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Matching your kink
January 20 2017
Slapping over and over during sex is different... the hard sting on sting, kinda puts me off a bit, but I get my mind back on track asap. I do like big soft hands too that's a huge plus, even though their hand hurts more than my butt. (I've tried it on myself). As long as there are breaks for recovery, it's ok.
I thought by me being the female and spanking hard the way I like it would give the guy permission to go all out and spank me just as hard, all in good fun. The mark is not going to scar... it's like a hickey... it goes away not matter how hard you suck as long as the skin I'm not broken. (Biting is another thing I hold back on, because in the moment it can get quite addictive 😳 so I don't do that anymore.)
Has anyone else been frustrated by their kinks and what they love to do, but haven't been able to find a match? Or have you had it before, but life happened and you and your partner parted? What are your desires and experiences?
- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am LOVE biting and being Bitten! But as you said it can leave a scar if you get carried away!
I have yet to be with someone who shares the same enjoyment with biting and all seem to think in weird then joke about Vampire fettish and how i have one? No... i just like to bite and be bitten!
- Posted from rhpmobile
Katkat
8 years ago
I love biting every part of a man's body & sucking till it leaves almost a hickey on the body 😉
I also love leaving my nail marks on the chest while I'm riding him hard, choking & slapping his face 😂 My previous FWB always leaves a hickey on my body parts specially on my thighs 🤤 miss those days.
I also like putting a choker lead on his neck 😂
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
8 years ago
But my biggest issue is if I found someone into it I would either a) freak out and chicken out. or b) find the reality is nothing like the fantasy !
In the meantime my mind boggles.RHP User
8 years ago
I like to bite.... but most guys are like noooo... so I don't 🙄 so unfulfilling... hahaha your comments have given me a chuckle 😂
- Posted from rhpmobileSawadee
8 years ago
i came to that conclusion after checking out ur profile.. So when ur ready... 😜
RHP User
8 years ago
Dam it that50zguy - your 57 - i says throw cation to the wind and go for it.
RHP User
8 years ago
you ask my 57 what - my apologies.
RHP User
8 years ago
I have found that matching my kink takes heaps of patience - it is something I like - it is fairly mainstream in the scheme of kink - but it is a small collection of those that like it.
Even then there are those that do it well and those that do it not so well.
I am learning the attitude of Patience is a Virtue.RHP User
8 years ago
You know I like detail 😎
You won't shock us, we're deviants remember?
😜😛
VillainNVixen
8 years ago
I love biting but i love being bitten even more. I would love it to be really hard but i cant have visible marks.
A previous partner and i used to try to find spots to bite hard that wouldnt be visible.
I also like the shaft of my cock being bitten. Not the head though, too sensitive.
The idea of biting and drawing blood totally turns me on but in reality i wouldnt want to hurt and disfigure someoneRHP User
8 years ago
Keen, I have no interest in being bitten but i do not begrudge your desire. The interesting thing here is that there are quite a few main stream kinks, and they all have their players. This make the people on our team minorities.
I am sure a better understanding of this would lead to less biased thoughts in general and therefore less conflict in debate.RHP User
8 years ago
When I'm in the right mood I love a guy holding my throat fairly hard whilst he's on top fucking me (not to the point of choking, I'm not into breath play), and just being quite dominant with me in general. Most of the guys I see seem too afraid to do the throat holding thing properly though, which I guess I can understand as it isn't something they've usually been asked to do before, and there can be the fear of hurting me or doing something wrong.
RHP User
8 years ago
I've only had 1 guy whom would slap my ass so hard his handprint was there for days and I loved it.
Unfortunately no one else compares!
FlyGirlC I'd gladly help you out 😉
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
8 years ago
I smack hard and accurate. One of the benefits of playing so much volleyball haha. Being bitten and biting always rather hot but I probably draw the line on so hard as to physically draw blood. That might be going that bite too far.
VillainNVixen
8 years ago
Is the issue that guys arent able to slap you as hard as you desire despite their best efforts or are they just not willing to try??
If its the second option im perplexed.RHP User
8 years ago
all my kinky sex life, Hornybitch6969!!
