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May be taking things to seriously
November 07 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Touches on self esteem, healthy boundaries, and suggests an answer to the oft moaned complaint "why do nice guys finish last", the answer being self sabotage. There are also some very good resources on the Internet, goggle is marvelous! Great idea, the resourse thread!
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RHP User
16 years ago
however, we also have people with character disorders (think psychopaths, but not so extreme), and I doubt they're going to go read self help books when they already think they're perfect, have an extremely exaggerated sense of entitlement (ie. expects to get Perrier Jouet, but can only afford VB and get really upset and doesn't understand why she/he can't get Perrier), take no responsibility for any of their misfortunes blaming everyone and eveything but themselves. They never learn from their mistakes (of course not, they're perfect, they didn't make the mistake, everyone else did), constantly whining about how EVERY person they've hooked up with has done them wrong, completely oblivious to the fact that they're the common denominator in all this. "I'm not the one who makes bad character judgements/choices, ALL men/women/donkies/guinea pigs are bastars/bitches/not nice, it's the truth since I always end up with them".
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey heymumma, that's great advice, and "ALL" of the guys and girls should follow it. I've been through the "Taking myself too seriously" stage, it lost me a few friendships with some very beautifuls girls and caused me no end of pain. I've read a few books like you've said and even taken a few self improvement courses over the years, and I think I'm a better person for it and find that wemon find me a lot more attractive these days. Look forward to seeing what others have to share with us on this topic,RHG
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RHP User
16 years ago
...I've read quite a few but my favourites are:Infinite Self by Stuart WildeCelestine Prophecy by James Redfield You can heal your life by Louise Hay Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is great I agree, and also Children are from Heaven is awesome!
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Well I allways Thought Men were from Penis, And Women were from Myer ?.....Thanks I will try and read those books, when i get off the depression medication...... Ermm sorry...I can't help myself ! Love and Peace ...Tam.
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RHP User
16 years ago
two books which began my life transformation wereThe Secret Life of the Unborn Child by Thomas Verny and John Kellyand You'll See It When You Believe It by Wayne Dyerand that is an interesting observation which you make Casavacheersjose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've got a library of self help books. The only help they've ever provided me is to help fill the bookshelf. Nope. The answer you seek is in the breeze. find a nice spot in the sun, close your eyes and breathe deeply... turn your head towards the breeze and concentrate on breathing.... breathe in.. breathe out. That's the essense of life. Everything else is unimportant. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
(warning, warnig, danger will robinson - generalisations may be made, if they don't apply to you, good, don't get upset, warning warning *waving arms thing*)of the people I know who are right into the self help book thing, I find they tend to wallow over the things that cause them pain, so they spiral down. Whenever i've browsed through those books, it seems many of them serve more as a way to set the reader up to buy more self-help books - almost like an unwritten pact between the authors to drive sales between each others readership.If it helps you, great - but I feel like there should be a government mandated smack on the chops after reading each one with an "now look at you life, and what you read - did this actually help" question following.
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RHP User
16 years ago
with most (but not all) of what you say...yes, the self-help books DO seem to encourage readers to buymore of that author's books...and those books do seem to be repetitious after a while...blah, blah, blah...but there is nothing wrong with analyzing (analysing??) your life to death (as you put it)...we are always seeking answers tothe "what if..." questions as well as the "if only..."by following possible scenarios and then discounting them, do we allow ourselves to grow andmove forward, stronger and more positive in our outlook...cheersand btw trish, perving on my butt too many times may see u incur spanking penalties...hehe...go straight to miss_honeys immediately, i do believe she has just the thing for u...gigglesJose...>>>...wonders now about ice cubes...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well, I think anonymous sex is also very soothing as meditation for taking my mind off trouble. Still concentrate on breathing... breathe in grunt.... and breathing out... "Oh god"... breathing in.... Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Trish...ask Jose to sway back and forth, just watch those butt cheeks, don't break eye contact....you are feeling sleepy... Psst Jose, finks we got her where we want her...what norty forts should we stick in her mind...oooo got one...repeat after me..I want a threesome with Missy and Jose...... heheheehe me is norty. xxMiss Honeyxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Tam,your a crack up..hahacasava..good point...there will always be so called perfect jerks..who ony think of themself..as in me myself and i,and a happy to stay that way...run for the hills...lol...desk troll ...redhotgun....kuriouskiwi...Jose...Thank you for your all valued perspectives.There's an adage..music sooths the savage beast...Im like you Trish, my earbuds are glued to my ears for not only enjoyment..As like you ive found music can alter our frame of mind..even termites eat faster to fast heavy music....lolMikle...ive read shogun..lol..thank you for you suggestion,i found.the way of life in fudal japan and other cultures facinatingGaz...Ive have sat in the sunshine facing it, then started the breathing in n out.....whilst listening to music..just before i read...then i crash out....lol....thank you.I always get a buzz from reading the forums as it provides many perspectives as well as a giggle, as some of you guys and gals can be so hunorous. xoxoxo heymumma
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I'm stressed or upset I like to listen to some music on my itunes, whether it's a song by The Fray or something a little more upbeat/fast paced.I have a few books that I've bought based on motivating yourself etc, but haven't actually got around to reading them in their entirety. Which, is because I lack motivation. It's not hard to read a book, I just tend to get a bit lazy sometimes.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I picked up "women who run with wolves" to fill in a cpl of hours on a flight. Thought it was the sequal to horse wisperer and would be an easy read. (geez..... was i wrong ) After rereading the first chapter. using a highlighter and taking notes, i finished the rest off over a period of time reflecting Awesome book, or maybe it was just right for that time in my life. Recommend it to all the boys ad girls...have given it as gifts to friends going thru metamorphisi (?es)...or just hey its tuesday read this lol do threesomes have to have....... only three ?? lol Miss b
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RHP User
16 years ago
I just have a good look at me sometimes....All about inner strength and the desire to be strong, positive and loving... I have never read a self help book... Ok ..off for a bike ride..ahhhh...so much do and see.. kisses sweetpetite41<<
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RHP User
16 years ago
a book by Anne Moir and David Jessel
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi All :) I have read a few books on self help but there are two statements that I remember in my day to day life and they are :- Life is always greener on the other side, Until you get there...... and :- There is always someone worse off then you (Its a fact) And lifes choices and life itself doesnt seam so hard all the time when i remember those :) Cyas Hihellogday :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lookin good sweetpetite !!! Dog Xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Tam i have a copy of the book if ya wanna borrow it? i read about 2pages then got bored shitless and havnt been back to it....love jemma365117082
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