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Lust or love at first sight????
August 10 2008
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well it's a tough one. I have neverexperienced love at first sight - sorry I don't believe in it. I do believe though that love might be (especially for someone you don't know very well) much more sedate. That's my opinion. And if you believe in chakras - love is not "down there". Well what do I know - am just sharing my observations. So love is in the realm of the heart chakra as opposed to the base chakra. I really like the idea of the slow burn when it comes to love - building up a history with a person. Every other time in my life I have rushed in. I must be growing up... That's my two cents.
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RHP User
17 years ago
well you have to beleive in love at first site to be able to argue this i suppose. really to say it is love requires you to know a little about the person just a stranger in a room would surly have to count for lust at first site for that would be the initial attraction that caught your eye in the first place. how can you love someone you know nothing about other than their looks and maybe a few of their mannerisms. now this line "in love from the first time we met" that i feel is as close to love at first site can get, is this considered love at first site? if they are just a stranger lust at first site would have to have at least a little play or you would not go up to them and make that encounter. thats my 2 bob lol nice topic too
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RHP User
17 years ago
All i can say is its got to lust at first sight.Think about it dont you look and think to yourself i could shagg that.You dont look and say im in love i want to spend the rest of my life with that person.Its the stimulation of lust going through your mind thinking i wonder how i can get to know this person
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RHP User
17 years ago
Lust is the interest of wanting this person Love is the knowing via another sense: touch
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RHP User
17 years ago
What an interetsing thought tinks..... Kinda with Mamm on this one... not that my knowledge and understanding of the chakras is as developed as his..... Think if something stirs instantly when you clap eyes on someone...and you finish with an exchange of numbers...then surely it is lust.......that burning desire to deal with those feelings....as soon as possible... True love on the other hand, I think needs to be nurtured and takes two people to be in sync with each other...and is on much more than just a physical plane....it is an emotional, intellectual, spiritual, all encompassing feeling of togetherness..... Gosh that sounds so nice.....still hoping that will happen to me one day ...ahhh sigh...... Anyway....my thoughts ... Lava xxx
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Frankiesgame
17 years ago
I believe in attraction at first sight, not neccesarily lust or love. Too often i've been let down, so i suppose that i am very cautious when it comes to attraction! except for you tinks of course!! xxxxxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
love is born from lust. Lust is immediate, love takes time, understanding, acceptance,acknowledgement and trust.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Tinkles it's only lust you have me baby :)
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RHP User
17 years ago
i'm with 3deep on this one my wife and i met in the same way, and i have to admit it was definately lust at first sight. However, as our relationship grew, it developed into love. Love takes time, commitment and understanding. Lust takes 3 beers and a horny look hehe
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RHP User
17 years ago
Agree with 3deep. Love takes time but lust is immediate.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I feel your scenario is lust at first sight. You can see someone in a night club you can feel physical attraction but hey do you know that person? Answer NO Love is when you not just feel attracted to the person but feel what the person feels an attraction of the senses a knowing what the person is thinking and what the person wants. Hey not that I've an understanding here at all, its all new to me too. I think you just know when it happens because you feel all confused and stupid and feel you are the only one in the world that feels like that. But hey if you exchanged numbers get to know her then see how you feel, lust can move forward too. xx kate
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RHP User
17 years ago
I'd have to say lust. Love would happen over time.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I think I agree with most that Love takes time but the connection is where either starts. That initial thing... The bolt of lightening, you describe... it is a connection. How it came about and where it leads is ultimately guided by the universe. Although we have the ability to make choices we can never change an outcome. Follow you instincts and believe in your heart. Faith, Trust and Love XXX
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RHP User
17 years ago
I feel ... love is something from us we give ... without return or reward ... Lust seeks from someone to satisfy us
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RHP User
17 years ago
Tinker. Your across the room thing is pure lust. I believe in lust at first site. And I believe in love at first site though its usually when one is young and immature. I now have lust and love with Venus which is excellent. The lust moved into something deeper. Lusty love? The rabbit stage we had was awesome! Power lust with an ever increasing dose of love. If its only one night its a shame as it takes many nights and dayz to get to know a new partner. Me thinks its better to meet on these sites as what if you get your lusty person home and they arent what you think they are? Its all so shallow and risky. Mars
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RHP User
17 years ago
Love at fist sight is wanting to kiss you. Lust at first sight is wanting to fuck you.
