure they are busy, and let it go. I would be pretty philisophical about it, well if they are always busy, they cannot be that interested, so no point flogging a dead horse so to speak, cos if they were really interested, they would make time. I guess this is offline as well, and pretty much ended my last relationship, he was always working or he was tired, sick w/e. It got to the point I saw him for 3 hours one day a week, I became blunt and fronted him about the time thing, he had told me once he had moved closer, we would spend more time together, but still all the excuses kept coming, he had to settle in, his landlady lost her job so he did not want to rock the boat by bringing anyone over as she was not in company mood(I found that odd as he did not live in the actual house but in a granny flat so away from the house, so we would not be in her space), I rang once, no answer, left a message, he told me when he rang he had been asleep, then the next day slipped up and said he had been watching a DVD with his l/lady, then it was with both the land lady and her partner, who he had never mentioned before, then i found him on dating sites, he was silly enough to click like on something that showed up on face book, so i fronted him, I got a whole lot of excuses like someone had hacked his p/word, he had not been on in months, yet i knew that was not true because he mentioned my messages to him that he had gotten, so I pulled the plug. The signs were there, obviously as he was looking on dating sites, he was looking for other things, his constant mentions of his land lady, and his lack of comittment and side stepping when i brought it up, I was not going to play games. Honesty is always the best policy, and well if i don't get a reply, on to the next one. if you don't fit my criteria, I'll keep looking, and I do not mean to offend anyone if i don't reply, and I am not offended when i don't get a reply, let's put it this way, a lot of men are put off by women with kids, and like it or not, you take on the woman(or man), you take on the kids, its a package deal. I hope i find someone genuine, in the meantime, I will keep,looking and hopefully have some much deserved fun along the way :D

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Why do the majority of women have to be so immature and take the non-adult approach of their way of saying not interested which is the ignorance of not even replying to a goddamn well written message? I mean how hard is it to message back and say something diplomatic and punchy while at the same time sparing what little feelings a guy has left, what little respect he has left for what was once considered the fairer sex? I say he was well within his rights love. You girls do it to us all the time.... welcome to equality you angry angry third waver. Suck it up princess.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Nick, I can understand, it does work both ways, both for men and women. It is a confidence thing for some, for some, due to past relationships, they have had their confidence knocked about quite badly and it takes a lot of guts to even get up the nerve to test the waters so to speak. I am even wary of saying sorry i am not interested in a polite way, just so not to offend. I have very little confidence left myself. I have picked the wrong men, and that has done some pretty harsh damage. I bit the bullet coming here, I'm a what you see is what you get person. I have two strikes against me for a starter, 1) I am no trim, cutesy type, and 2) i have kids. I've been through the wringer emotionally, the hardest was having a serial cheater for a husband, it knocked my confidence as a woman, I find it hard to trust, thats just the smaller issues LOL. So, to protect myself, I will be polite, but I will look at profiles, before i make an acceptable response, such as a yes i am interested, or no sorry.I suppose it comes down to what most would consdier polite ettiquite, and being kind with their responses :)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'Kiwi_fire' Nick, I can understand, it does work both ways, both for men and women. It is a confidence thing for some, for some, due to past relationships, they have had their confidence knocked about quite badly and it takes a lot of guts to even get up the nerve to test the waters so to speak. I am even wary of saying sorry i am not interested in a polite way, just so not to offend. I have very little confidence left myself. I have picked the wrong men, and that has done some pretty harsh damage. I bit the bullet coming here, I'm a what you see is what you get person. I have two strikes against me for a starter, 1) I am no trim, cutesy type, and 2) i have kids. I've been through the wringer emotionally, the hardest was having a serial cheater for a husband, it knocked my confidence as a woman, I find it hard to trust, thats just the smaller issues LOL. So, to protect myself, I will be polite, but I will look at profiles, before i make an acceptable response, such as a yes i am interested, or no sorry.I suppose it comes down to what most would consdier polite ettiquite, and being kind with their responses :) Kiwi, Bless you I hope you're treated well

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