Although, I have recently found a guy to throw me around in the bedroom omg so gooooodddd maybe one day, he will spank me as hard as I want him to... and holds me so tight that I can't get out of his hold in playfights.... *swoon* hahahaha so much fun 😈
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
8 years ago
@Veenus_Rising
Had that done to me a decade ago by my ex, I didn't know what he was doing at the time, I got so anxious in the moment I thought it was choking me but it wasn't...I know what you're talking about and I remember the danger, kind of heightened the experience a little bit, but not something I'd ask for.
- Posted from rhpmobileRHP User
8 years ago
This of recent times I find very hard to do!
Aren't we on these site's for that purpose!
And still I get questions like....
So! What do you hope to find here!
Read my profile! Is usually what first comes to mind! And yes! I had read yours and for eg: looking for NY soulmate! Is what i read in theirs!
And most often they so stress not interested in one night stands!!!
So! After learning my lesson years ago and the convos ended with me looking like a freak!
Yes! You quickly learn to find out what works for you and what doesn't!
Last 3 yrs, I have found that I ask the right questions or even with most girls describing with as much emotion a experience had! More often then not, I would get a response such as " well, what are you doing later!!!"
As I find most kinks aren't easy to match but to introduce with someone who has expressed interest!
I'm at that point where you just do it during sex and gauge by their reactions!
If you are confident and knowing its not long b4 these " kinks" are just like introducing or trying a different sexual position!
Like girls in days of old that stressed they don't like anal!!!!
Well!!!
Like I said! I must be very naïve and!!!!
I'm now wanting myself to experience those mind blowing orgasms I see my partners thoroughly enjoy from anal play!
But I'm not gay!!! Hahaha
- Posted from rhpmobileVillainNVixen
8 years ago
Great topic but not many willing to spell out their kinks.
Thanks to those that did ☺👍
Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
I label myself a sadomasochist, I like to give and receive. I love to push my partner to her limits, I watch her trying to cope with the pain. Sometimes she'll cry out, sometimes she'll keep quiet, but tears will flow. She pushes herself for me because she knows I love to she her this way, pushed to the brink. Finally she'll give in and float away in a fantasy world inside her head. This is where she's passed the stag of using a safe word to stop, she's on a massive endorphin rush and is high. By this time my bodies fulled with adrenaline and my hearts thumping, I'm on an energy high, my cock's throbbing hard and dribbling pre-cum. I stop because I know I have to, she can't communicate to let me know. For this on my girl I use floggers, paddles, canes and needles. The masochist side of me I call edge play where I push my body to it's limit of endurance and hopefully beyond. Just like an adrenaline sports junky gets their high from the amazing risks they take, I get my high from pushing my pain barrier. So far I've used needles, hooks and scalpels. I don't use drugs or drink alcohol but I can be on a high from this for a couple of days. Sex is primal and raw. It's forced, it's fight to top, to take control. We slap, we choke, we scratch and bite, we struggle and pin, we conquer and we fuck, that's what I like. I like to have my heart racing and know I had to fight for what I've won.
KC72
kinky_and_bi
8 years ago
I'm sure I'm not alone in having multiple kinks turn me on, and I've found it impossible to find a person that clicks with you with all the different kinks. For example, although I don't like pain, it really turns me on having my wife, as someone that loves me dearly, cane me hard. However, one of my other kinks is to be locked in cuffs and chains and to play outdoors, something that she doesn't do (sun allergy). Yet another one is to be submissive to a gentle male Dom and be used as his sex toy. I'm fortunate enough to be part of an open relationship where I am free to explore my other kinks with different people, so this works. It's kind of like having a different specialist for different health issues :)
RHP User
8 years ago
My wife likes to slap the just for fun while getting fucked. Sometimes it makes the guy fuck her faster. She also loves to make nail marks on the chest particularly when she is doing cowgirl or missionary. She enjoys spanking and getting spanked too.
I love spanking a lot. When I am with a woman with a sexy waist I love pinching her naval and tummy until she screams and asks me stop. My personal favorites are pulling the woman's hair and biting everywhere
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