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Many people think BDSM is all about pain....

April 30 2024

Many people think BDSM is all about pain. It doesn’t have to be. It’s all about giving over control and trust. There are differences between pain and pleasure. It doesn’t have to be all whips and chains as there’s plenty of room in a healthy D/s relationship for laughter, and in fact all emotions.

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Sawadee
5 months ago
BDSM has never been a thing for me. But the way you suggested made me think . So yes , l believe there must be room for some fun and laughter with a little bit of bdsm.. All in the game.. 😊
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Obi1kenietzsche
5 months ago
And THAT is the difference between a genuine “Dom” and a fuck-boy “Dum”.
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FeistyFatty
5 months ago
Interesting. I don't know anyone who thinks BDSM is all about pain. Is this what you've encountered when discussing with friends, colleagues, playmates etc?
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MsSuperFoxy
5 months ago
Pain?
To me it's about full consent and safety first.
It's a lifestyle for some, with lots of varieties of sexual practices. It's not just one or two things- its a combination using all senses and emotions.
IMO The most important is After Care. Many forget, especially those wanna be Dom's. They are friggin dangerous!

Ms Foxy
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FeistyFatty
5 months ago
OP has already disappeared?
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RHP User
5 months ago
I was one of those people and now after making friends with people who are in kink life it is nothing further from the truth. Some people can take a painful situation and turn into absolute bliss...I am still way to vanilla for this stuff but the levels of kink that exist are numerous and varied :)
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Impishbynature
5 months ago
Yeah and most people seem to fail to remember that the submissive is actually in ultimate control and that it can be the best results are had when the dominant serves the submissive by extending the limits and boundaries at an acceptable limit of challenge.

Cross that line and it makes the dominant actually a sadist, and maybe a predator, and the submissive potentially a victim, if this is not their desired territory.
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Fodder
5 months ago
For me, I find the sharing of the "power" in a relationship is so sexy. LIGHT bdsm to me is one of the ways I try to get my partner to only think about the moment.
Tie her hands up and the tease her untill she begs, but if she started to tell me to do things, "bit my nipples" or "lick me" hell I am going to do that. So who has the power, we both do , other days I won't do any other than ans tease her more and more.
So to me BDSM is a way for my partner and I to "be in the moment"
Honestly a simple blind fold can be sexy as hell. Throw in some restraints and, like I said fun in the moment

Just my 2c
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