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RHP User
17 years ago
lolololol..so true...
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RHP User
17 years ago
Once upon a time I would have said that love at first sight was possible. But a divorce later and I'm thinking that I had more than rosey coloured glasses on that night. New decade and new partner later and I can easily say it was lust at first sight. Infact it was lust at second, third and forth sight as well. After that then the love kicked in. These days I'm amazed at how much more I can love my partner than I did the day before, it keeps growing and becoming more intense as each day passes. I agree with Mamm, it is the heart chakra, you can feel the energy force flowing from it. Not that there is anything wrong with it also coming from the base!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
Ohhhhhh tinker please its not love!!!!!!! love is earnt, gained, rspect etc etc the list goes on hence there is no such thing as love at first sight. Its alllll lust we lust for who we are attracted to then love is something that follows in time :) Just my thoughts ;)
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RHP User
17 years ago
I remain a true believer Love is real and undeniable. Lust is within our control.
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RHP User
17 years ago
LUST at first sight - is where you just wana jump their bones from the second you see them! They do wild, naughty things to your entire being, just looking at you! LOVE at first sight - is that moment; where you are intrigued by the person; in every way possible. Physically, spiritually, emotionally.... You want to know everything about them; what makes them really tick. You know you don't want to leave too soon. xxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
17 years ago
If you find the person interesting enough to exchange numbers, what does it matter if it's lust of love. Lets say it's lust, you must enjoy it to some degree otherwise you wouldn't have exchanged your number with the person. If it didn't work out, then don't go back. Let say it's love, well... then it's love.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Mmm inspired by my name maybe...lol. I'd love to experience either. Don't think I have ever had it happen myself, If I have it was unfortunately minus the meeting and exchanging numbers. I think a lot would start out as lust and love would develop with time. Alternatively as you get to know them it may be you realise they arent as good as you thought and then you drift apart. Still waiting for someone to want to exchange numbers with me.
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RHP User
17 years ago
love and lust? "i don't think so tim"... LRE (too cool for lust, too careful for love)
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RHP User
17 years ago
TRUE love is UNCONDITIONAL that is that you love without the expectation of sex & if there were no sex you would love just the same. LUST implies Sex only This is why the majority of marriages fail after a short while because after the Lust dies off there is nothing left to hold it together. Lust is for the Moment,Love is a Life time to many of us nowadays confuse the two btw i have loved at first sight & the love carried thru for 3 years although we never had sex or became a couple,the love was so great for me i had to end the friendship or i would have remained stuck.
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RHP User
17 years ago
there's no such thing as love at first sight, its all lust !!!!. That's built into us as humans so we procreate. Don't mean to be a stinker on this, but those who actually believe in love at first sight, just watch too many movies.......
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RHP User
17 years ago
and whats wrong with watchin too many movies.. and believing in romance???? enjoy xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
Lust is the erection . Love is a connection. Odds are from a glance across a room its gonna be an erection (lust). But theres nothing to say it wont lead to the connection. Everybody is different.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Think someone watches to many romantic movies....
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RHP User
17 years ago
It's always lust at first site, well at least that's been the case when women chase me.
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RHP User
17 years ago
yeppppppppppppp love them xx
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RHP User
17 years ago
How can you know if you love someone at first sight with out even knowing them. Love is something that evolves. Lust is what keeps us interested in them till we figure out if we love them, or not.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I have been lucky enough to have experienced both. Love....I locked eyes with a man across a room one night (he didnt fit the 'my type' bill) and told my gf on our way to another venue that I had just seen a guy that i wanted to meet and I had sensed would spend considerable time with...I ran into him again an hour or so later and knew that I would marry him within an hour of meeting him....we were engaged a few months later and remained together for 12 years and have two wonderful children together and are now divorced but still great friends. Lust....again locking eyes and just knowing that I would have great sex with this man....OMG OMG OMG!! was I right!! Electric!! Your intuition knows (I believe) the difference....just roll with it either way....its all very good and very worth it!!
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RHP User
17 years ago
If its just at sight I would say it was lust based, seeing something that asthetically appeals and stirs something within you, after the first few words though soemthing stronger can develope, I met a girl about 6 yrs ago who at first site i was spellbound, so incredibly turned on and surprisingly nervous about ever having to meet her, I saw her at the club three weeks in a row after that each time holding gazes longer, and stealing gazes even more, that to me was lust. then one night i was sitting on the stairs and she came and spoke to me, before she finished her first sentence, the tone of her voice had me pining to know more about her, we lived together for a yr, we've both since moved on, but keep in touch, I have only ever felt as much once before in my life and would happily spend the rest of my life with her if thats what we both desired, so I consider that Love.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I just may bump this thread one day but with a twist. Long time to go yet but thought i'd like to get it on record as it would be fun to look back on if things do work out ;). If they don't then it will not get bumped, by me anyway, will go the way of all threads and it was hell fun anyway lol. Ok, rather than appear to go off thread again i'll offer the suggestion that maybe it doesn't have to be first sight that things click. It may just be first meeting of the minds. That could happen in text, phone call, hell i imagine it could be a newspaper article, virtually anything...
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RHP User
17 years ago
I think that you actually fall in love with someone when they aren't there. Its when you're apart and you start to think about them and the little things they do that make you smile. Then a small incling of a feeling starts to grow and you find yourself constantly thinking of them. And then the next time you see her or him you get those butterflies in your stomach, that's when I think love starts to grow. Lust at first site is about right there and then, in the moment. Love comes after. Sure just my 2 cents worth :-)
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RHP User
17 years ago
It is bulls..t. All relationships begin with lust. Love is something you get to over time. When the lust runs out you either go your seperate ways or find that you can't live without someone. That is when it becomes love. Your scenario is lust, pure and simple.
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RHP User
17 years ago
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wow i just realised reading alot of these replies many people dont have a clue what love is to begin with. Love aint a good feeling you get, or a look. Love is an action, you either choose to love someone or you choose not to. In fact love is being there after you have fought, gone thru the tough times, when ya flat broke, sickness, health etc etc. Ya know those things most are saying in vows when really they should be taken from the time you start dating someone. Love is a dedication, an action. Those good feelings you get looking at someone is lust, hence why most people seem to go different ways after those hot looks aint looking the same way to you anymore and the novelty wears off lol. Sometimes tho it can last and you can still be admiring that hot person, if the romance is still happening. i have never had love at first sight, simply because how can i choose to love someone when i dont even know them. Had tons of lust at first sight tho. Oh hang on i have tons of that just looking at half the guys on this site hahaha. But yeah even for those saying they slowly fall in love.....crap. Its just ya taking your time deciding whether ya wanna commit 100% in actions and thought to that person. I mean geesh people get engaged these days and a yr later get married, you telling me it takes the general population a yr to be ready to take vows lol, nope thats a decision too
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't know about anyone else... but I think a lot of people are hawt and obviously that gets me lusty... and I react in my shorts.... but I kind of sense when I'm emotionally connected to someone and that sense has all the hallmarks of something other than lust even if lust is also present... so call that whatever you like... all I know is that it doesn't come around all that often.... just a few times in my lifetime. Warm and wet hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
If your still going for it after a long time on reflection yep that was it
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